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Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 2:51pm On Nov 21, 2020
boldx:
Zzor, never you ever go into marriage out of pity.

The daughter is missing him!

They gave you a lot of gifts.

You are not Jesus Christ that came to die for man.

There is a stage in marriage that the lovey dovey thing disappears and the real rational thinking kicks in

You seem to be infatuated cos if you are convinced that you want to marry him, you would have told your parents.

If you cannot handle your emotions, get your parents involved so that they can help you think.

I see you getting pregnant for him as soon as he comes around. Then you will weep and have not other choice than to accept his proposal. You are emotionally sold.

In all, keep checks and balances on your path.
Read again, we are not in any relationship, I rejected his advances but we became chat buddies and that was how I unconsciously got myself involved
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 2:54pm On Nov 21, 2020
Amotolongbo:
If this your script is real.

The fact is that as a lady, if you are so sincere about liberating yourself from the shackles, you know what to do.

You are enjoying the game, if you are not, you would have left the man for long.

My advice is, go and sell this script to Funke Akindele.
Zzor is a man pretending to be a female, dont be deceived by her fake story
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 2:55pm On Nov 21, 2020
Zzor:
I swear it's not a script, and I'm not enjoying it, infact it's draining me, I only pitied him so he could speak with his daughter
Fake story, you are a man pretending to be a female
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 2:56pm On Nov 21, 2020
JONNYSPUTE:
... Yes you agreed to play along due to your greed for material things.

If the guy wasn't from a very wealthy home,you wouldn't have agreed to this rubbish you wrote here.

What kind of a mother will manipulate his son using his daughter as a bet?

Tell us how much he paid you.

So now you want to play the victim abi? Sad truth.
Zzor is a man pretending to be a female, dont be deceived
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 2:57pm On Nov 21, 2020
Nuyokoi:
fiction
Zzor is a man pretending to be a female, dont be deceived by that fake story
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 2:57pm On Nov 21, 2020
boldx:
Zzor,

if you stay with your parents, talk to them

if you don't stay with your parents, look for money and rent another house in another part of the city.

Never let him know where you work or where you worship.

if it escalates beyond your imagination and there is a threat to life, report to the nearest police station..

STOP COLLECTING MORE GIFTS!!
Zzor is a man pretending to be a female, dont be deceived by that fake story
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 2:57pm On Nov 21, 2020
Kenplay:
Fake story, you are a man pretending to be a female
take your trolling to romance section pls, it's not everything you joke with
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 2:58pm On Nov 21, 2020
fati2001:
JUST TELL THE WOMAN (THE MAN MOTHER) EVERYTHING BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE TO TURN BACK.
Zzor is a man pretending to be a female, dont be deceived by that fake story
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 2:59pm On Nov 21, 2020
pozehnani:
You entered into it with both eyes open. Init? So, go through with it still with your eyes open.

There's a deal already, so don't break it. You know how Yankee guys dont hesitate to pull the trigger at the slightest provocation. So you don't become a victim of deal gone bad.
Zzor is a man pretending to be female, dont be deceived by that fake story
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 3:00pm On Nov 21, 2020
Michelle55:
See as I Sidon dey look all this back and forth stories with one eye..

Scamming mode activated.. 50% smiley

Zzor be careful , don't say you weren't told on time.

No mom will hold her grandkid ransom just to manipulate her son into getting married.
Our Nigerian mom will pet, cry and even invite the elders just to talk senses into you but this guy own no pure.

A friend has been scammed with this exact format, thread carefully. No let wetin im get blind you oh.
Zzor is a man pretending to be a female, dont be deceived by that fake story
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by boldx(m): 3:01pm On Nov 21, 2020
Kenplay:
Zzor is a man pretending to be a female, dont be deceived by that fake story
Are you serious? I quit
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 3:07pm On Nov 21, 2020
Zzor:
Thers no love here, we were just friends before the whole wahala ,it's not everybody you can marry even if the person is rich, he has a child and I can't marry a man who already has a child
hmmm, So U Don't Av Any Feelings 4 Him?
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by UjuJoan2: 3:09pm On Nov 21, 2020
Zzor:
I swear it's not a script, and I'm not enjoying it, infact it's draining me, I only pitied him so he could speak with his daughter
It sounds like a scam . . .

Very soon they are going to have an ‘emergency’, request for a ‘loan’ to save the child’s life.

