AmazonTopaz:
Men nor dey marry women wey senior dem before and love them join na today e start?

You go just dey talk rubbish.
There are men married to older women and did not witness this rubbish you are saying?
Genes matter when it comes to ageing there are also men who may be same age with their wives and they age faster than them.It is your genes,the food you take and the kind of lifestyle you live that determines ageing decreasing or increasing not gender what you wrote is out of ignorance.

Mumu write up! You're just trying to console yourself. Most women start to witness dis-utility at age 23. Women age faster than men even when the man is 15 years older than the woman. It's not an insult but a reality of life.

ThEGodFaThEr101:

[s]Mumu write up! You're just trying to console yourself. Most women start to witness dis-utility at age 23. Women age faster than men even when the man is 15 years older than the woman. It's not an insult but a reality of life[/s].

Keep quiet because you are saying lies I just enlightened you simple google will help you.

If you like don't go and gain knowledge go and say this rubbish outside where enlightened people are you will only look like a village tout.
Seek knowledge and ye shall find.Ignorance is never an excuse.

sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

ordinary two years? Nawaooo, Nigerians are very uptight beings.

AmazonTopaz:

Keep quiet because you are saying lies I just enlightened you simple google will help you.

If you like don't go and gain knowledge go and say this rubbish outside where enlightened people are you will only look like a village tout.
Seek knowledge and ye shall find.Ignorance is never an excuse.

Smh! I pity your Mumuness, by the time your arm begin to transform into "Christian mother" arm then you'll realise what I just said. I challenge you to wake up in the morning and go outside without wearing Makeup let's see if you'll not look older than Florence Ita-Giwa.

sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

I had thought the lady was like 18 years older than you.

2 years is nothing.

Remember age is just a number. If you switch this around, say your were 2 years older that doesn't guarantee that the lady will love and respect you etc..

If the lady checks all your boxes.. then congratulations, you just found you a wife!

You will cheat on her for a younger looking lady that compliments you as time goes by

AmazonTopaz:
And where did you get this info from You go just dey talk rubbish

Ya mama told me the rubbish

You dated her for four good years, and now that she is already putting her entire hope that you two will end up together, you are suddenly worried about her age.

It didn't bother you in your first two years of dating...now you want nairaland to help you decide. Don't allow God to punish you badly

two yrs difference is not much nau.some of u guys date white women 30 to 40yrs or even 50 yrs older than u and yet u dont make noise about it but when it comes to a naija lady just a yr older than u una go dey make a scene about it
na wao

sKeetz:


Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

Oga, I know you have made up your mind but just need validation. I absolutely have no problem about that. In short congrats.

But you see this line I quoted ehh, especially the bolded part, just forget it. I repeat, forget it because you know nothing about her. I'm not saying this because of her age. You can never fully know or understand women. Mark this word. Again, it's not about her, it's about women.

if the woman watches what she eats and exercises she will still look
sweet at 55.look at genevieve nau does she look horrible for her age?
its just that a number of naija ladies dont like physical activity and they
just eat anything they see plus the laziness that comes in when married
and this leads to excess weight gain wich makes them look older.But i
have seen married nigerian ladies who still look portable after years of
marriage.Its just how someone tries to maintain his/herself that will tell
her the person will look.And there some guys who look horrible for their
age too cos of their unhealthy lifestyle.Its not all guys that age well

ThEGodFaThEr101:

[s]Smh! I pity your Mumuness, by the time your arm begin to transform into "Christian mother" arm then you'll realise what I just said. I challenge you to wake up in the morning and go outside without wearing Makeup let's see if you'll not look older than Florence Ita-Giwa[/s]

Just go and sit down you have nothing sensible to say just rubbish.Go and say this rubbish in a beer parlour

uBuNiT:

Ya mama told me the rubbish

Rubbish

AmazonTopaz:

Just go and sit down you have nothing sensible to say just rubbish.Go and say this rubbish in a beer parlour
Rubbish

Okay, I love you, that's if you're a woman o.

ZIINI:

Omo tó tii stupid
No mind her jare
Follow your mind
I don dey with a girl wey be say she senior me with 5 yrs nothing do me and nothing do her.

