Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by infotainment(m): 8:31am On Nov 22, 2020 |
Zzor: Good morning to you all, I know i would get a correct advise and steps to take here over my mistakes. I met this man who lives and work in the US on one of the social media networks and we became chat buddies, strictly platonic and nothing more, he told me how he lost his wife to cancer some years back and have been unable to remarry, he told me about his only child (a girl) who lives with his mum here in Nigeria, I get to know much about him from our chats and I realized he has not seen his daughter for some years now and there was no communication with his daughter for almost two years. The reason was that the mum told him never to call her again since he has refused to remarry and will only speak with him when he has found a wife, he's the only child of the mum and they are from a very wealthy home, the mum is eager and so desperate for more kids from him (you understand how our mothers behave on issues like this). During one of our conversation, he suddenly asked if I would consider him for marriage and I replied with a solid No, he then begged me to play along as he intends Introducing me to the mum as his fiancee just so he could speak with his daughter, he sent me crying videos of how he misses his daughter and how his mom kept to her words, I sympathized with him and saw the eagerness and somehow I agreed to speak with the mom and play along so he will achieve his aim of speaking with his daughter. The next day his mum called and I could hear the excitement in her voice, she was so happy and didn't even care of other things, she spent more than an hour with me on phone and told me alot, by this time I was already scared but can't withdraw. That was the beginning of this whole problems, his mum now call me on daily basis, through her I have spoken with aunties and uncles of this man I haven't even met, recently she sent someone in my location to check on me and she brought really expensive gifts for me,she wanted to visit me but I somehow was able to convince her that she should wait till her son comes back which is next month. I have complained to this man of how he got me into a trap I didn't bargain for and he keeps begging and sending crying videos and telling me to do this for him so as to establish once more a good relationship with his mom and daughter and that when he comes back, he will sort out everything. Now this whole thing has really weigh me down, I don't sleep well anymore, I've lost weight and my heart skips each time my phone rings, my mum keeps asking me if anything is wrong but I can't get to tell her, I'm depressed already. Please help me with advise on what to do and how best to remove myself from all this. Please don't bash me and I'm not a good writer too, pardon me. Madamu, this Na their format, dem wan dupe u ni ooo. Run for Ur life 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by MzTunechi(f): 9:46am On Nov 22, 2020 |
OP I don't get,are you deliberately acting naive or what??! It is obvious these people are scammers. They are so unintelligent they keep using the same format. Even if you haven't read or heard similar stories before, atleast people are pointing it out to you that they are fraudsters still you're defending them. How long have you been under their manipulation Please be careful, do not fall prey. You can even check google for similar stories on Facebook. 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by MzTunechi(f): 9:50am On Nov 22, 2020 |
matrixmuzi: Just run. They did it to somebody I know. The script is to get your trust . Very soon he will tell u his mother is dying in the hospital that you should help send money to save his mother that he can't send money from his location. This is high class fraud. Run away. Likeee Same format! I can't believe she's defending the family. I just hope she doesn't fall victim. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by frozen70(f): 10:03am On Nov 22, 2020 |
Zzor: Good morning to you all, I know i would get a correct advise and steps to take here over my mistakes. I met this man who lives and work in the US on one of the social media networks and we became chat buddies, strictly platonic and nothing more, he told me how he lost his wife to cancer some years back and have been unable to remarry, he told me about his only child (a girl) who lives with his mum here in Nigeria, I get to know much about him from our chats and I realized he has not seen his daughter for some years now and there was no communication with his daughter for almost two years. The reason was that the mum told him never to call her again since he has refused to remarry and will only speak with him when he has found a wife, he's the only child of the mum and they are from a very wealthy home, the mum is eager and so desperate for more kids from him (you understand how our mothers behave on issues like this). During one of our conversation, he suddenly asked if I would consider him for marriage and I replied with a solid No, he then begged me to play along as he intends Introducing me to the mum as his fiancee just so he could speak with his daughter, he sent me crying videos of how he misses his daughter and how his mom kept to her words, I sympathized with him and saw the eagerness and somehow I agreed to speak with the mom and play along so he will achieve his aim of speaking with his daughter. The next day his mum called and I could hear the excitement in her voice, she was so happy and didn't even care of other things, she spent more than an hour with me on phone and told me alot, by this time I was already scared but can't withdraw. That was the beginning of this whole problems, his mum now call me on daily basis, through her I have spoken with aunties and uncles of this man I haven't even