yYot:

If it doesn't work, at least you gain something!

yea gain the muller

AmazonTopaz:

You are just saying rubbish.

So you don't know there are men happily married to older women and how many men do you know still having children at 70?also don't you know that with the help of science women above 50 still have children what does that have to do with nature?go and sit down because you have nothing reasonable to say.

So, you want to go through wahala of science when giving birth is as natural as day LIGHT! Most especially when age is on your side!

ThEGodFaThEr101:

Mumu write up! You're just trying to console yourself. Most women start to witness dis-utility at age 23. Women age faster than men even when the man is 15 years older than the woman. It's not an insult but a reality of life.

if the woman watches what she eats and exercises she will still look sweet at 55.look at genevieve nau does she look horrible for her age?
its just that a number of naija ladies dont like physical activity and they just eat anything they see plus the laziness that comes in when married and this leads to excess weight gain wich makes them look older.But i have seen married nigerian ladies who still look portable after years of marriage.Its just how someone tries to maintain his/herself that will tell her the person will look.And there some guys who look horrible for their age too cos of their unhealthy lifestyle.Its not all guys that age well o.

yYot:

Love is not enough!

Definitely, but according to him, she meets every requirement except for the age thing

Whether your partner is older or younger than you, there are traits/behavior that both of you will discover about each other after marriage.

There is nothing bad, age is just a number as long as d both of you love and respect each other den to me you are good to go

AmazonTopaz:

You are also uninformed is it even a bad thing to age?
Don't you know that someones genes,food they eat and lifestyle contributes to aging.
Everyone has a choice if the lady wants to be a career woman first it is her choice and such woman can still look young depending on how she takes care of her body or her genes.So no need to laugh at career women not all women start early or choose to depend on a man because they wanna have kids early.After all children must be taken care of financially.

early birth is one of the factor and I'm not ruling out eating and other things you mention, so how am I uninformed?


do you know how it's complicated for a lady age from 40years above to deliver a baby? you need to make your research. nobody is telling you not to make money but life is meant to be planned together and not to sectionalised some, to satisfy some


life doesn't go that way

ThEGodFaThEr101:

Look at this Odę, was it not your terrorist father that was reported to have died from bomb blast in Yobe State.

unfortunately for this ediot, I'm not from North, if you've common sense, you ought to have deduce that, this one you're uploading your family pictures, to what end?


but who's buying android phone to these brain.less babies on Nairaland lately

paul100:

I have thought of this before.Imagine you guys are quarelling and out of anger,she just say"Don't forget,we are not agemate" and her next words will be "sorry honey,I didn't mean that" ,I am so sorry,pls forgive me.

I know two prominent Nigerians their wives were older than them. they have happy marriages. If the man plays his roles well as a bread winner, the woman will not complain. If the man do not go about cheating, there won't be major quarrel.I have seen many other women, their wives older, they get on well.

Kobicove:


The major con is that in the next 10 years she will likely be looking far older than you and you may be embarrassed to introduce her as your wife

that's a lie you know

sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

God has picked your call. Do not waste time again. I am older than my wife with 14 years, she is the boss at at home. not supportive, she depends on me for everything. She cannot even enter kitchen to prepare food for the family. Marrying someone you are older than is not guarantee for happy union. I always tell her that she is beautiful outside but no inner beauty.

sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

Well Bros...if God is indeed leading both of you, not just one of you, to marry each other, then go ahead...all will be well.

I also married a woman 2 years older than me, and a number of our family members were aware of the age difference...no issues. We have been married for 9 years now with 2 children and we are still thanking God that we found each other. By God's grace, our marriage is an example for others to emulate.
The key factor is the God factor...once that is confirmed & sorted out, no Jupiter will stop that marriage from being a success.

For those telling you that marrying younger ladies is always better, they are so far from the truth! I have seen & heard of men who married women 5, 10, 15 years younger than them but they didn't have a peaceful home. People forget that a large proportion of the far younger ladies we have now only have breast, butt, sex and beauty to offer a man... that's all. No morals, no maturity, no vision, hyper dependency on the man for all their needs, etc...breast, butt, sex and beauty can never keep a marriage... that's why you have so many marriages crashing today due to immaturity.

God will help you make the best choice...seek for God's guidance and approval...all shall be well!!

supereagle:

God has pocked your call. Do not waste time again. I am older than my wife with 14 years, she is the boss at at home. not supportive, she depend on me for everything. She cannot even enter kitchen to prepare food for the family. Marrying someone you are older than is not guarantee for happy union.

