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MISSCONGENIALITY:
Are you confused because you love her and want to be with her or you are confused because you thought she was a virgin?
Now my advice to you is, if you love her and you are ready to keep a woman, you must not look at how many men she has slept with in the past. Look at how well she has changed or how good she has become. But if you are just looking for someone to add your your own body count, leave na you know how you want do am.
No be one is a saint. Even guys with 150 body counts still settle for one woman when they are struck by Cupid's arrow.

XXXXTENTACION:
Bunch of bad advisers just full this forum as swear.


nobody is a saint. Just learn to love people for who they are.


no woman is perfect if you are waiting for a perfect woman you go wait tire.

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21cents:
LMAO. Chai men don suffer

FYI, a man is valued by his resourcefulness and provisions. a woman is valued mostly by her youth, purity(virginity), and beauty.

right now you're expecting a man to lower those standards to save the damaged girl. can you do Same to a man? if no, then permit me to call you a hypocrite.

jelel6:
And what defines who someone is?

Our decisions and choices defines who we are. Nobody is a saint shouldn't absorb people from the responsibility of the choices they make.

35 body counts suggests someone with lack of emotional attachment to sex, someone more likely to entertain inappropriate relationships because of minimal to no boundary to entry. she probably has more Bleep.mates than friends. That's even if she has any unfuck.ed friends left.

Heck, some pornstars are yet to bang 35 new Dicksons.

No woman is perfect, I agree. But the irony is only a perfect man with no filters would readily accept women with such an imperfection.

Op: Maybe, just maybe, number 36 would happen to be the last episode in her series. Unless she decides to reboot the show in future.

XXXXTENTACION:
For christ sake she was raped How is that her fault.

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BaddieFreak:
Marry her and show her love after all you are not a virgin too

KimberlyWest:
Op, don't listen to these kids who are still thinking there's a perfect relationship anywhere.

If you like the girl, and you are sure you want to walk her through the process of recovery, then do it.

Women attach emotions to sex and guys don't. I'm assuming she was traumatized after her experience, and that took the "emotional aspect" out of her whole sexual experiences. Let's just say she was giving in to any guy who wanted her without minding if they were cute, rich, broke or whatever. She's already assumed that the only thing a guy wants from her is her body.

I've witnessed same things. I have friends who have been through similar traumatizing experience and I can tell you that what you're about to do is not going to be easy. It's going to take time to get the idea that the only thing a man wants from her is sex, and that's her only relevance on earth. It's going to take her time to open up her heart to you, and to see herself as a human who's worth all the love on earth.

If you know you truly love her, go for it.

Your girlfriend did not sleep with 35 men because she wanted that kind of life, she did it because of her low self esteem. It's the result of getting raped, and not having anyone to talk to. Being raped three times is a lot. I wouldn't wish that on my enemy.

pcguru1:
Qualified external help which you are not, however if you are decent person, you can help her, just be careful, don't rush into dating her, she could be playing mind games or she could be sincere. We are not saints we all have our demons and pasts. Even I talking with you, just that as a man, we are very comfy with keeping demons and skeletons locked but I'm not an hypocrite so I won't judge for body count as long as she is a sincere person, I've seen people with less body count cheat easily or behave badly. All na about what she wants in life and if she is truly trying to working to move on. Just don't be blinded is all ill say after all there are so much ladies without trauma you can be dating if she is not sincere. I'm a pessimist so I see everyone in a bad light until proven otherwise. Happy Sunday.

ProphetM0hammad:
You are her savior, since you are here now, she will stop sleeping around.
Love her
Spend on her
Be committed to her.
Spend less time with your work and always stay with her.
I can sense that she's your Soulmate.
But most importantly, send her to Germany for her Master Degree. Then you two can get married and live happily ever after. It happens all the time.

pcguru1:
Just be friends , advise and be there for her, naturally she will draw towards you however you're more likely to be played if she is not sincere which is why I said don't rush to date.

anochuko01:
You can show her Love without dating and sexualizing it. Most importantly, Na only God fit reason this kind matter. So my concern is if you have the emotional and spiritual strength to fight this her battle with her

ennyj01:
To be sincere OP, girls like that hardly change.
Once you meet a lady in a dating site, 8 out of 10 were there initially for hookup and even those that came to sell goods are also there for hookup, they just use the goods as a cover up (reason I said so is because I have been in the hookup game for long, just stopped before Corona issue). Even those that say on their profile "NO HOOK UP", it is a lie. They just need a better offer before they show you their real self. They just display the no hookup tag in case someone they know comes in contact with their profile.


I have been in a situation like yours before, in fact twice. The first lady was raped and the second one was not raped.


When they tell you they have changed, most times it is a lie and you will suffer if you love with your heart at the beginning.


During my own time, my ex found it hard keeping attention on only me. She was always sharing attention with other guys she have had something to do with in the past (most ladies here saying you should give her second chance are just biased).


When we have a little argument, she runs to those guys to share the argument with.


Imagine a lady telling you she loves you and she is following one of her Bleep mate in the past to be discussing penis and telling him that penis will make her mad right now (reason I believe the Okafor's theory). Most girls on this thread will wanna lie, but trust me Okafor's law will work in 7 out of10 girls you meet.


Imagine a lady you are dating entertaining visits from Tinder, going on late night date with people she met on tinder. It will get to a stage of you tell her to leave the dating app, she will change it for you by telling you that you met her there and now you want her to leave it. And trust me, if there is something girls are good at, it is shifting the blames. I won't ask you not to date her, but I beg you to make a proper findings before doing anything.


It will take the grace of God to heal a damaged girl and if you are not lucky, she will pull you into her web and leave you.


She said she has changed right?!
Let me give you one task, when next you guys meet, ask for her phone and check her inbox in the dating app you met her (you will definitely get the shocker of your life).


You can also go to her whatsApp and search some key words and look for the recent ones, don't be surprised if she is already entertaining rubbish or might have done rubbish now that you guys are talking.

jelel6:
And what defines who someone is?

Our decisions and choices defines who we are. Nobody is a saint shouldn't absorb people from the responsibility of the choices they make.

35 body counts suggests someone with lack of emotional attachment to sex, someone more likely to entertain inappropriate relationships because of minimal to no boundary to entry. she probably has more Bleep.mates than friends. That's even if she has any unfuck.ed friends left.

Heck, some pornstars are yet to bang 35 new Dicksons.

No woman is perfect, I agree. But the irony is only a perfect man with no filters would readily accept women with such an imperfection.

Op: Maybe, just maybe, number 36 would happen to be the last episode in her series. Unless she decides to reboot the show in future.

jelel6:
I know that. And I never associated that negatively on her person. Rape was a crime against her and not a choice she made.

The other choices she made which I specifically questioned is clear from my initial response.

XXXXTENTACION:
Well the rape influenced the other choices. but now she has taken responbilty to change and settle down with one guy. But alot of people on this forum are already castigating her.

ProphetM0hammad:
You are her savior, since you are here now, she will stop sleeping around.
Love her
Spend on her
Be committed to her.
Spend less time with your work and always stay with her.
I can sense that she's your Soulmate.
But most importantly, send her to Germany for her Master Degree. Then you two can get married and live happily ever after. It happens all the time.

Activist001:
Una no go kill person with laugh. What's this one now?