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FreeSpirited:
Guys, When you want to date married women, women who are like 5 to10yrs above in marriage are the most vulnerable to fall into your trap. Many times they crave attention..or are just bored of their husband.
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It's not gainsay when they say the first 5 to 7 years is the most turbulent in marriage that can break or make a marriage.
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The story this young woman detailed above is a typical cycle of almost all marriages. The point our OP finds herself, for an average lady, after trying to endure or make things work will just succumb to the pressure of guys out there...and before u say jack..smart bold guys are already pounding her pvssy with all alacrity.. It's natural these days.. especially if you are in the business of chyking/chopping married women. You will know this.
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It's only a matter of time if nothing is done before this woman starts riding the BBC of a guy who gives her attention and tickle her fancy...Naso e dey start...Nothing new.
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That's why to me, fidelity in marriage is overrated..cos most times couples have broken their vow long before their significant other realises.
But in her situation, some women will deliberately go out and give in to the advances of their admirer just to kill boredom, depression and feel happy. To hell with marital vows..women do this most times to be Happy. However, the smart ones still find a way to balance home demand by not making it affect the integrity of the marriage...what they do is just flow with the marriage and not stress too much for the attention of their busy husband since he's not ready to be disturbed.
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In thesame vein, the busy husband most times is also somewhere cheating with a university or polytechnic slayqueen cos he's also bored of her wife....That's the paradox of marriage.
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You see... cheating on both sides maintains the marriage and happiness of both party codedly. Argue with me all you care...that's the reality..
Meanwhile, the stupid couples when they start the cheating game, they transfer the bottled anger and aggression on their partner which usually cause breakup......While the coded smart ones maintain their and we keep praising and complimenting their marriage as the best thing that ever happened since Adam and Eve.
May God give us wisdom in all we do.

CsRockefeller:
Okay o. Just curious as a young man, what exactly do they find repulsive in the man? Is it the body? (Out of shape, overweight) the habits (smoking, drinking, womanising) or his total disdain for affection?

I will really like to know.

generationz:
This thing about gisting all the gist really baffles me?

Do you people really marry your intellectual equal or someone you flow with on the same level or do you marry people cause of looks and shared external values (like being a Christian) cause gist no dey ever finish o.

drmikeadams:
..my manci

Cakhama:
Repulsion between couples may come from many sources (bad habits and repulsive personalities like you've mentioned) but on this particular occasion, I was referring to wives finding their husbands sexually repulsive. Unfortunately, sometimes, it could be as a result of something beyond the husband's control. The husband may be what she never imagined she would end up with and she finds herself struggling to adjust to that reality. Her mind just can't come to bring her body to respond to him. Forget all that overweight, out of shape stuff. He's just not what she wanted (no fault of his).

Some husbands experience this too, but on this particular occasion, I addressed wives because the OP came from a wife.

justosee:
or you don't understand the nonsense you wrote there.

wealthyhenry:
Your marriage is 5years and you have a son that's 17years old according to one other thread you created.

Is God not wonderful?

RealGboy:
she can lie for africa . just to get likes

justosee:
sick comment. cheating is the only thing I can never think of forgiving in a relationship.

thebosstrevor1:
Couples that usually travel because of work hardly have this problem of boredom because when they see each other the spark and the drive comes back

CalmElder:
Plenty of the "smart bold guys" who made a career out of sleeping with married women in festac town, are now being replaced by another set of unfortunate fellows.
They wasted their most valuable time for laying a strong foundation for the future, and placed it in married women's hands.
You look into their eyes, what you see is hopelessness.
After all the fantasy about sex, when you finally have it, it's not worth it.
Be careful.....

Uyi168:
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And from her other thread about her dirty counsin, she claimed the counsin who is 28 was way other than her..
Meaning she should be around 24/25..and her son that was caught with hardcore porn in his phone is 17...

In all, is like she gave her at a very tender age of 7 or 8.

Nawa.

TiglathPILESER:
You are simple a fool for typing this...

professore:
not always true, we praise some who we think have integrity and are in the best marriage, and yeah, we are right.

Carbonated:
My man Mike, do you still reside In Lagos??.......

OnlyDeCapPlease:
That is why I say marriage is a scam. Everything about marriage is rigged towards failure.

You share the same room with someone day in day out

You see them shltting

You hear them farting

You hear them burping

You see them sick

You see all their nasty personal habbits

You see them when they are weak

You see them crying

You see the 'other side' of them

You see them naked, and as they relax in the marriage and add some weight, You see the hanging belly, boobs/man boobs, stretch marks etc

You see their early morning face, early morning toh toh or preeq, that no one else sees.

You see all their vulnerabilities

As our people say "you don see them finish" aka "familiarity breeds contempt"

On top of all that, you will have quarreled severally and said very hurtful things that nobody else (including your mama or papa) had ever said to you.

Na so so curse you go dey curse am for you mind "Hello darling" but your mind will say "useless man" or "lazy woman".

One day you go just look the man/woman and ask yourself "how did I end up here with this thing?"

Meanwhile one guy outside, who only sees the finished product (make up on point, waist trainer activated and wig in place) will be eying your wife. Or one babe outside who only sees oga with power dressing activated inside nice car will be eying your husband.

Marriage na scam. But you could still get lucky though

debbydams:
V bn reading alot about marriage nd I'm totally confused �

FreeSpirited:
The thought of your wife being fvvcked by a random deek is actually making you go crazy...Then be a good husband otherwise, better deek will fvvck her and nothing, I say nothing will happen...Ozuor
Even when u are the best husband... sometimes it doesn't matter for a woman who is bored of ur single preeq..Ode

kceeblaze:
I'm totally in the same boat with you

CsRockefeller:
Oh! I see. Thanks for the explanation.

weedfada:
That one shock me o... Gist finish ke?! In this life wey we dey so. Hell no! Of course the success of a union ain't solely based on gisting... but just to buttress that part.