Hmmmn...what you have just said now is what I just advised the OP in my comments just below yours.

I pray that the good Lord will heal your marriage and home in Jesus name, Amen!

sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

Bros, I'm very sorry to announce to you that YOU NEVER KNOW A WOMAN UNTIL SHE BECOMES YOUR LEGAL WIFE.

Secondly, every woman pretends and acts as good until she is in your home. And worst is when she has given you a child or two.
Age is never just a number when it comes to African kind of marriage mentality.
African men love to have their own kids to carry on their lineage.
Depending on your womans age, menopause is fast coming down to younger women. So, can you get her pregnant before the alter?

Additionally, have you tried to know why she wasn't married all these years? Many women get suitors when very young but end up forming for prospective husbands because of a certain kinda hormones I believe is in younger ladies (I-too-fine hormones). That hormones prevent them from making good relationships decisions UNTIL EVENING FALLS on them, AND THEY BECOME GOOD, like you described your older woman.

So, she's probably good for a selfish reason.
Watch out before you later call us on a different thread to watch out for your life.

DISCLAIMER :
Abeg the older ladies on NL should not misconstrue my assertions as targeting them O.
I just woke up with this wisdom from God.

Abeg make i go back to sleep.

Wish you best, bro.

Please don't marry her.
You will likely regret it in your mid forties.
She will so disrespect you then, you will blame yourself for loving her.
Please and please pull out before it's too late.
I am talking from my personal experience.

sweetrace:
Op, age is not the issue here. You’re too immature for her. Please do her a world of good and let her go. She needs to be free to meet a mature and compassionate man who will treat her well and not seek seek approval from Nairaland or others.

God bless you, if she is a white woman now there will be no problem, even the family will be pushing him to settle down with her. From my experience marrying my wife was the best decision I ever made, she is almost 5 years older than me, she respect me more than I respect myself, after all these years of being with her I still always look forward to coming back home to meet my queen, with her I have my peace of mind, she a mother. If you lose this woman to marry some of these end time Jezebel na high BP dem go take kill you.

As you said both of you understand each other and the age difference is just two years.
Nothing wrong, go ahead my brother but after you might have consulted your God for Divine direction.
Both of you re physically and mentally mantured, i will not like to mention name but I can cited an examples of two Southwest governors that their wife is older than them without any problem. Understanding and love is what matter most in msrriage.
By the time love radiation move around you guys age difference will disappear.
Thank you.
Martin's .A.O

Kestolove:
God4bid, I can't marry a man that am older than...guy beta leave that girl for somebody better

Aunty why na

sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

For sometimes now, you have been dating her for over four years, haven't you seen that she gives you absolute peace of mind with respect

She is two years older than you and yet humble, if she is pretending, four years is too long for the pretence

Mind you, time is going and stop delaying her

Some people married older ladies and got peace in their homes while some who married the younger ones have long been separated

The question you will ask yourself is, are you happier and more peacefully dating this woman ?

Though you didn't put her age or yours

Just follow your heart, love conqueres all

olumide4christ:


Hmmmn...what you have just said now is what I just advised the OP in my comments just below yours.

I pray that the good Lord will heal your marriage and home in Jesus name, Amen!

Amen. I always tell her that she is beautiful outside but no inner beauty. When I came in yesterday, her question to me was where did I go to? Where am I coming from. I told her that am I accountable to you now? I entered kitchen to fix my my meal. Marrying someone you are older than does not mean the woman will respect you.

Kobicove:


The major con is that in the next 10 years she will likely be looking far older than you and you may be embarrassed to introduce her as your wife

Bitter truth, only served in Nairaland

Just 2 years different and you are calling her older lady abeg go sit down if you no get feelings for her to marry her der is nothing der if u want to marry her

supereagle:


Amen. I always tell her that she is beautiful outside but no inner beauty. When I came in yesterday, her question to me was where did I go to? Where am I coming from. I told her that am I accountable to you now? I entered kitchen to fix my my meal. Marrying someone you are older than does not mean the woman will respect you.

