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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Martinez39s(m): 2:08pm On Dec 06, 2020
bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .
Save yourself the trouble and don't get married.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Midas01: 2:08pm On Dec 06, 2020
Nigerian men and their stupid egoistic attitude. Thinking women have "repugnant" characters when they themselves are an embodiment of shit and piss.

I pity women who put up with scumbags like you.
JONSYN7154:
The truth is that if you can endure women's repugnant character you won't regret your marriage.

Marriage is all about enduring each other's character.

if you have tough enduring skin you'll have a PERFECT marriage.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by kapelvej: 2:09pm On Dec 06, 2020
emkz:
I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity. We were not married but things had been done towards that like introduction and trad before kasala burst. I was happy kasala burst before we went farther.

For anyone who wants to get married, by all means do so...but marry for the right reasons. You first need to understand yourself and your own limitations. If your aim is to have children, perhaps a contractual arrangement suffices. Unfortunately, many marriages today are not different from service contracts: I will provide shelter, food and security while you provide pussy when I want it and how I want it, and you must not provide it to someone else. Or I am marrying you because society expects and would respect me to be married as it shows I am responsible.

The Dutch Prime Minister is single.

Or I'd marry you only because I love you. These are wrong reasons to be married. For a potential spouse, look at compatibility, companionship, communication, character and charisma. Exude these qualities yourself and you shall find it in your potential partner. Love will fade, the butterflies in your stomach shall die, your partner shall irritate you, what then would hold your marriage?

The stories of wayward men and women are told everyday on this forum. Don't let them deter you. There are very good men and women from very good homes who are responsible to be wifed or husbanded. I know this because all my sisters have been married for years and no one has come to report that they have issues with them.

Don't go looking for a wife. Develop yourself and have the values of someone husbandable, creation will link you to your spouse.

In closing, my question to you is:

Why exactly do you want to get married? Are you truly convinced of the answer you give yourself?
You said it all. You are blessed. The part I liked best is "I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity".
When reading what you wrote it felt like I sent you to help me write my experience. I thought I was the one writting.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Originakalokalo(m): 2:09pm On Dec 06, 2020
I have never regretted marrying my wife. Five years and counting.

Marry God's son or daughter and you will be alright.

Note that I didn't say you should marry a christian.....The word Christian is for everyone who goes to church.....both prostitute and armed robbers.

You cannot marry God's son or daughter if you don't belong to him.

Everyone wants to marry a God fearing person....

But they don't fear God themselves.

Will it be possible?

As a man, I won't advise a good guy to marry a bad lady.... Also, God will not give his son or daughter to someone he doesn't "know"

Looking for a God fearing man/woman?

Fear God yourself. Do his will.
Obey him. Serve him and it shall be well with you.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by emerged01(m): 2:09pm On Dec 06, 2020
No! I count it as Favour from God getting married to a right person. The peace of mind I enjoy in this marriage is awesome even when we both practice different religion. It is just Favour to have a right partner.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Beverlyjean(f): 2:09pm On Dec 06, 2020
AuntRose:

You can't handle being cheated on? So you completely rule out the possibility of you cheating on your wife. You won't be taken serious one bit if this stereotype you have towards women persists. Change it first.

This psychotic aunty is here again grin grin grin

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Dididrumz(m): 2:10pm On Dec 06, 2020
You are 32 years old.

Don't let small children spoil your life with stupid advises.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by brainpowerng(m): 2:10pm On Dec 06, 2020
I believe I'm eligible to offer you my one cent on the above-mentioned topic.

I've been married for more than 10 years to a woman I love always. I can tell you a lot about women because I have a grandmother, a mother, a sister, a wife and even a daughter. They are uniquely created by God in a special way.

You see, a lot of people will always get it wrong when it comes to marriage because they entered into it without a purpose. They got married just to get a license to fornicate! But I tell you this, a time is coming in your marriage when sex will stink to you, your spouse will beg for it and you won't have any urge at all. But what keeps the marriage going? Purpose!

I got married to my wife because she perfectly complements my inadequacies as I am to her her. I saw that we could work/walk together to attain my purpose/set goals in life and Walla! we're married.

Has my marriage been the bed of roses? Far from it! I've once felt like running away before, yes you read me right!

