mename:
There's always something to learn from this guy's posts. Thumbs up!




Time to reactivate the femininity!

pansophist:
And the mod will not push this to the frontpage. Seems like nairaland mods needs to put men in bondage with their selective spotlighting of awesome post.

Nice one ubunja. Respect!

Theslumflower:
So basically being feminine is associated to being a dumbo. SMH

I hope all of you men raise your female kids to be one. Raise her to be highly dependent on men, raise her to be have a notion that being a housewife with zero skills is what makes her more "feminine".


Human nature has it to always prey on the weak. When a man find a woman as weak, a "yes sir", naturally instincts has it that she's gonna be taken for granted. Ask housewives with no source of income how it is for them at home.

Ubunja is an intelligent man, I give him that but being versatile in explanation and not using one aspect to explain is what he really needs to work on or rather consider.

A lady can still be feminine without acting like a dumbo. Sometimes u need your woman to act smart and be able to defend and take care of serious things when you are not around. And please I'm not talking about fixing bulbs and shiii, I'm talking about real business.

There is nothing like a feminine lady with a little bit of smartness and a little bit of "bougieness" in her. It's sexy.

The main thing is knowing the right time to bring out these two sides.


Maybe you should teach these men how to stop being insecure. That is the underlying factor here. Insecurity because they "feel" their masculinity has been ripped from them, when rather they should appear stronger and take charge as the men they are.

stanliwise:
How has soft skin describe a women nature?

More so you should read about estrogen

Akinbahm:


The creator who created them when he was describing them he compared their nature as that of an egg that analogy shows how fragile they are nd ow they should be treated. Who I am to be twisting the word of God?

Now because we human are superior over egg does that mean we should handle them carelessly? NO and who even dare handle egg carelessly? we being superior to women doesnt give us the room to maltreat them bro deep it.

Note:

stanliwise:

Where is the part God said the male gender is superior?

I think you’re confusing “value” with “role”

Akinbahm:


For the sake of not derailing this thread can we let it slide?

Here is an evidence below that's if u believe...

stanliwise:
That is your own religion

DontBullshitMe:
Another 10/10 masterclass.



100%.

What women fail to realise is that right from time, a man's life is always about the opposite gender - to satisfy and impress the feminity in women. Appear helpless to him and allow him be the saviour.

Funny thing is : this article benefits women more than men.

Faultless writeup. Ubunja

ubunja:
Apology: This writeup was delayed due to my getting myself banned more than once by the spambot while posting it, that's why I'm posting it long after the 100 Likes I asked for has been achieved. Sorry for any inconveniences caused.

luwiizy:
ubunja my man. I spent time reading through this post and i can tell you most of what you write about your personal life really really relates to me, from losing your dad and feeling worthless about yourself due to poverty mindset. BRO YOU TOUCHED MY HEART.

ubunja:
luwiizy that poverty mindset is a monster that has to be defeated. Too many people are not benefitting from the blessings before them because mentally they are not ready to receive.

It even applies to women and sex. Too many men are used to struggling to get women, and when they meet that woman who wants them automatically without making them struggle first, they can't accept it because they have told themselves the only things of value are those you have to sweat and struggle for. And so these men let perfectly good chances go.

But men must learn to love themselves first. I have a writeup on my phone from almost two years ago on how men must first date themselves for a while before looking for a woman. I will have to update and post it one of these days. Men need to fall in love with themselves first. Then they'll appreciate it when another person falls in love with them.

kurupt1:


All women will submit depending on how powerful the man seems, besides submission to the right man is the key to happiness for women

Martinez39s:

Nice!

Theslumflower:
So basically being feminine is associated to being a dumbo. SMH

I hope all of you men raise your female kids to be one. Raise her to be highly dependent on men, raise her to be have a notion that being a housewife with zero skills is what makes her more "feminine".


Human nature has it to always prey on the weak. When a man find a woman as weak, a "yes sir", naturally instincts has it that she's gonna be taken for granted. Ask housewives with no source of income how it is for them at home.

Ubunja is an intelligent man, I give him that but being versatile in explanation and not using one aspect to explain is what he really needs to work on or rather consider.

A lady can still be feminine without acting like a dumbo. Sometimes u need your woman to act smart and be able to defend and take care of serious things when you are not around. And please I'm not talking about fixing bulbs and shiii, I'm talking about real business.

There is nothing like a feminine lady with a little bit of smartness and a little bit of "bougieness" in her. It's sexy.

The main thing is knowing the right time to bring out these two sides.


Maybe you should teach these men how to stop being insecure. That is the underlying factor here. Insecurity because they "feel" their masculinity has been ripped from them, when rather they should appear stronger and take charge as the men they are.

ubunja:
it's crazy because the Alpha Female IS the most feminine woman. That diva that is put forward as the Alpha Female is really a masculine woman.

ubunja:
the world is hungry for femininity and Masculinity but as we go forward they'll be harder and harder to maintain. But especially feminine women have a lot to gain. I'm gently setting my daughter on that road. Step by step. By the time she's 15 she needs to be already feminine to a great extent.

Oldoinyolengai:
Why don't you set your daughter to become masculine woman as masculine women are projected to dominate many aspects of life.

Secondly, your original post is about femininity, energy which you said it occurs in both genders, mostly in females. Share a little bit of it in males, why is it in male, how does it get increased or decreased in males.

Apart from the environmental and social factors, is genetics not responsible for masculine and feminine energies in both genders?

