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CapitalBank:
I used to have this girl that I "thought" we were dating lol... It didn't occur to me initially that I was dating myself. How could I when someone agreed to the relationship but opted out without my notice?

On the 25th of December last year, I was busy and I did call her to wish her Merry Christmas... So, I asked her, you didn't even bother to send me sms and If I didn't call, there wouldn't have been any of such. Her response was "abeg abeg abeg, I no get time for that now"

I said okay, no problem....

There was a repeat of this a few times hinge on why she doesn't call or text and the response was just as shown above. I still kept my cool...

A lot happened and I tried to amend the relationship until I decided in November that it is time to leave, albeit quietly.

It seems she noticed and started trying to get my attention.

First, she posted a picture (on WhatsApp status) of her wearing a watch that I bought for her and mentioned my name along with "boo" (xyz boo, can you see that watch?).

Boo? me a boo? That is like satan trying to tell you he is an angel.

A few days ago, at around 10 pm, I was just going through WhatsApp statuses of people on my contacts and suddenly stumbled on hers where she was thanking people for making her 2020 great and memorable and I was omitted (I sured did a lot, even inside pandemic).... There is this particular guy that she has written about before. I saw the kind of emotion she poured into writing about him and how he makes her laugh. Her female friend that she met after knowing me too was given accolades but me? There was no sign of me lol

This might look like the omission was a mistake but I know it is not. The only reason she omitted me is that I am not considered important or regarded as anything. Nobody forgets what is valuable or important to them.

About 1 hour had gone by the time that I saw the status. When she noticed I had viewed it, she quickly added mine in hope that I will read it. Immediately I saw my picture, I refused to click or view the status. She left it there as the last for 24 hours without adding any status just make sure that I see it and click. I completely ignored it.

Today, I was just having a nice time with friends when a message from her pops into my view. For the life of me, I can't even remember the last time that she voluntarily messaged me. I know it is a Merry Christmas message but I have also made up my mind to ignore her without a message. I mean, just last year on a day like this, you told me "abeg abeg abeg, I know get time for that now"

She does not want me, she does not like me and she made this known verbally and non verbally. I have decided to accept what I mean to her and stay away. So why is she trying to so hard to act like she gives a fork about me when clearly she does not?

oh, my silence is the cause but this silence is not a pretense or means to get her to want me. It has come to stay and so shall it be.

CapitalBank:
I used to have this girl that I "thought" we were dating lol... It didn't occur to me initially that I was dating myself. How could I when someone agreed to the relationship but opted out without my notice?

On the 25th of December last year, I was busy and I did call her to wish her Merry Christmas... So, I asked her, you didn't even bother to send me sms and If I didn't call, there wouldn't have been any of such. Her response was "abeg abeg abeg, I no get time for that now"

I said okay, no problem....

There was a repeat of this a few times hinge on why she doesn't call or text and the response was just as shown above. I still kept my cool...

A lot happened and I tried to amend the relationship until I decided in November that it is time to leave, albeit quietly.

It seems she noticed and started trying to get my attention.

First, she posted a picture (on WhatsApp status) of her wearing a watch that I bought for her and mentioned my name along with "boo" (xyz boo, can you see that watch?).

Boo? me a boo? That is like satan trying to tell you he is an angel.

A few days ago, at around 10 pm, I was just going through WhatsApp statuses of people on my contacts and suddenly stumbled on hers where she was thanking people for making her 2020 great and memorable and I was omitted (I sured did a lot, even inside pandemic).... There is this particular guy that she has written about before. I saw the kind of emotion she poured into writing about him and how he makes her laugh. Her female friend that she met after knowing me too was given accolades but me? There was no sign of me lol

This might look like the omission was a mistake but I know it is not. The only reason she omitted me is that I am not considered important or regarded as anything. Nobody forgets what is valuable or important to them.

About 1 hour had gone by the time that I saw the status. When she noticed I had viewed it, she quickly added mine in hope that I will read it. Immediately I saw my picture, I refused to click or view the status. She left it there as the last for 24 hours without adding any status just make sure that I see it and click. I completely ignored it.

