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Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by daewoorazer(m): 3:10pm On Dec 12, 2020
Goldie16:

Lols. I didn't expect any better
the feeling is mutual wink
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Emaprince: 3:12pm On Dec 12, 2020
Heartbrokengirl:


We never had penetrative sex, I have never had penetrative sex. The messages are from our past chat, I only cleared the chat after creating this thread. I have not set my eyes on him since then. He has called with other numbers, but that has been it.

Plz, you can reserve the “hoe” tag for your loved ones if it is such a pleasant name. Using it randomly on people you do not know is a not a sign of good upbringing.

You guys here are all about the dick, dick is everywhere, but I have lived 25yrs of my life without it and I didn’t die. I was only hurt he lied to me and led me on. Some of us are trusting. I know people that would have ransacked his house and social media pages, but I didn’t do that. I am not even on Facebook and Instagram. He preyed on the fact that I am quite private and trusting, direct your misgivings to him!!
After reading this, I think you have nothing to be pained about. You lost nothing. Your dignity is still intact. So no need crying.

As far as what you wrote up there is who you are, then your kind is very very rare in a rotten world where the value of women have been washed up by women themselves. There is nothing left.

Pick your self up and keep your heads high. You are still 100% IMO.
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Nobody: 3:14pm On Dec 12, 2020
Heartbrokengirl:


We never had penetrative sex, I have never had penetrative sex. The messages are from our past chat, I only cleared the chat after creating this thread. I have not set my eyes on him since then. He has called with other numbers, but that has been it.

Plz, you can reserve the “hoe” tag for your loved ones if it is such a pleasant name. Using it randomly on people you do not know is a not a sign of good upbringing.

You guys here are all about the dick, dick is everywhere, but I have lived 25yrs of my life without it and I didn’t die. I was only hurt he lied to me and led me on. Some of us are trusting. I know people that would have ransacked his house and social media pages, but I didn’t do that. I am not even on Facebook and Instagram. He preyed on the fact that I am quite private and trusting, direct your misgivings to him!!
you'll one day get someone befitting as ur innocent emotions. Good people like u abound everywhr.
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Jimmy231: 3:19pm On Dec 12, 2020
uncleck:

You see, why I said he's a good man is because men have superior thought process. He could have led you on if he had wanted. He could have made you change to a stupid being if he had wanted. Even if you suspected him, he could still have had his way. But he chosed not to rush you in sex even when it was obvious he could have his way as much as he wanted. He choosed to not hurt you more and ended it.

He is ignorant because he doesn't know that if he had opened up to you during one of your initial dates, you could still have liked him. Women are simply emotional and devoid of logic.
who tell you say them never Bleep
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Nobody: 3:22pm On Dec 12, 2020
CHoccolaTE:


grin

I knew it, lol

The most pure hearted people I have ever met in life were pisces, they are kind to a fault and very compassionate.

I would like to have more as friends but they are hard to find, they like staying indoors.

Just stop trusting people before you do background check on them, very evil and heartless people are many in this world.

You believe in zodiac signs? He also looked at me after our second meeting and asked that question. I told him I don’t know, but ******* is my birthday, he should figure it out himself. He started shouting “I knew it”

I have learnt the hard way. When I am totally over this, I will date again and practice my lessons on him...lolzzz
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Jimmy231: 3:22pm On Dec 12, 2020
daewoorazer:


I never insulted u...”hoe” is just a street shit....Yes he lied, typical of a bad G...but will you tell us if you go back to collect the deek one more time?

You receiving his messages means u never blocked him. Trust me, we both know you don’t trust yourself..

And I’m not judging u
Je KO man

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Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Jimmy231: 3:23pm On Dec 12, 2020
daewoorazer:


I never insulted u...”hoe” is just a street shit....Yes he lied, typical of a bad G...but will you tell us if you go back to collect the deek one more time?

You receiving his messages means u never blocked him. Trust me, we both know you don’t trust yourself..

And I’m not judging u
let her know

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Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Jimmy231: 3:26pm On Dec 12, 2020
Heartbrokengirl:


We never had penetrative sex, I have never had penetrative sex. The messages are from our past chat, I only cleared the chat after creating this thread. I have not set my eyes on him since then. He has called with other numbers, but that has been it.

Plz, you can reserve the “hoe” tag for your loved ones if it is such a pleasant name. Using it randomly on people you do not know is a not a sign of good upbringing.

