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Oge is that you. Yay oge so you have not changed

Iamafinegirl:
Did you tell them that when we are talking
“You are not serious is a big INSULT for you”
Did u tell then that when u say I like trump and I say “me I hater trump because of this and that” it is already an offense and you admitted that maybe it’s true you having issues with me airing opinions because you are boss or what I don’t know? That was one day holyspirit made you admit...so you knew you had the issue all this while but you would be shouting I am the person arguing (I never knew different opinions was argument. I heard it first from you).
Did you tell them a simple conversation or difference in opinion even on a gist is an insult to you?

Did you tell them I think of quality and wen a frying pan was needed I was saying the new expensive ones sef are not good, they burn. Second new is better in this case and we got a second new one? Because it’s not necessarily about cost but most times you won’t even be able to understand the depth of what I suggest sometimes.

Did you tell them I explained something one day that I paid money to so and so person to avoid a problem and you tried to give me another solution to have taken and I was like “me I don’t want wahala oo thats why I did what I did@ and because everything is fight and arguement for you you had stood up stormed out of the house because you felt i said I don’t want your wahala etc when all I was saying is that I didn’t want wahala if d issue boomeranged and so I didn’t even look for other means I just did d surest method in question” did u settle down to listen or because you never patient and always ready to call everything an argument or fight you had kickstarted your nature?

Did you tell them you wanted a car and I said this car is too expensive tell someone who we know imports to bring for you although the person could delay and may change the car you agreed on but I said do a written agreement with him so it would be cheaper for you and that way he won’t do anything funny ? And you would spend less and get a better grade or level like the one I got instead of paying for something lower at the same price as the one you paid for in town. Out of love, did you not turn it to fight and say I am wicked, and louded the issue and dramatised it as being evil.
Did you tell them you lied to me that you don’t drink or smoke?
But you drink and lied from foundation of a relationship to win a girl?
When I realised out of anger I said you lied to me you don’t drink but you are a drunkard.
Did your remember saying my father who doesn’t drink at all and you know fully is the drunkard
You have called me demonic woman
You have called me stupid woman
You have called me very stupid woman
When you were trying to win me and I was saying no no I didn’t want, leave me and you were ever persistent didn’t I tell you I am scared the depth of what you feel is more of obsessive not love?
Then I should to shout I would say cause am not a lier that you should leave me, is it by force etc etc which u refer to today and I do tell you then your pressure was too much and I didn’t like you which is normal to any woman who didn’t initially like a man that kept pressuring her...knocking her gate over and over on different occasions etc.

The list is endless but if we discussing and you don’t understand what I am saying and I am frustrated talking and I say “you no dey understand English” you just flare up that that is a big insult.
Things that aren’t insults you made them insults to defend yourself.
Did you tell them the most times we went to Shoprite then I use to be the one buying things...and you usually pick nothing. So why should Shoprite be so expensive if I buy water “nestle water” and other things from there even before we ever dated and you used to follow me there to win me and I never asked you to pay for me or use you as a toaster?

Did you tell them that you are building and I am also building because we had started the seperate building plans before we started dating?

And the months you spent all your salary not even on the building alone oo. Busy dashing people and at 3rd of the month you were broke and I was like how would we handle the house you said I am there and I held those months because that’s what a good woman would do. I know men can have extended family responsibilities but women too have and it’s still ideal to plan inclusive of extended family

Did you tell dem that wen you arrived at the counsellor we told them we had a 60k and 40k rule as at then but we just weren’t piling it in the same account and the pastor said ok we should do it as a joint account so no one would feel he is bringing all the money” and we stop spending differently. you told them it’s the pastor who proposed it or he told us that ok you people should just put the money in a seperate account and the wife asked what else is making you angry and you said contributions for repair should be added”.