FreeSpirited:
Guys, When you want to date married women, women who are like 5 to10yrs above in marriage are the most vulnerable to fall into your trap. Many times they crave attention..or are just bored of their husband.
.
It's not gainsay when they say the first 5 to 7 years is the most turbulent in marriage that can break or make a marriage.
.
The story this young woman detailed above is a typical cycle of almost all marriages. The point our OP finds herself, for an average lady, after trying to endure or make things work will just succumb to the pressure of guys out there...and before u say jack..smart bold guys are already pounding her pvssy with all alacrity.. It's natural these days.. especially if you are in the business of chyking/chopping married women. You will know this.
.
It's only a matter of time if nothing is done before this woman starts riding the BBC of a guy who gives her attention and tickle her fancy...Naso e dey start...Nothing new.
.
That's why to me, fidelity in marriage is overrated..cos most times couples have broken their vow long before their significant other realises.
But in her situation, some women will deliberately go out and give in to the advances of their admirer just to kill boredom, depression and feel happy. To hell with marital vows..women do this most times to be Happy. However, the smart ones still find a way to balance home demand by not making it affect the integrity of the marriage...what they do is just flow with the marriage and not stress too much for the attention of their busy husband since he's not ready to be disturbed.
.
In thesame vein, the busy husband most times is also somewhere cheating with a university or polytechnic slayqueen cos he's also bored of her wife....That's the paradox of marriage.
.
You see... cheating on both sides maintains the marriage and happiness of both party codedly. Argue with me all you care...that's the reality..
Meanwhile, the stupid couples when they start the cheating game, they transfer the bottled anger and aggression on their partner which usually cause breakup......While the coded smart ones maintain their marriage and we keep praising and complimenting their marriage as the best thing that ever happened since Adam and Eve.
May God give us wisdom in all we do.

Danhoys:
I could totally relate to you dear op, but I'm sure we're the lucky ones.

First of all, you married someone you love, someone you find both romantically and sexually attractive.

That's a plus.

When I and my hubby were passing through this turbulent phase, what helped was having similar interest.

I'm hugely into politics, and so is my husband. Trust me, there is always something to gist on when he's back from work.

Aside from politics, we're both hardcore gamers too, and we're already saving to get PS4, and it doesn't stop us from giving our young kids the attention they deserve.

Aside that, we both have huge interest in other areas too, like science. There is always something to talk about.

I've always love men who are built, and my husband knows this.

Every weekend, we go running, and we help each stay fit. Sometimes I teases him that he should be a model, and I do take alluring pictures of him too.

I'm a super intelligent lady, (not bragging), so I ensured that my husband's intellect matched with mine before saying 'I do!'

We've been married for 5 years now, and the love and fun is still there. During leave, we always make it a duty to travel to another state, and see an interesting place.

A week vacation doesn't hurt, and it has a way to rekindle the love we have for each other.

When you marry your friend, you discover that your love is new every morning lol.

Work and children can't steal love away, that's an excuse people give to avoid talking about how they no longer find their partner attractive or interesting.

I don't want to talk about sex, cause ours is on a whole new level. Sex shouldn't be the traditional offing of light and missionary thrusting.

That's boring!!! It needs spicing every time or it becomes boring and a chore.

I wouldn't like to go into details, before some religious folks label us sinners.

You have work to do, and I'm sure you've gotten a cue from my write up. Wishing you more bliss in marriage.

Juliearth:
Rhoda dear, have you tried matching up to your husband's interest? Marriage is all about compromise and if you want this to work, you should find out what interests him (thank God it is not another woman) and then work your interest up on that.


The sex life is boring because (I think) you don't try to spice it up. On a very good day, deport the kids to their parents', prepare his best meal. Send him a nerve wrecking erotic message while he is at work, make him come running to you, let the first thing he would see to be you, stark naked and ravish the heck out of his body. Be spontaneous.


Cc goodheart02

Danhoys:
I could totally relate to you dear op, but I'm sure we're the lucky ones.

First of all, you married someone you love, someone you find both romantically and sexually attractive.

That's a plus.

When I and my hubby were passing through this turbulent phase, what helped was having similar interest.

I'm hugely into politics, and so is my husband. Trust me, there is always something to gist on when he's back from work.

Aside from politics, we're both hardcore gamers too, and we're already saving to get PS4, and it doesn't stop us from giving our young kids the attention they deserve.

Aside that, we both have huge interest in other areas too, like science. There is always something to talk about.

I've always love men who are built, and my husband knows this.

Every weekend, we go running, and we help each stay fit. Sometimes I teases him that he should be a model, and I do take alluring pictures of him too.

I'm a super intelligent lady, (not bragging), so I ensured that my husband's intellect matched with mine before saying 'I do!'

We've been married for 5 years now, and the love and fun is still there. During leave, we always make it a duty to travel to another state, and see an interesting place.

A week vacation doesn't hurt, and it has a way to rekindle the love we have for each other.

When you marry your friend, you discover that your love is new every morning lol.

Work and children can't steal love away, that's an excuse people give to avoid talking about how they no longer find their partner attractive or interesting.

I don't want to talk about sex, cause ours is on a whole new level. Sex shouldn't be the traditional offing of light and missionary thrusting.

That's boring!!! It needs spicing every time or it becomes boring and a chore.

I wouldn't like to go into details, before some religious folks label us sinners.

You have work to do, and I'm sure you've gotten a cue from my write up. Wishing you more bliss in marriage.

goodheart02:
Hmmmmmmm... Counselling counsellor