You guys here are all about the dick, dick is everywhere, but I have lived 25yrs of my life without it and I didn’t die. I was only hurt he lied to me and led me on. Some of us are trusting. I know people that would have ransacked his house and social media pages, but I didn’t do that. I am not even on Facebook and Instagram. He preyed on the fact that I am quite private and trusting, direct your misgivings to him!!
Sorry
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Jimmy231: 3:27pm On Dec 12, 2020
shortgun:

Will you stop this Nonsense!
Do you know her? Have u been to her closet ?
Stop typing like a frustrated person.
She be angle abeg.. Na because say here na faceless no mean say make one person they do like person way come from heaven

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Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by DMerciful(m): 3:30pm On Dec 12, 2020
A man with these qualities cannot be single at 36, he would have been taken. This is one of the ways to know a gamer.

What makes you think you were the one he was waiting for all his life?
Heartbrokengirl:
I have always hated the idea of dating married people, but here I am...the ex-girlfriend of a married man.

It started sometime during the lockdown, I went somewhere to get groceries and ran into this man. Let’s call him Mr X. His smile and sense of humour was the attraction. He was putting on a nice senator material and when I stood for us to leave, he towered above me. I am a 6ft tall lady and ladies with my height can tell the happiness when you meet a taller man.

We started chatting regularly and we were in a competition to give ourselves treats. On our second date which I initiated, I asked his age and he replied 36, he asked mine and I told him. He expressed his doubts and I showed him my drivers license. Started asking many questions about my background and I answered all of them. I asked about him too, including his marital status.

I had just gotten out of a relationship, his father said he wouldn’t marry outside the Catholic church and he started drifting, I had to let him go. It was tough for me, but after months of keeping to myself, my friend encouraged me to go on dates and give another man a chance. I decided to give Mr X a chance.

It was beautiful. We were in a competition to please ourselves, take ourselves out and we both had a healthy sense of humour...chatting was fun!!! Everywhere we went, people stared. We were all over ourselves even in public and till date I wonder how he pulled that off.

One day his office had a party and he asked if I could come, I said yes. Got there and the guys were looking at me with lust, the ladies were looking at me with pity. He said the ladies were jealous of my looks and some of them have been crushing on him. If you see him and see me, you’ll understand why this explanation made little sense.

After the party that day, it was late to go back to my house and his house was farther, so we decided to book a hotel around. That night was our most intimate night. We kissed, he gave me leg massages, a head and said he is ready when I am ready. I was blown away. Could this be real?

I always noticed he would be lost in thoughts whenever we are together and blame it on work. Other times he will start feeling sick and I would have to close earlier to go give him food and drugs. This became a regular occurence until one day…

He had fallen sick as usual. I made him promise to take pain relievers and we should consider going to the hospital. He didn’t do this and I had to make out time within the week to go check on him. He said it is because he was missing me, how sweet!

He didn’t get better, it was obvious something was bothering him. I decided I will take him for lunch so we can talk about it, but he couldn’t wait. That night he said he has something to tell me, he kept apologizing but still couldn’t say it. He asked if he could send a voice note and I told him to go ahead.

At about 3mins into the voice note, I felt my world crumbling. He told me he was married and has been married for almost 10years with kids. His family was not in the country, that is why I never saw traces of them. He said he had been battling with the guilt and was scared to tell me because some other girl left when she found out and the last was with him for money. He knew I would leave and was scared, his best friend told him to give it time, another told him to ghost me but I have been good to him and his conscience won’t let him. Other friends said he should never mention it to me.


When my friend saw him, she told me he was going to hurt me. I asked her how and she said I was too innocent for him. She didn’t say further not to be termed hater, but since he made me happy again...she wished me well.

I kept replaying the audio while he kept asking me to say something. I wondered if he treated his wife the way he treated me. He was such a gentleman. Held my hands when I had to walk in heels, opened the car door for me, checked on me at work, gave me handmade customized gifts...he made them himself. He said his wife is bad and he wants divorce her, lolz. I told him they all say that. I told him how much he has hurt me, but I forgive him and appreciate him telling me when he did.

