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As shared by Gold-Olufadi Shakirat @skinandall_
, A Physician, Dermatologist & Genitourinary medicine specialist.

That a person is married, doesn't mean some people won't still find them attractive. The gene for attraction doesn't automatically switch off when there's a spouse in the picture. There are actually some humans of destruction that go out of their way to prey on married men and women because there's no commitment involved.

What I'm saying in essence is that it is left for you, the married person to respect the relationship you have with your spouse. The outsider has no such commitment to your partner and they really don't care I have been out several times with my fiance and I look on in amusement when some are giving him the green light. Even with my rings on, some still want to 'toast' me...lol (babe lomo)

Sometimes, we invite the third party all by ourselves. You have a relationship with a friend and emotions start getting in the way. You deceive yourself by saying its nothing and you keep moving closer. You then start to see the 'missing' 20% that your partner lacks.

"Oh, see how Tunde listens to me. Always goes out of his way to help me. Lanre doesn't even put me first." Before you know it, your spouse no longer excites you. All you're looking forward to is when Tunde will come to town again. The phone rings and you're checking the caller ID to see if it is Tunde and you roll your eyes when you see it is Lanre. Careful, sister, that handshake is going past the elbow.

There's a Yoruba adage that says, "nkan tó báníje, má fi run mú." (What you have no intention of eating, don't even smell it lest you get tempted). Humans are emotional beings and sometimes, these emotions make us misbehave if we don't put them in check.

Another adage says, "tí wón bà n tàn é, má tan ra rè." (If they're deceiving you, don't deceive yourself). Most recognize when the feelings start to come up but deny it vehemently to themselves till they're in too deep.

At some time in a relationship especially marriage, see finish may enter the equation. And that is when you start to see all the shortcomings of your spouse. "She doesn't even bend it like Beckham, He's not even romantic, She likes tying wrapper."

When you get to this point, you have to remind yourself of all the things that endeared her/him to you and work on your relationship by communicating with each other effectively. It is not by seeking solace out there as that only gives temporary relief.

Again, there are different kinds of relationships. Some are married but are in an open relationship or they're allowed to bring other partners into the relationship (Nothing somebody will not see on Zikoko). As long as you are both in agreement with the dynamics of your relationship....ba wahala.

Finally, if you decide to let the handshake go past the elbow and you step out in your relationship...please don't blame the devil. Jeje l'esu joko. Be contrite and ask for forgiveness if they're willing to forgive you. If not, cut your losses and move on. No matter how angry you get as the aggrieved partner, don't ever do something that you'll regret later on - Like violence or worse, killing your partner. Don't spend your life behind bars for something that could have been handled better.

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"Respect the relationship you have with your spouse. The outsider has no such commitment ". Words on marble. That 20% that one’s partner lacks is the bane of any relationship, once you go find that 20% in someone else that’s the day your relationship starts to fail

Nonsense and ingredients.



..to all bad belles.

It is only a fool that will allow some ten to twenty minutes pleasure to put him or her into eternal consequence of guilt and damnation.

As long as my wife serves me dinner with red pant and bra, or red sexy lingeries, no woman in this world can seduce or make me cheat on my wife.

This piece is very apt and timely.
It's suitable for every married and about-to-marry couples. There are a lot of lessons to learn from here.

Arrrrrrrh

Tinz dey happen o

I read till the end and I most say this is the best thing I have read today, so much to learn and unlearn!
Thanks so much for this!

Kriss216:
As long as my wife serves me dinner with red pant and bra, or red sexy lingeries, no woman in this world can seduce or make me cheat on my wife.

I have heard story like what you said and yet they still fall.

I say this to those that needs to hear to hear.

"The mark of respect of your relationship is in the response you give to thirdparty/intruder/outsider."

I have been guilty once, i learnt my lesson...
I have been a victim twice, I also learnt some lessons too

When the advancement comes wives don't glory in it and tell your husband that you are still in the market, rather you quitely admit and deliberately try and avoid or try be frank and tell the man, "I can't" especially for office relationships.
For men know you're committed to your wife despite her inadequacies stay true to her unless you've both agreed to go separately

This can come anywhere even from the opposite sex even among church members! A man / woman can start desiring another wife and/ or husband.
Take your eyes away from what is not yours and focus on yours. Also note, ' the grass looks greener on the other site, you may get there and you find out it's not so but much worse than where you are coming from

People know when they're being seduced...what makes them fall Is that they deliberately want to see how the seduction end hoping they'll be able to stop when they want to. Besides, yielding to temptation is sweeter and easier that resisting it

I wonder who you carry sense resemble?
Bring your lips for a German kiss........

Leezah:
People know when they're being seduced...what makes them fall Is that they deliberately want to see how the seduction end hoping they'll be able to stop when they want to. Besides, yielding to temptation is sweeter and easier that resisting it

Interesting read

That is why its good to flee from all lustful desires. Its better than being caught by surprise

Kriss216:
As long as my wife serves me dinner with red pant and bra, or red sexy lingeries, no woman in this world can seduce or make me cheat on my wife.

What of black coloured ones?

They lacked self control

gaius01:
I have heard story like what you said and yet they still fall.

Words on marble.

Pusyiter:
I wonder who you carry sense resemble? Bring your lips for a German kiss........

Mr. Kisser

Tinz dey happen o

That is who I am
You deserve my pink lips for the smart answer.....

Leezah:
Mr. Kisser

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THERE MUST BE BOUNDRIES IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP.

That is why I tell people that cheating is NEVER a mistake, it is a conscious and deliberate action/effort, no one diicks and thrusts continuously, cum/orgasm, then call it a mistake


May God continue to favour/bless the faithfuls as we enter the new year, amen.

Impressive

If you lose what is yours,u will take what is not yours.

Mad piece.

Kriss216:
As long as my wife serves me dinner with red pant and bra, or red sexy lingeries, no woman in this world can seduce or make me cheat on my wife.

Na your type ordinary cleavage dey distract.

It's common, especially if your fiancé is well off financially. Get use to it, but keep being a humble, respectful lady to your fiancé, he won't let u down, he sure knows how to handle them