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Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by englishmart(m): 1:09pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
There was one beautiful girl in my street I had a crush on, she was more beautiful than 5 girls combined. We got going and everything seemed fine. The day she mentioned she had a child was the day my interest rescinded. I deserved better, I thought. 6 Likes
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Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Nobody: 1:14pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
No, I can't. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Sammmie022: 1:14pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
I won’t dig my own grave 3 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Nobody: 1:17pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
Bro how big are you digging your grave make sure it big so that it can contain all your problem. 5 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by mosdii(m): 1:23pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
Real Men Don't Get Married Nowadays Because Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Kriss216: 1:27pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
The fastest way to Hell is to get married to a non virgin Nigerian girl. 5 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Brandonx(m): 1:38pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
Why would any sane man marry a single mother? Single Mothers are second hand products which have little or no value at all. I have a sister who's divorced some foolish men still running after her probably because of her money but she's there doing yanga If only she knew I see her as an expired product. 15 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Kobicove(m): 1:45pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
How many times will you people ask this question?! |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Nobody: 1:46pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
I can't run a daddy daycare. Only Eddie Murphy can do that. |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by phr33man(m): 1:50pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
Well, marrying a single mother of one not more isn't bad. It depends on how it happened (try get to the root if the matter). Secondly, is she a changed person if she's lived wayward in the past. These two are the most important to me. There are some single ladies without kids that cannot no longer bear fruit of the womb due to 4-5 abortions. Na the character matter o. We don't love the face, neither the body but the soul of who we intend spending the rest of our lives with. My opinion 5 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Wannabenz: 1:56pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
Yes but as a second wife. |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Nobody: 2:01pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
Brandonx:most honest comment I've seen today.. you deserve this and more.. 12 Likes
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Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by iskalamong(m): 2:32pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
I can't. Some of my reasons include (randomly ordered): 1. Bonding (pair-bonding) may be difficult. 2. Most guys won't settle for a single mother and she knows this. Hence, it's likely her attitude is pretentious to trick me into marrying her. 3. Her baby daddy can come into our lifes as he wills due to his child(ren). He is part of our lives whether we like it or not. So the earlier we accept that, the better! 4. Additional expenses/effort training another man's child(ren). 5. The marriage won't be fresh as it should since we'll be starting the marriage with her child(ren) (less honeymoon excitement). I can't ask her to abandon her child(ren), that would be unfair/evil. 6. You may doubt this but, she most likely won't respect me as she should. You know why? Because she'll feel I settled for less (marrying a single mum). Making her think I'm a low value man and/or a man that can't get high quality maidens. Sorry, it's just the way most ladies and women are wired. 7. High tendency to cheat. This may be due to reason 6 above. She may cheat on me with guys who used her and dumped her. She may perceive them to be real men (alpha males). It could also be due to a likely promiscuous behaviour which may be the reason she's a single mum. 8. Sexual reasons. Child birth has effect on firmness of a woman's-breasts and the tightness of her vaginal-walls. Although, one could argue that this may be unavoidable with aging/time, I'll at least prefer to enjoy them fresh (both the upper and lower front feminity) even if for a short time period. Physical/sexual attraction is necessary especially for new young couples in my opinion. The list goes on and on. Conclusion: Everyone is different and so are our priorities and preferences. You may see these reasons as shallow or flimsy excuses, but it is better to know yourself, your strengths, weaknesses, preferences, priorities and deal-breakers. This way, you'll make better decisions and prevent mistakes and regrets. Afterall, it's better not to marry a single mum than to marry her and make her life miserable, or worse divorce her with more children than she had when you married her leaving her damaged (if she already isn't). Disclaimer It should be noted that I have nothing against single mums and this post shouldn't be taken as a bias, prejudice or discrimination against single mums. Many single mums are wonderful. Some are single mums by forces beyond their control and several other unfortunate circumstances. This post is simply my opinion and should be regarded as such. Thanks! Iskalamong! 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by milann: 2:42pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
Bus is full. Next turn. |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Nobody: 2:42pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
I can never. |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by davien(m): 3:21pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
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Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by davien(m): 3:28pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
No.. You'll be attending to 3-5 people along the relationship, yourself, her or her kids, the baby daddy or daddies and her folks. She will want you to cater for her and her kids while she brings either nothing or little. Even say she has a good paying job, women who earn higher than the men they're with feel like he's dragging them back. Even if the man is comfortable in his job such women will nag him till he looks older than his father. If you put work in any relationship that a man left his mark on the woman with children, don't be surprised if he comes back and she accepts him (even if he is bad to her) or she cheats on you for not living up to her baby daddy's expectations. Stay away from single mothers, have your turn and move on. 8 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Dogalmighty17: 3:36pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
Nothing categorically wrong with marrying a single mom. If you are prepared for the work involved in getting the marriage to work. |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by extol1(m): 3:39pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
Brandonx:you get bad mouth. expired product for human beings |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by extol1(m): 3:43pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
all the comments above me will make the op to change his mind if he intent to date or marry any before. someone should please motivate the op na |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Nazgul: 3:49pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
iskalamong:Would you rather prefer a girl who's had multiple abortions? |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Omoluabi1stborn: 4:01pm On Feb 07, 2021 |
Nope. I can't enter the field with 1 or 2 - 0 down I'll rather sit on bench. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by englishmart(m): 6:00am On Feb 08, 2021 |
phr33man:Talking about abortion, being a single mom doesn't exonerate them. They also might have done several abortions too. 3 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by englishmart(m): 6:02am On Feb 08, 2021 |
Nazgul:single moms prolly choose to keep one out of the many abortions they've done. 3 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by englishmart(m): 6:26am On Feb 08, 2021 |
iskalamong:You're not permitted to have this much wisdom 4 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by englishmart(m): 6:28am On Feb 08, 2021 |
extol1:Even me, when I hear say she don get pikin before, the Kain run wey I run eh, even Usain Bolt go beg for draw tire. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by englishmart(m): 6:32am On Feb 08, 2021 |
extol1:Lol. To be expired is to be out of fashion or taste. Humans, too, can be expired 1 Like |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by busola500(m): 6:32am On Feb 08, 2021 |
Nigeria girls are useless .,....there pussy is donpin site for sparm |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by orisunmibare01(m): 6:36am On Feb 08, 2021 |
You never see better girl nii. I've met a couple of girls who I'll marry even if they had birthed a child. It's just about knowing how it happened, the kind of person she is. As for taking care of the child, if money dey then why not. |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by englishmart(m): 1:30pm On Feb 08, 2021 |
orisunmibare01:young girls full everywhere biko. Single moms are for single dads 1 Like |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Hybridz: 2:21pm On Feb 08, 2021 |
Kriss216: Getting a virgin in their early/mid 20s now is like finding a needle in an ocean 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Guys, Can You Marry A Single Mom? by Randy100: 3:03pm On Feb 08, 2021 |
As a single father, I won't even go after a single mother. I know why. 3 Likes |
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