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Re: .... by FanOfMyself: 6:48am On Nov 18, 2020 |
jidamsel43:You are a man Indeed! |
Re: .... by ImaIma1(f): 7:44am On Nov 18, 2020 |
Hambivert: Only few churches have the legal certificate from the ministry of interior. Others will tell you to go to the court first to get it before they marry you in church. That's probably why he doesn't want church involvement too. 1 Like |
Re: .... by ImaIma1(f): 7:47am On Nov 18, 2020 |
DonHummer: The church will still require you to go to the court first to get the legal papers if their own certificate doesn't have the legal backing of the court. |
Re: .... by Depressed101: 9:03am On Nov 18, 2020 |
SAMBARRY:and why is your mother the one to dictate what happens in your marriage.. Your mother want to control your relationship abi. She wants to be the driver. I don't think your mother likes you enough, she's calling your husband in serious, where you are the one being manipulated to be unserious, except you have a fairly tangible reason for asking for a court marriage, while don't you agree to your fiance's idea afterall he's going to be your husband and not your mother... Becareful how you listen to your mother, you are not getting younger. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: .... by Ademidd: 9:08am On Nov 18, 2020 |
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Re: .... by SAMBARRY: 9:20am On Nov 18, 2020 |
Depressed101:yeah'right...her mother gave birth to her and deceived her/ misled her that is why her life is like that Abi? Web done sir Op anybody encouraging you to disobey your mother or rebel against your mother don't listen to them o.the people telling you not to listen to your mother are the same people that'll be saying yes mummy to every dictates of their mother Ishhh 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: .... by bukatyne(f): 9:40am On Nov 18, 2020 |
Ademidd: Might be getting married? What church might you be getting married in? |
Re: .... by Ademidd: 9:52am On Nov 18, 2020 |
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Re: .... by Chiquitq(f): 11:23am On Nov 18, 2020 |
Please don't feel pressured to go along with this dude. It's a big red flag. Even my former husband that was a 419, insisted that we did all types of marriage so that when I find out, it would be hard to escape. He kept saying that a court wedding could only be dissolved in the high court and I was wondering why he was thinking of a difficult to dissolve scenario. My church was licensed to give court certficate but he said we must still go to court again. 1 Like |
Re: .... by bukatyne(f): 11:23am On Nov 18, 2020 |
Ademidd: What church? |
Re: .... by Nobody: 11:59am On Nov 18, 2020 |
I will not stay here and condemn the man because na only am see wetin dey inside his bowl of soup. I can bet my balls that he would've reacted differently to this court wedding wahala if it had been presented to him in another way or if it were a different woman involved. So just like I said, he alone knows who he is dealing with and why he is resisting the obvious manipulation. His future mum in law shouldn't be insisting on the type of wedding she wants from him, she doesn't have the right to do that and men like me will never succumb to such manipulation. As a matter of fact, I will refuse to do the court wedding even if I had initial plans of doing it just because my future mum in law insists on that. As for conflicts, that's normal in relationships but I've found out that a good number of men who get offended or turn the so called "innocent dialogue/question" to conflict oftentimes either have manipulative women as girlfriends/wives or have skeletons in their cupboard. Madam, it's either you are manipulative or your bobo has something to hide. I suggest you find out why your man doesn't want the court wedding. Don't just ask him, find out why and try to create a boundary between your mum and your upcoming marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: .... by cooooooks(m): 12:13pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Having a court marriage protects you from divorce. It might protect you even if you initiate the divorce, this is probably what is stopping him. Plus word on the street advises men to eschew court wedding to avoid being as powerless as husbands in family courts in most of the developed world. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: .... by nuelyoyo(m): 12:33pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Hambivert:Mr sparogative, you have sparogatively shown your ignorance about the OP's plight. Her fiance not wanting a church wedding isnt her problem, him not wanting a court wedding is her worry. The OP would gladly marry her husband if he can do traditional rites and a court wedding. You were busy talking about church wedding and traditional rites, but court wedding is the bone of contention. 2 Likes |
Re: .... by YourCoffin: 1:43pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Why is your family pressuring the guy for court wedding. Something must be fishy. Any woman insisting on a court wedding from.a man has ulterior motive 1 Like |
Re: .... by angelfallz(m): 2:44pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth: What are the benefits of court wedding? |
Re: .... by COMMENTSFIGHTER: 2:59pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Depressed101:abeg help me ask her, she is not even concern about church wedding but all she wants is the court, Nigerian men shine your eye. 2 Likes |
Re: .... by NoToPile: 3:07pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
If you don't do either the church ( which would give you the govt cert if licensed or mandate you to still go to registry if unlicensed ) or the registry wedding And I am almost certain this man won't even allow the traditional marriage to be recorded at the Local govt. What legal evidence will you have you are married, what do you have on paper, what will you present when you need to show proof of marriage. I am trying to understand sha. 2 Likes |
Re: .... by crackhaus: 3:59pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Ademidd:If no one in your family likes him, then pause whatever you have going on with him naw... |
Re: .... by apatheticme(f): 4:31pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
SAMBARRY: Good advice! You couldn't have said it better, kudos! 1 Like |
Re: .... by GboyegaD(m): 4:54pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
What was his reason for not wanting court marriage? I don't think there is any genuine reason if he truly wants marriage. Truth remains that even if he's scared of the future, he should still trust whatever he believes in that all will work out well. |
Re: .... by Nobody: 7:22pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Ademidd: Hallo... I do not think having the court marriage or not is the greater challenge here. Are you sure this guy is right for you? When someone turns a simple conversation into a conflict then I would question their readiness for marriage. I do not think I can be in a relationship where I can't ask questions or have simple conversations without fighting over them. Think long and hard about this before you take the plunge. If you cannot have those conversations now, do you honestly think it would get easier when you guys are married? Experience tells me they become a bit more difficult. All da best. 2 Likes |
Re: .... by bosman50(m): 8:59pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Ademidd: I'd be more worried about the bold text if I were you. 1 Like |
Re: .... by bukatyne(f): 11:00pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Chiquitq: @bold: The later certificate is invalid. You are already married after the first certificate is issued. 1 Like |
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