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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nobody: 2:06pm On Dec 10, 2020
You claim your bro loves her to the moon and back, yet you're here seeking advice, after all she's done. Which kind fake love be that. Your cousin hasn't said the truth about what's in his heart

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Samakus(m): 2:08pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

Tell your cousin I said that I wish I was him.

Na because im never dey unlucky to be meeting the 'rubbishes' we're meeting na im make am dey think twice about marrying and impregnating the girl before leaving

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by BREYZ: 2:10pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

Your cousin should do a mini wedding with her, like going to the marriage Registry before relocating and once he's settled, he should come and take her along
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Raylight2(m): 2:10pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.
tell your cousin not to break up o whether mutually or not. that lady may be hard to find later.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by webmaster99(m): 2:10pm On Dec 10, 2020
its better to end this
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Ojady(f): 2:18pm On Dec 10, 2020
Tell your cousin to marry her and take her with him; if unable to do so initially,let him resume at the job, notify HR from Day 1 of his status as a newly married man and his being apart from his newly wedded wife. By the time probation is over, HR would issue him a letter, she can add as supporting documents when applying to the UK High Commission for a tourist visa. If and when approved, she arrives, they can both apply for her change of status as a dependent of he, your cousin, who is on a work permit.

Visiting is far different from living abroad. In my opinion, there is no classic scenario surpassing the truth of 2 being better than one in a strange new land.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Tadeknkeepcalm: 2:31pm On Dec 10, 2020
Jodha:


Impregnate her because she doesn't have plans for herself ??
Get your feminist jargon out of here.
Did she tell you that having children is not part of her plan?
Abi you think everyone is now like you that sees marriage and childbearing as oppression?
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by lomprico(m): 2:32pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

let him ask her to marry him, if she agrees he shld do at least the traditional wedding b4 leaving, if she says no then he can do what he wants to do.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Ceeogbaru2: 2:33pm On Dec 10, 2020
Useless post from stupid..............
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Emarvel(m): 2:35pm On Dec 10, 2020
Jodha:
Her type is rare o...if yhur cousin faqks this up... that's he's loss seriously...

To avoid stories that touch... I'll advice him to do the needful by paying her brideprice... nothing elaborate but just to mark his territory....

So that when he comes back...the full wedding procedures may commence..
What if he finds a better lady in scotland?
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Seyzcham91(m): 2:36pm On Dec 10, 2020
As much as i wanna be funny about my response will try to be a bit Civil

let me start from something you said about the girl never cheated on your cousin for once, how do you know? cuz you sounded or seem so very sure as if you were with her 24/7

secondly is Your cousin really love the girl or let me say both love eachother so well but Advising from experiences and mistakes of others i know and heard of, you better Gotta go scotland for sure inevitably cuz no hope for naija again. so which means he has to take his chances. Go with the mission for the job and making enough money as much as can sponsor and bring his woman over or else cry

About the lady telling him he will wait nomatter what or how long. that one is story for the gods. Girls wait is unreliable as they get disturbed and pressurized by many guys and men every single day both online and in areas and by some men with better money offers than a lady can resist and by others that just wanna get a taste of her juice(enter her pant)

And cuz of how much she loves your cousin, the girl might just still playing along with your cousin abroad while dating someone else here as back up plan cuz girls are known for that, they have many back up plans from Plan B to Plan Z, we know better

so your cousin priority now shouldn't be about the girl but his own betterment in scotland and raising enough money if God wills it he brings her over. But leting a woman be an Hinderance To his decision making especially when the better option is Abroad. Trust me no two ways about it. a woman in naija can never replace a Greener Pasture in abroad

no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by favour32(m): 2:36pm On Dec 10, 2020
This time round both decisions have become mutually exclusive.
You must loose one.
Think deeply.
Not easy for a stone to kill two birds.
The world is more dynamic.
You have the final say.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Pk01: 2:37pm On Dec 10, 2020
OP u get this kind gf ..and u re thinking of dumping her....gf that pray and fast for you ..for this kind generation?? U bi mumu aswear give her bele asap ..mind you I ain't xtians...if you loss that girl you cry for life.. after getting all the money ,the unending thing u need is a happy home happy family.... that's how I dey pushow asma,u for school when Fatima loves me..for good two yrs..now my eyes don clear..