Did you tell them that when your drivers license expired and there was a delay with joint account , you said you would keep some part of the contribution for where you stay but I must submit all my own contribution to your younger sisters account while you submit just some to her because you don’t trust me with money. The younger sister would now be the one dishing out the feeding money to me who is the one working? While you comfortably keep part of your contribution as a boss. Did you tell them I said you should give her all if i would also have to submit my own all to her since she is the chosen financial manager of our own institution so she can be dishing out money to both of us as at when due since distance is not a barrier to bank transfer so I would also monitor u because you don’t trust me with money and you want to monitor what I am eating when u aren’t even there with me.

Did you tell them you don’t live according to your means and you always borrowing and financing a lifestyle heavier than you inclusive of feeding (because you eat 70-80%) of all the food in the house? Did you tell them you have collected above 14 million naira loan and you haven’t completed any house you are building aside still having normal money people have used to complete their own houses.

Did you tell them you give them babes money and say send me your account number Cus I have seen it but to buy Apple extra for me out of a budget as per my love this one na for u from my pocket? Did you tell then as we came back from your location you had meeting with your babe asking if hostel has resumed and all by 6pm same day?

Did u tell them that I had been using clin-cap face cream, benzoxide peroxide face cream, and you have been using it with me and I have never said this cream is 2000 and the other is 1000 let’s contribute from budget but you bought olaybact for me 400 naira and you were balancing account for me?

Did you tell them I did a soap mix of 13000 naira to 15,000 naira and you have been lovingly using it With me since January and I have never in my life said your contribution for soap but you won’t even do it, if you did sef you would have been asking for money by now.

Did you tell them that even to buy apple while taking me to were you lived loveingly as per this is my new location has to be from the budget and that you couldn’t say babes aside this budget this for you?
Did you tell them I also contributed for the fuel as you were taking me lovingly to your new location? Location you dey go dey come yourself but as I go follow u go know d place I must pay for transport. I for kukuma just enter public transport. But I don’t even have a problem with that since that’s what he wanted. We just accounted for my path

Did you tell them...that I am not wasteful and you went ahead to do things you wanted to do and started blaming me for it. Like buying a new tv when your mum was around for them...knowing fully well I hardly look at a television and you did it for you and yours?
Did you tell them this girl who doesn’t contribute lovingly gives your sis money and also give your mum at least in the best way I can afford within my means but you no send me message so that’s my business you are not even seeing it. Na me send myself?
When last did you buy me a gift in a year and half? It was a wig when you were still trying to toast me. That was only when you were trying to win my heart.
Did you tell them you don’t do anything for me I don’t ask you for money for cloth, hair etc or my own fuel as I am a responsible adult and not a burden on a man which you know yourself. Did you let them know that the food you eat 70% of and the house repair you would do definitely if I am there or not is what you would always come and stand on my head for when we weren’t yet contributing in a joint account. Did you tell them you don’t take care of me and you are just so self centered about the feeding part because you eat more of the food? Yet I was still buying food oo no be say I go out and don’t bring anything to the house. I still buy meat, tomatoes, onion etc but maybe not just up to the person who consumes the 80%

Did u tell them d day you took me out and water was bought which was like two years ago was a special day I think maybe Valentine or my birthday or something and “I was only asking to be treated special”. As per today na correct day, spoil me na.
Did you tell them that I spoke of u buying some thing like blender or electronic because you need quality one to last. The cheap juicer bought did it last? No
Was there not finally a decision where the expensive “binatone” blender was picked because for some things, quality is important so it lasts?
Did you tell them I met condoms in your other room and you alleged it’s your boss that came to your house to use it? Because you couldn’t tell him no?
Did you tell them that if I want to do something you would use my car and if you want to do something you would use my car and I said love should cover all this there should be no differentiating of car for activities and you can use mine when you want and viceversal?

Did u tell them I said we shouldn’t keep this house n let me go back to my empty house since you moved to new location. Did I contribute to the rent or not and you said you can’t or won’t receive the contribution so I won’t come and say I contributed to rent in future?

The day he said I said drug was too expensive did he tell you he spent all his income that month already by 3rd or so due to poor planning and I used my income all for the month for food. Ofcourse I am sure he borrowed as usual for fuel for his car that month and maybe some extra things like suya etc you may want to eat and that’s why I couldn’t afford to buy that cream or is it even tablet I desperately needed quality type of drug to treat that ailment because it use to be stubborn when it comes but couldn’t afford it that month ?

