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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Jodha(f): 11:31pm On Dec 09, 2020
odinson1:


You ladies never disappoint!



@Op Pls I will advice you not to Ever Take Relationship Advice from women because the don't really care about you bro,They are only interested in what will benefit Their Fellow woman so they will give you any advice that suits their Selfish narrative,so long as it Is in favour of A woman.

Now bro Pls Don't make the mistake of Marrying or Impregnating that girl because she will become a burden to you in the future if you are not Financially stable yet! Leave relationships now, pursue your dreams,make money first because a woman will only slow you down(The only exception here is if she Is an Independent working class lady who doesn't make Stupid and Unnecessary demands)

Yhu didn't even read the post...smh

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Queenserah26(f): 11:32pm On Dec 09, 2020
Well said

Nazgul:
It's not easy to get a girl who will sacrifice so much for you. If he looses her, he might not find someone of her caliber.

My advice? Tell him to marry her, impregnate her, then move to Scotland. Within the 9 months of the pregnancy and the 16 months of weaning the child, (which should make it over two years in total) he should be able to get her to join him in Scotland. That way he can be rest assured that she wouldn't be cheat cos she would be very busy taking care of their child.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by paul100(m): 11:36pm On Dec 09, 2020
tobechi74:
Pursue your dream, forget the hoes
She is not a hoe.Read before commenting.Her type is rare.Someone that can assist you,pray and fast for you and encourage you and above all,stay with you when you have no job,that is a Wife material.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nazgul: 11:43pm On Dec 09, 2020
Jodha:


Yhu said marry her and get her pregnant..

I'm saying it's not necessary for her to get pregnant....at least not until he's back...he can pay her brides price and travel
Who does that? The way you girls give out suggestions is so funny, he'll marry her and disappear.

The young man is looking for a way to secure the woman, and the only way to do that is by getting her pregnant. Leaving her like that for a journey he has no idea of how long he'll stay is very dangerous. Knowing how horney you ladies can get.

So rather than cheat and get pregnant for some random guy wouldn't it be wise for the husband to plant his seed inside her and assume responsibility by supporting her emotionally and financially?

Besides, the pregnancy would keep her busy, so there's no need for him to worry about her cheating on him.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by mrblessed(m): 6:58am On Dec 10, 2020
People like to create problem for themselves where there is none. I think your cousin is no longer interested in the lady and is courting a ruse, matter how unreasonable to dump her. At least he should be man enough to boldly state his intention, instead of playing hide and seek with her. To treat this lady this way, I think, is very unfair for someone who has stood by you, supported, encouraged, and prayed for you.

Come on, the talk of uncertainty of life abroad is complete nonsense, because nobody has the supernatural ability to predict the future. But that doesn't mean we should surrender to the principle of determinism and refuse to plan for the future. There are numerous ways to go about it: engage her and see her people. If it is possible, pay her bride price and let her become your wife legally before traveling. If he fails to marry this lady, the loss is his.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Innobee99(m): 7:05am On Dec 10, 2020
Disappointed:
Ntor
What for exactly? embarassed
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by oluwole70525: 7:22am On Dec 10, 2020
Who finds a good, supportive and loving person and still asks questions? The answer is obvious.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by AFvckingAlpha(m): 1:31pm On Dec 10, 2020
The fvck

Niggarr!!
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Vixlot: 1:31pm On Dec 10, 2020
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by skillmyman(m): 1:34pm On Dec 10, 2020
your cousin should marry her. what is he waiting for?
he is lucky to get someone that believes in him and supports him that much.
many men a looking out for such women.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by grim33(m): 1:35pm On Dec 10, 2020
It always ends in tears... MGTOW GUYS MGTOW
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Louisboy22(m): 1:35pm On Dec 10, 2020
I will advise ur cousin to marry her because those kind of girls are not common in Nigeria

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by GoldHorse(m): 1:37pm On Dec 10, 2020
Your "cousin" is sounding like an ungrateful individual. To even have the thoughts of forgetting someone like this lady is not only selfish but devilish. na only him go first travel abroad and leave a partner behind? He better state wetin dey hin mind all along. undecided undecided

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by blackfase(m): 1:37pm On Dec 10, 2020
It's clear the girl loves ur cuz, but does ur cuz truly love her? Cos real love conquers all things, distance or no distance.
There brotha, lies a simple response to ur queshon...

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by duduade: 1:39pm On Dec 10, 2020
They can do court marriage before he leaves na
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by ArticleBeast: 1:39pm On Dec 10, 2020
If your cousin leave ghat girl, he will suffer and toil day and night with nothing to show for it. There is a grace upon her life that will torment him if he does her bad.


Warn your cousin

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by sogud(m): 1:39pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.



