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OBelz:
I've been in a very serious relationship with an Igbo guy. He's nice, handsome and we've been dating for 2 years. He talked about me meeting his family and I was very excited little did I know that it would turn out to be my worse nightmare.

I met his mum and she seemed really nice, but her attitude changed when she realized I'm a Yoruba girl. She immediately told me to my face that I can't marry her son. Her reasons weren't clearly stated but she said she doesn't like the Yoruba people. My heart melted, hot tears rolled down from my eyes; I'm Yoruba and I'm in love with an Igbo "mummy's boy".

I spoke with him about it and he keeps assuring me that it would be fine. It's been almost 2 years now and the family are still not in support of our union. Every time I try to move on he comes begging that everything would be fine and that we will get married. I really love this guy, why I love him I don't know because clearly he hasn't done anything to deserve my heart but... He doesn't have a good paying job yet, so I carter for most of his financial needs and even send some food to his village during festivity.

Just recently his mother called my parents to tell them that I can't get married to her son and asked that I should be warned to stay off her son.

He has travelled to his village for a week now and honestly I don't know where I stand... I really love him but what do I do?

Angelacruz:
back off....there is nothing you can do

Angelacruz:
back off....there is nothing you can do

QuinModah:
my younger brother's girlfriend is Yoruba, and a Muslim.

Being Igbo, I know the uphill task his have facing me, but I've already told my parents long ago, they're not messing with my younger brothers's love life, he said, "he have zero qualms cutting anyone off if they try to interfere".

MJlee31:
Hello
How are u

QuinModah:
Fine and you?

Innobee99:
Am from Kogi State and my fiancee is from Oyo state. My babe is one cute Yoruba lady, I brought her home and presented her to my mum cuz dad is late. My mum called me one side and was telling why bringing a Yoruba lady for marriage when we have beautiful ladies in my hometown? I was like, mum this is who I want and nothing will change it. Today, na my mama even love the babe pass me wey get the babe. My mum calls her almost everyday.
Let him stand his ground if he actually do loves u

OBelz:
I've been in a very serious relationship with an Igbo guy. He's nice, handsome and we've been dating for 2 years. He talked about me meeting his family and I was very excited little did I know that it would turn out to be my worse nightmare.

I met his mum and she seemed really nice, but her attitude changed when she realized I'm a Yoruba girl. She immediately told me to my face that I can't marry her son. Her reasons weren't clearly stated but she said she doesn't like the Yoruba people. My heart melted, hot tears rolled down from my eyes; I'm Yoruba and I'm in love with an Igbo "mummy's boy".

I spoke with him about it and he keeps assuring me that it would be fine. It's been almost 2 years now and the family are still not in support of our union. Every time I try to move on he comes begging that everything would be fine and that we will get married. I really love this guy, why I love him I don't know because clearly he hasn't done anything to deserve my heart but... He doesn't have a good paying job yet, so I carter for most of his financial needs and even send some food to his village during festivity.

Just recently his mother called my parents to tell them that I can't get married to her son and asked that I should be warned to stay off her son.

He has travelled to his village for a week now and honestly I don't know where I stand... I really love him but what do I do?

cooljoe:
If he really wants u and some of his kins be it siblings or cousins support you, u can carry on. With time, they can help you win the mum over. But if they all are against it, better let it go, no matter how he stands his ground. Cos he wont be happy without his family, and you will have to be trying so dam hard. Too much drama u dont need.

OBelz:
I've been in a very serious relationship with an Igbo guy. He's nice, handsome and we've been dating for 2 years. He talked about me meeting his family and I was very excited little did I know that it would turn out to be my worse nightmare.

I met his mum and she seemed really nice, but her attitude changed when she realized I'm a Yoruba girl. She immediately told me to my face that I can't marry her son. Her reasons weren't clearly stated but she said she doesn't like the Yoruba people. My heart melted, hot tears rolled down from my eyes; I'm Yoruba and I'm in love with an Igbo "mummy's boy".

I spoke with him about it and he keeps assuring me that it would be fine. It's been almost 2 years now and the family are still not in support of our union. Every time I try to move on he comes begging that everything would be fine and that we will get married. I really love this guy, why I love him I don't know because clearly he hasn't done anything to deserve my heart but... He doesn't have a good paying job yet, so I carter for most of his financial needs and even send some food to his village during festivity.

Just recently his mother called my parents to tell them that I can't get married to her son and asked that I should be warned to stay off her son.

He has travelled to his village for a week now and honestly I don't know where I stand... I really love him but what do I do?

larryking540:
you actually love him , Bec you have invested in the relationship already,

OBelz:
I've been in a very serious relationship with an Igbo guy. He's nice, handsome and we've been dating for 2 years. He talked about me meeting his family and I was very excited little did I know that it would turn out to be my worse nightmare.

I met his mum and she seemed really nice, but her attitude changed when she realized I'm a Yoruba girl. She immediately told me to my face that I can't marry her son. Her reasons weren't clearly stated but she said she doesn't like the Yoruba people. My heart melted, hot tears rolled down from my eyes; I'm Yoruba and I'm in love with an Igbo "mummy's boy".

I spoke with him about it and he keeps assuring me that it would be fine. It's been almost 2 years now and the family are still not in support of our union. Every time I try to move on he comes begging that everything would be fine and that we will get married. I really love this guy, why I love him I don't know because clearly he hasn't done anything to deserve my heart but... He doesn't have a good paying job yet, so I carter for most of his financial needs and even send some food to his village during festivity.

Just recently his mother called my parents to tell them that I can't get married to her son and asked that I should be warned to stay off her son.

He has travelled to his village for a week now and honestly I don't know where I stand... I really love him but what do I do?

bepositive11:
It's a blessing in disguise. Let him go.

When you marry a man, you're also marrying his family. Don't think that you only have to deal with him - you will have to deal with his mom too.

And you may be fine with catering to his financial needs now but it's not sustainable. It will build resentment, especially when children join the mix.

Come to think about it, I wonder if he's taking advantage of you because you're providing for him financially.