I know wat u re thinking,u want come and marry slay queen haaa haaaa..
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by nedekid: 2:37pm On Dec 10, 2020
The proper thing to do is known to you, sorry your cousin. If the girl has stood by you and you love her, then tie yourself down and marry her because there is all likelyhood when you Jamb fresh yellow oyinbo with flawless skin you will forget your naija babe.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Excellent7(m): 2:43pm On Dec 10, 2020
I do not know what your cousin is confused about.
From your narration this girl ticks a lot of important points.

She is patient, believes in him and his dreams enough to step into the gap for him. According to your narrative her loyalty has never been in doubt. What else can a man seek for? I am surprised that your cousin has found a wife but does not seem to realize it.

I just love the girl's response to all these.

Now to the solution. I will advice your cousin to stop over-thinking things. Life is a journey and I believe he has found a "proven partner" but apparently does not realize it. He should go ahead and marry the girl. If they agree, she might taken.

With these steps it will be easy for him to "extract" his family. In the west, they are usually big on family, and often willing for professionals to re-unite with their family members. He might be surprised with assistance he gets with his employers about this.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by pgodson7(m): 2:49pm On Dec 10, 2020
some of us are praying to find gals that will not only stand by us in our difficult times but also pray and help in which ever way they can now ur cousin is thinking of quitting things with her....abeg just tell us cousin to pass her to me cos i just came of a relationship with devil's PA
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Blackpearlous(f): 2:52pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.


I want your cousin to actually read this.

I am already upset by you thinking of breaking up with her for Scotland.

It appears to me that deep down you don't love this woman and she carry your matter for head more than you carry hers.

What will stop you from marrying her, your problem is that she will have sexual urges and you won't be able to take it if she cheats.

This girl have showed you she is loyal, before she even make a mistake you are ready to ball out.

You don't love her like you claim and it's painful you want to use Scotland to leave.

You can't hold body too, who made your Scotland dream possible? Is it not this babe?

No hope that you two will pass through whatever together. That no matter what I will stand by you.

Face the fact that you don't love her and she can be easily changed. The way she hold you is not how you hold her.

Just let her go if you don't see a wife in her, if not marry her and be hopeful you guys will figure it out.

I do hope you make the right choice because as a lady for someone to do that for you she loves you unconditionally and that is beautiful. All the best.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by BluntTheApostle: 2:52pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

He should marry her.

Speak with her family, and make arrangements for his own parents and her own parents to meet and witness them get married in a court.

Or even in a church.

No need for unnecessary ceremonies which are mere waste of money and time.

As long as there are witnesses from both families, pastor or priest with a license should not have any problem marrying the couple.

You see, that girl that you described here is a gem. Your cousin must not lose her for anything in this world.

I am begging you.

Let him marry her.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by onoja12: 2:52pm On Dec 10, 2020
tell your cousin to give me her number. He can then go to Scotland all will turn out fine for everybody in the end


no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Blackpearlous(f): 2:56pm On Dec 10, 2020
mrblessed:
People like to create problem for themselves where there is none. I think your cousin is no longer interested in the lady and is courting a ruse, matter how unreasonable to dump her. At least he should be man enough to boldly state his intention, instead of playing hide and seek with her. To treat this lady this way, I think, is very unfair for someone who has stood by you, supported, encouraged, and prayed for you.

Come on, the talk of uncertainty of life abroad is complete nonsense, because nobody has the supernatural ability to predict the future. But that doesn't mean we should surrender to the principle of determinism and refuse to plan for the future. There are numerous ways to go about it: engage her and see her people. If it is possible, pay her bride price and let her become your wife legally before traveling. If he fails to marry this lady, the loss is his.