I thought is sumtin serious sef, u allow me waste my mb readin dis......u n ur cousin re ungrateful if he dint marry d girl

u pipo re mad sef

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Revolva(m): 1:42pm On Dec 10, 2020
Your cousin go shock..say another man go de bang her soon when he travels out

the best thing is to get her pregnant...now and hold her for work if he truly loves her
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by anochuko01(m): 1:42pm On Dec 10, 2020
Your cousin should cut all ties with you and marry that girl!

5 months of no pay due to pandemic, my so called gf who wouldn't stop talking about how we were gonna raise our children, one day told me to stop calling her "iyawo", say nobody dash me.

Let your cousin do sharp court wedding, impregnate the girl and travel. Before pikin reach three months, he must have been capable to taking the wife along. If things never pure by then, let him come back and nack her another pregnancy grin grin grin tongue

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nobody: 1:43pm On Dec 10, 2020
We all know how majority of these arrangements end.
Yet, many people here are advising the guy to get her pregnant.

She should get pregnant and halt her life for a man who we aren't even sure will stick to her once he gets there?

Uhm.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by capricornlady: 1:48pm On Dec 10, 2020
Nonsense adviser.. It's obvious you didn't read the post.

Read again so you see how a woman stood by a man all through, which is obviously a rare thing that can be done consistently by a man for a woman

odinson1:


You ladies never disappoint!



@Op Pls I will advice you not to Ever Take Relationship Advice from women because the don't really care about you bro,They are only interested in what will benefit Their Fellow woman so they will give you any advice that suits their Selfish narrative,so long as it Is in favour of A woman.

Now bro Pls Don't make the mistake of Marrying or Impregnating that girl because she will become a burden to you in the future if you are not Financially stable yet! Leave relationships now, pursue your dreams,make money first because a woman will only slow you down(The only exception here is if she Is an Independent working class lady who doesn't make Stupid and Unnecessary demands)

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nobody: 1:49pm On Dec 10, 2020
Lol. He should leave her and travel. I will introduce the girl to another nice guy. He got a job abroad, not that he is going to hustle. He should wife her with court marriage and go there. It will not take time for him to bring her in immediately as she is the spouse. She can apply for jobs there which she will likely get. For abroad, 2 is better than one especially a supportive partner. And if you will not marry her now, do not tell her to wait 4 u. Just break her heart now and be done with it.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by DeOTR: 1:49pm On Dec 10, 2020
I traveled to the US for just a year, I had to take my girlfriend along.
Your Cousin is irresponsible. I'd advise the lady to dump his sorry ass first.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by MASTAkiLLAh(m): 1:50pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.
with 50k kpere, you can do court wedding. Its better your cousin marries his friend than start over with a stranger over there

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Ghostmode2two(m): 1:55pm On Dec 10, 2020
Your cousin don't love the girl.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Wondermumsy(f): 1:56pm On Dec 10, 2020
the way your write up take go I sure say na your bro go bleep up las las.good girls are hard to come by this days

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Afolashade00(f): 2:01pm On Dec 10, 2020
Jodha:
Her type is rare o...if yhur cousin faqks this up... that's he's loss seriously...

To avoid stories that touch... I'll advice him to do the needful by paying her brideprice... nothing elaborate but just to mark his territory....

So that when he comes back...the full wedding procedures may commence..


Smile! This story reminds me of me.
Well, we are no more together and the reason is what I dont know till date.
Since he relocated, everything changed.
I wish her all the best tho, it's quite painful when one does such things and still get disappointed.
It is well!

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Ifeoluwaposimi: 2:01pm On Dec 10, 2020
Nazgul:
It's not easy to get a girl who will sacrifice so much for you. If he looses her, he might not find someone of her caliber.

My advice? Tell him to marry her, impregnate her, then move to Scotland. Within the 9 months of the pregnancy and the 16 months of weaning the child, (which should make it over two years in total) he should be able to get her to join him in Scotland. That way he can be rest assured that she wouldn't be cheat cos she would be very busy taking care of their child.


Lol @ she wouldn't be able to cheat cos she would be very busy talking care of their child
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by andyanders: 2:02pm On Dec 10, 2020
BaddieFreak:
Judging by your write up, if anybody is going to Bleep up along the line, it is going to be your cousin
Exactly. If the cousin should even thought ending up such wonderful lady despite her input, heaven will not forgive him.

Op,why can't ur cousin encourage the girl to start applying for job same country and if he gets there, he can equally help her get one and she joins him.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nobody: 2:04pm On Dec 10, 2020
Afolashade00:



Smile! This story reminds me of me.
Well, we are no more together and the reason is what I dont know till date.
Since he relocated, everything changed.
I wish her all the best tho, it's quite painful when one does such things and still get disappointed.
It is well!

Someone better will come your way, don't stop being who you are

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Temi231(f): 2:05pm On Dec 10, 2020
My own question is what link link did he used to get the job in Scotland from Nigeria? Thank you

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