olawumi171:
Gudafternun nairalander,pls pardon my mistakes in dis write up and your sincere advice will be appreciated
It has always be my prayer to settle down maritally before my 30,am 27yrs old,am a lady who believe in having a source of income before thinking of marriage and also worked for watever stuff l needed ,l dont wait for any guys am a teacher and presently am an investor,Now where l needed advice is l met a guy last week,but we were able to meet yesterday, so during d discussion,he said he has no intention of getting married in d next 5 oryrs to come,dat he doesn't want to be caged, and what he need is a relationship where both him and the lady will just discuss about school or work,what we are actually talking about his work and family and mine also,before he said dat,so before l left, he asked me to be his girlfriend,but l told him dat l will reply him later,,so yesterday evening l called him and explained myself to him,but wat surprised me and confused me,is d message he sent this morning where he said he is getting attached and probably falling in love with me, pls what should l do now,don't know the reply to give him,when l told him my age,and told him ,what has been my desire from God,he said we dont know what the future hold,dat we should start somewhere,pls what should l do,should l accept his proposal and hope for the future as he said or l should declined,l dont just know ,he called not quite long begging me for a chance

enilola5:
I don't think he is ready .. he jst needed a lady to lash at will... Jst move on n remain prayerful.. I am sure your choice of man will come around.

WeNoGoDie:
If YOU EVER DECIDE TO GIVE HIM A CHANCE, BY ALL MEANS MAKE IT CLEAR THAT YOU WON'T ALLOW SEX WITH HIM AND KEEP IT THAT WAY.

A man that clearly told you he isn't getting married in the next 5 years and after 2 days says he's in love with you is highly suspicious.

That's probably his sex tactic and if you complain afterwards he'll tell you he already warned you earlier that he wasn't getting married in 5 years.

ShenTeh:
Give him a chance.

Delay sex. True intentions will come forth. Your friendship would let you know if you are compatible and can make something eternal.

Don't pressurize yourself by marriage timeline you have set for yourself, it will not only cloud your judgement but will also be putting people around you under undue pressure.

But don't get carried away. People can say anything to get the cookies.

BigDick70inch:


Honestly....... I will say u should give the guy a Chance.....but then use yo brain while doing that....

Him telling u he doesnt wanna get married might....be due to the toxic relationship/heartbreaks he suffered.....

See guys....are unpredictable Ooo...I once told a girl i'd rather have a baby mama dan getting married........but see me today I'm deeply in love with same girl.........and I hope one day I get married..........

olawumi171:
Gudafternun nairalander,pls pardon my mistakes in dis write up and your sincere advice will be appreciated
It has always be my prayer to settle down maritally before my 30,am 27yrs old,am a lady who believe in having a source of income before thinking of marriage and also worked for watever stuff l needed ,l dont wait for any guys am a teacher and presently am an investor,Now where l needed advice is l met a guy last week,but we were able to meet yesterday, so during d discussion,he said he has no intention of getting married in d next 5 oryrs to come,dat he doesn't want to be caged, and what he need is a relationship where both him and the lady will just discuss about school or work,what we are actually talking about his work and family and mine also,before he said dat,so before l left, he asked me to be his girlfriend,but l told him dat l will reply him later,,so yesterday evening l called him and explained myself to him,but wat surprised me and confused me,is d message he sent this morning where he said he is getting attached and probably falling in love with me, pls what should l do now,don't know the reply to give him,when l told him my age,and told him ,what has been my desire from God,he said we dont know what the future hold,dat we should start somewhere,pls what should l do,should l accept his proposal and hope for the future as he said or l should declined,l dont just know ,he called not quite long begging me for a chance

Angelacruz:
Since he said he does not wat to settle down in d next five yrs,kindly move on.He just wat to get his own share .He is not falling in love but lust.

olawumi171:
Thank you

olawumi171:
Gudafternun nairalander,pls pardon my mistakes in dis write up and your sincere advice will be appreciated
It has always be my prayer to settle down maritally before my 30,am 27yrs old,am a lady who believe in having a source of income before thinking of marriage and also worked for watever stuff l needed ,l dont wait for any guys am a teacher and presently am an investor,Now where l needed advice is l met a guy last week,but we were able to meet yesterday, so during d discussion,he said he has no intention of getting married in d next 5 oryrs to come,dat he doesn't want to be caged, and what he need is a relationship where both him and the lady will just discuss about school or work,what we are actually talking about his work and family and mine also,before he said dat,so before l left, he asked me to be his girlfriend,but l told him dat l will reply him later,,so yesterday evening l called him and explained myself to him,but wat surprised me and confused me,is d message he sent this morning where he said he is getting attached and probably falling in love with me, pls what should l do now,don't know the reply to give him,when l told him my age,and told him ,what has been my desire from God,he said we dont know what the future hold,dat we should start somewhere,pls what should l do,should l accept his proposal and hope for the future as he said or l should declined,l dont just know ,he called not quite long begging me for a chance

jelel6:
Since both of you have been very forthright with your plans in the next 5 years so soon, I don't see the source of your confusion.

