Welcome, Guest: Join Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 2,713,931 members, 6,412,285 topics. Date: Friday, 30 July 2021 at 09:37 AM

Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? - Romance (5) - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? (22606 Views)

Should I Still Continue With This Relationship? I'm really fed up. / My Past Memories Is Making Me Hate Her And I Want To End It Now / Male Chivalry And Feminism: Are They Mutually Exclusive? (2) (3) (4)

(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (Reply) (Go Down)

Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by SweetCunt97(f): 6:05pm On Dec 10, 2020
odinson1:


You ladies never disappoint!



@Op Pls I will advice you not to Ever Take Relationship Advice from women because the don't really care about you bro,They are only interested in what will benefit Their Fellow woman so they will give you any advice that suits their Selfish narrative,so long as it Is in favour of A woman.

Now bro Pls Don't make the mistake of Marrying or Impregnating that girl because she will become a burden to you in the future if you are not Financially stable yet! Leave relationships now, pursue your dreams,make money first because a woman will only slow you down(The only exception here is if she Is an Independent working class lady who doesn't make Stupid and Unnecessary demands)
You are dumb! This lady made his Scotland job possible, prayed for him, supported him! And u here saying thrash about slowing down? Baba if the ladies in ur life dey slow u down, better pray.

1 Like

Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by captainking(m): 6:33pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.
Where can I meet this kind of woman... Let him wife her before relocating..his company would make provision for her relocation after 1 year I guess..
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by yeman1(m): 6:36pm On Dec 10, 2020
see,.. i left my girl to study in Europe.. I was there like one good year,, no work, my parent was even sending me money to eat cos no work. but my girl wont understand .. before u know it,, she got married with another man before i came back after 2yrs.
So, its very difficult. Your brother is still going to meet very beautiful and loving girl in scotland. I've been there before.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by emapeteum(m): 6:43pm On Dec 10, 2020
I smell a rat here. Your cousin has the intention of dumping the girl. I hope, from your writeup, you are not part of this evil plan. My humble opinion though.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Johnsown1(m): 6:48pm On Dec 10, 2020
If your cousins is not ready to marry the girl now before traveling to Scotland then it is better to break up with her because he will leave the girl at a later stage to marry another. He can marry her, implant his seed in her then hustle double withing two years and bring her over
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Francieuche: 6:49pm On Dec 10, 2020
collinsuchendu:
Bro, kindly tell your cousin to wife that lady ASAP [No jokes], else he might regret it in future.


God when..
Exactly
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by BaddieFreak(f): 6:51pm On Dec 10, 2020
collinsuchendu:
Bro, kindly tell your cousin to wife that lady ASAP [No jokes], else he might regret it in future.


God when..
.
Don't worry your time will come, sha don't misuse it when it happens.

Anyways the meme you used is funny grin
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by BaddieFreak(f): 6:52pm On Dec 10, 2020
collinsuchendu:



I expected this but you were too fast.


Try to be calming down ma'am.

Lol, na you sabi
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by godforus(m): 7:00pm On Dec 10, 2020
DeOTR:

No regrets. No untoward behavior.
may God bless ur union

1 Like

Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by godforus(m): 7:01pm On Dec 10, 2020
Blackpearlous:


About them.
its sad dear. Pls cheer up

1 Like

Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by IjawAboki007: 7:07pm On Dec 10, 2020
Court wedding is not expensive, he should do that and possibly get her pregnant before leaving for Scotland.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by rafosky1: 7:07pm On Dec 10, 2020
If he is serious about the relationship, let him marry her before leaving ooo. Except he does not see a future together for both of them, that is the right and proper thing to do.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by maak400: 7:09pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:


She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating...

Your cousin is an ingrate, he should marry that lady and impregnate her before traveling and process her relocation when he gets to Scotland. If he’s no longer interested in her, let him send me her number, I have a brother that needs such a supportive partner.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by katyamizotta: 7:09pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

Let your cousin make his decision quickly. She will be fine regardless of the decision.
If he decides to break up with the girl, I ask of one thing only, please ask if she is willing to give me her number, I know a well-mannered young man here in Canada.

1 Like

Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Jodha(f): 7:10pm On Dec 10, 2020
Emarvel:

What if he finds a better lady in scotland?

Better lady after all she did for him?
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by katyamizotta: 7:10pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.
Please send me an email as soon as you can.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Jodha(f): 7:11pm On Dec 10, 2020
Afolashade00:



Smile! This story reminds me of me.
Well, we are no more together and the reason is what I dont know till date.
Since he relocated, everything changed.
I wish her all the best tho, it's quite painful when one does such things and still get disappointed.
It is well!

