₦airaland Forum

DEMZEE:
Western society is femcentric I pity guys who dont have redpill knowledge and decide to marry overseas...

Bro tell us about redpill.
What is the best way to have a marriage that you can be safe incase the marriage crashes?

Hathor5:
They will be shouting that women take away their property abroad but majority of them do not even own houses there. They live in the poorest neighborhoods to be able to send some small change home. Yet they expect their wives to worship them for taking them abroad.

My dear oooh! Na wetin I dey reason before i saw your comment! They are regarded as low-life nothings over there. 5th class citizens noni

donbachi:
Anything dat will happen to you.should befall ur enemies.dat is the biggest problem some of our guys are facing down here.when they are in nigeria,they are GOD fearing women.the moment they crossover,even GOD will start fearing them.its a common thing.

"At home, God fearing women
Abroad, Women feared by god"

Quotable quote by Donbachi c2020

Frustrated007:
lie..
If you guys weren't that desperate to get married, then why all these kayamata and juju shit on social media?
Women and self deception are like 5 and 6.
It's very hard to find a woman who can be at least honest with herself.

Kayanmata is only for a specific type especially rich and handsome not all men especially not the alfa mails of Nairaland. Please be corrected. It's not for your ilks on here. Thanks.

Cocao:
What you just typed has no relationship with what she said. Let me help you. Once you decide to take your wife abroad, you have to leave behind all traces of domineering attitude as the society there frowns on it. What usually causes friction is that Nigerian men think it is going to be business as sual even abroad. They expect the women to remain as the slaves they were in Nigeria which is not possible in a land of opportunity. It threatens them that their women are now free to hustle and make their own choices. So, maybe begin to see your wife as an equal partner and record less frictions.

By slaves you meant, cook, clean the house and take care of the children without privileges of going on dates or clubbing with whoever they want. Even the so called oyinbo women do domestic chores we see it even on blockbusters movies all the time. most of you're just confuse being.
An average naija gurls grow up cooking for her dad, mom & siblings, clean the house & run errands buh when they marry "it becos a slave role". las las eye go clear, nd more men will see babymama is the way forward.

amaka157:
I second... Some of them are freaking wolves in sheep clothing... I fear too...

some lady here is even say what do the men deserve from women for sending them abroad?

ceeceeuwa:
Thanks for being a voice to Nigerian women! Nairaland is filled with misogynist... they believe women are the cause of their misfortune in life, but won't hesitate to chase them about at any given opportunity.

Shut up abeg, yen yen yen yen.......

Loyalty is needed when you depend on a man to leave a gutter and impoverished lifestyle. You need to not worship but be loyal, make it work, stop growing wings overnight and doing the wrong thing.

Id1ot!

Hathor5:
You missed the point.

Your ilk is here complaining about Western laws and shouting "women are taking away our property" when most of you do not even get to have properties abroad. And if you did, you wouldn't be here ranting because you would know that there are ways to protect them.

You are totally wrong. Nigerian women(not all) are senseless. You are among those who are foolish. Look, when it comes to marriage, you need to understand some certain things. I recently talked with a young lady and discovered she has nothing to offer to my loved friend in marriage.

I told her my friend lives in Ghana and she was like 419, yahoo yahoo and she didn't even ask me about this guy. So terrible.

Later on, I said to her actually, the person I wanted to introduce you lives in New Zealand and he is an Engineer, a citizen and he is just 30. The babe up till now still calls me on phone. That was how she lost a great opportunity. Senseless girls.

ziondaughter247:
Nairaland men and their usual inferiority complex rant! So because you brought your wife over, did you bring her to heaven! Many of you useless men dish out a lot of shit to your Nigerian wives, half of these you can't even try with with foreign women! Honestly it is saddening to read this these kind of useless rants everyday. Travelling abroad is no biggie nowadays! You are not doing anyone a favour, if you want to marry from over there do so and stop insulting Nigerian women. Many of you obviously came from disfunctional homes where your father beat and was controlling your mothers.

I am so glad at the way you #AlphaApes go to jail abroad! Yes, you think you can take your uselessness from Nigeria to developed countries. they will just treat your fuckup! In all the countries(western) countries that are doing so well which you #AlphaApes are running to, have gender equality. In some of them, the women are even the presidents/prime ministers. But checkout retarded and backward Africa and Middle east, the useless men have nothing to offer except shouting respect, submission etc. The average Nigerian woman is really sick and tired of you apes. You have lost respect and relevance the world over, hence the regular rantings on nairaland. I can assure you that most of these AlphaApes cleaning toilets abroad that came home to marry women, did so because they are looking for who to bully and subdue. They take the poor lady abroad and start mistreating her, because they feel that they own her and they did a big deal bringing her over. Any lady that wants to relocate and still believes that she needs and AlphaApe to do it for her is a nicoompoop. There are serveral countries one can relocate to now and it's as simple as ABC, you can do it yourself. Lol. Gone are the days when travelling abroad was such a big deal. As long as you take your useless behaviour outside, they will keep treating your Bleep up and throwing you in jail. Bunch of nothings! Empty vessels.

