kalu61:
give me one reason in that write up that makes suicide an option.

Depression is common but suicide is bullshit. Say weti happen. Person die. Even if him catch his wife in bed with another man, is suicide the best bet.

that is why I said the guy is making a whole bruhaha for nothing

baralatie:

that is why I said the guy is making a whole bruhaha for nothing

that fact that he has not even caught the wife yet but base on an assumptions and thinking of suicide makes him a SIMP

My dear brother, focus more on building your self esteem and confidence of surviving without them.. Alot of women nowadays tend to prey or act too relax when they see a good man whom is loyal and does not cheat or give them any heart race..this makes them act recklessly..


Live for yourself and yourself alone.. be strong emotionally and mentally back. Then you can know if you go for your kids..

thebosstrevor1:
When you make sex the priority before getting to know each other, na one chance you go enter

This comment is so underrated.

How you think say God go feel if woman matter kill you?

Guy man buckle up.

In marriage, there are lines one don't cross. You see this part ehn, na no no for me.

If your story is true
I feel you need time off

Like a month or more
Since there's a business your wife runs no need to bother about how your family will fare without you

Remember you didn't divorce because of the children What happens to them if you commit suicide??

So with your time off you decide what you will do and how to handle the problem
Look at everything from every angle, good bad ugly, worse terrible
What you will do irrespective of reactions from anyone Then Return and start living

kalu61:
that fact that he has not even caught the wife yet but base on an assumptions and thinking of suicide makes him a SIMP

I don't think the phrase SIMP applies to the op!

what we have here is an individual who thinks his problems are as large as mount everest

Suicide !!! Because of what abeg? The fire that would be waiting for you in hell is doing press-up. Keep entertaining evil thoughts.

: that and this is an example of a false narrative! and it is clear u will fall into the same pit as him if u no pray for wisdom...how is it a false narrative by the way...

MeeztaFabulouz:


7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

make the money first. Remember, you have to be level-headed. Don't fight a woman the way she will want you to. They respect intelligent and smart men

meeztafabulouz, you have to be strong as a man. Though no one know exactly how you are feeling,but no matter what you shouldn’t give it all up just because you are experiencing bumps in the journey of your marriage.

MeeztaFabulouz:


7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

your story really touch me. just know this, it's difficult to stop her from her behaviour because you took everything on your shoulders, you waved her shortcomings during courtship instead of airing it out, you have self discipline to a fault. whether you care about her or care less, she will always be the way she is because she is used to her bullshit for the past 7 years or so and like you said; "she behaves herself once you talk to her for awhile and errs whenever she pleases" it would be quite difficult to restore peace completely.

imagine an ex calls your wife and you don't frown at it but you rather defend her?! be it whatever age she got married to you,you don't defend that sh*t the way you just did up there. mehn, am annoyed by your softness.

ask yourself this, would she be happy if you are the one whom also kept exes as well and switched your phones on and off momentarily ask her this as well if you can,cus I can deduce from ur write up that you're one of those weak men whom are gentle to a fault.

...and why the heck do you still give her money for food when you all eat the food from her restaurant?? wtf,you pay all the other bills and she can't supply food she's in charge of?there are levels to wickedness,this manner is at the top

personally I know a friend who's mum sells food,I kid you not,the husband doesn't need to drop money for food but this woman leaves enough food at home, I even went there to eat atimes!

no offence but do you readers see how this man has also contributed in spoiling the woman?
the more I type,the more I take this issue on a personal level with you especially.

Bottom line is, you shouldn't have gone on with her if she had these behaviours before the marriage,(I escaped from such a relationship too) I always think long term as all men should do!


but well,since it's advice you seek. I won't lash out much cus I d vex for u now aswear!

Have y'all both considered going to a reasonable councillor or your clergy man for proper advice?



if I were you, I'd mind my business as well till she's the one complaining and that's when we will resolve properly and we would need to take down notes during the gist- very important! I may even lock up her damn shop if that's what I need to do for peace to be restored! even though 2 wrongs don't make a right, iron sharpened iron!

you're just mentioning this suicide thing like it's a play because you hear people do it and you prolly watched it in the movies.

Sir, if you commit suicide, you burn in hell for eternity while she moves on with her life and your kids forever remember you as the "man who gave up on us"

wise up o, marriage no b beans, that's why u need nurture am from beginning till suitable grounds, no d throw your tantrums around the mention depression and suicide anyhow like say u dn jam the worse. walahi, if you no call her to order with straight face, e no go still sure for you!

Suicide is hungring you, it's a spiritual problem.

Quickly go for deliverance

MeeztaFabulouz:


7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

Can I pm you?

kalu61:
give me one reason in that write up that makes suicide an option.

Depression is common but suicide is bullshit. Say weti happen. Person die. Even if him catch his wife in bed with another man, is suicide the best bet.

. You and I know this write up does not contain the full gist of the matter. Don't also forget that their are variations in individual ability to handle emotional-psychological issues . . . Suicide and depression have become common place occurrence in our society nowadays. So am not surprise.