It has been almost 3months but the pain lingers. I know I will be fine…



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Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Alvin007: 3:31pm On Dec 12, 2020
All these married men sef...why marry, when you ain’t ready to stay with one woman? Even if you’re having issues with your marriage, why not complete your divorce proceedings before leading another lady on? angry undecided

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Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Grateful02(m): 3:33pm On Dec 12, 2020
I love this story. Op do and publish a book and let's read more.lol
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Nobody: 3:33pm On Dec 12, 2020
DMerciful:
A man with these qualities cannot be single at 36, he would have been taken. This is one of the ways to know a gamer.

What makes you think you were the one he was waiting for all his life?

I didn’t believe I was the one he has been waiting for and I told him I don’t believe. He said he also doesn’t believe a lady like me is single and I explained what happened to him. He still didn’t believe...he went on to snoop, I didn’t
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Nobody: 3:35pm On Dec 12, 2020
Grateful02:
I love this story. Op do and publish a book and let's read more.lol

Ask me what you want to know and I will answer. I have been consistent in my “story” because I am not lying, it is something that happened to me that I haven’t been able to talk about with friends

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Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Kunja2: 3:35pm On Dec 12, 2020
Heartbrokengirl:
I have always hated the idea of dating married people, but here I am...the ex-girlfriend of a married man.

It started sometime during the lockdown, I went somewhere to get groceries and ran into this man. Let’s call him Mr X. His smile and sense of humour was the attraction. He was putting on a nice senator material and when I stood for us to leave, he towered above me. I am a 6ft tall lady and ladies with my height can tell the happiness when you meet a taller man.

We started chatting regularly and we were in a competition to give ourselves treats. On our second date which I initiated, I asked his age and he replied 36, he asked mine and I told him. He expressed his doubts and I showed him my drivers license. Started asking many questions about my background and I answered all of them. I asked about him too, including his marital status.

I had just gotten out of a relationship, his father said he wouldn’t marry outside the Catholic church and he started drifting, I had to let him go. It was tough for me, but after months of keeping to myself, my friend encouraged me to go on dates and give another man a chance. I decided to give Mr X a chance.

It was beautiful. We were in a competition to please ourselves, take ourselves out and we both had a healthy sense of humour...chatting was fun!!! Everywhere we went, people stared. We were all over ourselves even in public and till date I wonder how he pulled that off.

One day his office had a party and he asked if I could come, I said yes. Got there and the guys were looking at me with lust, the ladies were looking at me with pity. He said the ladies were jealous of my looks and some of them have been crushing on him. If you see him and see me, you’ll understand why this explanation made little sense.

After the party that day, it was late to go back to my house and his house was farther, so we decided to book a hotel around. That night was our most intimate night. We kissed, he gave me leg massages, a head and said he is ready when I am ready. I was blown away. Could this be real?

I always noticed he would be lost in thoughts whenever we are together and blame it on work. Other times he will start feeling sick and I would have to close earlier to go give him food and drugs. This became a regular occurence until one day…

He had fallen sick as usual. I made him promise to take pain relievers and we should consider going to the hospital. He didn’t do this and I had to make out time within the week to go check on him. He said it is because he was missing me, how sweet!

He didn’t get better, it was obvious something was bothering him. I decided I will take him for lunch so we can talk about it, but he couldn’t wait. That night he said he has something to tell me, he kept apologizing but still couldn’t say it. He asked if he could send a voice note and I told him to go ahead.

At about 3mins into the voice note, I felt my world crumbling. He told me he was married and has been married for almost 10years with kids. His family was not in the country, that is why I never saw traces of them. He said he had been battling with the guilt and was scared to tell me because some other girl left when she found out and the last was with him for money. He knew I would leave and was scared, his best friend told him to give it time, another told him to ghost me but I have been good to him and his conscience won’t let him. Other friends said he should never mention it to me.


When my friend saw him, she told me he was going to hurt me. I asked her how and she said I was too innocent for him. She didn’t say further not to be termed hater, but since he made me happy again...she wished me well.

I kept replaying the audio while he kept asking me to say something. I wondered if he treated his wife the way he treated me. He was such a gentleman. Held my hands when I had to walk in heels, opened the car door for me, checked on me at work, gave me handmade customized gifts...he made them himself. He said his wife is bad and he wants divorce her, lolz. I told him they all say that. I told him how much he has hurt me, but I forgive him and appreciate him telling me when he did.

It has been almost 3months but the pain lingers. I know I will be fine…



Hey, sorry for what you had to go through. Don't mind the guys here saying crap shit. Shit happens but irrespective, one needs to just pack the pieces and move along. Life happens but you gotta just open your eyes to happiness lurking around you and opportunities to love again. Wish you well Sunshine smiley.