Then do it yourself and stop whining!

JovialJune:
In Nigeria, men are kings because the law favours you all, In the abroad, equality is king, and our women use it to their advantage.


The problem you guys have with wives from naija who went to the abroad is your failure to lord over her as it was in naija, y'all still want a lady of servitude who will abide by your rules and wishes cos of what you're used to forgetting obodo oyibo nor send you

It's simple, when you bring your wife over there, just know it is no longer a master slave norm but an equality, relinquish your right as being the head, you'll live your life peacefully,

I have peeps over there, and they're doing just fine.

You are right baby. That's why our men now marry them, impregnate them and leave them right here in Naija to rear their children in peace. Why do they complain now that men have chosen not to commit suicide anymore by refusing to take them abroad?

Nairaland no dey make marriage sweet person enter but my own be say y pple change when they are finally married to? This marriage of a thing can b a good one if we respect each other.

vivsravine:
ABROAD SISTERS, STOP SHAMING US

How do I start this write up without offending those involved?

Trust me I don't care, because enough is enough of the nonsence you ladies portray over there and forget so soon how you started.

It's no longer news what most of our sisters do to our brothers in the name of marriage overseas is quite alarming.

The news is so hard to bear and you start to wonder who actual birth these type of women, who forget humble beginning.

A man leaves all the ladies in the countries they reside and comes home to pick you as a wife, sometimes they even forget about those good girls they had a life with before they left the country.

He sponsors everyting about you, gets married to you and starts a life with you over there, in less than five years you become wiser than the devil and you begin to act like assistant devil.



Ahudiya speaks ©

When you try to paint a picture as if the man is doing the woman a great favour but fail woefully.
Was the lady an almajiri or the man thought he had something to gain by bringing a naive Nigerian babe abroad?

Let's stop deceiving ourselves. People go into relationships with their eyes open. Everything is about profit and loss. Whatever you get, take it like that. He know why he didn't marry any of the babes abroad even though they are well aware of the culture there and how finances are shared unlike with Nigerian babes and many are desperate for husbands. He knows why he abandoned the "ugly" one who stood by him when he was broke.

why men still dey marry sef... which kind mumu mindset be that?..

Mikehot:
what of if i come to Naija and run traditional marriage.

Does it not count as marriage?

If you take her abroad, the law will treat you both as married couples. Don't even put your hopes in prenups; it would be thrown out for any reason.

Amumaigwe:
You are right baby. That's why our men now marry them, impregnate them and leave them right here in Naija to rear their children in peace. Why do they complain now that men have chosen not to commit suicide anymore by refusing to take them abroad?

You are still doing yourself if you choose that option especially with an exposed woman.

ziondaughter247:
Shameless man! 'Going abroad is empowering to women', just see what you typed! Those western countries you are running to have female presidents, vice presidents, prime ministers, etc and one of the reasons they have thrived is because of gender equality. . I continue to thank God that jail term and deportation is waiting for abusers like you, if you ever go there. Oga Lord of Africa, you are not ashamed as a man to carry your ghana must go bag to live in western countries, while your shithole is wallowing in underdevelopment? Honestly, I dey shame for you. Typical useless Nigerian man! They cannot produce anything, but can only consume! That's why nigeria is in this mess today and you are there bragging about someone else's country which they have built. Upon this you're still a 5th class citizen over there oooh, the lowest of the lowest in the scheme of things

All the vitriolic vituperations you poured on me is borne out of truth being bitter. This is not hearsay, we are living witness with plenty of experience in that area. All your abuses don’t border me one bit. Those who have ears will hear.

Hathor5:
You missed the point.

Your ilk is here complaining about Western laws and shouting "women are taking away our property" when most of you do not even get to have properties abroad. And if you did, you wouldn't be here ranting because you would know that there are ways to protect them.

Exactly our point. Both gender will disagree because we look at this issue from different perspectives.

Loyalty is the most important concept in masculinity. From the beginning till this day, all male groups, gangs, secret cults, teams are rooted in loyalty. A gang of criminal, through loyalty, created one of the greatest empires, the roman empire.

In the ways of men, once a man picks you from the bottom and raises you to a respectable position, you owe that man loyalty irrespective of whatever society. To men, loyalty is priceless. Loyalty cannot be bought.

But you women will disagree because you are not capable of loyalty. In your lifetime, there are very little to no situations where you women are required to be selfless. To offer something without expecting something in return.