You won’t have a choice but to help.

If you doubt me, tell the guy you can’t continue with the charade excepts he pays you. Demand for huge amount of money. They will stop calling you.
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 3:16pm On Nov 21, 2020
UjuJoan2:
It sounds like a scam . . .

Very soon they are going to have an ‘emergency’, request for a ‘loan’ to save the child’s life.

You won’t have a choice but to help.

If you doubt me, tell the guy you can’t continue with the charade excepts he pays you. Demand for huge amount of money. They will stop calling you.
It's not a scam, I already know alot, what will someone way richer than me would want from me, I'm the one rejecting gifts and money here.,it's far from it. I observe his interest in marriage is far gone until we started chatting, from hus pictures, I could tell he's living so lavishly and disorganized, I understand his mum perfectly but I'm so mad at myself for getting involved, I don't have the heart to go through it all,this whole thing has really affected me
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 3:32pm On Nov 21, 2020
Zzor:
Thers no love here, we were just friends before the whole wahala ,it's not everybody you can marry even if the person is rich, he has a child and I can't marry a man who already has a child
In Dat Case, Just Friendzone D Man. However, Be Very Sure Of Ur Decision.
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 3:34pm On Nov 21, 2020
Truvel:
In Dat Case, Just Friendzone D Man. However, Be Very Sure Of Ur Decision.
Friendzoning the man is not a problem, how do i handle his mother
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 3:40pm On Nov 21, 2020
Zzor:
Friendzoning the man is not a problem, how do i handle his mother
What Does D Mother Think Of U? Or Of Both U As?
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by EnnaG(f): 4:00pm On Nov 21, 2020
A guy like that met me on facebook with the same story line. Also that his mum and daughter were in Benue because of kidnappers. i got suspicious with the whole emotional tactics he was using and he was always requesting for me to call his mum and daughter and the voice of his daughter sounded like an adult imitating a child's voice. I also discovered that he had several accounts with different names. You should run from such person if you don't want stories that touches the heart.
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by emerged01(m): 4:03pm On Nov 21, 2020
Zzor:
I swear it's not a script, and I'm not enjoying it, infact it's draining me, I only pitied him so he could speak with his daughter
That story no hold water at all. It is their family problem let them solve it. Don’t be fooled. If your story is true,you don’t have anything to worry about. Just pull yourself out. Don’t let his wealth lead into trap that will ruin your life.
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 4:07pm On Nov 21, 2020
EnnaG:
A guy like that met me on facebook with the same story line. Also that his mum and daughter were in Benue because of kidnappers. i got suspicious with the whole emotional tactics he was using and he was always requesting for me to call his mum and daughter and the voice of his daughter sounded like an adult imitating a child's voice. I also discovered that he had several accounts with different names. You should run from such person if you don't want stories that touches the heart.
This one is from bauchi, lived most of his life abroad, this is far from scam, the main issue between him and his mum is that the mum want more children from him being an only child, I already know alot. My problem now is how to disengage myself from all this and cut his mum off, I feel so guilty each time I speak with her
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by yvelchstores(f): 4:27pm On Nov 21, 2020
Petyprincess:
See living in Lagos has taught me alot! I can't count how i have been avoiding scammers which some would have fallen prey for!

This year i entered small car but they usually take in four people, this driver saw me nd quickly changed his location and told me to come in that he is going to my destination naso i enter front seat,i tell am make he call passenger he say he go call am when going i knew something funny will happen, few minutes driving he stopped and picked a guy who sat at the back and next junction the guy got down,streched his hand to the driver and gave him 100 dollar and left naso the driver told me to call him which i did and the driver was trying to involve me in the conversation that 100 dollars is too much to pay to driver and the guy said he doesn't know where to change the money that he still had like 5000 dollars in his pocket.

Naso the man told him to enter the car back that he will take him to where he will change the money,i told the man to go to the bank but him and the driver kept diverting my suggestion,he claims he his from cotounu and a business man who came to Nigeria for business and he has been spending 100 dollars in every purchase.