Today, I was just having a nice time with friends when a message from her pops into my view. For the life of me, I can't even remember the last time that she voluntarily messaged me. I know it is a Merry Christmas message but I have also made up my mind to ignore her without a message. I mean, just last year on a day like this, you told me "abeg abeg abeg, I know get time for that now"

She does not want me, she does not like me and she made this known verbally and non verbally. I have decided to accept what I mean to her and stay away. So why is she trying to so hard to act like she gives a fork about me when clearly she does not?

oh, my silence is the cause but this silence is not a pretense or means to get her to want me. It has come to stay and so shall it be.

Nonexistent:
Three words, dump the bitch. You are a side nigga and she has just realised that losing you will be risky since her main nigga is not showing much seriousness. This is xmas bro, don't let an olosho ruin it for you.

richmanrichard:
baba relax! she cares n the way you wrote about her still shows that you still love her.accept her back n enjoy your life.women case be like bicycle because e no dey hard to start but e dey hard to stop. if you want to live long, stop taking women matter too serious. bang n move, if she is serious;she shud secure her territory in your life not you doing that for her.Create a mentallity of a king because you are one .2021 is not for simps
.Or shud i tell you what hapened is 1900?

Slynation:
2021 is not for simps and you want my real nigga to accept her back and continue simping around, didn't it occur to you she doesn't give a fuvk and all she care about is the gift from the guy, maybe she's having problems with others and boom she remembered she has a boo somewhere....

johnpaschal:
you been promise to change her phone abi ....cus that's why she's still on your neck

Judybash93:
But according to the Bible, the devil is an angel

richmanrichard:
seen now.d op initially gave us half info
.she is an olosho

Karleb:
Even Arsenal fans don't go through this emotional torture.

Olakunleyakub:
You are a weak man and you need to work on your self esteem ASAP.


No matter how ugly and poor you might think you are pls never stay where you are not wanted if the handwriting is well written and clear on the wall and never allow anybody I mean anyone to mess you up or play with your emotions either male or females

Just ignore her and move on with your life the right person that will be a coolness of ur eyes will locate you soon bro.

Peace!

CapitalBank:
you have a point but it is not a matter of weak man, its just my temperance. I have a very high tolerance level, not just to women but men as well.

The reason is because I know what I can do when I switch so much that for the next 10 years I can never forgive cos each time I think of you or see you, your crime will be registered in my mind.

I have had people tell me that I don't forgive or forget the past.

Even when you repent and turn a new leaf, my system, if other people forgives you, will have it hard to forgive and forget.

Though that tolerance level has been drastically reduce so much that people now tell me I have hot temper.

Humans abuse privileges a lot and I hate it.

This side of me is never obvious to anyone and they can't understand why I can't let the past go.

One of my exes was calling me some months ago. She has never really called me for a long time though... Prior to that, I was the one calling, we have chatted but unknown to her, what she did to me years ago has never left my memory.

So there was this time I called. Her voice was broken and I could feel she is going through some emotional distress which I later found out to be her dad's health.

After that call, like 2 weeks later, she called me which I unfortunately missed. BUT I knew the call was to seek help and I decided I wouldn't answer any of her call.

She called back a week later. I didn't pick. She called another time and I refuse to pick.

It's easy to call me a weak man until you see me display attitude that does not look like I have heart.

I mean that is what most people assume.

You don't want to offend someone like me bro. Don't offend quiet people. They are more vengeful than noisy ones. I would even advice you offend a noisy and lousy person than the opposite.

CapitalBank:
I used to have this girl that I "thought" we were dating lol... It didn't occur to me initially that I was dating myself. How could I when someone agreed to the relationship but opted out without my notice?

On the 25th of December last year, I was busy and I did call her to wish her Merry Christmas... So, I asked her, you didn't even bother to send me sms and If I didn't call, there wouldn't have been any of such. Her response was "abeg abeg abeg, I no get time for that now"

I said okay, no problem....

There was a repeat of this a few times hinge on why she doesn't call or text and the response was just as shown above. I still kept my cool...

A lot happened and I tried to amend the relationship until I decided in November that it is time to leave, albeit quietly.

It seems she noticed and started trying to get my attention.

First, she posted a picture (on WhatsApp status) of her wearing a watch that I bought for her and mentioned my name along with "boo" (xyz boo, can you see that watch?).

Boo? me a boo? That is like satan trying to tell you he is an angel.

