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| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Automaton09(m): 2:33am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Marriage is dynamic, meaning change is inevitable, changes in marriage do not necessarily mean cheating. It's just that as the marriage progresses, changes must occur, eg. when your wife gets pregnant and gives birth she tends to focus on the child which might be misunderstood as not caring for her husband, this can also be compared to when the husband gets involved in a new sphere of endeavour, he tends to put his all there and appear to have lost focus in his marriage. At this stage in marriage, the best thing to do is to rediscover the marriage in line with the changes not to see it as faults. Most couples are never prepared for the changes that come with marriage. 7 years in marriage is just the end of the first set of tests that we must go through in marriage. For me love in marriage lasts for about 5years after which understanding takes over based on the foundation that has been built in the last 5years, this greatly depends on your values and your intention before going into the marriage. My advice..... Please rediscover your marriage, don't go looking for comfort where it can't be found. This year is my 17th year in marriage all I've said above is from experience. Please don't run....face it. You will surely win by the Grace of God Almighty. Remain Blessed. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by FRANKOSKI(m): 2:37am On Mar 02, 2021 |
FreeSpirited:ADUTERY IS ENCOURAGED HERE。are you a christian ? |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Alcatel17: 2:37am On Mar 02, 2021 |
FreeSpirited:Say no more! |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by ragna1991(m): 2:38am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Rhodaogunpeju: |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by omoyankee3: 3:04am On Mar 02, 2021 |
You guys should find the time to spice up your married life so much that it becomes second nature. What are the things both of you enjoy doing together? Traveling, going to the movies, restaurants, malls etc. Since you live in Canada, you can do road trips, visit monuments, zoos, museums, galleries etc. Very cheap to do, all it requires is time. Or just cuddle up at home and watch your favorite shows/movies and jist about your activities. Read books together and discuss them, learn something new together eg swimming. These are just suggestions u... your interests might be different. DO FUN STUFF ROUTINELY. Point is to add content to your relationship. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Olufemiolaolu(m): 3:06am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Just keep on working on it, it will get better. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by emerged01(m): 3:09am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Yes,it can be but with lovely kids marriage is never a boring thing. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by banmee(m): 3:09am On Mar 02, 2021*. Modified: 10:42am On Mar 02, 2021 |
So I bought this truck in 2016. Brand spanking new. I love the truck to death. It has a unique color, strong and absolutely sturdy. It's 2021 and it still looks the way it was when I bought it. Why is that you think? It is because I invest my time in giving it the TLC it deserves. I have made significant upgrades and also make sure the maintenance is constant and on time. I wouldn't trade it for the world. This concept is the same with all marriages. A lot of people think the day you get married you have achieved the best thing in the world. Don't get me wrong. Getting married is freaking awesome especially when you love the person and whoever it is, is also a friend. But, this is a big but, one has to understand it involves constant work. Most married couples take themselves for granted after a few years and wonder why the spark dies. You have to challenge each other on a constant basis to be better than yesterday. No man or woman want's to see their partner stagnant. I don't care how much you love each other, it will get old. Real quick. My spouse and I have grown together in leaps and bounds since we met and got married 20 years ago. She is sexy as phuck, confident, sassy, and witty with a quirky sense of humor. And most importantly, she still looks the way she did when we first met and that is no small feat. This after 3 big strong strapping boys. That didn't just happen by magic. She invests a lot of time working out in the gym, going on long runs, no alcohol, no junk food, etc, so that she can stay sexy for me. So why on earth will someone like that be boring to me. I'd have to be clinically insane to ignore something so glorious. I on my part do my best to maintain my four pack but that thing no easy ooo I swear. ![]() |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Nobody: 3:28am On Mar 02, 2021 |
grown women draggijg the same space and status as little baby girls who feel that the whole institution of marriage should revolve around them. of course when you have been with someome for that long, you dont expect things to be the same, you are supposed to understand this and nit know it,understanding it means that you should live with it and create a new scenario of fun around that level of marriage. at thos stage couples are supposed to be seeing eschother as super best friends/siblings that have sex with eachother because you dont expect him to still open doors for you. wetin do your hand? the attention they are supppsed to give on the kids, they are hoping that their man should still be treating them like a baby. you have left a stage of life, deal with it. in this nee stage you are, find a corresponding shared interests, things to do and the likes. for your info, you would never be that 20yr old he met the first time. yeye women... |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by midolian(m): 3:37am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Rhodaogunpeju:Yes!!