met, recently she sent someone in my location to check on me and she brought really expensive gifts for me,she wanted to visit me but I somehow was able to convince her that she should wait till her son comes back which is next month. I have complained to this man of how he got me into a trap I didn't bargain for and he keeps begging and sending crying videos and telling me to do this for him so as to establish once more a good relationship with his mom and daughter and that when he comes back, he will sort out everything. Now this whole thing has really weigh me down, I don't sleep well anymore, I've lost weight and my heart skips each time my phone rings, my mum keeps asking me if anything is wrong but I can't get to tell her, I'm depressed already. Please help me with advise on what to do and how best to remove myself from all this. Please don't bash me and I'm not a good writer too, pardon me. You have to inform your mum all that has been happening Second if you know that, the man is not your spec declare it now and stop collecting gifts from him and his family Never you enter into a relationship when you know that your joy is not there You will be the one to suffer it You guys may meet and the love will spark on |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 10:22am On Nov 22, 2020 |
frozen70:
You have to inform your mum all that has been happening
Second if you know that, the man is not your spec declare it now and stop collecting gifts from him and his family
Never you enter into a relationship when you know that your joy is not there
You will be the one to suffer it
You guys may meet and the love will spark on I can't inform my mum because it will be the beginning of an unending sermons, I will see my pastor later in the day |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by frozen70(f): 11:23am On Nov 22, 2020 |
Zzor: I can't inform my mum because it will be the beginning of an unending sermons, I will see my pastor later in the day Leave Pastors out of this You are the only one that has the power to advice yourself It's either you accept the marriage or you turn it down and now is the time to decide before it gets hover board |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by fertilewomb: 11:43am On Nov 22, 2020 |
Zzor: Good morning to you all, I know i would get a correct advise and steps to take here over my mistakes. I met this man who lives and work in the US on one of the social media networks and we became chat buddies, strictly platonic and nothing more, he told me how he lost his wife to cancer some years back and have been unable to remarry, he told me about his only child (a girl) who lives with his mum here in Nigeria, I get to know much about him from our chats and I realized he has not seen his daughter for some years now and there was no communication with his daughter for almost two years. The reason was that the mum told him never to call her again since he has refused to remarry and will only speak with him when he has found a wife, he's the only child of the mum and they are from a very wealthy home, the mum is eager and so desperate for more kids from him (you understand how our mothers behave on issues like this). During one of our conversation, he suddenly asked if I would consider him for marriage and I replied with a solid No, he then begged me to play along as he intends Introducing me to the mum as his fiancee just so he could speak with his daughter, he sent me crying videos of how he misses his daughter and how his mom kept to her words, I sympathized with him and saw the eagerness and somehow I agreed to speak with the mom and play along so he will achieve his aim of speaking with his daughter. The next day his mum called and I could hear the excitement in her voice, she was so happy and didn't even care of other things, she spent more than an hour with me on phone and told me alot, by this time I was already scared but can't withdraw. That was the beginning of this whole problems, his mum now call me on daily basis, through her I have spoken with aunties and uncles of this man I haven't even met, recently she sent someone in my location to check on me and she brought really expensive gifts for me,she wanted to visit me but I somehow was able to convince her that she should wait till her son comes back which is next month. I have complained to this man of how he got me into a trap I didn't bargain for and he keeps begging and sending crying videos and telling me to do this for him so as to establish once more a good relationship with his mom and daughter and that when he comes back, he will sort out everything. Now this whole thing has really weigh me down, I don't sleep well anymore, I've lost weight and my heart skips each time my phone rings, my mum keeps asking me if anything is wrong but I can't get to tell her, I'm depressed already. Please help me with advise on what to do and how best to remove myself from all this. Please don't bash me and I'm not a good writer too, pardon me. This story sound exactly like what happened to my friend recently. The same story line, the only difference is that the guys mum never send anymore to check on my friend neither did she bought gift for my friend. At the end of everything my friend realise that the guy was a scam, he scammed alot of money out of my friend. My friend kept sending money to the guys mom, not knowing it was all scam. Did you meet the man on Facebook? cos that is where my friend met the man. We also found out that a lot of ladies fell victim to that terrible scammer 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 11:49am On Nov 22, 2020 |
fertilewomb:
This story sound exactly like what happened to my friend recently. The same story line, the only difference is that the guys mum never send anymore to check on my friend neither did she bought gift for my friend.