So while driving the driver was asking me what job my parents were doing nd i told him, at that time i never knew they were together,they were asking in order to know if I'm a big fish grin

So after few 7 minutes of driving the driver got down and told me to give him 20 naira that he wants to get pure water which i took from my purse,he got down and after that the guy at the back to me to sit at the back that he is scared,he feels the driver will scam him where they intend to change the dollar, he told me he has thousands of dollars in his hotel and he needs me to follow him so he wnt be scammed and promised to give me 200 dollars and be his secretary who will be in charge of his money ,naso my eyes opened that ahh princess you don enter one chance!! The door is locked naso i tell am make he help me open say i wan tell am something privately,we got out of the car as i see say I'm out if you see race grin i ran like no tomorrow grin I now stood 20 steps away to see what will happen,later the driver came and both of them were discussing,he was probably asking him why i ran, naso they drove out of that area together.

Ladies should be careful o,we have scammers,rapist and ritualist both online and offline!!
My longest post this year, I didn't proof read in case you sight some errors.
lol. It was an interesting read. Quite frankly alot of people are naive in nigeria. If they didn't have people falling for such pathetic scam, they won't continue in the act. It's so funny how people fall for these scams
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Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 4:45pm On Nov 21, 2020
Petyprincess:
See living in Lagos has taught me alot! I can't count how i have been avoiding scammers which some would have fallen prey for!

This year i entered small car but they usually take in four people, this driver saw me nd quickly changed his location and told me to come in that he is going to my destination naso i enter front seat,i tell am make he call passenger he say he go call am when going i knew something funny will happen, few minutes driving he stopped and picked a guy who sat at the back and next junction the guy got down,streched his hand to the driver and gave him 100 dollar and left naso the driver told me to call him which i did and the driver was trying to involve me in the conversation that 100 dollars is too much to pay to driver and the guy said he doesn't know where to change the money that he still had like 5000 dollars in his pocket.

Naso the man told him to enter the car back that he will take him to where he will change the money,i told the man to go to the bank but him and the driver kept diverting my suggestion,he claims he his from cotounu and a business man who came to Nigeria for business and he has been spending 100 dollars in every purchase.

So while driving the driver was asking me what job my parents were doing nd i told him, at that time i never knew they were together,they were asking in order to know if I'm a big fish grin

So after few 7 minutes of driving the driver got down and told me to give him 20 naira that he wants to get pure water which i took from my purse,he got down and after that the guy at the back to me to sit at the back that he is scared,he feels the driver will scam him where they intend to change the dollar, he told me he has thousands of dollars in his hotel and he needs me to follow him so he wnt be scammed and promised to give me 200 dollars and be his secretary who will be in charge of his money ,naso my eyes opened that ahh princess you don enter one chance!! The door is locked naso i tell am make he help me open say i wan tell am something privately,we got out of the car as i see say I'm out if you see race grin i ran like no tomorrow grin I now stood 20 steps away to see what will happen,later the driver came and both of them were discussing,he was probably asking him why i ran, naso they drove out of that area together.

Ladies should be careful o,we have scammers,rapist and ritualist both online and offline!!
My longest post this year, I didn't proof read in case you sight some errors.
hmm, but this is no scam, I already know alot concerning the family, where have you been.,hope you are good
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 4:50pm On Nov 21, 2020
J111333:
I have this feeling that you're dealing with fraudsters though I understand that some mothers can be desperate when it comes to their sons not wanting to get married on time.

