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Zzor:
Good morning to you all, I know i would get a correct advise and steps to take here over my mistakes. I met this man who lives and work in the US on one of the social media networks and we became chat buddies, strictly platonic and nothing more, he told me how he lost his wife to cancer some years back and have been unable to remarry, he told me about his only child (a girl) who lives with his mum here in Nigeria, I get to know much about him from our chats and I realized he has not seen his daughter for some years now and there was no communication with his daughter for almost two years. The reason was that the mum told him never to call her again since he has refused to remarry and will only speak with him when he has found a wife, he's the only child of the mum and they are from a very wealthy home, the mum is eager and so desperate for more kids from him (you understand how our mothers behave on issues like this). During one of our conversation, he suddenly asked if I would consider him for marriage and I replied with a solid No, he then begged me to play along as he intends Introducing me to the mum as his fiancee just so he could speak with his daughter, he sent me crying videos of how he misses his daughter and how his mom kept to her words, I sympathized with him and saw the eagerness and somehow I agreed to speak with the mom and play along so he will achieve his aim of speaking with his daughter. The next day his mum called and I could hear the excitement in her voice, she was so happy and didn't even care of other things, she spent more than an hour with me on phone and told me alot, by this time I was already scared but can't withdraw. That was the beginning of this whole problems, his mum now call me on daily basis, through her I have spoken with aunties and uncles of this man I haven't even met, recently she sent someone in my location to check on me and she brought really expensive gifts for me,she wanted to visit me but I somehow was able to convince her that she should wait till her son comes back which is next month. I have complained to this man of how he got me into a trap I didn't bargain for and he keeps begging and sending crying videos and telling me to do this for him so as to establish once more a good relationship with his mom and daughter and that when he comes back, he will sort out everything. Now this whole thing has really weigh me down, I don't sleep well anymore, I've lost weight and my heart skips each time my phone rings, my mum keeps asking me if anything is wrong but I can't get to tell her, I'm depressed already. Please help me with advise on what to do and how best to remove myself from all this. Please don't bash me and I'm not a good writer too, pardon me.

matrixmuzi:
Just run. They did it to somebody I know. The script is to get your trust . Very soon he will tell u his mother is dying in the hospital that you should help send money to save his mother that he can't send money from his location. This is high class fraud. Run away.

Zzor:
Good morning to you all, I know i would get a correct advise and steps to take here over my mistakes. I met this man who lives and work in the US on one of the social media networks and we became chat buddies, strictly platonic and nothing more, he told me how he lost his wife to cancer some years back and have been unable to remarry, he told me about his only child (a girl) who lives with his mum here in Nigeria, I get to know much about him from our chats and I realized he has not seen his daughter for some years now and there was no communication with his daughter for almost two years. The reason was that the mum told him never to call her again since he has refused to remarry and will only speak with him when he has found a wife, he's the only child of the mum and they are from a very wealthy home, the mum is eager and so desperate for more kids from him (you understand how our mothers behave on issues like this). During one of our conversation, he suddenly asked if I would consider him for marriage and I replied with a solid No, he then begged me to play along as he intends Introducing me to the mum as his fiancee just so he could speak with his daughter, he sent me crying videos of how he misses his daughter and how his mom kept to her words, I sympathized with him and saw the eagerness and somehow I agreed to speak with the mom and play along so he will achieve his aim of speaking with his daughter. The next day his mum called and I could hear the excitement in her voice, she was so happy and didn't even care of other things, she spent more than an hour with me on phone and told me alot, by this time I was already scared but can't withdraw. That was the beginning of this whole problems, his mum now call me on daily basis, through her I have spoken with aunties and uncles of this man I haven't even met, recently she sent someone in my location to check on me and she brought really expensive gifts for me,she wanted to visit me but I somehow was able to convince her that she should wait till her son comes back which is next month. I have complained to this man of how he got me into a trap I didn't bargain for and he keeps begging and sending crying videos and telling me to do this for him so as to establish once more a good relationship with his mom and daughter and that when he comes back, he will sort out everything. Now this whole thing has really weigh me down, I don't sleep well anymore, I've lost weight and my heart skips each time my phone rings, my mum keeps asking me if anything is wrong but I can't get to tell her, I'm depressed already. Please help me with advise on what to do and how best to remove myself from all this. Please don't bash me and I'm not a good writer too, pardon me.

frozen70:
You have to inform your mum all that has been happening

Second if you know that, the man is not your spec declare it now and stop collecting gifts from him and his family

Never you enter into a relationship when you know that your joy is not there

You will be the one to suffer it

You guys may meet and the love will spark on

Zzor:
I can't inform my mum because it will be the beginning of an unending sermons, I will see my pastor later in the day

