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MeeztaFabulouz:
You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

My friend stop talking nonsense, not every marriage is meant to last forever, the worst thing you will do to those kids is to kill yourself , if you call your parents and her parents and have a meeting and it didn’t work out my friend find away out

MeeztaFabulouz:
You really won't understand but it is well

I will come and expose how you have seriously been mismanaging the communication between the op and his supposed wife.
how he was not able to seize the moment
and
how the op already lost interest in this marriage before the woman even looked outside

I am proving it to you categorically that the op is the 90% contributor to the problems in this relationship

I wonder why any woman will treat a good husband in this manner, may God help you but suicide isn't an option

kalu61:
I don't want to kind but say you are a fool for contemplatinh suicide in this issue. Even of the worst happens, is suicide the solution you came up with in your head.

Die because of a woman.
Not every marriage must work and if yours is destined for it, there nothing you can do about it but take your life abi

..Its obvious the suicide part of the gist is beyond your comprehension respect yourself by taking back this insult instantly. If you don't understand a thing the best point of action should be to familiarize yourself with the subject matter using cheaply available sources of knowledge.

baralatie:
mister man something is wrong with you and not your wife o!

I will love to know what you think is actually wrong with him...

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how
Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

If I were you I will move on , the main essence of marriage is to have children and you lucky u already have kids . Women doesn't deserve good men. If you were treating her bad she fear u so much . Don't kill your self my brother. Just file for divorce and carry some of the kids and let her go her way . Be she is heading to destruction without her knowing it.

baralatie:
I will come and expose how you have seriously been mismanaging the communication between the op and his supposed wife.
how he was not able to seize the moment
and
how the op already lost interest in this marriage before the woman even looked outside

I am proving it to you categorically that the op is the 90% contributor to the problems in this relationship

Just go straight to the point, man, you're beginning to talk too much.

When you make sex the priority before getting to know each other, na one chance you go enter

GLYCOLYSISS:
I will love to know what you think is actually wrong with him...

go through all the banter between him and his wife and you will see his flaws.it was so glaring that he had propped this relationship to fail
and he is just looking for an excuse to pin it on the wife

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Your case is a very simple one.
This is why you want to commit suicide??

Depression is real but,you can get over it. It all depends on how you apply wisdom or man up.

Do you want her to start assisting financially??
Stop those extra marital affairs you think she might be into??
OR Be submissive??

I think you're just weak at heart.

Answer this questions and you might just get the help you need.

baralatie:
what gives the impression that the op is kind?

Still keeping a cheat in his house without the thoughts of hurting her

baralatie:
go through all the banter between him and his wife and you will see his flaws.it was so glaring that he had propped this relationship to fail
and he is just looking for an excuse to pin it on the wife

I actually read the post,and that's all I got to say for now.
Take care.

Be strong bro

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

wo just end it, n move on dont let because of kids scope make u stick around.

chinchonglee:
Still keeping a cheat in his house without the thoughts of hurting her

dude!
he has already laid his finger on her in one of the banters and definitely more will follow

two he only saw messages between his wife and her ex and her ex of ex.he does not have evidence of actually confirming that she has been cheating

CAPSLOCKED:

MOST MARRIED PEOPLE LIVE LIKE THIS AND IT'S STARTING TO FEEL LIKE MARRIAGE HAS OUTLIVED ITS USEFULNESS.

I'VE FIGURED MANY PEOPLE (WOMEN ESPECIALLY) GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF THE "WEDDING". YES. FOR THEM IT'S THE WEDDING PARTY, FANCY DRESSES AND PICTURES, AND ATTENTION THAT MATTERS. WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT DAY IS HARDLY GIVEN A THOUGHT AS LONG AS THE WEDDING DAY IS REMARKABLE AND MASSIVE.
MANY MEN ENTER INTO MARRIAGE TO SATISFY THEIR FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIP PARTNERS. THERE'S HARDLY ANY FAMILY TODAY THAT CAN SAY THEY'RE 100% HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER. IT'S LIKE THE REGRET SETS IN 30 MINUTES AFTER THE WEDDINGS AND EVERYBODY WISHES THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THIS.

WHAT FOLLOWS ARE SILLY EXCUSES, THAT "NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT". THE TRUTH IS THAT MOST MARRIAGES SHOULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED, AND THE VERY FEW MARRIAGES THAT EXISTS WITHOUT REGRETS ARE THE PERFECT ONES THAT MOST LOSERS PRETEND DOESN'T EXIST.