Therefore, when men offer advice to fellow men on issues concerning our relationship with the opposite gender, you women are in no position to object or advice men because you are ignorant of the virtues and components of masculinity and the ways of men.

Martinez39s:
If you take her abroad, the law will treat you both as married couples. Don't even put your hopes in prenups; it would be thrown out for any reason.

Tell me the best way to have children and a mother.

I want to have kids and don't want them to grow without a motherly role outside my home.

I am not really bothered about the wife aspect or sex.

Many Women are fast becoming nothing but empty bleeding oversize hole seeking for gold to dig

Cocao:
What you just typed has no relationship with what she said. Let me help you. Once you decide to take your wife abroad, you have to leave behind all traces of domineering attitude as the society there frowns on it. What usually causes friction is that Nigerian men think it is going to be business as sual even abroad. They expect the women to remain as the slaves they were in Nigeria which is not possible in a land of opportunity. It threatens them that their women are now free to hustle and make their own choices. So, maybe begin to see your wife as an equal partner and record less frictions.

It sadden me to read you compare Nigerian women as slave to men as if you understand what the word slave mean. Seriously naija women have to change their mentality same as some naija men.

MrColdsweat:
Exactly our point. Both gender will disagree because we look at this issue from different perspectives.

Loyalty is the most important concept in masculinity. From the beginning till this day, all male groups, gangs, secret cults, teams are rooted in loyalty. A gang of criminal, through loyalty, created one of the greatest empires, the roman empire.

In the ways of men, once a man picks you from the bottom and raises you to a respectable position, you owe that man loyalty irrespective of whatever society. To men, loyalty is priceless. Loyalty cannot be bought.

But you women will disagree because you are not capable of loyalty. In your lifetime, there are very little to no situations where you women are required to be selfless. To offer something without expecting something in return.

Therefore, when men offer advice to fellow men on issues concerning our relationship with the opposite gender, you women are in no position to object or advice men because you are ignorant of the virtues and components of masculinity and the ways of men.

of course a man lifts you up from the pit of Nigeria, the least you can do is stick with him.

it doesn't really have to be a slave issue

JovialJune:
Lol I already have sons, I am and will continue to train them and teach them right on how to treat ladies well, regardless of where they are in future

Cheers.

DON'T FORGET THAT SINGLE PARENTS HAVE NOTHING TO TEACH THEIR CHILDREN THAN TO ALSO. BECOME SINGLE PARENT YEARS TO COME

Ishilove:
Why do I need his consent to build a property with my own money?

lol

Beremx:
Women don suffer for nairaland. Is Nairaland promoting male chauvinism?

KARMA

Oizatobad:
DON'T FORGET THAT SINGLE PARENTS HAVE NOTHING TO TEACH THEIR CHILDREN THAN TO ALSO. BECOME SINGLE PARENT YEARS TO COME

And I hope your statement goes for both genders

And if you're trying to say I am one, too bad for you, cos I'm happily married.

It's simple, stop bringing them over or don't even wife them if you aren't planning on going back home finally. I read terrible news about these folks...

Princedapace:
lol, not as u have painted it. And also, these ladies should start hustling to go out too!

If anyone picks u up from poverty, clean u up, and brush u up to a better life, u owe that person loyalty. That is the least thing u owe the person. If u cant be loyal, forget about the brush up he is doing on u.

See eh, it is simple law! He who brings you out of poverty and struggle and present u with a better life lords over u. If u cant be loyal to this simple sacrifice, pls, refuse accepting the help and help ur own self by ur own self and lift ur self out of struggle by ur own self.

It is madness and deceptive for a lady to pretend to be loyal and all submissive just to attract a man who will brush her up and lift her out of hell called Nigeria, take her to a better society, then she brings out her demon. That is deception and should be met with brutal force.

If u dont want submission, hustle like men and make ur own money and ur own life. Then marry and the man will know that he added nothing to ur life financially. U guys will truly be equal.

In that western worlds, their women hustle like men, and their women dont rate men mainly based on the size of their pockets. Their women dont see men as means to escape struggle.

U cant eat ur cake and have it!

If i have to sponsor ur university from my hard earned sweat, help u open a business, marry, pay ur bills until u can take care of ur self. U owe me loyalty. I did that becus u were loyal. If when u arrive, u suddenly stop being loyal, it means u deceived me and it should be met with brutal force.

I know ladies who hate to be lord over, they refused any form of help from men o. They hustled and got to the position they wanted all by them selves like men do. They got married and are quite fine.

When most women start running the home financially, they also exhibit the lord character on the man too. It is a natural force. To solve the problem. Both genders should work hard.

You are very correct on being loyal to your benefactor even when your benefactor treats you like thrash, because you are lazy or didn't have a way out earlier, be loyal. If he spent his money to upgrade you, he deserves returns and loyalty.


