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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sixfeetbelle: 1:27pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Lashist: No one will complain if he doesn't bring that one time in 20 times. But surely people will complain if he doesn't bring in his second visit. I sha have seen from this thread that this thing is about upbringing, but it may transcend into nonchalance if not checked. A guy who gets a free pass for not bringing gifts when visiting his future in-laws may end up not bothering to bring a gift at their wedding anniversary or celebration. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 1:30pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
DrMeroThaEmperor:why should I beg the mods to delete the thread. I don't know anyone of you from Adam. The comments are very helpful. It will never be well with anyone that insulted me and my mum. Especially my mother. They will never grow old |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hassanmaye(m): 1:41pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:Haha All of them are parasites regardless of their own money that's why a woman with money will never ever marry in Nigeria because of their selfishness, until they find the son of billgate |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Minemrys: 1:42pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
SweetCunt97:no be mata of cruise sha. On a n0rmal, na little things like this dy strain relati0nships. N0thing m0re. In laws getting into relati0nships and so on. H0nestly, the mama no try and the babe ma mess up. Which gift the man want give the mama wey go last till eternity b4 the w0man want ruin the pikin relati0nship. Make we no dy do pass ourselves abeg and carry judgmental eyes fr0m people. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hassanmaye(m): 1:43pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:Hahah Lol |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Oharina(m): 1:43pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
A Nigerian lazy ass woman with her sense of entitlements is like bread and butter... Spits! May I never see these type of low leeches. Amen. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by stupidmod2: 1:44pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
OdenKelechi:as in eh from there pastor house day in day out not knowing d issue is the mother |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hassanmaye(m): 1:44pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
GayPontiff:Lol African ladies and entitlement mentality |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Oharina(m): 1:46pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:Shut the fuc k up you unmature leech... Lazy ass beach |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by stupidmod2: 1:47pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Sixfeetbelle:because the wedding anniversary gift if for the mother shey |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hassanmaye(m): 1:48pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:Hahha bread o for that matter, na them o let the guy run, na there type will come lodge for your house and continue they suck you up |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by stupidmod2: 1:48pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:ur mother is very stupid to bring up a daughter dat cant think for her self. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 1:50pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
You made a big mistake bringing this issue to nairaland, a home of mad people, drunkards, nitwits, jobless, hopeless and frustrated people. People without home training who lack respect for the elderly. Don't make the same mistakes again. Their opinions don't count. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hathor5(f): 1:50pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: I thought I was funny myself too. I can understand the love of culture and the fact that Africans no longer want to be patronized by Western values and norms. I hold some of 'our' traditions very dear, family traditions in particular. However, there is not one single culture. Even on this very thread Igbos disagree on the matter at hand. Therefore, as you said, there can only be a minimal consensus as to what 'our culture' is. And we should stop the paranoia that the West is imposing their culture on us, especially if we choose to practice Christianity instead of traditional African religions and if we are not even sure how Westerners live because our cultures are similar in many ways, e.g. the bringing of gifts. I found it funny that some people were saying that we should stop acting like Westerners not even knowing that they bring gifts too when they visit. Instead we should promote our cultural goodies as best as we can, music, fashion, food, you name it. It is no longer Westernization but globalization. Westerners are also influenced by other cultures. I have a friend who asked us to help her plan her wedding and by doing so integrate some of our customs into it. This is a white couple. They visited a Nigerian wedding last year and were in awe of the way we celebrated it and the atmosphere surrounding it. I know plenty of people who have adopted Eastern religions such as Buddhism and there is basically no bigger city on this earth where you will not find Chinese food or Japanese sushi. Personally, I consider the influence of other cultures as enriching and not threatening. I pick what I want and ignore the rest. I can never be a slave to cultural norms that do not make sense to me. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hassanmaye(m): 1:50pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Hathor5:First Lady that speak the truth I'm glad |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sixfeetbelle: 1:52pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
stupidmod2: The couple has the gift nah but in the case she's a widow nko? Who gets the gift on her birthday celebration? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 1:52pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
stupidmod2:you have brought a big curse upon your life. Useless child raised by a LovePeddler |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hathor5(f): 1:52pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Minemrys: I didn't think it was an excuse. I was asking myself why someone would make a big deal of something as petty as this? The young man brought a gift on his first visit. Why does he have to bring a gift on every visit? What if he visits thrice a week like we visit the elders in my family because they need help with shopping, cooking and cleaning? 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Jeffy1206(m): 1:52pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:Savage reply! |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hathor5(f): 1:52pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Hassanmaye: But not the only lady here. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hassanmaye(m): 1:54pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Afromentalist:lol imagine a good guy that's hard to find in present day Nigeria, and the guy has been visiting her o with things, only this time madam is complaining, that's why majority of Nigerian ladies live in toxic relationship because the guy can afford bread made beat her ass up everyday but she is contented since there is bread haha 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Oharina(m): 1:55pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
stupidmod2:My mummy that will even cook christmas rice for any of my sisters husbands that comes visiting and leaves without dropping anything yet everyone in the house including my mum will be happy. Gosh this op and her mum disgusts alot... Spits! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by stupidmod2: 1:57pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Anyiiii:why because u n a very stupid entitled old fool n her daughter thinks d world revolve around them |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 1:58pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
stupidmod2:It will never be well with you for insulting an elderly woman |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Oharina(m): 2:02pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Anyiiii:Please what criteria did u use to know that stupidmod2 has brought course upon himself? Smh! |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by phyl123: 2:03pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Op you could have covered for your BF by saying you asked him not to bother. It’s a bit embarrassing for your mum to be expecting something from a stranger. Instead she should.have chatted with him more to get to know him more. Your BF sounds like a decent guy. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 2:05pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Anyiiii:it will never be well with anyone that insulted the op's mum. Disrespectful bastards. That is how they bring curses upon their lives |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Tobechuckwu(m): 2:05pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
stupidmod2:Learn to think first before u talk. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BRATISLAVA: 2:05pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
fineboynl: @bolded You and I both know that's a baseless assumption. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by stupidmod2: 2:06pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Anyiiii:which useless elder, isnt buhari n d rest of the old fools elder what make u think d older one gets d wiser they become, hmmm plz tell me |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by seunak2016: 2:07pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
extol1:if that's the case, then ordinary 5k will be OK for the mother in law to be, those money is not up to money we spend with friends for beer parlour or for some babes |
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