Your having no reason for living or happiness should not be incessantly pushed on others na. Is that not what you hate evangelists doing?

GLYCOLYSISS:
I actually read the post,and that's all I got to say for now. Take care.

there are two posts the opening posts the second one where he revealed some of the banters between him and the wife

op!
there is absolutely no basis in both of your write ups to even claim that you are thinking suicidal.
I just don't see it

but that you may be depressed because of covid 19 effects.ok

MeeztaFabulouz:
7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

Im sorry about what you are going through.
Stop giving her money.
Since the restaurant is bringing issues in your relationship, find away and close it.
But you are going to do it strategically.

Once she depends on you , 100% respect will come back.


Even if you want to open another business, you should think carefully.
Success

lilyheaven:
Im sorry about what you are going through.
Stop giving her money.
Since the restaurant is bringing issues in your relationship, find away and close it.
But you are going to do it strategically.

Once she depends on you , 100% respect will come back.


Even if you want to open another business, you should think carefully.
Success

why do you guys love playing with sticks,fire and petrol

baralatie:
dude!
he has already laid his finger on her in one of the banters and definitely more will follow

two he only saw messages between his wife and her ex and her ex of ex.he does not have evidence of actually confirming that she has been cheating

Lool!!
Once you think your wife or girlfriend is cheating, den she is definitely cheating or still in the process to cheat.
Quote me anywhere!

chinchonglee:
Lool!!
Once you think your wife or girlfriend is cheating, den she is definitely cheating or still in the process to cheat.
Quote me anywhere!

I understand process!
it means it had a beginning ,a gap ,,a miscalculation to gave the opposition that one chance to strike at goal.
even with that the main team is meant to cover his defence and launch counter attack to first even the score and grab the winner

and not throwing in the towel

StacyO:
Your case is a very simple one.
This is why you want to commit suicide??

Depression is real but,you can get over it. It all depends on how you apply wisdom or man up.

Do you want her to start assisting financially??
Stop those extra marital affairs you think she might be into??
OR Be submissive??

I think you're just weak at heart.

Answer this questions and you might just get the help you need.

I have never looked forward to her assisting me financially and I am not accusing her of extramarital affairs. I feel bad being so disrespectful and not being caring for our home. There are many things I am unable to write because its like writing a book. Maybe if you think of how it feels when you dedicate yourself to someone then do everything to make that person happy and that person does not care and is only self centred then you will understand how painful it feels.
Seven years I have done all a man needs to do to try and build a peaceful and decent home, there are good times when we just overlook things and be happy and then that attitude just comes alive again from no where and all I get is trouble upon trouble again. Some days I can hardly even eat at home and in seven years, I can only remember hearing "am sorry" just twice apart from when I try to just ignore certain things and she just give me all those sober reactions.
I really don't know how to explain but I believe some married men here will understand better because its like most comments I see are from people that are not married and don't understand what dedicating your life to someone you once loved so much means.

baralatie:
I understand process!
it means it had a beginning ,a gap ,,a miscalculation to gave the opposition that one chance to strike at goal.
even with that the main team is meant to cover his defence and launch counter attack to first even the score and grab the winner

and not throwing in the towel

No bro! You are wrong!
Dnt use football idioms on human beings.

How do you expect him to cover his defense
Following her up and down
Mehn! A woman that wants to cheat will cheat.

chinchonglee:
No bro! You are wrong!
Dnt use football idioms on human beings.

How do you expect him to cover his defense
Following her up and down
Mehn! A woman that wants to cheat will cheat.

cover your defense in marriage is to understand how your competitors could have easily found his way to your supposed wife.
1.was it throw poor communication between man and wife
2.was it through inability to solve core issues
3.what exactly was the core false message used on your wife
4.was their banters that meant she is left wide open
5.was is it intimacy
6.was is just boredom
7.was it an opening crack unknown.


for example in the adam and eve saga.the core problems which were unresolved were
1.the exact instructions that adam heard is not what eve heard
2.eve was designed to be with Adam helping him out
3.wetin consign snake with human being and Almighty God maga

these 3 core issues opened that gap that lead to issues till today


don't you love football

MeeztaFabulouz:
I have never looked forward to her assisting me financially and I am not accusing her of extramarital affairs. I feel bad being so disrespectful and not being caring for our home. There are many things I am unable to write because its like writing a book. Maybe if you think of how it feels when you dedicate yourself to someone then do everything to make that person happy and that person does not care and is only self centred then you will understand how painful it feels.
Seven years I have done all a man needs to do to try and build a peaceful and decent home, there are good times when we just overlook things and be happy and then that attitude just comes alive again from no where and all I get is trouble upon trouble again. Some days I can hardly even eat at home and in seven years, I can only remember hearing "am sorry" just twice apart from when I try to just ignore certain things and she just give me all those sober reactions.
I really don't know how to explain but I believe some married men here will understand better because its like most comments I see are from people that are not married and don't under stand what dedicating your life to someone you once loved so much means.