A few days ago, at around 10 pm, I was just going through WhatsApp statuses of people on my contacts and suddenly stumbled on hers where she was thanking people for making her 2020 great and memorable and I was omitted (I sured did a lot, even inside pandemic).... There is this particular guy that she has written about before. I saw the kind of emotion she poured into writing about him and how he makes her laugh. Her female friend that she met after knowing me too was given accolades but me? There was no sign of me lol

This might look like the omission was a mistake but I know it is not. The only reason she omitted me is that I am not considered important or regarded as anything. Nobody forgets what is valuable or important to them.

About 1 hour had gone by the time that I saw the status. When she noticed I had viewed it, she quickly added mine in hope that I will read it. Immediately I saw my picture, I refused to click or view the status. She left it there as the last for 24 hours without adding any status just make sure that I see it and click. I completely ignored it.

Today, I was just having a nice time with friends when a message from her pops into my view. For the life of me, I can't even remember the last time that she voluntarily messaged me. I know it is a Merry Christmas message but I have also made up my mind to ignore her without a message. I mean, just last year on a day like this, you told me "abeg abeg abeg, I know get time for that now"

She does not want me, she does not like me and she made this known verbally and non verbally. I have decided to accept what I mean to her and stay away. So why is she trying to so hard to act like she gives a fork about me when clearly she does not?

oh, my silence is the cause but this silence is not a pretense or means to get her to want me. It has come to stay and so shall it be.

Olakunleyakub:
I understood all your premises and explanations but you seems to be missing my own point

Am one of the people that blv that women should be treated with respect, kindness, humbleness, faithfulness, honesty, loyalty and patience if the lady deserve it but with that am everly ready to leave any relationship that is not working for me immediately wen it obvious that she did not appreciate me.

You said tand I quote that the lady is not into you and it seems like you are the one dating yourself and what the hell are you still waiting for my nigga?

High tolerance level does not make you to stay in a wrong and time wasting relationship bro

You have stayed for too long, if I were you I would have left immediately I discovered the lady does not really Cherished me

Pls don't loose your self worth cos of anyone not to talk of woman

When you get married to your wife you can have 1000% tolerance for her if you like atleast tht is your life partner and that is what makes you a responsible man to make the marriage work and am very sure that that one will be built on true love from both parties unlike this one that you are the one just dating yourself

While it is good to have high endurance level, it will be worthy of note to understand that being in a wrong relationship or with a wrong person after it is obvious is the worst thing to do.

Yourself credibility is at stake and you need to work on it immediately before the redpiller gangs start calling you a simp.

That is why I like the moderate redpill orientation not the extreme one cos some people are taking it up side down
The moderate orientation is categorise into 2 part
1.) How to treat your self
2.) How to treat others

1.) How to treat your self is for you to work on yourself to have self confidence, extreme self worthiness, good heart, trustworthiness/honesty , self love, visssion, humbleness and by extension god even though I don't need to mention that cos I know many of us are already religious In our own beliefs but just like a reminder.


2.) How to treat others especially women
Is to treat them with a good conduct , kindness, respect, love, humbleness, honesty, neatness and potentials but never compromise or trying to impress a lady or anyone with Money and always be ready for women manipulations and the right time to walk away if things go south in respective of the love between you both

Finally,
Always remember you don't owe any woman any money but real men should always know when to sacrifice everything they have for their women too if they worth it.

Take care!

TheVictim01:
It backfires on her and she's more than ready to bounce back. The branch swinged to isn't longer accomodative.
4 months ago I had mine implying that we "hang" out.

CapitalBank:
hang out? Gist us how ur went bro. Make we learn.

TheVictim01:
It's a whole heap of bullcrap.
I'll create a thread, not in a long while recounting my Simpsons tale.

bell1255:
She doesn't love u one bit. There's a reason she didn't break up with u all along. She has something she's benefiting from u. Maybe money. U might think u are not giving her much but sum how much she gets from u in a month and consider the fact that some other guys are doing the same. Even if its just 5k she benefits from u in a month, multiply that by at least 4 other guys. She might be keeping u just cos of sex. Or the very least, maybe she just wants u to fill d boyfriend space for now. Whichever way, what's sure is she has no feelings for u.
My babe too is currently doing that. Just cos I broke up with her cos I noticed she has no future plan for me n she's just not faithful.