I'm sorry about that sis...


Don't worry...God has someone better for yhu...
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Xmen149(m): 7:14pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

distance will still wither the relationship but truth is

1) Its not easy finding a good Nigerian lady for marriage over there and oyibo there that will accept just few..very few will be in it for love.

2)Your cousin is going there to work not school. so within a some months he should be able to either visit back or help her with visiting visa

3)If he should go there and forget about her then he has been planning it b4
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Powerfly(f): 7:40pm On Dec 10, 2020
Nazgul:
It's not easy to get a girl who will sacrifice so much for you. If he looses her, he might not find someone of her caliber.

My advice? Tell him to marry her, impregnate her, then move to Scotland. Within the 9 months of the pregnancy and the 16 months of weaning the child, (which should make it over two years in total) he should be able to get her to join him in Scotland. That way he can be rest assured that she wouldn't be cheat cos she would be very busy taking care of their child.


How are we gon' make sure he doesn't cheat within that two years? Castrate his balls or..

1 Like

Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nazgul: 7:45pm On Dec 10, 2020
Powerfly:



How are we gon' make sure he doesn't cheat within that two years? Castrate his balls or..
He will be a father. That's enough reason to make him responsible.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by gracegrace668: 7:55pm On Dec 10, 2020
All "Bob the builder" ladies need to read this thread.

I think your cousin needs to break up with this girl, he is likely to resent her in future.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by divineappo(m): 8:08pm On Dec 10, 2020
Vikkoh:


Nice advice.
I thought they said Pregnant women usually have sexual urges than when they're not pregnant.
Who wan dey satisfy her konji during that time?
you can handle the job Sir
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Powerfly(f): 8:09pm On Dec 10, 2020
Nazgul:
He will be a father. That's enough reason to make him responsible.
So.. Inotherwords, fathers don't cheat? Ah don't understand!
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Gerrard59(m): 8:10pm On Dec 10, 2020
When next you read/see Nigerian ladies opt for ready made men, OP's tale s the reason.

P.S. Nothing like cousin blah blah blah, OP is the man in question.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by divineappo(m): 8:10pm On Dec 10, 2020
the simple truth is that, your heartless cousin does not deserve this good girl
I pity her
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nazgul: 8:12pm On Dec 10, 2020
Powerfly:


So.. Inotherwords, fathers don't cheat? Ah don't understand!
I never said fathers don't cheat. I said the the responsibility associated with being a father should be enough reason to make him control his little Jonny.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Powerfly(f): 8:25pm On Dec 10, 2020
Nazgul:

I never said fathers don't cheat. I said the the responsibility associated with being a father should be enough reason to make him control his little Jonny.


Res gini?
Responsibility like he's gm be home with her to take her to ante-natal every wednesdays or he's gon be home every evening to help carry the child.
The only responsibility i see there is.. Always calling and maybe sending money.
He's going to a foreign saner clime where you don't need to have money or a fake life to get laid.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by endsarrrs(f): 8:27pm On Dec 10, 2020
Book your space before leaving. . #end sars
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by drdanny(m): 8:33pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.


Your cousin can do a quick court wedding to make her his legal wife and come back later to do the traditional and church stuff...
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nazgul: 8:35pm On Dec 10, 2020
Powerfly:



Res gini?
Responsibility like he's gm be home with her to take her to ante-natal every wednesdays or he's gon be home every evening to help carry the child.
The only responsibility i see there is.. Always calling and maybe sending money.
He's going to a foreign saner clime where you don't need to have money or a fake life to get laid.
He married her, and last time I checked, you make a vow before God to remain faithful to your partner.

So he will be going there as a husband and a father, if he's sensible, he would remain faithful and work towards bring her and the child to join him.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Newmanluckyman(m): 8:37pm On Dec 10, 2020
...let your cousin not forget the days of his humble beginning.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nobody: 8:57pm On Dec 10, 2020
BaddieFreak:
.
Don't worry your time will come, sha don't misuse it when it happens.

Anyways the meme you used is funny grin

Lol. Thanks a lot.

(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (Reply)

The Face Of A Devil Bastard (nigerian In The Philippines) / Friends With Benefit. / The 8 Weirdest Things Every Girl Wants A Guy To Do In Bed

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2021 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 212
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.