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I'M NOT SAYING WANTING A FRAME WEDDING IS BAD OOO BUT CAN THE LADY IN QUESTION AFFORD IT,MOST OF THEM ARE LIVING IN FANCY LAND AND ALL THANKS TO THE ROMANTIC NOVELS THEY READ

2dice01:
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Exactly...but baba mama wahala no be here o

Xammie001:
I'M NOT SAYING WANTING A FRAME WEDDING IS BAD OOO BUT CAN THE LADY IN QUESTION AFFORD IT,MOST OF THEM ARE LIVING IN FANCY LAND AND ALL THANKS TO THE ROMANTIC NOVELS THEY READ

And Nollywood movies they watch...I think fantacy is the right word to use. Most of them come back to reality when they hit menopause.

Nazgul:
Hmmmm...it's not as easy as that. The guy in question brought up the issue of canceling the entire wedding if she wouldn't shift grounds, but the girl isn't ready for any form of cancellation...she keeps uploading pre-wedding pics on social media and tagging everyone along reminding them of the date.

So such a person wouldn't consent to any form of agreement that wouldn't be beneficial to her unless the guy breaks off the whole stuff, then she'll cry like most ladies do and form victim.

Baba,if guy is a SIMP then...How can the girl be dictating without having cash...She either sponsor 90% of the flamboyant wedding or cancel the shit

Nazgul:
Exactly...I'll tell him this...he should just impregnate her and ask her to move in. By the time she remembers marriage again she would be nursing about 3 kids...sense will not kill you.

Yes naw, lol

All dz guys complaining about money money money, expensive this that has never met the woman they love yet.

If u meet the woman u love even if her wedding is worth 10million u would sacrifice for her and u would be extremely happy about it

Nazgul:
Hello everyone...

Just decided to Share this here...

There's this guy in my office (a colleague) he's been in love with a girl for quite some time now. In fact they were supposed to get married this yet but due to the covid 19 Lock down and how cash suddenly vanished from everyone's account, he and the girl in question decided to postpone the marriage till Easter period next year. (March/April)

The guy in question says he wants a low key wedding which is understandable, no thanks to the high inflation rate of food and other commodities, but this his babe wouldn't want to hear such.

He was just telling us now that his babe is saying her friends would be coming from PH (she schooled in uniport) and she intends to do something presentable. That one of her friends who wedded earlier in the year, her wedding was the talk of the Town. And she wants theirs to be just like that.

From what he was explaining, the girl in question is just interested in having an expensive wedding just to show off to her friends not minding what it would cause her supposed husband...very selfish of her if you ask me.

I just asked him to talk to her about it...cos I was very careful so I won't say anything that I would be blamed for later in the future.

Ladies should understand the current situation in the country, if you want an expensive wedding please show commitment by contributing to it. If you don't have the finance for it please manage the one your guy is working towards.

There's more to marriage than a one day wedding...the guy even told us that if she continues to insists he'll just call the whole thing off. I just calmed him down and advised him to talk to her about it.

What do you all think?

Cc Lalasticlala, mynd44, Dominique

I don’t want to sound rude my friend but your friend is one of those useless guys out there that want to impress woman and die of hunger

Coldie:
All dz guys complaining about money money money, expensive this that has never met the woman they love yet.

If u meet the woman u love even if her wedding is worth 10million u would sacrifice for her and u would be extremely happy about it

Sacrifice keep u die

Olunmercy56:
Different ladies with different thinking, not all ladies. The guy must not eat more than he can chew. He should not start what he can't continue in future. Wedding is just a day, marriage is forever, let her spend the expenses, the guy should not be mumu

Nobody is interested in costly wedding, they are waiting for how long you will both last .

There are many things to invest in after the wedding. Thank God I hate anything crowd, my wedding guests must not be more than 10

My type of woman , lemme send you pm

Coldie:
All dz guys complaining about money money money, expensive this that has never met the woman they love yet.

If u meet the woman u love even if her wedding is worth 10million u would sacrifice for her and u would be extremely happy about it

Love means someone should go nuts??

U see gals with this kind mind set no dey contribute shishi na to just dey fantasise de plan de go. Is now dat he will prove to the people and his babe say na man him be by cutting his cloth according to his material if no like am, de door is open for to waka comot.

Coldie:
All dz guys complaining about money money money, expensive this that has never met the woman they love yet.

If u meet the woman u love even if her wedding is worth 10million u would sacrifice for her and u would be extremely happy about it

I think people should be able to do what fancy them as long as they're not hurting anyone.

But your idea of what love is and what it may demand of men is dangerous and unhealthy. The perfect woman shouldn't make you do stupid, crazy things to please her.

It's a simple matter of understanding and COMMON SENSE. And it's a matter of putting things in context.

Xammie001:
I'M NOT SAYING WANTING A FRAME WEDDING IS BAD OOO BUT CAN THE LADY IN QUESTION AFFORD IT,MOST OF THEM ARE LIVING IN FANCY LAND AND ALL THANKS TO THE ROMANTIC NOVELS THEY READ

And films.

Nazgul:
So they'll prefer to loose a prospective husband simply because he told them he can't or wouldn't shoulder the expenses of and expensive wedding? That's weird if you ask me.

Tell the guy to call of the whole thing if the girl keeps insisting on a large wedding otherwise he would end up in bankruptcy!