Why would you dedicate yourself to someone? Your happiness, life.
She is your wife,true. But,she is human as well and humans can never be trusted.

No matter how you try to run away from the issue,you can't.

Seven years,you tried to do all a man could. You tried to build a peaceful & decent home, DID YOU INVOLVE/ENGAGE HER IN THIS HOME BUILDING??
HOW DID YOU ENGAGE HER? By getting her a restruant. What and what have you gotten in returns from the restruant?
Do you still sponsor the restruant business??
In what ways have you tried to make her submissive??

Answer all if possible.


You're WEAK. Let's accept that and continue.

MeeztaFabulouz:
You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

oga I beg shut up...u lack wisdom....something tells me u started your relationship with a very flamboyant lifestyle and that was what made ur wife leave her so called ex ...and mind u she didn't leave him because she loves u naaaa...she left him because she saw u had what it takes for her to be secured financially and she was still in love with her ex...if u check well she must have bleeped that her ex before u married her....now money don go down the feelings for that her ex must always come back...and it will be worse if she was the one that broke up with him...regrets and if I had know will be running through her head... and problem if the so-called ex come get money last last ...na she go dey chat the boy up sef....see an advice to my fellow niggas the right time to find a wife i s when u broke...but if no one free date u when u broke..if u eventually come hama bro go for a baby mamma ...leave these hoes cuz they are meant for farming the konji land....oga go find more money to give had cuz its certain that she only love and respect ur money not u....how am I even sure if the so-called ex never weep am... this one she dey off phone for night

ezechi24:
oga I beg shut up...u lack wisdom....something tells me u started your relationship with a very flamboyant lifestyle and that was what made ur wife leave her so called ex ...and mind u she didn't leave him because she loves u naaaa...she left u because she saw u had what it takes for her to be secured financially but she was still in love with her ex...if u check well she must have bleeped that her ex before u married her....now money don go down the feelings for that her ex must always come back...and it will be worse if she was the one that broke up with him...regrets and if I had know will be running through her head and problem if the so-called ex come get money last last ...na she go dey chat the boy up sef....see an advice to my fellow niggas the right time to find a wife i s when u broke...but if no one free date u when u broke..if u eventually come hama bro go for a baby mamma ...leave these hoes cuz they are meant for farming the konji land....oga go find more money to give had cuz its certain that she only live and respect ur money not u....how am I even sure if the so-called ex never weep am this one she dey off phone for night

that and this is an example of a false narrative!

baralatie:
that and this is an example of a false narrative!

and it is clear u will fall into the same pit as him if u no pray for wisdom...how is it a false narrative by the way...

MeeztaFabulouz:
You really won't understand but it is well

u really need to know what ur wife likes and always show interest in everything about her.providing money is not enough sometimes.
Is wrong to sleep outside BC of misunderstanding. Sort and talk everything over b4 u sleep.
Lastly if ur sexual life is 100% good u will hardly fight.so improve on dat
Do not take women attitudes to heart if I do u will get hurt.
Laugh, talk,gossip, and be friends.
Marriage is sweet if u don't take some things seriously.

Xxx123xxx:
..Its obvious the suicide part of the gist is beyond your comprehension respect yourself by taking back this insult instantly. If you don't understand a thing the best point of action should be to familiarize yourself with the subject matter using cheaply available sources of knowledge.

give me one reason in that write up that makes suicide an option.

Depression is common but suicide is bullshit. Say weti happen. Person die. Even if him catch his wife in bed with another man, is suicide the best bet.

ndidigood:
u really need to know what ur wife likes and always show interest in everything about her.providing money is not enough sometimes.
Is wrong to sleep outside BC of misunderstanding. Sort and talk everything over b4 u sleep.
Lastly if ur sexual life is 100% good u will hardly fight.so improve on dat
Do not take women attitudes to heart if I do u will get hurt.
Laugh, talk,gossip, and be friends.
Marriage is sweet if u don't take some things seriously.

ehen!
you understand it wella