Every marriage is a work in progress, your abilities would be tested, it's a journey and not destination in itself. Do you want me to shock you? There are some levels of attainment in life that would be impossible without a woman pushing you.

Above all, build yourself an impeccable character, know what you want and pursue it for without a purpose, abuse is inevitable.

I could write for all eternity on my experience in a 10-year old marriage, but let me rest here.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Oludara202: 2:10pm On Dec 06, 2020
bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

I remember my boss used to tell me back then that his wife would get him so annoyed and irritated but he’d just get to tolerate and overlook some of her shortcomings . May not have anything to do with infidelity anyway. A good number of years has gone and am right in that position. Those words he dished out now serve as an encouragement.

Always remember that wife is a gift from God, try to make yourself a better man and GOD will do the rest. You already know that there is no perfect person, not even you.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Ferdyn: 2:11pm On Dec 06, 2020
Lol...I love you doesn't mean I love you because u r good alone. It should mean. I love you because you are human (a being capable of perfections and faults). The perfection is the glory, the fault is the cross. A complete package

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Jitefarms: 2:11pm On Dec 06, 2020
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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Midas01: 2:11pm On Dec 06, 2020
So you mean cheating is bad? Wow! Never knew.

Or is it just only bad when women do it?
Yamiriflathead:


Faithful indeed

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Jeffyblaq(m): 2:11pm On Dec 06, 2020
Social media menace..


Do all yuh can to avoid it..


That way, you've created your own rules n be successful!

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by icebird25(m): 2:11pm On Dec 06, 2020
zubimete:
YOU LIED. WOMEN ARE THE MOST FAITHFUL IN MARRIAGE. MARRIAGE IS FOR SERIOUS & RESPONSIBLE BEING.

YOU LIED. WOMEN ARE THE MOST FAITHFUL IN MARRIAGE. MARRIAGE IS FOR SERIOUS & RESPONSIBLE BEING

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by kapelvej: 2:12pm On Dec 06, 2020
JONSYN7154:
The truth is that if you can endure women's repugnant character you won't regret your marriage.

Marriage is all about enduring each other's character.

if you have tough enduring skin you'll have a PERFECT marriage.
wrong. marriage is to be enjoyed not endured. Compatibility and value system is all that is needed to avoid all these talk of endurance. Love is even overrated

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by InvertedHammer: 2:12pm On Dec 06, 2020
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For men...

Being married is good.

Staying single is better.

Happiness is free. Don't tie it to someone else.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by iamDrRhymes(m): 2:12pm On Dec 06, 2020
emkz:
I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity. We were not married but things had been done towards that like introduction and trad before kasala burst. I was happy kasala burst before we went farther.

For anyone who wants to get married, by all means do so...but marry for the right reasons. You first need to understand yourself and your own limitations. If your aim is to have children, perhaps a contractual arrangement suffices. Unfortunately, many marriages today are not different from service contracts: I will provide shelter, food and security while you provide pussy when I want it and how I want it, and you must not provide it to someone else. Or I am marrying you because society expects and would respect me to be married as it shows I am responsible.

The Dutch Prime Minister is single.

Or I'd marry you only because I love you. These are wrong reasons to be married. For a potential spouse, look at compatibility, companionship, communication, character and charisma. Exude these qualities yourself and you shall find it in your potential partner. Love will fade, the butterflies in your stomach shall die, your partner shall irritate you, what then would hold your marriage?

The stories of wayward men and women are told everyday on this forum. Don't let them deter you. There are very good men and women from very good homes who are responsible to be wifed or husbanded. I know this because all my sisters have been married for years and no one has come to report that they have issues with them.

Don't go looking for a wife. Develop yourself and have the values of someone husbandable, creation will link you to your spouse.

In closing, my question to you is:

Why exactly do you want to get married? Are you truly convinced of the answer you give yourself?


Waiter!