Nazgul:
And Nollywood movies they watch...I think fantacy is the right word to use. Most of them come back to reality when they hit menopause.

You are right. Ladies don't like novels, they prefer romantic movies.

Coldie:
All dz guys complaining about money money money, expensive this that has never met the woman they love yet.

If u meet the woman u love even if her wedding is worth 10million u would sacrifice for her and u would be extremely happy about it

Maybe you are born with a silver spoon so you can't know how difficult the country is now. Expensive wedding is neither compulsory nor necessary. So why going into debt because of a day ceremony?

Anayxz:
U see gals with this kind mind set no dey contribute shishi na to just dey fantasise de plan de go. Is now dat he will prove to the people and his babe say na man him be by cutting his cloth according to his material if no like am, de door is open for to waka comot.

I'm telling you...these are the kind of girls that when you marry them, common 1k to recharge meter they won't bring. They'll rather say in darkness and wait till you come back, then inform you of the situation and expect you to cough out money.

Honestly some girls are worse than parasites.

Honestly, Guys Simps are really trying o. It's not easy to be one I swear.

Dey Do So Because Dey Don't Know Or Care To Know What Men Go Tru To Raise Money 4 Dat. All Dey Think Or Care Abt Is Their Comfort.

Coldie:
All dz guys complaining about money money money, expensive this that has never met the woman they love yet.

If u meet the woman u love even if her wedding is worth 10million u would sacrifice for her and u would be extremely happy about it

Do you know what 10million naira is?

Competition among peers and family. I have no issue with any lady wanting an expensive wedding if she is going to be a part financier.

Not the ones who won't contribute a dime but want expensive wedding.

All in all, the guys have the final say if only guys were smart.

Yansham:
Competition among peers and family. I have no issue with any lady wanting an expensive wedding if she is going to be a part financier.

Not the ones who won't contribute a dime but want expensive wedding.

All in all, the guys have the final say if only guys were smart.

Sadly, most prefer to dance to the tune of ladies.

hmmmm, I'm currently in thesame shoe as ur colleague. what am doing is 25% of expenses ll be cover by her, only agreed with 10% of what she wants us to do and the 65% comes from me and i dictate how it should be done.
sometimes, u gat to exert some form of authority for things to be done within budget.

Nazgul:
To what end...I've been opportuned to attend a couple of weddings. The harsh reality is that after a week people forget all about how Behind your wedding was and move on with their lives.

So why put a man through hell just to brag...

No matter how grandiose a wedding is, someone else will do a much more grandiose wedding tomorrow.

As a kid, I remember when Kanu Nwankwo got married, it was the talk of the town in Owerri then for a while. Think of all the celebrity marriages- TuFace, BankyW etc. Who still talk about their weddings today. Even that of Williams Uchenna of yesterday will be forgotten by next week.

That's life. People move on and have other things to take care of than sitting down to reminisce on a particular wedding ceremony was the best thing since sliced bread

In essence, No go do pass yourself

Priam:
No matter how grandiose a wedding is, someone else will do a much more grandiose wedding tomorrow.

As a kid, I remember when Kanu Nwankwo got married, it was the talk of the town in Owerri then for a while. Think of all the celebrity marriages- TuFace, BankyW etc. Who still talk about their weddings today. Even that of Williams Uchenna of yesterday will be forgotten by next week.

That's life. People move on and have other things to take care of than sitting down to reminisce on a particular wedding ceremony was the best thing since sliced bread

In essence, No go do pass yourself

Well said

I believe the guy should call off the wedding .... even if he talks to her and she agrees. This is not about the wedding... it's about warning signs we ignore and plunge into marriage. Most women would like to have an extravagant wedding .... and would try to convince their fiance to make it possible but at the same time she will take into consideration they can manage after the wedding. The difference with this one is she wants a big wedding because it must be the talk of the town ... just like her friend. what does that tell of her? It tells that she is the keeping up with the Jones's type.... the wedding is just the beginning. Does he think that his house can be like any other house in the neighbourhood?... or his car a Toyota whatever?... or the clothes she will be wearing be bought in Nigeria? ... or his children attend ordinary private school? ... or his children ever dare be fed garri? What will he think will happen when he can't afford all these must haves?.... must haves by any means necessary? This kind woman you can't reason.... after all... Men are from Mars... Women from Venus. He should call off the wedding.

He should talk to her, I hope she will calm down, if not he should call it quit or she fund the wedding.

Olunmercy56:
Different ladies with different thinking, not all ladies. The guy must not eat more than he can chew. He should not start what he can't continue in future. Wedding is just a day, marriage is forever, let her spend the expenses, the guy should not be mumu

Nobody is interested in costly wedding, they are waiting for how long you will both last .

There are many things to invest in after the wedding. Thank God I hate anything crowd, my wedding guests must not be more than 10

Eat Your Stingy Jollof Rice Alone... Stingy Person...

Na joke ooo

If you have ever taken time to understand your girl then you will realize that the reason why most girls want to have expensive weddings is because they want to enter a new life in style and they want all their friends and family to see it. They want it to be an unforgettable moment. it is jsut the same way that gusy want to have the expensive cars jstu that a wedding lasts for a day but a car can alst for years.

They want the expensive weddings because it is what they are influenced to believe by the public or better yet the social media. When they see the wedding shows on tv they get that desire to have such a wedding no matter the cost. That is why they mostly want the expensive weddings and if you can give it to them then do so.