You write well btw wink

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Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by ehix89(m): 3:37pm On Dec 12, 2020
Heartbrokengirl:


We never had penetrative sex, I have never had penetrative sex. The messages are from our past chat, I only cleared the chat after creating this thread. I have not set my eyes on him since then. He has called with other numbers, but that has been it.

Plz, you can reserve the “hoe” tag for your loved ones if it is such a pleasant name. Using it randomly on people you do not know is a not a sign of good upbringing.

You guys here are all about the dick, dick is everywhere, but I have lived 25yrs of my life without it and I didn’t die. I was only hurt he lied to me and led me on. Some of us are trusting. I know people that would have ransacked his house and social media pages, but I didn’t do that. I am not even on Facebook and Instagram. He preyed on the fact that I am quite private and trusting, direct your misgivings to him!!
You seem to be one good girl that stepped in a grocery store at a wrong time. His undoing was telling you he is single. Don't dwell on it, just pick yourself up and move on. Cheers to more beautiful life ahead
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by asobo: 3:37pm On Dec 12, 2020
Heartbrokengirl:


Women and men rant is not what I created this thread for. If he had told me, I would have left. I don’t date married men, I would never date one knowingly. I am also not one to suspect or snoop, my friend would laugh at me for this. She always told me I will one day regret my nonchalance to snooping.

I wouldn’t have had sex with him, I haven’t done it before and didn’t plan to start with him either. I just loved that he didn’t make it an issue like other guys.
You sound decent, may God grant you your own man soonest.

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Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Optimistdude: 3:38pm On Dec 12, 2020
Heartbrokengirl:


You believe in zodiac signs? He also looked at me after our second meeting and asked that question. I told him I don’t know, but ******* is my birthday, he should figure it out himself. He started shouting “I knew it”

I have learnt the hard way. When I am totally over this, I will date again and practice my lessons on him...lolzzz

Your story is really touching.
I hope and pray you find the right suitor to live ever happily after.
Please what's IOC?
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by CHoccolaTE: 3:39pm On Dec 12, 2020
Heartbrokengirl:


You believe in zodiac signs? He also looked at me after our second meeting and asked that question. I told him I don’t know, but ******* is my birthday, he should figure it out himself. He started shouting “I knew it”

I have learnt the hard way. When I am totally over this, I will date again and practice my lessons on him...lolzzz


Yes o, I believe in zodiac signs grin

If not that you will want anonymity I would have told you more about your personality based on the day in Feb/march you were born.

That stuff works, nobody can tell me otherwise tongue
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Nobody: 3:43pm On Dec 12, 2020
ehix89:
You seem to be one good girl that stepped in a grocery store at a wrong time. His undoing was telling you he is single. Don't dwell on it, just pick yourself up and move on. Cheers to more beautiful life ahead

Lolzzz. I have to agree with you. My friend wanted to follow me that day oh. If she did, I am sure she would have badmouthed him before he says hi


Optimistdude:


Your story is really touching.
I hope and pray you find the right suitor to live ever happily after.
Please what's IOC?

I am hopeful too. IOC means International Oil Company
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Nobody: 3:44pm On Dec 12, 2020
CHoccolaTE:



Yes o, I believe in zodiac signs grin

If not that you will want anonymity I would have told you more about your personality based on the day in Feb/march you were born.

That stuff works, nobody can tell me otherwise tongue

6th of March, I am waiting oh
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Grateful02(m): 3:44pm On Dec 12, 2020
Well just like as I'm in love with your story, I'm in love with you too and yet something says you're scam(winks)
I'm not asking for sugar mummy but just make me your son
Heartbrokengirl:


Ask me what you want to know and I will answer. I have been consistent in my “story” because I am not lying, it is something that happened to me that I haven’t been able to talk about with friends
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Optimistdude: 3:45pm On Dec 12, 2020
CHoccolaTE:



Yes o, I believe in zodiac signs grin

If not that you will want anonymity I would have told you more about your personality based on the day in Feb/march you were born.

That stuff works, nobody can tell me otherwise tongue
I thought they said libra guys are the best in terms of showing care and helping others, even to their own detriment?
Anyway, i don't believe in the zodiac nonsense
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Wunna: 3:46pm On Dec 12, 2020
Heartbrokengirl:


We never had penetrative sex, I have never had penetrative sex. The messages are from our past chat, I only cleared the chat after creating this thread. I have not set my eyes on him since then. He has called with other numbers, but that has been it.

