No go stay for your own house, dey there dey disgrace yourself up and down claiming title. Shamuless man

Katier00:
Op it is very wrong of you to go into the kitchen of your brother's wife. Don't put your brother in the middle because he will definitely choose his wife over you. Respect yourself and tolerate more

he will, buh me I won't, I will rather be diplomatic. my wife gat sense I trust her.
they brother's wife is plain wicked

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

no mind am

Yes, she can.

All right have been given to her to throw you over the bar with or without your underpants..

franchasng:
western culture, oyimbo culture is different from Nigerian culture.


In Nigeria, we practice family life, communal life. We are not Americans nor Europeans. There are things they do bad that we cannot do as a result of our culture also

Lol your culture and you go do weddings in church.

Even unless they signed a prenup agreement its her house by marriage

The bitter truth is that you're an intruder in her matrimonial home so therefore she has every right to kick your ass out most especially when you're going beyond your boundaries.

franchasng:
western culture, oyimbo culture is different from Nigerian culture.


In Nigeria, we practice family life, communal life. We are not Americans nor Europeans. There are things they do bad that we cannot do as a result of our culture also

no man except her husband has the right to go into a woman’s pot of soup. Forget all this talk about African bullishiiiiit

pocohantas:


Trust me, I didn’t read that hogwash. I have better things to do with my time now. Simply message the OP and take him in. I am sure your virtuous and different wife can accommodate him. Kapish...

I see

onyenatruchi:
A beggar has no choice.

My friend, will you go and stay on your own and leave your brothers wife alone.

Onye akwo nazu adigi akwo onye ozo nazu.

I'm even ashamed on your behalf. Stop depending on your brother. What if your brother is no longer available, what would you do

Why do men like to disgrace me

Ihere anagi eme kwa some people oo

you nailed it.some men are not even ashamed of themselves

emorse:

Inasmuch as the other party is not here to defend her actions, this is a completely unfair assumption. Base your judgement on the information at hand please.

No one is a villian in their own story.


I am sure if the op gives us the back story of events leading up to him cooking for his friends it will be a different scenario.


Even from the little the op has said,even a blind man can see there are underlying issues but the op cleverly left it out.

Yes, she can. And she has every right to throw you out of her house if she feels uncomfortable having you around. Your story started from the middle, there most have been some animosity between both of you, while the recent happening was probably the last straw for her.

There's always two side to a story, your sister inlaw did not suddenly hate you? Your brother's wife kicking you out is out of the argument fighting etc that has build up. I believe if she say her side of events you'll come out as the bad one. Please stay calm she is your sister inlaw try sort yourself out don't be monitoring spirit reporting events to your parents about your brother marriage.

Any Idiot wife that throws any of my relatives belongings outside in my own house is equally going out also. She is going back to her parents house with immediate effect no well mannered wife will do that to her husbands relative to matter what the case may be.

No matter what has happened between OP and his/her brothers wife, she has no fucking right to throw out his/her belongings except the brother is a SIMP. who has borrowed from the wife's relative to build his house or pay the house rent.

OP should just wait for the brother to come back soo he can decide may be he will choose his blood over his wife.

But OP are you sure you are not a trouble maker in that house or you are very useless with no value?

But if any wife that packs my belongings from my brothers house, and my brother cannot find a way to settle the matter and decides to support his wife. That will be the end of our relationship and the likes of our children in Earth and Heaven.

But even if my brother should marry Bill Gate's daughter she dares not behave in such manner to me, because I am a man of value and I know my worth even tough I never blow.

But the way nairaland people carry kitchen matter for head Kitchen naa Paradise? or wetin be the big deal to enter kitchen to put food for plate and chop....POVERTY Naa BASTARD oooo

Yes Yes Yes she will so kick you out your ass may not find where to sit down again.

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

What he did is not really bad..
It happens to be, his brother's wife lacks understanding or maybe she just hated the guy

She has 100% right.

IYANGBALI:
no man except her husband has the right to go into a woman’s pot of soup. Forget all this talk about African bullishiiiiit

Did he mentioned that he went to her pot of soup abi he went and cooked by himself in the kitchen lol.


This thing is what we practice in my house. We encourage close friends and visiting family members to serve themselves to avoid anybody turning anybody to their slave.

Our helps have their job roles to ensure they are not overworked. I counsel my wife from time to time on the need to allow the domestic staffs to have rest and not turn them to slaves.


I have conscience, I respect God despite my sins. And I know there is natural laws that reward humans even here on earth. I don't want any self inflicted curse on my life.

He could have asked for her permission but he didn't.

He has a brother. She is married to his brother. It is as easy as telling him to be personally responsible for his guests.

But we are digressing here....