My question is this as you know several women who work hard for their money, so they are increasing daily. Why don't these men go for them? Why do they have to take a cub, feed it, cloth it and expect it not to use it's teeth to tear them apart when it becomes a lion?

Who is deceiving who? What do these men want really? What are they really looking for?

They become shocked at how foolish they were and how marriage is really an investment but they were blinded because their ego was being massaged by their young sweet thing they controlled with money. Some of them even were benefactors of rich black/white older women and finessed them of thousands to train and upgrade one sweet young beauty to their level only to be shocked when these women show them they have a way out.

Many hardworking ladies who can find themselves are single and languishing. Both African and African American.

You know what hurts, how these shame those ladies for having standards and tell them they'd be single forever.

If you can't marry a lady on your financial level, stop complaining when your little cub becomes a lion and tears you apart.

jajeri3216:
To solve this, redpilled men have to confront simps first. Women are trend follower's and will respond to strong male leadership.

Grooming must start right in Nigeria***

Simps, feminist's, western copycats are all useless in building strong civil societies.

Very true..

They’re part of the problems that requires treatment..

ziondaughter247:
Nairaland men and their usual inferiority complex rant! So because you brought your wife over, did you bring her to heaven! Many of you useless men dish out a lot of shit to your Nigerian wives, half of these you can't even try with with foreign women! Honestly it is saddening to read this these kind of useless rants everyday. Travelling abroad is no biggie nowadays! You are not doing anyone a favour, if you want to marry from over there do so and stop insulting Nigerian women. Many of you obviously came from disfunctional homes where your father beat and was controlling your mothers.

I am so glad at the way you #AlphaApes go to jail abroad! Yes, you think you can take your uselessness from Nigeria to developed countries. they will just treat your fuckup! In all the countries(western) countries that are doing so well which you #AlphaApes are running to, have gender equality. In some of them, the women are even the presidents/prime ministers. But checkout retarded and backward Africa and Middle east, the useless men have nothing to offer except shouting respect, submission etc. The average Nigerian woman is really sick and tired of you apes. You have lost respect and relevance the world over, hence the regular rantings on nairaland. I can assure you that most of these AlphaApes cleaning toilets abroad that came home to marry women, did so because they are looking for who to bully and subdue. They take the poor lady abroad and start mistreating her, because they feel that they own her and they did a big deal bringing her over. Any lady that wants to relocate and still believes that she needs and AlphaApe to do it for her is a nicoompoop. There are serveral countries one can relocate to now and it's as simple as ABC, you can do it yourself. Lol. Gone are the days when travelling abroad was such a big deal. As long as you take your useless behaviour outside, they will keep treating your Bleep up and throwing you in jail. Bunch of nothings! Empty vessels.

...

All these vitriol from a supposed Ziondaughter?.

Chai...hypocrisy is human sha

Artzdanielsz:
It sadden me to read you compare Nigerian women as slave to men as if you understand what the word slave mean. Seriously naija women have to change their mentality same as some naija men.

When they mean slave, they're only registering their displeasure with our norms and customs here which regard men as head. Nothing gives a woman joy than having to usurp the authority of a man. That is what Feminism is all about....
Even if a Nigerian woman lives in eldorado with maids, allowances and everything to herself, she still wants to outsmart and over rule her man.

Smile4mee01:
Well said.

As a man in diaspora seeking a wife, Nigerian ladies often look at me funny like I am wanting to marry them for papers. Meanwhile, my reason is simply becuasen of culture, to have a semblance of Nigerian family.

Asians, Indians, etc. Have no trouble marrying themselves here. They help to build thier communities, but our Nigeria sisters...

And the funny thing is that very few black women get attention from non black men. Na to find myself one african lady, move.

No time.

Try Ethiopia girls, you won’t regret it..

That lady spoke facts. Sharia-obsessed fellows are responsible for the collapse of nijeriya...

It is on record & the world knows that this once promising nation was destroyed by sharia drunk mohammedans...

They mobilized all manner of evils to undermine Goodluck Jonathan. Today the same evil they arranged is consuming them, even the sultan has cried out.


Mozlems...

drlateef:
All the vitriolic vituperations you poured on me is borne out of truth being bitter. This is not hearsay, we are living witness with plenty of experience in that area. All your abuses don’t border me one bit. Those who have ears will hear.

JovialJune:
In Nigeria, men are kings because the law favours you all, In the abroad, equality is king, and our women use it to their advantage.


The problem you guys have with wives from naija who went to the abroad is your failure to lord over her as it was in naija, y'all still want a lady of servitude who will abide by your rules and wishes cos of what you're used to forgetting obodo oyibo nor send you

It's simple, when you bring your wife over there, just know it is no longer a master slave norm but an equality, relinquish your right as being the head, you'll live your life peacefully,

I have peeps over there, and they're doing just fine.

Seconded