BRATISLAVA:


And once men think they have an upper hand to attack women, they tend to post exactly like you do.

Men are never objective or logical once a woman is involved. It becomes perceived "emotions" from the man, once they are not getting things their own way and they know everyone can see that.

If it were a post denigrating women, you would act like the male writer is some hero coming away from a battlefield. He would've been lauded for being wise and you would be one of those to call her a bitch. Fear men and their lopsided evaluation to favor men, because they hate women and feminism and they must support themselves come what may.

The male cycle continues. Play victim, attack women no matter what, laud yourselves. Absolutely nothing new.

Next!

Again you have just described the thought process of women and are projecting it onto men because we aren't sitting down to take your bullshit anymore.

This woman is clearly in the wrong and coming here to fish for sympathy. To you you never see the topic at hand only man-woman fight, she's asking for support after her failed attempt at manipulation but because women are so used to special treatment and no accountability you see nothing wrong with this behaviour.

If OP was a man the situation would still be ridiculous but because she's female you feel the need to form sisterhood and defend her.

Geddifokouttahere.

pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...

ma'am

CalliDora1:
Michdaf, stop trying so hard. I won't pick. You see that comment you made on page six, you go hear am.

Sha don't kill my battery for me.

Thank you.

I was mad with the way you brought this here. I can't express and explain things here. Am sorry about the comment. I will bring it down

sexdoll:


I don't even know the point you're trying to make.

but in summary, I think you're a fool.

you expect the young man to come and carry your wahala for head, just to show you that he cares abi?

you be mumu.

Hahahaha absolutely.

I've told her same. She's either a kid or a dullard. Lolz

If you don't value the relationship one cent, I believe you would not spare time to open a thread about him. You both contributed to the communication gap. Whether or not his intentions where malicious is up for debate. He said he regrets not being able to help. Did you try to find out why he was handicapped? Sometimes we sit behind our keyboards thinking life is rosy for the person on the other end. I'm not trying to defend the night all I am saying is that you should improve communication or call it quits

Michdaf:
So you wrote all this just to say you done. why didn't you tell yesterday

I couldn't say anything yesterday cos I was dumbfounded that you came back after absconding for no reason. So I needed to seek peoples opinion on the matter so I could have something to say to you. But you just spoiled everything with that comment. It means you've joined the group who are mocking me. You know what? as usual, I care less cos no body can come now and say they've seen my pant on here before. You can go ahead and reveal more. Shey you cannot tame your tongue? Ok.

dontai:
she have been softing-peddal, so hope is still in the hanging.

I wish them luck and the best

CalliDora1:


I couldn't say anything yesterday cos I was dumbfounded that you came back after absconding for no reason. So I needed to seek peoples opinion on the matter so I could have something to say to you. But you just spoiled everything with that comment. It means you've joined the group who are mocking me. You know what? as usual, I care less cos no body can come now and say they've seen my pant on here before. You can go ahead and reveal more. Shey you cannot tame your tongue? Ok.

If I spoiled everything with that comment, am sorry. this thing is strange to me. Your post and comments pple were making made me write that post. You can't just end things like. We beginning to understand ourselves in a different level. Just pick my call and lets talk.

Michdaf:
I was mad with the way you brought this here. I can't express and explain things here. Am sorry about the comment. I will bring it down

You'll bring it down?? You'll also bring it down from the head of those who have seen it? SMH.

Just give me some space for now.

Mods, can we please move this thread to CHILDREN SECTION already?

Smh

CalliDora1:
Michdaf, stop trying so hard. I won't pick. You see that comment you made on page six, you go hear am.

Sha don't kill my battery for me.

Thank you.

lol, water don dey pass garri small small.

but on a serious note you have indirectly damage his image, he's just trying to hold on to any available straw. you guys are still items, at least you have shown mutiple times that you gat feelings for him.

CalliDora1:


You'll bring it down?? You'll also bring it down from the head of those who have seen it? SMH.

Just give me some space for now.

I can't give you space for now. You had issue with me and you have brought it out. Am a mature guy. I will make corrections. Am those guys that are acting strong. We did it before and we can still do it again

Ishilove:

Okay, understood.

Switch to the below when responding to his messages-

aiit
kk
kkk
Cool
Lol
Tenks

Etc. I believe that is diplomatic and polite enough. Hin body go tell am.

Ishi, that is childish na.

Personally, I don't tolerate those rubbish.

chocboi78:
all those while he was asking you if u HV eaten and u said no, did u also ask if he had eaten too??

Lol, lady don't ask such. because, they don't care. did she even call to ask what's up.

Michdaf:
I can't give you space for now. You had issue with me and you have brought it out. Am a mature guy. I will make corrections. Am those guys that are acting strong. We did it before and we can still do it again

See as old Mama youngy just carry you dey play for public.Tueh for you.

How could I have missed this blood tonic thread?

Hanty seems to be the I'm always right type and bro be like simp for face but redpill for wallet.

If una love each other, una better leave mad people(yes we are all mad ) comments here and go settle una differences offline or na 600yrs of singlehood una dey see so.

pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...

So why is he back now acting all nice? Actually, that’s the part that irritates me.

I agree that her saying she hasn’t eaten for three days send off wrong signals, so he had to ‘dodge’ . . . Shouldn’t he, in good conscience keep dodging?

So now he is back when he thinks the pressure is off her? What kind of person does that?

If she is a ‘user’ and he discovered that and ran away, what exactly does he want from her again now?

I just don’t understand!!!

Decimus:

Yes bro. He should be paying her monthly, then save up to send her abroad for Masters next year.

Justbehave:
See as old Mama youngy just carry you dey play for public.Tueh for you.