Katier00:
you don't know their financial strength, maybe she has planned herself for week. What if they are only managing. I am a woman and I won't like it if anyone goes into my kitchen without my permission. At least for courtesy sake. On top that she or he still had the effortnery to shout back at her, common that's not right. I'm sorry it won't happen again would have solve the matter

vickydevoka:

u Don't get it. he served his brother n his brother must settle him

OP is a student of Ebonyi State University going by his other thread.

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

The hatred and pain are most possibly coming from you.

Imagine this comments
**Immediately my friend left,she started ranting. She shouted at me and I shouted back at her**


**Because everything my brother own,we both struggled for it**


So what? She doesn't/shouldn't have a say in her husband's house?

Why would you even go to a woman's pot without her permission?


You have a very toxic mentality and mind you,you're the one that's actually instigating the hatred between you both,not the other way round.

Lordbinsmar:
Any Idiot wife that throws any of my relatives belongings outside in my own house is equally going out also. She is going back to her parents house with immediate effect no well mannered wife will do that to her husbands relative to matter what the case may be.

No matter what has happened between OP and his/her brothers wife, she has no fucking right to throw out his/her belongings except the brother is a SIMP. who has borrowed from the wife's relative to build his house or pay the house rent.

OP should just wait for the brother to come back soo he can decide may be he will choose his blood over his wife.

But OP are you sure you are not a trouble maker in that house or you are very useless with no value?

But if any wife that packs my belongings from my brothers house, and my brother cannot find a way to settle the matter and decides to support his wife. That will be the end of our relationship and the likes of our children in Earth and Heaven.

But even if my brother should marry Bill Gate's daughter she dares not behave in such manner to me, because I am a man of value and I know my worth even tough I never blow.

But the way nairaland people carry kitchen matter for head Kitchen naa Paradise? or wetin be the big deal to enter kitchen to put food for plate and chop....POVERTY Naa BASTARD oooo

I have been wondering this don't enter a woman's kitchen and I have been laughing here, this kitchen must be powerful

I don't know what's wrong with some married women...

He cooked his own food in that kitchen, why must you go crazy over that when he didn't touch the food you prepared

The decision throwing one's brother out or not is should be left for the brother to decide...

I am not sure I can withstand it if my woman throws my brother out just because of food or because he used her kitchen.

Wo just leave that house karma is a bitch...

I think some married women ate either obsessed with their kitchen or they hate their husbands family living with them.... There is level to the nonsense I can take fa... If na me em out.

IYANGBALI:
no man except her husband has the right to go into a woman’s pot of soup. Forget all this talk about African bullishiiiiit

really

Pavore9:


We tend to struggle with the reality that once a brother gets married, the dynamics would change. His nuclear family is his wife and children and in reality, his family of origin becomes extended.

My "brother's house" is more applicable when he is still a bachelor but when he gets married it also becomes his wife's home and the law regards a sibling going there to "act drama" as a trespasser.

I strongly believe there are unresolved underlying issues between the OP and his sister in-law before the incident.

You're painting a different scenario here


The op and his brother contributed 50/50 in building the house


Not like his brother owns the house

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

pls walk away..I was once there...for the love u have for ur brother and his children..walk away and never disclose this to ur brother..he may kill his wife.i feel ur pains..moreover u have no biz living with a married man..its a bitter pill to swallow...it will continue to ring in ur heart..but pls do this for your parents..ur nephews and nice..u will outgrow it..and when u get married never tell ur wife...but u can disclose it to a close sibling that is sensible so that he too tends with care in other not to fall victim of wat happened to u.woman matter no dey finish he b like keke way tie rapper

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

@words in bold: He went to the kitchen to cook and serve his friend. What's wrong in doing that?

We should stop this nonsense of making women feel like they got authority when we get married to them; for Christ's sake, this is my brother I've known all my life, someone we came out from the same womb and sucked the same breasts; to put a total stranger who I have probably known for maybe just 3 years over him is unacceptable.

She even had the effontry to throw out the guys luggages. Men should stop being sissies for crying out loud; we should know where to draw the line.

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

young lady what are you doing in a married man's house? It doesn't matter if he's your brother. besides that, d little you've told us about yourself suggest that there are other wrong doings you've been perpetuating. You're lucky she didn't pour acid on you.

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

You only succeeded in spewing hogwash.
When my younger brother visited me with his friend, he went straight to the kitchen, prepared delicious meal and served himself and his friend. He even served my wife.
I don't see any big deal in cooking for my friend in my house.
That woman is full of bitterness.

Shame no suppose catch u say u dey stay with ur brother who's married?


Dem suppose tell u say u should excuse the family?

Nigga, man up.

To grow up dey hard some people.


Many reasons I am independent.

I don't invite insult, let alone, tolerate it.

She belongs to the street.