Not only wife but work to get a visa for her too

collinsuchendu:
Bro, kindly tell your cousin to wife that lady ASAP [No jokes], else he might regret it in future.


God when..

My little advice
Scotland is not heaven , he will eventually get tired of the so called Scotland one day . the said girl in particular seems to be a very good wife materia and if he misses her thinking he would get a better chicks in scotland ,umm .
Anyways he hasn't left for Scotland, he is already planning to dump a girl that personally and effortlessly prayed and did all the application..
All the best
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post=96909838]Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you. [/quote]

Nazgul:

He married her, and last time I checked, you make a vow before God to remain faithful to your partner.

So he will be going there as a husband and a father, if he's sensible, he would remain faithful and work towards bring her and the child to join him.

I have no partner. I do not patronise fornication and i'm not married. We have seen men who dump their wives and kids as they got to the other side. If they're genuinely saved.. They can stay chaste. But then, what if the girl doesn't get pregnant. What would happen then? Breakup?

Sounds like what my Iheechi can do.

Op, your cousin doesn't love the girl.Forget all those wash.You and I know that he will be getting married to a white old woman.Stop deceiving yourselves

Jodha:


She's also working and pursuing her career....how do yhu expect her to leave all that and single handedly take care of a baby in the absence of it's father..

Absence of IT'S father. Slay queens English.

If all you've typed are all true then if anyone is to fvck up then it's gonna be ur indecisive cousin

As a real nigga who truly loves the girl in question, he doesn't need no advise on what to do

It's Scotland bro , that country soft like Dorathy breast aswearugaad

Even if them swear for ur cousin within 1yr he don suppose package himself and find means to bring him babe over

Let him make a quick introduction and get that angel pregnant asap , that'll give the babe more assurance that he's truly serious about her else once he leaves the country anything might happen

Her friends and family might end up brainwashing her and your cousin has no right to blame her at all cuz to brainwash women is very easy like when a dick sights a pussy to get erected

Tell ur cousin to do what's right , introduction no be big deal no much money spent kpata kpata 150k every where don set
Then he go give her Belle sharply

If he has someone in Nigeria who he loves and is carrying his baby , that will even ginger him to focus and hustle more and not end up making d wrong moves over there


Lights up my kpoli in peace

nawa ooo if he cnt marry the girl then let the girl marry her nah

He should marry her, he should never tink of breaking her heart if not he will regret

Bros go pay bride price. God don butter ur bread yet u still dey come here come seek validation. cousin ko, cousin ni... no bi only cousin, na cornbeef

is that your cousin a sensible man at all? if he truelly love that lady he won't be talking all these.....

Tell your cousin to stop looking for excuse and break up already.

I dey pity the girl because she is the only one in luv here.I hope she moves on fast.

When did relocation become a reason to breakup with someone. Oga just wants to be free. Let him free the babe biko

muller101:
Absence of IT'S father. Slay queens English.

Stop displaying yhur ignorance...

It's is used a baby that has not been born....since the sex is unknown...

Jodha:


Stop displaying yhur ignorance...

It's is used a baby that has not been born....since the sex is unknown...

stop being silly. "The father" should have been the better phrase.

muller101:
stop being silly. "The father" should have been the better phrase.

I was referring to the baby fgs

Jodha:


Better lady after all she did for him?

So, after all she did for him, he owe her marriage even before traveling?
Uncertainties always plays out in life, he doesnt know his fate when he get to scotland, so he shouldn't promise nor marry her before he leaves, there might be better women out there, maybe the governor's daughter,Lol.

@op pursue your dream an come back for her. Two years maximum is ok for that. See if the girl is not a SLUT she will wait for you an forget about conji. A woman help you pursue your dream doesnt guarantee sucess in marriage so be wise as it is now 95%of them have taken marriage as business. So use your head before you regret your action. Who quote me for good advice hug transformer.