Add this man's bills to mine.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Seebrian(m): 2:13pm On Dec 06, 2020
No.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by doe: 2:13pm On Dec 06, 2020
bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

Marriage na hardwork.
But if you accept the default settings from when una meet, all is ok. As soon as anyone try change the other na there wahala dey start. It's not just cheating. Bigger problem is everyday behaviours.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by KossyKiss97(f): 2:13pm On Dec 06, 2020
icebird25:
Every married men here is regretting on venturing into the scam called marriage ..they wont tell you is a scam because they want you to be a victim too ....just take a look at the Duncan mighty's marriage ...if to born dey hungry you just look for one woman and impregnate her and make her your baby mama ...even women prefer baby mama status this days, than being married. and every woman has the potential to cheat ..you were never his spec but just an option. if she sees that man, that's her everyday crush ..she wouldn't mind to offer her pussy to him .. that's to show what women can do.. marriage is a scam, baby mama all the way ...all men was born equal and free. If you later go and marry you are on your own

Icebird.... either isnt very smart, or is smart but just chose to be myopic. I say this because its rather unfortunate that he wants to debate on a very wide topic such as marriage, but limited it to just Duncan mighty's marriage. Is he the only married person in the entire universe?

There are SO MANY PEOPLE out there who are having wonderful marriages. Why dont you also observe such people, instead of channeling your energy and efforts on those who haven't really succeeded in the institution.

Its important to understand that marriage involves both parties putting in effort to make it work; afterall, nothing good comes easy. It's not entirely up to the woman to make the marriage work as your write up makes it seem. You need to remove these sentiments from your mind before you get married, else, your marriage won't be different from the example you gave above.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by incogni2o: 2:13pm On Dec 06, 2020
khingTony:
There is no perfect marriage, I'm not married yet, but I know at a point in time, one of them(especially the man) will regret getting married to the other, Marriage in this generation is a failed institution.


Know this and know peace


Peace smiley

You are very wrong, Not all marraiges in this generation fail.

I am married and marraige is not a failed institution.

Marraige is more of working on yourself to accomodate the weakness of the other while pushing to make the person His of Her better self.

The happiness of a marraige boils down to how much you and the other person have worked on yourselves.

Some have already worked on themselves before marraige, Some before and during, Others just started when married.

Marraige is like Gold ore, Both of you have to pass through the fire to be refined and Shine

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by dederocs(m): 2:13pm On Dec 06, 2020
icebird25:
Every married men here is regretting on venturing into the scam called marriage ..they wont tell you is a scam because they want you to be a victim too ....just take a look at the Duncan mighty's marriage ...if to born dey hungry you just look for one woman and impregnate her and make her your baby mama ...even women prefer baby mama status this days, than being married. and every woman has the potential to cheat ..you were never his spec but just an option. if she sees that man, that's her everyday crush ..she wouldn't mind to offer her pussy to him .. that's to show what women can do.. marriage is a scam, baby mama all the way ...all men was born equal and free. If you later go and marry you are on your own
true talk, women will fall when they see what they like, might be money, power, fame, swag etc...

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Whiteshield: 2:14pm On Dec 06, 2020
Midas01:
Nigerian men and their stupid egoistic attitude. Thinking women have "repugnant" characters when they themselves are an embodiment of shit and piss.

I pity women who put up with scumbags like you.

I hope you found a comfortable spot for your father on this table.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Nobody: 2:14pm On Dec 06, 2020
icebird25:




Look at this one ..better go and run a DNA test on your children ..before you comment anything here....

I think it should start from u, if truly you are biological son of ur father.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by onujesse: 2:15pm On Dec 06, 2020
bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .
Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by onifadeo(m): 2:15pm On Dec 06, 2020
at times regret comes but remember this bible said strive with peace with all men and holiness which no man can see God.
it's difficult you stay together with the opposite sex but keep on trying

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Meti99(m): 2:15pm On Dec 06, 2020
Marry your friend
Don't let distrust ruin your friendship

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by Oluwaseun2020(m): 2:16pm On Dec 06, 2020
bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .
i advice you to Go for a godly lady who knows jesus and is not materialistic...
not that you wont take care of her..but she is not makimg that the focus of the marriage
and work on your salvation too
because like attract like...
if you are ungodly ..you cant ever and ever get a godly girl..so it begin with you
and get this book.. MAKING YOUR MARRIAGE WORK.. BY FAITH OYEDEPO GET THE PDF FILE ON GOOGLE. ..FREE OF CHARGE. it will help you in building a trouble free home.

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Re: Have You Ever Regretted Being Married To Your Partner? by AmadiAba: 2:16pm On Dec 06, 2020
Marriage is sweet. I have never regretted marrying my wife.

Yes, there are challenges sometimes, but I will marry my wife again and again.

Don't expect perfection, it doesn't exit.

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