Do you know that you're contributing to your lack of peace? How can you tell your wife that she's only beautiful on the outside but lacks inner beauty and expect her to be happy with you? She's way younger than you, so you're treating her like a child. Be careful because the love and attention you're failing to give her, she may receive it outside and that will be the beginning of adultery.
Unsolicited advice from a more mature person like me: go to that young wife and tell her that you love her and that you're grateful to God for sending her your way. Compliment her little efforts to make you happy. Be accountable to her concerning your movements. How can you tell your wife that she doesn't need to know about your movements? What if armed robbers killed you? Affair-proof that marriage otherwise we shall soon hear your story about adulterous wife. You sound entitled.
Advice no be curse.

The fact that it is bothering you shows you need to work on it before it is too late. Try to work on your worry.

Kobicove:


The major con is that in the next 10 years she will likely be looking far older than you and you may be embarrassed to introduce her as your wife

Mumu, reasoning.
If you furnish her , who won't worry about this trash .
A young lady that is not taken care of, will look older than an older lady that is well taken care of
Shey, you understand

yYot:

So, you want to go through wahala of science when giving birth is as natural as day LIGHT! Most especially when age is on your side!

And the ones that are young and cannot conceive naturally is it not science that will help them what about young men who are impotent with low sperm count or zero?is it not same science that will help them .
Read my post carefully before assuming there are even young women who cannot conceive naturally incase you don't know that and there are women in their late ages that can still get pregnant easily what I meant was that if a woman freezes her eggs or wishes to conceive at a late age it is still possible with the help of science

sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So i know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

This op self lwkmd.. ......u wan marry evening news paper u cum begin blow trumpet.why would'nt she be loyal now,wen she spent her early twenties salvaging her pussy doin dog style,and wheelbarrow style.

Myhusband:



early birth is one of the factor and I'm not ruling out eating and other things you mention, so how am I uninformed?


do you know how it's complicated for a lady age from 40years above to deliver a baby? you need to make your research. nobody is telling you not to make money but life is meant to be planned together and not to sectionalised some, to satisfy some


life doesn't go that way

I also read that women in their 40's are capable of having multiple births and can have easy pregnancies depending on how you take care of yourself there are even women who get pregnant early and end up having complications and dying so yes the kind of health care a woman receives is even a factor.It is not all that complicated labour na labour if he hard for you do Csection.Not everybody's life can be planned to have kids on time not everyone even wants kids so there is no one formula for everybody some people even plan and life does not go according to plan for them too.Sometimes life happens good or bad it happens.Nobody is competing with anybody so if life has some people having kids late then so be it life nor be competition.

capitalzero:


Adam was older than Eve, Abraham was 10 years older than Sarah.
Marrying older lady is against law of nature. Girls attain puberty earlier than boys. Women reach menopause around 50 years . Men can still father children even at 70 years.
If you are looking for a lady who will take care of you like jyour mum did. Look for a woman who is 20 years older than you. Just her as your mum and mother of your children .
Congratulations !!!!

Even though it is IDEAL that the man has some years on the woman
Saying its "Law of nature " is not true

If you are a nature enthusiast, you will know that the female always mate with THE MOST DESIRABLE MALE
And in certain instances
That desirable male is MUCH YOUNGER
You will even see sometimes a lioness mate with her nephew because the nephew has become THE KING OF THE PRIDE

Its more of the attributes of the Male
Than his age
Now men in general, normally gain the attributes that make them a functional man as they grow older; saying its nature that the male MUST BE OLDER is not accurate

BrainResetter:
A lady can never reveal her real age to you. a lady can only reveal her marriage age to you.
let's calculate it, since she said she's two(2) years older than you* add 10+2=12 to the age she told you, she would be probably 12 years older than you. As footballers have their football age, ladies also have their football age. if you know you know

Wicked boy

PastorandMentor:
Don't. I repeat don't. I'm suffering from such now. Don't Mr. Unless she is rich.
Don't marry a broke older woman.

how are you suffering?

supereagle:


Amen. I always tell her that she is beautiful outside but no inner beauty. When I came in yesterday, her question to me was where did I go to? Where am I coming from. I told her that am I accountable to you now? I entered kitchen to fix my my meal. Marrying someone you are older than does not mean the woman will respect you.

You are so correct sir, in this statement.."Marrying someone you are older than does not mean the woman will respect you".
My advice to you is to invite God into the situation, if you haven't already done so. Pray for yourself and your wife, seek for Biblical counseling from genuine pastors/counselors...all shall be well by God's grace.

If you wish, you may chat me on WhatsApp via the MTN line in my signature for further guidance and help. Marriage Counseling and Youth Counseling are part of my God-given calling/ministry.

Its well with your home in Jesus name, Amen!