MeeztaFabulouz:

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

Fabulouz, don't think of suicide, it doesn't worth it. Do u know your case doesn't even near those with huge debt and at the same time having marital problems? yet they didn't commit suicide.
God is with u

Assumption kills..
Have you caught her having sexual intercourse with her suitors?
You are just bothered with what you saw..
Well, she might be flirting/cheating.. fine!
Why not call her attention on what you saw.
I believe before you married her, you guys communicate?
Call her, sit her ass down, talk to her, tell her this is what you saw, you are not comfortable with it, as a man, you should have a say in your home.. don't die of silence, what she say should be your next move, maybe you go tell her parents, or your pastor, or someone she do listens to.. Please consider your children..

Come oga, you want commit suicide for sake of woman. Shey na she be the mama wry born you abi the one weu dey work money give you? You want to die instead of leaving the marriage. What will you gain from death..you think your kids won't know you killed yourself?
The best thing for you is to take a break. Your kids will be fine staying with you or with their mom.
I'm.not begging you not to kill yourself if that's what you have decided to do..Your wide will be glad you did anyways. And Nigeria population will be reduced by one person.
If you want die, die on your own no say na because you want you kids to know your are dead than you are alive living away from your cheating wife.

Bennysam:

My friend stop talking nonsense, not every marriage is meant to last forever, the worst thing you will do to those kids is to kill yourself , if you call your parents and her parents and have a meeting and it didn’t work out my friend find away out

See me o..as if them tie him with the woman.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

your wife is highly stressed. She needs air. Try and spend more time with her. Help her in the restaurant, help her in the kitchen sometimes. Give her 3 weeks treat and watch her. Don't just be throwing money at her, get involved in her life.

Women are wicked!

I understand your plight but suicide is not an option. Seek help

MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

Hey you, bla bla bla bla.....

Man up there. Why are you expecting joy from mere mortal when you should find joy deposited right inside you?

Even the creator of man did not find joy in man, how much less you?

See, take it or leave it, that woman knows you expect much from her hence the power she exercises over your happiness while she catches her fancy elsewhere.

Play the "Ignore" card and see result.

Do your things not minding her for a while, ignore her puna, catch fun and have a life outside her and see her crumbling back to you.

If your life is built and centered around her, she loses respect for you. Just ignore her and build your happiness above her and see the turnaround.

Relieve her of most things she does for you and take your life back. Keep her wondering where you found joy from.

If not, she will keep making you miserable and will drain your positive energy to death.

Be wise and step up your game and stop being a sissy

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Please don't kill yourself because of woman. If you die today she won't give a bleep. Just discharge her. Your peace of mind is very important,

Validfacts:
Fabulouz, I have read through your thread, I got d message clearly. I'm not like those people putting blames on u for contemplating on suicide. This type of issue can truly lead to depression. What u need is matured advise, and am going to give you.

Firstly, don't think of suicide, it doesn't worth it. Do u know your case doesn't even near those with huge debt and at the same time having marital problems? yet they didn't commit suicide.

This is what I will suggest u do, if u re financially sound, get an apartment for relaxation, this will only be used to correct thing for time being, because I noticed that the more u see her around, the more u feel bad and I won't lie to u, it may result to high BP, if u don't take proper measure. Declare to her that u have a project outside the state that u will need enough financial backup. As u keep going to relax in your new apartment, be calling to check on your family. It will get to some time, u will need to persuade her to back u up financially, this may lead to selling part of the equipment she uses in her shop gradually, u may even get the key to her restaurant to pack the valuables there to an unknown designation, telling her that uv sold it, promising her that u will refund her back when u re paid for the project at hand. She will believe you, because UV not being stingy to her, u can even say u have the plan to make the restaurant to international standard, once u re paid for the project. By the way, always come home to check on them and take your kids
nd wife out for shopping in some cases, continue this until the said restaurant liquidate. Once that mission is fulfilled, give her some time and discuss about what u felt was going wrong about the restaurant business and the need to change the business for another because of the family. U can then change her business to ladies wares boutique if u wish to and if u don't feel like, make her a full house wife, telling her that the project backfired, please don't tell her u lied o. That will save ur marriage and ur kids. To me, I will never advise any man, both married or not to open a restaurant or a bar for their wives or spouse, those 2 businesses encourages adulteries no be small, because most of their customers re always opposite sex. I think that was the huge mistake u made. U can apply that measure and with prayer it might work, the most important is to first disengage her from that business. You can quote me, if u feel we need to converse through PM or mobile conversation.

Thank you for the write up

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

You are very stupid sir... Sorry, u r older than me but more stupid than mi..

U want to commit suicide bcox u feel or suspected that your wife is not faithful...

Go and get sense sir

thebosstrevor1:
When you make sex the priority before getting to know each other, na one chance you go enter

You've just stated the fact, it all started during their courtship
Instead make baba reason her matter the thoughts of handling her boobs don over cloud am to judge her behavior, seems he's just started changing his attitude after seeing reality and the wife won't able to bear with that.

BigBizzy:
How you think say God go feel if woman matter kill you?

Guy man buckle up.

In marriage, there are lines one don't cross. You see this part ehn, na no no for me.

which part?

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

The biz opened and tore her eyes. Stop sponsoring the biz

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

next time ehen, don't be caring. the word "caring" is scam. as a man you should learn how to complain and nag. make sure you make woman feel inadequate by complaining about everything she does. the moment they have peace of mind and you show them too much love, you will definitely lose at the end

Don't invade into your partners private messages if you want your relationship to last.

This is for both parties!

Rest in Peace bro help me to greet my Dad when you reach above