Gang90:

I wonder whether a neurosurgeon removed the thinking part of your brain, I'm I talking in relation to the house or in relation to me, anyway I had moved out and moved on

Gang90:

You are so myopic that you think marriage is the most important thing in life, I had given you reasons, for my disgusts, deal with it or locate the closest transformer, and hang yourself with naked wire. Don't go and focus on your life, keep trying to defined for another person what should disgust him and what should not, I had moved on

berrystunn:


That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Genesis 2:24.


No don't move, stay with your relative. If you are not a stranger why did you leave.

You should be ashame staying with parents not to talk of your brother and his family.

ImaIma1:


From your complaints and outbursts, it shows you are still a young boy. When you are older, you will be more enlightened and wiser in some areas that you lack right now. Enjoy your moving on, disgusted fellow.

schendy:
You have a lot of growing up to do really.

I believe by now you slept on the roof top?, Rubbish and entitlement. Next time pack yourself and your load to your family house.

Talambout You can't wash sex sheets yenyenyen, so you don't have wrapper to lay on the ground?, Mr allergic to cold ground, and you can't sleep on a bare natress for the night?, Anyway you could throw out the mattress too, since the sex took place on it.

Your brother's wife disgusts you yet you stay in her house, I hope you are so angry you have rented your own house overnight, or better still built one?. Rubbish n konkobility.

verminnel:
You guys have time to answer the attention seeking idiot.. it's not ur house yet u want to call the shots? Pack out already looser!

light099:
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You complain too much lad.
You live in another man's property, yet you wanna run things on your own terms. You already made your point, the wife should have washed the bedspread, except that you're starting to overestimate and overemphasize the whole shiit.
You sound so much like a spoilt brat. At 26 years old, you should know how to handle this maturely instead of coming here to wail all day like a cry baby. Some people younger than you sleep in traffic over night 24/7.

Remove the soiled sheet, replace it with your blanket just for tonight or sleep on the mattress without the bedspread or sleep on the floor. The options are many. Then, get your own apartment and your own wife so that you can run things on your own terms, instead of castigating a grown up man in his own house, who was nice enough to give you a whole room.
Do those and stop being a cry baby.

Gang90:

You are so myopic that you think marriage is the most important thing in life, I had given you reasons, for my disgusts, deal with it or locate the closest transformer, and hang yourself with naked wire. Don't go and focus on your life, keep trying to defined for another person what should disgust him and what should not, I had moved on

LilMissFavvy:
Your thread has about 70,000 views and uncountable contributions. If it was only the female genders who contributed in your thread, you'd probably say the females are sentimental. As you have seen so many men complaining about your actions and attitude, is it not enough to convince you that something is definitely wrong with your attitude? I'm just amazed wondering how you scaled through school and how you cope at work . Believe me, you are harsh, strict, inconsiderate, stiff, etc. If your sister in-law fought you or committed a bigger offense, I would have understand the reason for your deep disgust, but the situation whereby having sex on your bed became the bone of contention, is not a bad enough fault. Think twice, nobody knows tomorrow, be careful, be wise, make sure you make peace with your brother.

Gang90:

Your thinking is so confusing that you contradict yourself now look at your statement from this perspective, two of them are one flesh = Correct, I'm not one flesh with two of them = Correct, I'm one flesh with my brother My Father and Mother = His Father and Mother, I'm not one flesh with my Sister inlaw whether by blood or by Marriage, now why would she now being a foreign body to me, use somewhere that I share and not clean it it off. I'm not doubting that her and my brother is one body but the important thing is that both of us are strangers to ourselves, that's why shes a stranger to me and I'm a stranger to her. So that's the logic I hope you understand now that you did nothing but throw more light on my argument like I said, I had moved on.

Most of you shallow minds are talking in relation to the house or in relation to the rent but a house is not a home, they gave me a room in a house thanks to them but I wish I could have a home where my personality and personal comfort matters

berrystunn:


I don't know where you are seeing it from.
They did it in there house not yours...
In that house you are a stranger.

You don't even have any right there .
Take anything you see there in good faith,

what you are complaining of is like booking an hotel room for a night, telling the hotel management to buy a new bed spread for you because too many people must have had sexx on the used washed one, how possible is that?

Gang90:

You have a problem, a house is not what defines a stranger, if I book a hotel room and people had aex there when I left, I have right to not just sue the hotel and demand damages but also beat up the stupid manager cause a scene in the hotel and request his dismissal.

If they had sex the night before, it a different issue but not a hotel room that I had booked for the night, in fact new blankets will not solve the problem but a refund of my money or a new room.

If a stranger live in the same house with you for years does that qualify such stranger as no longer a stranger, if your brother travelled for years does that make him no longer a brother, so what about people sleeping under the bridge do they not have brothers and even within the under bridge do they not have strangers.

You don't seem to understand that being a stranger is far beyond living in the same house, put yourself in your place you are a wife, that's the end of it, you are not my mothers daughter you are a stranger to me, that's it. My brother's house is not mine but what about my fathers house, if she comes there won't she mind her husband's room.

berrystunn:


Sorry I used the word stranger, you are not a stranger in your brother's house, but you have limit there.