Zzor:
Good morning to you all, I know i would get a correct advise and steps to take here over my mistakes. I met this man who lives and work in the US on one of the social media networks and we became chat buddies, strictly platonic and nothing more, he told me how he lost his wife to cancer some years back and have been unable to remarry, he told me about his only child (a girl) who lives with his mum here in Nigeria, I get to know much about him from our chats and I realized he has not seen his daughter for some years now and there was no communication with his daughter for almost two years. The reason was that the mum told him never to call her again since he has refused to remarry and will only speak with him when he has found a wife, he's the only child of the mum and they are from a very wealthy home, the mum is eager and so desperate for more kids from him (you understand how our mothers behave on issues like this). During one of our conversation, he suddenly asked if I would consider him for marriage and I replied with a solid No, he then begged me to play along as he intends Introducing me to the mum as his fiancee just so he could speak with his daughter, he sent me crying videos of how he misses his daughter and how his mom kept to her words, I sympathized with him and saw the eagerness and somehow I agreed to speak with the mom and play along so he will achieve his aim of speaking with his daughter. The next day his mum called and I could hear the excitement in her voice, she was so happy and didn't even care of other things, she spent more than an hour with me on phone and told me alot, by this time I was already scared but can't withdraw. That was the beginning of this whole problems, his mum now call me on daily basis, through her I have spoken with aunties and uncles of this man I haven't even met, recently she sent someone in my location to check on me and she brought really expensive gifts for me,she wanted to visit me but I somehow was able to convince her that she should wait till her son comes back which is next month. I have complained to this man of how he got me into a trap I didn't bargain for and he keeps begging and sending crying videos and telling me to do this for him so as to establish once more a good relationship with his mom and daughter and that when he comes back, he will sort out everything. Now this whole thing has really weigh me down, I don't sleep well anymore, I've lost weight and my heart skips each time my phone rings, my mum keeps asking me if anything is wrong but I can't get to tell her, I'm depressed already. Please help me with advise on what to do and how best to remove myself from all this. Please don't bash me and I'm not a good writer too, pardon me.

fertilewomb:
This story sound exactly like what happened to my friend recently. The same story line, the only difference is that the guys mum never send anymore to check on my friend neither did she bought gift for my friend.

At the end of everything my friend realise that the guy was a scam, he scammed alot of money out of my friend. My friend kept sending money to the guys mom, not knowing it was all scam.

Zzor:
The way you all are saying it's scam is scary, I told him this morning that he has failed if all this is a scam and he laughed it off saying what has come over me and that what can I give him to begin with, it sounds so funny to him, he's very rich and I already know alot about him.Hmm I'm patiently waiting sha but I know it's not scam

dep07:
Are you for real? So he will agree that he's a scammer. Stop defending this man and his family. This story sounds too fake to be real. How can a mother cut off communication between a father and his daughter because he refused to remarry. Where on earth does that happen? THREAD WITH CAUTION!!!.

Zzor:
The way you all are saying it's scam is scary, I told him this morning that he has failed if all this is a scam and he laughed it off saying what has come over me and that what can I give him to begin with, it sounds so funny to him, he's very rich and I already know alot about him.Hmm I'm patiently waiting sha but I know it's not scam

techmo:
A mother using his son's daughter and her grandkid to coerce his son to marry when he isn't ready is manipulative

A man crying over and over again to emotionally blackmail someone to act Fruadulent and partake in his lies is manipulative

This are serious red flags

Moving forward, set a well premeditated rule and agreement, you are a contract staff, Acting a role, what compensation do you want from him, and what acting services can you offer... You are acting like a girlfriend then charge him what escort charge


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MzTunechi:
Likeee Same format! I can't believe she's defending the family. I just hope she doesn't fall victim.

Zzor:
there's no scam here, I already know so much about the family,guilt has taken all of me

Stevenbright:
Introduce him to someone who will be ready to love and marry him.

Zzor:
someone that has refused marry again, he told me I'm the only person that will change his mind if I agree to his request,that was why the mum went overboard

Zzor:
The mum has already done that but he seems not to be Interested in marriage anymore and hence the reason why the mum took that harsh decision,theres no scam here, far from it, most of my friends are northerners and I have a friend who
is from same place with him and knows alot about him and the family. I already know alot about them

GboyegaD:
Why do I have a feeling you don't want to think with your head? The manipulation is what is making you sick however, you don't want to think it through.

Zzor:
It's not a scam, it can't be based on what I've known so far

frozen70:
Leave Pastors out of this

You are the only one that has the power to advice yourself

It's either you accept the marriage or you turn it down and now is the time to decide before it gets hover board

Zzor:
someone that has refused marry again, he told me I'm the only person that will change his mind if I agree to his request,that was why the mum went overboard

GboyegaD:
Can't you see she loves being manipulated? Her mom shouldn't be involved but her pastor should be.

cococandy:
Zzor what do you want from posters on this thread? Just be clear about the reason why you created the thread and the types of responses you want. It can be simple you know/

Zzor:
I want out, I want to softly get his mum off my back in the best way I can, I'm tired of everything, but some people already said I should exercise patient till next month while most think it's a scam.My main problem is how to opt out and get his mum off my back because guilt has eaten me up already

Wittyglam:
my dear it's time to tell the truth and set yourself free. I hope you make a good decision.

Zzor:
I want out, I want to softly get his mum off my back in the best way I can, I'm tired of everything, but some people already said I should exercise patient till next month while most think it's a scam.My main problem is how to opt out and get his mum off my back because guilt has eaten me up already

Blackbishop:
My dear cut all forms of communication now before its too late. Don't let what they are bringing on the table move you. "NOT ALL THAT GLITTERS IS GOLD

cococandy:
All the advice you’re looking for is already here. I don’t get the helpless “I don’t know what to do” act.