“Dey with” is way different from MARRYING. . . .

Kobicove:


The major con is that in the next 10 years she will likely be looking far older than you and you may be embarrassed to introduce her as your wife

There is no shame in introducing ur love as ur wife

sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

Guy, forget the comment that said u would be ashamed in some 10 years. U would be surprised that you would even be more proud of her by then. See if u guys truly love each other, marry her. There is no regrets there except if u don't love and even if u leave her now, u will regret it for life if not for anything but for wasting four years of her life

doggedfighter:
Does she tick some of the boxes in what you want in a woman?

Does she give you peace?

Does she support your dreams and visions?

Is there mutual respect?

Very salient questions.

If her age is stressing you out go marry a younger woman

And flaunt and bask in her age

How can age be stressing him after four years? Ha!

hakeem4:
Actually there’s nothing to worry about. But the problem is that the lady would quickly reach the wall and she would not be sexually appealing to you, and you’d have to go out to keep looking for ladies in their 20’s

You can see the graph I uploaded below to see the age preferences of men and women respectively

Any link to the research where this graph came from?

There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. Society has made so many things look evil whereas they are completely okay. Don't go with society, go with what will give you lasting peace and joy.

ordinary two year's haba Bro, calm down na. And by the way uve dated her for 4 years oh. its not easy getting a good wife.

sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

4 years, and it's now it's bothering you.
My guy wan jakpaa...

You're already a married man only that you're yet to pay her bride price. I will advise you, not to bother to read anything that will discourage you here o, so that your wife will not be used as your girlfriend in the name of she is older than you. Many who are looking for a wife materials are everywhere not bothered of the age or beauty.
Congratulations

You didn't realize all this while until after four years of wasting her time, you now want to know. So if you "know" now that there are "cons" you'll leave her? Mtchew.

This really shouldn't be coming up at this time because if you did your findings when you guys were only six months gone, by now she would have gotten herself another man and prolly been married by now.

Thattallgirl:
Two years older than you isn't bad. Thought I'd see 20 years difference

Well.... looking at numbers, you may think age difference is harmless. In Nigeria however, older lady and younger guy relationship doesn't work! no matter the age difference!

GodWrites:


Exactly! OP seems to have this childish, immature mindset. Seems his small stature and baby face also affected his reasoning.

How can one date someone for 4 years, only to wake up and start looking for excuse to dumb the lady?

I mean, was he blind when he first approached her?

Children!

Smh!

You have spoken my mind

GodWrites:


Exactly! OP seems to have this childish, immature mindset. Seems his small stature and baby face also affected his reasoning.

How can one date someone for 4 years, only to wake up and start looking for excuse to dumb the lady?

I mean, was he blind when he first approached her?

Children!

Smh!

To the contrary, I think op is wise for asking for advice. Especially in this forum where there is no personal interest . The kind of advice he would get would be diverse, and the most repetitive ones will likely be the best advice!

GodWrites:


Exactly! OP seems to have this childish, immature mindset. Seems his small stature and baby face also affected his reasoning.

How can one date someone for 4 years, only to wake up and start looking for excuse to dumb the lady?

I mean, was he blind when he first approached her?

Children!

Smh!

Exactly!

If honor and understanding is there why not

Judybash93:
If you knew age was going to be an issue in your relationship, maybe you should have broken it up a long time before now. Moreover, we don't know the lady. You know her better and if you're really in love with her like you claim, go ahead with your thing and if you are not.... please...meuveeee

Love is not enough!

yYot:

Well.... looking at numbers, you may think age difference is harmless. In Nigeria however, older lady and younger guy relationship doesn't work! no matter the age difference!

what of if the older lady is rich nko or comes from a rich family?
the relationship with the younger man still wont work in naija?

ostechno:

Age is just a number invented by humans, the way we invented the clock, you can set your clock to whatever you like, like I can give myself any age I like

May I respectfully tell you that you can not! By the time I see the bag under your eyes and the lines on your neck, no matter how attractive you look, I will always guess your age rightly!

lefulefu:
what of if the older lady is rich nko or comes from a rich family?
the relationship with the younger man still wont work in naija?

If it doesn't work, at least you gain something!