I don't think that cousin loves her and it's very sad.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by godforus(m): 2:57pm On Dec 10, 2020
Jodha:


Impregnate her because she doesn't have plans for herself ??
awon feminists and independent women. Una type can't even be as good as the lady in question to a jobless man, una type wey dey reason this way na craze man go carry una go abroad.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by godforus(m): 2:58pm On Dec 10, 2020
Jodha:


Impregnate her because she doesn't have plans for herself ??
all the rubbish you people do under the cloak of marriage is getting prevented but you want to be able to eat your cake and have it. Get married and LovePeddler while hubby is abroad.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by godforus(m): 2:59pm On Dec 10, 2020
Blackpearlous:


I don't think that cousin loves her and it's very sad.
he doesn't
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by emekafelix1: 3:00pm On Dec 10, 2020
if they love themselves let him meet the parents with little introduction, do the needful and probaberly pay dowry then travel, if he succed she can join him.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by godforus(m): 3:01pm On Dec 10, 2020
DeOTR:
I traveled to the US for just a year, I had to take my girlfriend along.
Your Cousin is irresponsible. I'd advise the lady to dump his sorry ass first.
did you regret taking her there? Too much stories of women misbehaving when they are taken to abroad, because they feel empowered.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Coolcalmcollect(m): 3:01pm On Dec 10, 2020
why the fuq you lying tho, why you lying. get the fuq out
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Blackpearlous(f): 3:02pm On Dec 10, 2020
godforus:
he doesn't

If I know the lady I will advise her to leave him.

I can't imagine someone I'm in a relationship with, I live you so much that I applied for 5months for you to get a job in Scotland.

You are now discussing what will happen to us when you leave. Are you mad no? I didn't think of that while applying.

I will just dump you that your re a waste of my time.

For the begging sef If I see your sacrifice is not matching mine I will walk away.

Not talking about the amount of money but the amount of effort you put just to be with me, with or without money.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by TheBoy1740: 3:04pm On Dec 10, 2020
Is it not a job he got there? What's so hard in settling down with her there or at least in a short time? It's not like he's going to do his master's degree or something.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Sixfeetbelle: 3:05pm On Dec 10, 2020
Nazgul:
It's not easy to get a girl who will sacrifice so much for you. If he looses her, he might not find someone of her caliber.

My advice? Tell him to marry her, impregnate her, then move to Scotland. Within the 9 months of the pregnancy and the 16 months of weaning the child, (which should make it over two years in total) he should be able to get her to join him in Scotland. That way he can be rest assured that she wouldn't be cheat cos she would be very busy taking care of their child.

Okay.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Blackpearlous(f): 3:05pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.


I left and I am back..

Let your cousin leave her.. please send the girls number to me. I have brothers looking for loyal and responsible girls not after their money , lemme link her up.


Lemme even be her friend, so I can console her.

I have never been more attached to someone I have never met before. Don't know why I'm even emotional. Keep me posted.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Blackpearlous(f): 3:07pm On Dec 10, 2020
DeOTR:
I traveled to the US for just a year, I had to take my girlfriend along.
Your Cousin is irresponsible. I'd advise the lady to dump his sorry ass first.

I wish the lady will do that. He appears not to be so much in love with her.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Sixfeetbelle: 3:08pm On Dec 10, 2020
odinson1:


You ladies never disappoint!



@Op Pls I will advice you not to Ever Take Relationship Advice from women because the don't really care about you bro,They are only interested in what will benefit Their Fellow woman so they will give you any advice that suits their Selfish narrative,so long as it Is in favour of A woman.

Now bro Pls Don't make the mistake of Marrying or Impregnating that girl because she will become a burden to you in the future if you are not Financially stable yet! Leave relationships now, pursue your dreams,make money first because a woman will only slow you down(The only exception here is if she Is an Independent working class lady who doesn't make Stupid and Unnecessary demands)

Someone that helped him get to where he is right now is who you're advising him to betray like this?



Seriously, some of you men deserve everything and anything bad the women you meet do to you.

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