If you stick with your initial plans, he won't be ready for two years still. Don't date him now if you're not okay with the possibility he won't marry you until the 5 years he intended from now.

If you're dead serious about marrying in 5 years time, the pragmatic approach is to forget this guy since he said he's not ready before 5 years. You'll only succeed in tying yourself down dating that long.

So, wait everyday for someone who's ready for marriage instead of dating Mr. and stop searching for the next 5 years. B

Besides, I find it amusing he's saying he loves you so soon . Babes, na guys format be dat or love happens that quickly ?

olawumi171:
Gudafternun nairalander,pls pardon my mistakes in dis write up and your sincere advice will be appreciated
It has always be my prayer to settle down maritally before my 30,am 27yrs old,am a lady who believe in having a source of income before thinking of marriage and also worked for watever stuff l needed ,l dont wait for any guys am a teacher and presently am an investor,Now where l needed advice is l met a guy last week,but we were able to meet yesterday, so during d discussion,he said he has no intention of getting married in d next 5 oryrs to come,dat he doesn't want to be caged, and what he need is a relationship where both him and the lady will just discuss about school or work,what we are actually talking about his work and family and mine also,before he said dat,so before l left, he asked me to be his girlfriend,but l told him dat l will reply him later,,so yesterday evening l called him and explained myself to him,but wat surprised me and confused me,is d message he sent this morning where he said he is getting attached and probably falling in love with me, pls what should l do now,don't know the reply to give him,when l told him my age,and told him ,what has been my desire from God,he said we dont know what the future hold,dat we should start somewhere,pls what should l do,should l accept his proposal and hope for the future as he said or l should declined,l dont just know ,he called not quite long begging me for a chance

fuckaholic25:
see, be blunt about it... tell him u need someone that you wanna spend the rest of your life wit not lovey dovey, his reaction will definitely tell what he has in mind!!! coz if u agree to be his gf, u would one day give in to sex and when he is done, he will begin to act up!!! don't let those words hold u down o... I pray u find someone for u!!!

toye440:
I once offered modestgirl this lifeline and i will hand her a chance only if she's ready. If U Olawumi71 really wants to marry before 30 i can make it next year only if u meet my conditions cos i cant come and marry trouble. mail me lets see if we are compartible.

Crunchyg2:

April this year you were dating a lawyer that wanted you to see his family and was ready for marriage, you no gree, now you want to date another guy who is not ready for marriage in 5 years time and you are here asking for suggestion. Please what do women really want?

fuckaholic25:
see, be blunt about it... tell him u need someone that you wanna spend the rest of your life wit not lovey dovey, his reaction will definitely tell what he has in mind!!! coz if u agree to be his gf, u would one day give in to sex and when he is done, he will begin to act up!!! don't let those words hold u down o... I pray u find someone for u!!!

olawumi171:

olawumi171:
Gudafternun nairalander,pls pardon my mistakes in dis write up and your sincere advice will be appreciated
It has always be my prayer to settle down maritally before my 30,am 27yrs old,am a lady who believe in having a source of income before thinking of marriage and also worked for watever stuff l needed ,l dont wait for any guys am a teacher and presently am an investor,Now where l needed advice is l met a guy last week,but we were able to meet yesterday, so during d discussion,he said he has no intention of getting married in d next 5 oryrs to come,dat he doesn't want to be caged, and what he need is a relationship where both him and the lady will just discuss about school or work,what we are actually talking about his work and family and mine also,before he said dat,so before l left, he asked me to be his girlfriend,but l told him dat l will reply him later,,so yesterday evening l called him and explained myself to him,but wat surprised me and confused me,is d message he sent this morning where he said he is getting attached and probably falling in love with me, pls what should l do now,don't know the reply to give him,when l told him my age,and told him ,what has been my desire from God,he said we dont know what the future hold,dat we should start somewhere,pls what should l do,should l accept his proposal and hope for the future as he said or l should declined,l dont just know ,he called not quite long begging me for a chance.
MODIFIED:l just want to say a big thank you for the comments.
So today l went his house,talked and followed the advice here,and l told him l dont wanna av sex,d guy change am for me and said y cant he av sex with me ,wen are dating or wen l come to his house and cook for him without even considering y l said no sex..Na so l carried my body leave his house and blocked his number,definitely he is after what he will get from me..Thanks Nairalanders