I wanted to ask you, your age but no
I also want to know where you came from.

What do you understand by sister and brother in-law?
Do you have a limit in your brothers house ?
What do you understand by privacy?

Your brother immediate family is who and who?

Cutehector:
Why would they have sex in your room

Gang90:
So guys it valentine's day, I'm really disgusted, okay I stay in my brothers house, I travelled, I came back around 2:30 I wanted to enter my room but my brother told me wait a while, with my adult mind, I realised they having some couple time, I dropped my bag in the living room and head out.

But I came back to find out the room is scattered and the bedsheet there, a responsible woman should at least wash the bed sheet noting that a grown up Male stays there.

I will be 26 this year, I had not really had sex so all these things imagining a strange woman's bodily fluids in my bedsheet is disgusting. I can take it from the side of my brother but not the wife, she disgusts me honestly, she is not my girlfriend, not my sister, not my wife, not my mother why should she expect I wash her after sex sheets for her or why can't she just pick the sheet immediately and wash it, it could have dried by now. And it really feel awful for me if I try to wash it, honestly.

This is about to be the worst valentine's day for me, I'm planning to head out and rent a room in hotel but who knows most hotel rooms will be disgusting today, what do I do please advice.

I'm hating knowing already, cause if I didn't know it could all not be so dirty to me, now my bed looks so dirty to me and I can't attempt to wash it until at least 24 hours and I will wash it soaked in hot water, I hate nonses just cause my brothers accepts you does not mean everyone in the family sees you as one flesh.

NovusHomo:


Because it's their house and they want the "free-loader" to leave. He' too stupid to understand.

Callmegerald2:
There are a number of options available to you. First, keep calm. You still live with your brother. Wash the sheet. Do not confront his wife. She will make life miserable for you under your brother's roof.
Secondly, at 26, maybe you should consider getting your own apartment. Maybe a room selfcon will be cool. If they could have sex in your room and not clean up, it may be a subtle sign to get your own room.
Thirdly, do not discuss this issue with your brother. Next time when going out, lock your room.

Gang90:

I had been a lot busy, with my life that's why I had not been so active, I had left, hope w everyone us okay now,

NovusHomo:


You should be busy getting your own space.

Gang90:

Life doesn't have a rule, I have limits in my brothers house, my brother have children, I used to be his next of kin but but now he got children his child becomes his next of kin, it might surprise you that I'm planning on making my brothers first son the one who inherits my landed properties and my sisters children inherits my businesses but in my will they must be at least 18 before having access to those.

So, I can survive on my own but in Igbo tradition the first born is like a father when your father is late, so I stay in his house as a result of the respect I have my father not becuase I can't survive, so as much as I'm concerned, why a married man should accept his wife completely it does not extend to other family members.

And the worst part is people stressing it her house, should I also throw her out of the family house maybe during Xmas becuase it is my house, yes even my brother her husband built a house at home but I can still throw her out by declaring her a trespasser in any perimeter of my property, the husband did not buy the land he built on but my father bought it so.

Last time we had issue at home I had made it clear that my two brothers wives must be excluded in our family meeting until I'm married and it is so, myself and my two brothers held our meeting.

I even told my elder sister that she must not be part of my meeting until she show remorse for calling me a small boy and saying that it is not a must that I be informed of every decision, the day we held the meeting she was at home but was not part of the meeting she was crying, next day I was not feeling fine she gave me money to buy whatever I needed.

shaboti:
look at this animal. I don't even blame you, na the jobless, wretched idiot you call father I blame. If he did his job you won't be here disgracing yourself and your lineage

iRepNaija1:
OP, I read the rest of your threads, all the other ones you've created since 2019. It seems like you've been residing at your brother's house for quite some time. From your other threads, I've learned that you either can't cook or you don't want to do serious cooking because you survived on noodles and tea during one Christmas holiday when your brother and his family weren't around. Moreover, your sister-in-law seems to do a majority of the cooking based on another thread you started.

You seem to be awkward and hesitant with women because you wonder why your older, married brothers seem to get women's numbers easily and you can't, you had a crush on an older woman and assumed that your sister-in-law told this older woman not to waste her time with you because you were 25 at the time, and you tried to have sex with a woman you picked up from a Christmas party but ultimately put a stop to it because you didn't want to have unprotected sex.

You seem to also have a lot of anger toward your sister-in-law. You won't even call her 'sister-in-law,' just 'my brother's wife,' even though she and your brother have welcomed you into their home and she cooks most of the meals. This dislike and lack of respect are even exacerbated by your fixation on your sister-in-law and your brother having sex in your bed and the soiled sheets. I bolded part of that sentence because it was both your bother and your sister-in-law who participated in the sex, but you seem to have reserved all your anger, disgust, and insults for your sister-in-law. Let me say that again: it was your brother and your sister-in-law that had sex in your bed. Not just your sister-in-law.

I'm not going to offer advice because, after 22 pages of responses, it seems quite pointless. But your dynamic with women, in general, is just weird and off-putting.