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| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by NaBanga: 3:47am On Mar 02, 2021 |
collele:Learn how to please your wife sexually very well. Once you do that, you will also enjoy it. Marriage without money is dead. Marriage without sex is also dead. If you can provide money and sex to your wife, your life will be more stable and happier. Otherwise FreeSpirited spoke the truth. The only way to stay married in such circumstances is for the spouses to find other partners. I never thought I would end up in such a situation, but due to my spouse not fulfilling their duties, I have to seek out companionship with someone else. I have someone ready and willing. It's just sad because I tried, but my spouse did not. Body no be firewood. If I have to choose adultery vs depression, I choose adultery every day of the week. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by ivolt: 3:53am On Mar 02, 2021 |
justosee:Don't mind the dolt. What's the use of a marriage based on lies and pretense? He believes he is smart because he dates married women Unfortunately, we won't know when he reaps the reward of his philandering. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by ivolt: 3:56am On Mar 02, 2021 |
collele:With the bold, why did you get married in the first place? |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by ivolt: 3:57am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Wolfeye:How about all women? |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by sonofthunder: 3:59am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Rhodaogunpeju:You better wake up and get to work on your marriage. Most of the folks here are happy to see you have a divided home. Additionally, most of the problems you outlined are things that other couples overcome in their marriages. The earlier the better. Wishing you all the best. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Jaqenhghar: 4:00am On Mar 02, 2021 |
banmee:The wprk aspect is the part no ine wants to hear. Everyone still falls for that happily ever narrative. Im sure when you remove mobey to upgrade that truck it is not easy |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Jamersirwin1971: 4:01am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Shokoloko:You Dey mind am ? My friend has a 13 year old daughter and he and is wife are only 2 years old in marriage .. The daughter is from the same woman he got married to .. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by afrika(f): 4:20am On Mar 02, 2021 |
FreeSpirited:It is obvious this person is single, not married, cant prove it and rides on married young girls. Wish you luck BBC.!!! Rhoda is there and vulnerable |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by afrika(f): 4:30am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Rhodaogunpeju:Weldone rhoda in ur kind decision to write this. The second commentator advised on ur nickname which u never saw as worrisome. Secondly u love him, ur hubby but i percieve some face off actions in the house. Thirdly, ladues just get married and after one or two eggs being laid, they dont care about themselves and packaging. Some just burst like GP tank left under the sun to widen more. Others tie wrqpper forever looking unclean, untidy and etcetera. Finally, what attracts a man to that woman outside is appearance, her mode and caring she is around him. Believit or takit, u just do the normal tin his moda does for him and u want him to be sexually aroused. Before i drop the mic, some married young ladies end up looking like aunties to their young husbands. Hey!!! |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by FreeSpirited: 4:31am On Mar 02, 2021 |
afrika:Look at this baby....your type will cheat and still convinced themselves they dint... chronic liar! |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Juliearth(f): 4:44am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Rhoda dear, have you tried matching up to your husband's interest? Marriage is all about compromise and if you want this to work, you should find out what interests him (thank God it is not another woman) and then work your interest up on that. The sex life is boring because (I think) you don't try to spice it up. On a very good day, deport the kids to their parents', prepare his best meal. Send him a nerve wrecking erotic message while he is at work, make him come running to you, let the first thing he would see to be you, stark naked and ravish the heck out of his body. Be spontaneous. Cc goodheart02 |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by SmartPolician: 5:04am On Mar 02, 2021 |
DaddyRochie1642:If that comment (without any lessons) is what you define as wisdom, then it is finished for this generation. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by spiritedtete: 5:08am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Danhoys:Hold your pillars tight... so when down comes you will be able to hold it. My dear it will come.... marriage is no fairytale. Glad you are doing fine... but make sure you build a "breakstoper". Living in union goes beyond ssme intrest, friendship and love. No! The greatest bond most times are the kids and Grace of God. And ability to grow individually with support from one another. 10 years now I have been there... with no regrets However.. the Journey could be tiring sometimes especially when you have an ambitious man. (Which most men possesses). Nevertheless hold your pillars close to you... you will need it when you least expect. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Olaideolayemi(m): 5:18am On Mar 02, 2021 |
