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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by divineappo(m): 9:36pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:thunder fire the rotten smelly pussy of both you and your useless mother Nonsense, hungry fools 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by prince2pac(m): 9:36pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:nwa-afo Ka ibu
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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by ekerintee: 9:36pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Very wise Idea you have suggested,Not everybody think Same way.i think she shud have Defended the Guy infront of her mum.To some people ,its nothing to Bring Gift,but Tradition can be Bent.its Not rigid,If the Guy No Bring Something come today,its does Not mean,He cant Bring tomorrow.so let Mama calm down, Tradition is changing fast .we bjprodint: |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by general111(m): 9:36pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
So, i visited my fiancee's mum the first time, i brought gift. The second time i visited, i brought gift. The third time i visisted, i did not bring gift.then my fiancee called to tell me that her mum is angry because i did not bring gift.and my fiancee ended the call on me. I will postpone the marriage plans till further notice.this tells me the kind of mindset my fiancee has.... Before you quote me, know that, that wasnt his first visit.muat he always visit with gifts.if this mindset is a result of their culture, then i wont marry a girl from that tribe. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hathor5(f): 9:37pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
KosiGee: You will not look awkward. They will appreciate it but not demand it and on your first visit you better get her something too. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Arsenate(m): 9:37pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
What is even more worrying is that a good number of commenters here don't think there is something wrong in what the mother and op did. I have known majority of Nigerians to be annoyingly self entitled, but I never knew it's this bad. Gosh. 11 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by sokeril: 9:39pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
BusinessCity:you are saying nonsense.. the guy brought gifts on previous visits,now he didn't bring this time,hell let loose? what about the previous times he was bringing the gifts, they don't count anymore? pure thorough nonsense 9 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by britiko: 9:40pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Sixfeetbelle: Read what I wrote properly. People would be forced to do anything and everything all in the name to be rich and satisfy people around them. Its goes beyond bread. It is a societal expectation problem. People don't care ow you get d funds as long as they are happy and satisfied. Its totally wrong. Hence, the quest for ill gotten wealth. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by firstratedcitiz(m): 9:40pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey, with all due respect you should have been there to welcome your fiance to your house. Trayceey: |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by luminouz(m): 9:40pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Lashist: Me I just laugh at such and go my own way jare.. No matter what you say, they won't listen |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by braunny(m): 9:42pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Miarose:haaa u too hit the nail for head baba |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 9:43pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Annitakome: Gently scroll through the first page. It's somewhere down the comments. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Emekaossai(m): 9:43pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
To be sincere, you and your are a big Bleep up. That young man should be saved from coming to that family. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by CauseTrouble: 9:44pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
BusinessCity: What is this one even saying |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by WeRblessed(f): 9:44pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: The guy is glad he went to your house and saw that his prospective mother in-law is the greedy type. "he came empty handed", as if she gave him something to keep for her. Have you seen the reason why rich families don't want to marry from poor families? Because to the poor, its always what you will give them, but to the rich it's what they can offer you. The guy came to visit you for the first time. This is the best time to have an intimate conversation with the guy whom your daughter is trying to spend the rest of her life with. Know his background and what he does for a living. Know his future plans and what drives him. Know about this guy's family history and decide whether or not he is right for your daughter. That is why so many marriages are dead in Africa today. Because some poor families treaded their daughters' happiness for a bowl of rice. Shameless!! A man will not fall in love and get married in peace without poor families cutting his arm and leg. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Gyong(m): 9:44pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Chaiii! This babe just desired to be roasted, nairaland guys never disappoint. She's been spewing shits about been Africans, madame if that's your believe, why bringing your lame relationship ish for nairalanders to pass judgement? You got served. Park well nor. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 9:45pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Oga! She already said it's not his first visit and he does bring something the last time he came. Does it mean you can't pass your in-laws neighborhood and branch to say hi just because you didn't hold gift. Haba! It doesn't have to be every time now. Annitakome: 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by divineappo(m): 9:45pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Sweetcho:ashawo kobo kobo your pussy go rotten las las, sebi u are a lesbian, why can't you marry her and show her u can care for children, bitch 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by fineboynl(m): 9:47pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