At the end of everything my friend realise that the guy was a scam, he scammed alot of money out of my friend. My friend kept sending money to the guys mom, not knowing it was all scam.
The way you all are saying it's scam is scary, I told him this morning that he has failed if all this is a scam and he laughed it off saying what has come over me and that what can I give him to begin with, it sounds so funny to him, he's very rich and I already know alot about him.Hmm I'm patiently waiting sha but I know it's not scam |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by dep07(f): 1:13pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
Zzor: The way you all are saying it's scam is scary, I told him this morning that he has failed if all this is a scam and he laughed it off saying what has come over me and that what can I give him to begin with, it sounds so funny to him, he's very rich and I already know alot about him.Hmm I'm patiently waiting sha but I know it's not scam Are you for real? So he will agree that he's a scammer. Stop defending this man and his family. This story sounds too fake to be real. How can a mother cut off communication between a father and his daughter because he refused to remarry. Where on earth does that happen? THREAD WITH CAUTION!!!. 5 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 1:19pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
dep07:
Are you for real? So he will agree that he's a scammer. Stop defending this man and his family. This story sounds too fake to be real. How can a mother cut off communication between a father and his daughter because he refused to remarry. Where on earth does that happen? THREAD WITH CAUTION!!!. The mum got so angry after several attempts to get him married was fruitless and she stops picking his calls, she just wanted him to do her wish through all means. I wished it was fake, peace of mind is golden |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by fertilewomb: 1:20pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
Zzor: The way you all are saying it's scam is scary, I told him this morning that he has failed if all this is a scam and he laughed it off saying what has come over me and that what can I give him to begin with, it sounds so funny to him, he's very rich and I already know alot about him.Hmm I'm patiently waiting sha but I know it's not scam Good luck 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by XXLMANDIGO: 2:42pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
techmo:
A mother using his son's daughter and her grandkid to coerce his son to marry when he isn't ready is manipulative
A man crying over and over again to emotionally blackmail someone to act Fruadulent and partake in his lies is manipulative
This are serious red flags
Moving forward, set a well premeditated rule and agreement, you are a contract staff, Acting a role, what compensation do you want from him, and what acting services can you offer... You are acting like a girlfriend then charge him what escort charge
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Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Vanzcharles(m): 2:58pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
Lol. Babe becareful o. These might be a scam. I am busy now, I for explain better. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Arextex(m): 2:59pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
MzTunechi: Likeee Same format! I can't believe she's defending the family. I just hope she doesn't fall victim. It's obvious she knows better and of course she got her answers but just want others to confirm them. Since she knows he's a rich man,then she got nothing to worry about nor does she need validation before she decides on her next plan. What I don't get is the constant waving away of warnings from different posters about this confirmed scam. I believe she will be vindicated. Finish and klaar!!! 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by FanOfMyself: 3:38pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
Though your posts irritates me most of the time, but I wish not for you to be scammed. I see that they have gotten you where they want (you 98% believe it's not scam)! You are really naive and I believe that you are truly a woman after going through this thread. This is simply what you are going to do (I know it's a scam), just play along with them until they bill (I am betting my left ball that they would). Then you will know what's up. I warned someone who was in a similar situation from same Facebook and he refused to listen...the rest is history. so it's because of this fake scammer that you have been bashing nairaland men anyhow because you think that rich men are begging you for relationship (now I can trace it) you will always say "if you see men that I control ehh" chai!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Janosky: 3:52pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
You have to conduct discreet investigation to get solid proof that the so called Mom, the single man & only girl child are not fiction.... For the sake of your sanity. Better confide in your Mother now in case of.... Do you know his friends and family members? (I don't mean those who claim to be & interact with you to convince you...) Don't commit the Gross error to go visit them alone, better meet them with (in company of 2 of your friends ) in a public place where all eyes can see you. I dey draw your ear sounding this warning 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Stevenbright(m): 4:23pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
Zzor: there's no scam here, I already know so much about the family,guilt has taken all of me Introduce him to someone who will be ready to love and marry him. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 9:29pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