debbydams:Y are you confused? Is for you to prepared before you enter.. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by wildikeman(m): 5:24am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Rhodaogunpeju:Madam na you dey boring jare... End of story |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by MrNipplesLover(m): 5:25am On Mar 02, 2021*. Modified: 5:53am On Mar 02, 2021 |
The OP, I hail u. It is such a pity that there is nothing like perfect home (marriage). Either of the couple, or both sef, dey always pretend to appear happy to each other, like they are having a perfect marriage. Someone already made a similar point. Women most times don't understand that marriage is not there to give u all u would ever desire to enjoy in life, they see it as a course that should give everything to them, which is not so. Note this, do not complain about ur marriage if it's not giving u 100% of ur expectations, it is ur home and u must stay satisfied with whatever it gives u, as long as there's nothing like domestic violence.... U saw ur man, u agreed to marry him, u married him, and u must remain with him in all situations. Na stupid woman, I'm sorry to say, who has no integrity, would cheat on her man because the attentions have reduced from her man... Even if the attention is dead, u must stay with ur man and find solution to it. Most women believe they have all the righteousness to cheat on their men if dem no give them the full attention as needed... So, if u cheat on him, and the one that fvcks u outside starts depriving u of the same attention as well, you'll move on to another dick? As I said, na stupid women go cheat for such reason. Stay in ur marriage, stay in ur home. Nobody go support u if kasala bust. Now, on the part of men, I find it amusing how some men become dull and unromantic. Pls, men, if you're not romantic with ur woman, forget it, you're selling her out unaware. I have a female friend of like 9 years, she's married like 5 years ago and her hubby dey okay financially, but this girl always tells me that her husband doesn't give her attention and he's not romantic, all he does is work, work, work. He comes home, eats and starts pressing phone, not a single romantic moment with her. And this babe, I can vouch, since I got to know her, u can't get this babe when she was single, so religious and reserved, well educated and mature in the brain. Tell me, u can't get this babe anyhow. But now, ehn, she's complaining that her husband is not romantic, she's confessed to me that, this might get her tempted by another guy outside and said she's scared she might get tempted. All she keeps saying is romance from her man is all she needs. Pls, you men out there, don't ignore ur wives in the romance aspect. Even if u are not financially mighty, maintain ur romance with ur women is 100%. Na that one I no dey take joke, cos I like anything that has to do with romance, flirt, sex... name it. The only thing I won't blame this OP for is if her man is not romantic with her at all (same as attention, right?). Though I don't support this cos I won't ever advise a married woman to cheat... I swear. Pls u men need to be romantic with ur women oooh. Don't joke with that if u don't want to turn ur woman into a cheating wifey. OP, my little advice to u; don't cheat on ur man, abeg. It won't even add or remove anything from me if u do or don't, me I just hate seeing married women being fvcked outside by another dick... That's the most degrading thing to do as a married woman cos, the asshole that's fvcking u outside would definitely discuss ur matter with some of his friends, fact. And like that, u are trash. And u won't even know it, cos trash can itself doesn't know it has a smelly and irritating odour. I greet u. (Chai, see epistle). |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Rapture4real(m): 5:30am On Mar 02, 2021 |
FreeSpirited:You shldnt have ended with "May God..." because God will not support what he is against.Your counsel is wrong. If you are a child of God, dont follow this advice. Infidelity is evil and has its own dire consequences which will appear later in the future and affect the children if care is not taken.People shld be careful what they consume here. Op, give it time and prayer, it will balance itself talking from a 16 yrs marraige experience. |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Feddytune: 5:35am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Lagoon0:Big scam yes but that doesn't mean that your type ain't out there .. like they use to say "There is somebody for everybody |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Ghostmode2two(m): 5:36am On Mar 02, 2021 |
We don hear |
| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by lekki1444: 5:38am On Mar 02, 2021 |
Danhoys:THE TWO BOLDED ARE CONTRADICTIONS
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| Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Nobody: 5:41am On Mar 02, 2021 |
justosee:Small pikin dey worry you ![]() |
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... What use to be mind blowing sex is now just average .just because he's had too much if it ..I could also say the same about me..I mean before seeing my husband in boxers turns me on but now even if he's naked it doesn't seem to move me