I have just learnt new leason never to go with gift. gift is a form of bribe and sellout. you get to know people actual character when they get nothing from you. your mother offered him drink and for that she has to tell you. what if this man couldn't feed the family. that's how you both will mock him to early grave. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Remson23: 9:47pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
I deeply feel irritated at reading this. Simply put, you have to change your impaired mentality. What you are fighting your boyfriend for was what I got embarrassed for doing. I regretted doing it and it still pains me anytime I remember. For clarity sake, let me share my own little experience when I visited my girlfriend's family for the first time: I went to their place on a Saturday evening. I met only my girlfriend and two of her siblings at home. She welcomed and offered me some drinks but I didn't take anything. I was told to wait for her parents that they would join us shortly. After about 45 mins her mum came back from a ceremony she went and later, her dad. My girlfriend knew that I might have a plan of giving them something but she begged me not to do anything of sort - as she found it unnecessary and ridiculous. I didn't yield to her plea. When I was about leaving, I brought out some new 500 notes (about 10k) that I purposely earmarked for the aim of giving her parents. When I handed the money to her father in the presence of the mother and my girlfriend, my girlfriend frowned immediately and felt so embarrassed that she covered her face. Her father asked why I gave them money. He blatantly told me that it was not needed. He told me to keep my money. He and the mother said to me that from their thorough observations, they like me and my personality. They gave me some words of encouragement about my life and career. They told me to always report their daughter to them anytime she does me wrong..... and that they would not spare her if found guilty. Finally, they prayed for me and told me to wait till we are ready to get married before bringing anything for them. Although I liked how they showed support for us but I still felt so embarrassed. After my meeting with them, my girlfriend was so upset with me. She asked me why I still went ahead to give them something despite the fact that she had earlier told me not to. I apologized to her and promised not to do that again. Her parents still call me till now and we still keep in touch. I pray never to have any romantic affair with someone like the OP. It would be so frustrating and annoying. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by delishpot: 9:47pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Was that his very first time of visiting her? Cos everyone knows that you do not go visit a person you are kinda close to for the first time empty handed unless una jam by accident. Something small like flowers, chocolate, bottle of wine etc depending on the ocassion. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BOSMANARIS(m): 9:48pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: So, everytime he visits your mother, he should be buying stuffs? Boyfriend not husband o! Someone you're not sure you're getting married to. From my view: I'm seeing two sides to this, its either you're tired of the relationship or you're not ready to settle down. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by tarantino1: 9:49pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
DropsMic: Stop that. It's the manner of approach she used in talking to him. Imagine saying 'you shouldn't have come to see my mum if you weren't bringing anything ' and expecting an apology. It's downright insulting. There's a way she would have talked to him, he would apologise and even apologize to the mum on phone. Requires tact and OP has none 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by coldFLARES1(m): 9:49pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:Such ruthless bombardment! Bros, calm down biko. Its quite rankling how some people seek out to demean others. She didn't say well. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Afromentalist: 9:51pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
fineboynl:Facts!! No lies detected |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Afromentalist: 9:51pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
delishpot:She already said it was not the first time. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BRATISLAVA: 9:53pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
izzou: If you think they are poor, why did the mother serve the empty-handed boyfriend? She could as well have felt she doesn't have to give him anything every time he visits. She shouldn't have served him anything for that reason. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by karnap(m): 9:53pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Two of you are wrong,go sort it out |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by zealousayo(m): 9:54pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Acidosis: Didn't you see where the Op said the guy did not come empty handed on his first visit? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by PotatoSalad(m): 9:54pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Arsenate:My brother. Don't mind them Most Nigerians have entitlement mentality by default. Imagine a guy that wants to bond with his future mother in-law. Other guys that their relationships only ends in the bedroom. God forbid bad thing. Honestly, if I was the guy, I won't be comfortable anymore with her mother and that nonsense has given the relationship a red flag. Girl's mum is greedy and entitled, girl no get sense. Still dey do yes ma to everything. 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BOSMANARIS(m): 9:54pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
deltateam: This is totally different to the main discussion. Wonder if you actually read the topoc of Discussion before typing these. Your uncle buying his wife stuffs I different from a boyfriend visiting his prospective mother-in-law and the woman expecting him to buy things everytime he visits. Boyfriend o! Not husband yet. Abi, no be this lady of this generation that can wake up tomorrow and cook up a story not to marry the guy 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by marsup: 9:54pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:So your relationship with him is built on what he would bring for you and your mother? Aren't ashamed to post this shit here? Did your mom give him any money to keep for her? The man has entered one chance. |
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