Stevenbright:
Introduce him to someone who will be ready to love and marry him. someone that has refused marry again, he told me I'm the only person that will change his mind if I agree to his request,that was why the mum went overboard |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 11:38pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
WAP... Wale Adenuga Production 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Stevenbright(m): 6:17am On Nov 23, 2020 |
Zzor: someone that has refused marry again, he told me I'm the only person that will change his mind if I agree to his request,that was why the mum went overboard Ask him what he sees in you that he can't see in others |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by GboyegaD(m): 2:31pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
Zzor: The mum has already done that but he seems not to be Interested in marriage anymore and hence the reason why the mum took that harsh decision,theres no scam here, far from it, most of my friends are northerners and I have a friend who is from same place with him and knows alot about him and the family. I already know alot about them Why do I have a feeling you don't want to think with your head? The manipulation is what is making you sick however, you don't want to think it through. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 2:33pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
GboyegaD:
Why do I have a feeling you don't want to think with your head? The manipulation is what is making you sick however, you don't want to think it through. It's not a scam, it can't be based on what I've known so far |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by GboyegaD(m): 2:48pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
Zzor: It's not a scam, it can't be based on what I've known so far I observed you have a response for everyone which tells me you are enjoying the attention from both parties. You might think you know him so well yet you know nothing since all you know is what he is telling/showing. Keep fighting with yourself over a truth you know deep within you. If it smells like a phish, it definitely is. Keep leading yourself on and I hope you realize before it is too late. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by GboyegaD(m): 2:56pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
frozen70:
Leave Pastors out of this
You are the only one that has the power to advice yourself
It's either you accept the marriage or you turn it down and now is the time to decide before it gets hover board Can't you see she loves being manipulated? Her mom shouldn't be involved but her pastor should be. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by GboyegaD(m): 2:59pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
Zzor: someone that has refused marry again, he told me I'm the only person that will change his mind if I agree to his request,that was why the mum went overboard Excuse me madam, dem don get you 100%. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by frozen70(f): 3:01pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
GboyegaD:
Can't you see she loves being manipulated? Her mom shouldn't be involved but her pastor should be. That's ehhh, She doesn't have her own sense of direction |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by cococandy(f): 3:25pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
Zzor what do you want from posters on this thread? Just be clear about the reason why you created the thread and the types of responses you want. It can be simple you know/ 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by Nobody: 4:01pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
cococandy: Zzor what do you want from posters on this thread? Just be clear about the reason why you created the thread and the types of responses you want. It can be simple you know/ I want out, I want to softly get his mum off my back in the best way I can, I'm tired of everything, but some people already said I should exercise patient till next month while most think it's a scam.My main problem is how to opt out and get his mum off my back because guilt has eaten me up already |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by cococandy(f): 5:05pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
Zzor: I want out, I want to softly get his mum off my back in the best way I can, I'm tired of everything, but some people already said I should exercise patient till next month while most think it's a scam.My main problem is how to opt out and get his mum off my back because guilt has eaten me up already Wittyglam: my dear it's time to tell the truth and set yourself free. I hope you make a good decision. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by cococandy(f): 5:06pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
Zzor: I want out, I want to softly get his mum off my back in the best way I can, I'm tired of everything, but some people already said I should exercise patient till next month while most think it's a scam.My main problem is how to opt out and get his mum off my back because guilt has eaten me up already Blackbishop:
My dear cut all forms of communication now before its too late. Don't let what they are bringing on the table move you. "NOT ALL THAT GLITTERS IS GOLD 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by cococandy(f): 5:07pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
All the advice you’re looking for is already here. I don’t get the helpless “I don’t know what to do” act. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Nights Over A Mistake. What Do I Do by mariahAngel(f): 5:32pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
cococandy: All the advice you’re looking for is already here. I don’t get the helpless “I don’t know what to do” act. |