Thanks.

ubunja:
these writeups are usually very long and I have to cut out paragraphs for brevity because NL has a limit on words.

Here is one of the paragraphs I edited out:

A WORKING GIRL'S GUIDE TO FEMININITY.
If you're a working woman, your road to femininity is by finding a man who thinks you're too pretty to work, who'll allow you to stop working but continue to pay you your salary in the form of an allowance. Which is not as impossible as it sounds. This will make you a "kept woman". This road, if you stay on it, ends blissfully with you being the all-feminine stay-at-home wife who's paid to stay at home while other women leave their children every morning to waste their youth slaving 9 to 5 for some BossMan whose wife is also a stay-at-home wife like you. Bliss.

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Now listen Slumflower, there's a wrong way of doing a right thing. And stay at home wives do the right thing the wrong way. Staying at home is not a problem if your husband pays you a salary. Actually many women have this arrangement with their man. And it works wonders for the woman by keeping her provided for. Bonus points if she has a maid or two to do the housework. Then she has all the time to stay fresh for her man. You guys don't understand the game or how best you can keep your woman happy and rested and ready to nurture you. You just need hustlers and career women who bring nothing to the table cause they can't even do anything for you because they are exhausted just like you after a long day at work.

I pity you.

ubunja:
I can't raise my daughter masculine because it will kill her. There's a reason modern progressive women have all kinds of mental disorders and are largely depressed. Masculinity in women is not healthy, it's Plan B, when all else has failed and she has to save herself. My girl will grow up a feminine lady.

The only time I'll talk about male femininity will be in the context of gold digging. Because that's the only angle that matters as far as the miseducations are concerned. I'll write on it because men who want to live off women have to be in the right state to achieve that.

Akinbahm:


No offence bro, despite Ubunja explaination from simple to complex you still went ahead and quote the whole thing out of context.

You mentioned we should raise our daughters that way or so, even my unborn daughter(s) knows I wont raise her up to be competing with men out there but rather men competing to marry her off...

You as a man in all honesty do you want your wife to take charge over your duties at home, she bossing the house and you dancing to her rules & regulations.

No man is feeling insecure here unless you have agenda towards nature cause that's ow nature wired both parties to operate not the other way round...

Lemme drop this as a case study. I have a girl in custody which I wouldn't mind her to be the mother of my kids do you know why am having a rethink over it is because her femininity side is drying up all because I dont want one man to be bossing me around on top financial issues.

I repeat no man want a woman to retain his role in a relationship nd no woman want a man to retain her role in relationship that's why no matter ow successful/rich a woman is to find a loyal man who's below her financial status is hard cause the woman has ruined her feminine of receiving not giving also, it's hard for a man to stay loyal to a woman giving him because he has ruined his masculine of giving not receiving.

Theslumflower:
Bossing you around because of financial issues lol

If you have money, no woman will boss you around because of financial issues. That's why you are the man. So go get the money and see her feminine side

Ubunja said it clearly, when u as a man plays your masculine role, then her femininity comes out naturally.


P.s I'm a lady

Theslumflower:
I totally understand your point.

But never forget this is 21st century. Everything works hand in hand right now, how many men have enough money to live this kind of lifestyle, that is paying their wife allowances to just stay at home and be pretty and feminine for them. How many men? Without disrespecting the woman


The problem is not women losing their femininity but men losing their masculinity because a high number of men do not have enough money or are not rich enough to have a "kept woman". Men you have in mind have money, I mean real money which most young men these days don't have but you won't blame them; life is hard. And you know being a feminine woman is expensive and the said men are supposed to fund it, which is unfortunate because most men these days don't have that kind of money.

And that's why most men these days want a supportive wife, a.k.a wife that works so she can help out.

Trust me I get you, being feminine as a woman is beautiful but all these things work hand in hand. You can't be a "kept woman" without a very rich man. Unfortunately, we don't have a lot of them these days that can comfortably finance a feminine woman without turning her a liability.

So the problem is not women.

P.s I'm not talking about feminists.

Oldoinyolengai:
Got you very well, especially on the first paragraph.

I once lived in a town full of tourists activities. I witnessed the way European (white) women were behaving like men, smoking excessively, drinking hard liquor, talk less of the way they dressed and their whole lives in general.

And I think the more women are entering men's domain the same rate the encounter with men's challenges. Very soon the gap between genders lifespans will be balanced, meaning women could be dying at the same rate as men.

Theslumflower:
I totally understand your point.

But never forget this is 21st century. Everything works hand in hand right now, how many men have enough money to live this kind of lifestyle, that is paying their wife allowances to just stay at home and be pretty and feminine for them. How many men? Without disrespecting the woman


The problem is not women losing their femininity but men losing their masculinity because a high number of men do not have enough money or are not rich enough to have a "kept woman". Men you have in mind have money, I mean real money which most young men these days don't have but you won't blame them; life is hard. And you know being a feminine woman is expensive and the said men are supposed to fund it, which is unfortunate because most men these days don't have that kind of money.

And that's why most men these days want a supportive wife, a.k.a wife that works so she can help out.

Trust me I get you, being feminine as a woman is beautiful but all these things work hand in hand. You can't be a "kept woman" without a very rich man. Unfortunately, we don't have a lot of them these days that can comfortably finance a feminine woman without turning her a liability.

So the problem is not women.

P.s I'm not talking about feminists.

ichidodo:
This has to qualify as miseducation for the ladies...Yeah?..Teaching them how to snag guys especially unsuspecting simps, No?..