Just be watchful before you end up with fraudsters or skull miners and if you have started developing feelings for your online horseband, get the hell out of your shell and stop this unnecessary drama.
There's no feelings anywhere, I only pitied him which was the reason why i accepted to play along, my problem now is how to get myself out of these whole drama especially how to cut the mum off, I'm just overwhelmed with guilt
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 4:51pm On Nov 21, 2020
Petyprincess:
Someone i know was scammed this same way after few months they will start asking you to send his audio mother money when he returns he will pay you more,infact you wnt know when you will start borrowing money because you believe he is wealthy! He is probably in ajegunle collaborating with one woman which is his audio mother grin
I wish this was the case as it would have been easier for me to cut off
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by jesmond3945: 4:55pm On Nov 21, 2020
Zzor:
Good morning to you all, I know i would get a correct advise and steps to take here over my mistakes. I met this man who lives and work in the US on one of the social media networks and we became chat buddies, strictly platonic and nothing more, he told me how he lost his wife to cancer some years back and have been unable to remarry, he told me about his only child (a girl) who lives with his mum here in Nigeria, I get to know much about him from our chats and I realized he has not seen his daughter for some years now and there was no communication with his daughter for almost two years. The reason was that the mum told him never to call her again since he has refused to remarry and will only speak with him when he has found a wife, he's the only child of the mum and they are from a very wealthy home, the mum is eager and so desperate for more kids from him (you understand how our mothers behave on issues like this). During one of our conversation, he suddenly asked if I would consider him for marriage and I replied with a solid No, he then begged me to play along as he intends Introducing me to the mum as his fiancee just so he could speak with his daughter, he sent me crying videos of how he misses his daughter and how his mom kept to her words, I sympathized with him and saw the eagerness and somehow I agreed to speak with the mom and play along so he will achieve his aim of speaking with his daughter. The next day his mum called and I could hear the excitement in her voice, she was so happy and didn't even care of other things, she spent more than an hour with me on phone and told me alot, by this time I was already scared but can't withdraw. That was the beginning of this whole problems, his mum now call me on daily basis, through her I have spoken with aunties and uncles of this man I haven't even met, recently she sent someone in my location to check on me and she brought really expensive gifts for me,she wanted to visit me but I somehow was able to convince her that she should wait till her son comes back which is next month. I have complained to this man of how he got me into a trap I didn't bargain for and he keeps begging and sending crying videos and telling me to do this for him so as to establish once more a good relationship with his mom and daughter and that when he comes back, he will sort out everything. Now this whole thing has really weigh me down, I don't sleep well anymore, I've lost weight and my heart skips each time my phone rings, my mum keeps asking me if anything is wrong but I can't get to tell her, I'm depressed already. Please help me with advise on what to do and how best to remove myself from all this. Please don't bash me and I'm not a good writer too, pardon me.
the man has manipulated you to do his bidding and you fell for it because he is rich and probably you have something to gain. When you remember what you are to gain, probably money or gifts you don't want to back off. Kill the greed in you and you would have the strength to block him. You might be shocked that all he told you are just lies and he probably told his mum a different thing. Just kill the greed, if not he would get you pregnant.
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by jesmond3945: 4:57pm On Nov 21, 2020
Zzor:
There's no feelings anywhere, I only pitied him which was the reason why i accepted to play along, my problem now is how to get myself out of these whole drama especially how to cut the mum off, I'm just overwhelmed with guilt
my dear I am telling you these are just lies to hold you down. Before you know what is happening, he has slept with you and gotten you pregnant. To be frank, you don't know this man. His supposed mother might not even be his mum. Please use your head before it is too late.
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 4:58pm On Nov 21, 2020
jesmond3945:
the man has manipulated you to do his bidding and you fell for it because he is rich and probably you have something to gain. When you remember what you are to gain, probably money or gifts you don't want to back off. Kill the greed in you and you would have the strength to block him. You might be shocked that all he told you are just lies and he probably told his mum a different thing. Just kill the greed, if not he would get you pregnant.
pregnant?how? I'm not in any relationship with him. Anyways I will wait till next month as some people suggested up there, it's going to be a hard task to keep speaking with his mum
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by MedicH: 5:02pm On Nov 21, 2020
Lol better scam. Thing is all the nurses in my work place has stories like this. Keep playing along, e go clear u. All these con artists prefer nurses to sell them these stories. All na wash. With time he will ask u to send money. I shouldn't reveal this to u as u be my arch enemy but just don't take my word for it, play along and watch everything unfold

U dunno warris going on grin grin grin
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by jesmond3945: 5:03pm On Nov 21, 2020
Zzor:
pregnant?how? I'm not in any relationship with him. Anyways I will wait till next month as some people suggested up there, it's going to be a hard task to keep speaking with his mum
you are waiting next month when he would come back abi? I am surprised you are even waiting for him when you can't even sleep well in the night
Trust me he would manipulate you to sleep with him albeit giving you money and gifts
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 5:06pm On Nov 21, 2020
MedicH:
Lol better scam. Thing is all the nurses in my work place has stories like this. Keep playing along, e go clear u. All these con artists prefer nurses to sell them these stories. All na wash. With time he will ask u to send money. I shouldn't reveal this to u as u be my arch enemy but just don't take my word for it, play along and watch everything unfold

U dunno warris going on grin grin grin
Thanks but I don't have enemies here, you all are too sensitive
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Petyprincess(f): 5:07pm On Nov 21, 2020
Zzor:
hmm, but this is no scam, I already know alot concerning the family, where have you been.,hope you are good
I have been doing great babe,my advice is just be careful!!
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