If she is old mama, what is business with that. I like her because she is old

CalliDora1:


Lol.. you see my life? I'm not reasoning anything o. Just looking for a diplomatic way to ghost him because I know he'll want to come with bro stunts. He might want to come and start using sharing of Bible tactics for me and if I ignore, e go be like say person don chop winch. So want be very diplomatic and polite as possible.

Why do you have to be diplomatic?

Just ignore him completely with NO explanation. Since he is so ‘sensible’, he will know why.

Michdaf:
If she is old mama, what is business with that. I like her because she is old

Then continue begging. Seems she is your meal ticket?

runs girls everywhere

CalliDora1:


Coming from someone who cannot a comprehend a simple write-up. Go and work on your cognitive skills.

You can have him now. I'm done with him.

what's even so special about you that he's going to miss?

absolutely nothing!

carry your hungry sef dey go abeg.

mumu

Michdaf:
I was mad with the way you brought this here. I can't express and explain things here. Am sorry about the comment. I will bring it down

Oga go and rest . . .

You’ve been discovered as one of ‘them’, just give up and look for the next victim.

CalliDora1:



God bless you Sir. I really appreciate you taking your time to put down this words of wisdom. May God continue to increase your wisdom in Jesus name.

I've heard and admit my faults, Sir. Will do the needful.

Thank you Sir.

Please follow up on this statement cos I've been reading some comments you've been making based on what Michdaf wrote out of anger.... Let it be known that no decision made rashly out of anger ever yields positive result as is the case of Michdaf who let his emotions get the better part of him and ran his mouth (which is never a trait of a matured person).

Like I said before NL space shouldn't be a determining factor as to whether the relationship thrives or dies but rather it should be a personal decision based on what both of you have come to learn about the each other and that can only be done by first forgiving each other, taking his calls or chatting up and then finally meeting up.


NB: Michdaf be a real man and learn to control your emotions...real men don't go about thrashing down on people, leave the long talk to the women folk cos it's a part of their design (no pun intended).

Calli, this is the types of response you are waiting before you take your decision. Don't let them misled you. At the beginning, it was me and you, so let be what we decide. I can still turn out good

Michdaf:
Calli, this is the types of response you are waiting before you take your decision. Don't let them misled you. At the beginning, it was me and you, so let be what we decide. I can still turn out good

Knight of st simps.Keep begging. Kneel down,cry sef.Shameless murderfucker.
Look at him saying he will turn out good. Fool wants to change because of a woman. Ozo younger brother.

spiralwedge:


Hahahaha absolutely.

I've told her same. She's either a kid or a dullard. Lolz

she wants the guy to ask her if she has eaten so that she will say no, and the guy will now send her urgent 2K to enable her to feed.

guyman sense the danger ahead, come use style dodge the beggar.

now the beggar don dey fume with severe anger because her plans to turn the guyman into her maga no come work out again.

the funniest part of the whole thing be say the starving bitch said she's fasting.

story of my life!

fasting kill you there, idiot!

Michdaf:
I don't normally do this before but I am forced to because op and most commenting really misunderstood me. Yeah am the guy. I had to create this new account to hid my identity. Am Christian and everything I said and did I did with good intentions. Am not the type of guys that will blank or reject her because of money. I really wanted to her then. Infact one the reason I back peddled was because I couldn't assist then. She pose to me then like she was truly in need and I felt ashamed of myself. Not knowing she was lying. She could tell from my intentions then that I meant well. I was going through a lot of this then. Some of which the op knew about. I had this issue that landed me in court. Though she didn't know about the court issue. Am this type of person if am going through a ruff part, I don't like disturbing others. I keep things to myself. We just knew each other, and I cannot be sharing all this with you. If the op notice then, I wasn't if commenting on nl then. I was reserve in everything. Since

But the problem is that your actions is already a sign, and she will be stupid to ignore it.

Will you be the type of husband that will run away tomorrow when the bills become too much and your can’t meet up with demands?

She had a problem, you had a problem too and couldn’t help . . Any decent man will explain and be there, knowing you have some sort of responsibility towards her, since you practically forced the relationship.

Even if you couldn’t help, show concern and support. Not to abscond, and then show up again when you think the going is now good.

That was really low!!

dontai:
Lol, lady don't ask such. because, they don't care. did she even call to ask what's up.

na mumu dy worry her,self entitled thing

Look, let's be honest. The guy didn't try at all. I mean, a woman you're trying to be in a relationship with and you couldn't put your best foot forward. Like, what would it take to show care and concern for the woman you want to date and presumably marry?
I know the economy is hard for all of us but we shouldn't lose our humanity. Everything is so transactional right now, even love.

And nairaland guys, you guys should quit the online masturbation. Every time Nigerian women are beggars, urgent 2k, blah blah blah. In all my time on nl, I've seen more begging threads opened by males than the females on this forum. Stop fooling yourselves.

CalliDora1:


@bolded. Really??... Lol...
Look, my kind of person, if I want to ask for something, I won't beat about. Ill go straight and ask because I believe we are friends and can share things. So no biggies. But I didn't want to ask partly because I've not fully made up mind about him and secondly, he's a nairalander ( though a very discreet one) and you know that "kiss and tell" character about them. So that notion has been formed about them generally and that was another reason I dont bother to demand. I really don't see anyway I'm to be blamed for his actions because I never accosted him about it before he decided to deaden all forms of communication.

You think too much, as someone already said, building a relationship is quite hard here because we suspect each other alot.
Your Nos to his question is a usual signal for Nigerian girl whenever they wanna beg.
Don't also blame him for attempting to run if you haven't done anything for him too.