Plz, you can reserve the “hoe” tag for your loved ones if it is such a pleasant name. Using it randomly on people you do not know is a not a sign of good upbringing.

You guys here are all about the dick, dick is everywhere, but I have lived 25yrs of my life without it and I didn’t die. I was only hurt he lied to me and led me on. Some of us are trusting. I know people that would have ransacked his house and social media pages, but I didn’t do that. I am not even on Facebook and Instagram. He preyed on the fact that I am quite private and trusting, direct your misgivings to him!!
25
Hmmm one more year to go.

If you know you knowcheesy
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Wunna: 3:50pm On Dec 12, 2020
Zzor:
I don't know if it's witchcraft but once I see a married man, I will know, one wanted to deceive me here but I kept insisting that he's a married man and when he noticed I was so sure, he owned up lol.Ladies should learn to take their time before jumping on this species of men we have around these days, don't fall for what he's telling you now after he's done the deed or were you expecting him to tell you that he's happy to have slept with you and he's done? ladies should stop falling for that yeye talk, all those niceties he's forming now and you are buying it too was all part of the game. I'm waiting for that man that will come and deceive me,by the time you exhaust your energy, you will surely take a voluntary exit. Make I go chop jare
Sharrap holosho. Who would wanna have a thing with a borehole? undecided
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by CHoccolaTE: 3:51pm On Dec 12, 2020
Optimistdude:

I thought they said libra guys are the best in terms of showing care and helping others, even to their own detriment?
Anyway, i don't believe in the zodiac nonsense

Is the guy a libra?
grin
Libra are usually fake and pretentious and can pretend just to avoid confrontation or aggression

Nobody said they are best.

I believe the zodiac nonsense embarassed embarassed

cry
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by pmc01(m): 3:52pm On Dec 12, 2020
Romanoff:


Thank God. You will meet a single man deserving of you.

And if she doesn't? She'll share your husband with her?
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Nobody: 3:53pm On Dec 12, 2020
CHoccolaTE:


Is the guy a libra?
grin
Libra are usually fake and pretentious and can pretend just to avoid confrontation or aggression

Nobody said they are best.

I believe the zodiac nonsense embarassed embarassed

cry

Oh my God!!! I just checked, he is Libra!!! No, I don’t want to believe zodiac nonsense. He told me his birthday is “ending” of September

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Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by laiperi: 3:56pm On Dec 12, 2020
Just don't come back years later and cry that if you had be wiser, you would not have turned down Ned Nwoko before he met Regina.
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by DMerciful(m): 3:57pm On Dec 12, 2020
His only crime I see is that he deceived you but falling for you the first time and ignoring the fact that he is married to approach you might be beyond his control. Its possible he and his wife are no longer in a happy relationship hence her being abroad leaving him here. A man needs a woman he can love however you're to decent not to marry your own man 100%. You limit yourself by looking for a good man with all those qualities you highlighted including being taller than you.

To wholely love someone for 5 months and breakup is better than being with someone for 10yrs without love. That 5months will make you know how love feels and prepare you to look for someone you can love as much. If I were you I can only miss it but never regret it happened,
some people never experienced love!
Heartbrokengirl:


I didn’t believe I was the one he has been waiting for and I told him I don’t believe. He said he also doesn’t believe a lady like me is single and I explained what happened to him. He still didn’t believe...he went on to snoop, I didn’t
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Optimistdude: 4:02pm On Dec 12, 2020
Heartbrokengirl:


Oh my God!!! I just checked, he is Libra!!! No, I don’t want to believe zodiac nonsense. He told me his birthday is “ending” of September
I don't know how the libra thing got out of my mind, but i just saw myself type it.
Now, this is becoming creepy cheesy
CHoccolaTE:


Is the guy a libra?
grin
Libra are usually fake and pretentious and can pretend just to avoid confrontation or aggression

Nobody said they are best.

I believe the zodiac nonsense embarassed embarassed

cry
Re: How I Ended My Relationship With A Married Man by Jonasbadoo(m): 4:02pm On Dec 12, 2020
He gave you head but you didn't have penetrative sex with him? who are you fooling? get lost Hoe

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