In addition I forgot. The generator I would tell you to put on when wet had a generator house while some or most Nigerians just make a metal cover or so for their generator. So rain fell and the splash I could look wasn’t much and I would say it’s not like water entered this thing in its house like Dt just few splash on surface. I owned a generator I ran without it having issue before meeting you and while you where toasting me. I didn’t know I am unqualified to run a gen. I stopped touching your gen because it was complain upon complain or I am arguing with you by having a different opinion about ah it’s small splashes. Ofcourse if a gen was drenched would I with my full senses say lets put it on? When Nigerians keep their gen outside with normal cover. The days rain was so much and it drenched, we carried out the gen outside to air.

You would go out and meet the true definition of a Nigerian woman. Take care of her is what a man does, send her money for hair, dress, clothes etc.
And still buy food n do stuff.
You would remember I was never a burden on u
I hope you would have love enough for her to cover taking care of her abi u would start complaining and shouting on her too. I just hope you don’t faint then.

On the other hand I Wld meet the true definition of Nigerian man who knows he is to care at least and would appreciate that I am blessing and a good woman and not the typical African woman wen I also take up things at home. Simple

Just started reading and it was a twist when the lady talked about surfaced, truly its not proper judging when the story is from one side...

i hate to be the one to say this,but guy you are a bloody simp.ordinary nigerian girl na ehn day mumu you like dis?.

carlos1:
I hate selfish women aswear. Marriage is a partnership and should be so.

In my house while growing up, my mum ran our family so well and u will hardly hear Dem qurell.

Mum was a school principal and dad is a medical doctor and owns his own private clinic.

Mum buys bags of rice, beans, Large quantities of tubers of yams, potatoes and cartons of indomie, spaghetti, ton tomatoes etc all from her purse.

Popsi on the other hand payed our school fees, house rents and bought food stuffs too.

Mum never failed to buy new sets of clothes for popsi every month all from her own money because popsi was almost always busy at d clinic.

Popsi in turn drop cheques for mum which I helps her to cash most times and in most cases, mumsy fuels popsi's cars (popsi was earning more than mumsi Wella o).

That's partnership, and days d kind of marriage I pray to have.

These days, women (especially) Nigerian women have the mentality that ur money our money, my money is my Money. Very selfish mentality. May God almighty deliver me from such self centered ladies

Tufiakwa

This life get as it be, different families different orientation, but you saying your Mum did all that might actually not be true in the sense that, a single cheque she cashed out on is not a small money, she go see extra after purchasing all that she needs, what you should say is that your Mum was accountable and does not spend money on unnecessary things like some women will do these days.. Them not fighting and having small argument is not true either, they will not just let the children know what's up..

Nawao,women dey enjoy ooo
Somebody's child will decide to carry all your burdens just like that...
But in all these man,do you even remember your siblings and your parents,before throwing money around, which most times is like throwing money in the wind.
Some Jezebels have been released into the world.

I believe that, that guy lovethaa is the one behind this story. He has numerous acct and fabricate stories alot.

He have all the time in the world for such

Yoighaman:
I understand you but even if I sought them out in real life...what they have written would still be the narrative; the difference would be that one was in written form and the other verbal.

Please read both accounts very well, you will see through the both of them.

I think the babe is a very good girl, forget redpill here....If I were the OP, I will keep her.....the grass always look greener on the other side but in reality, it is seldom so.

Life can be funny, what one person doesn't appreciate is what another person is dying to have....las, las, this life nor balance.

Wrong @ first paragraph. I see through people so it's easier to sift the weed from the true plants. Everything written here online reeks of pseudo-perfection and I'm not so foolish as to believe just one account of the story. So, I would see the two separately and ask. Their body language, eye contact and aura sensitivities are all I need to know the truth. I'm rarely emotional so I say stuffs the way they are.

If you had seen what I've seen,you'd know that the most wicked people are not those who shout or rant but those who can smile and cry profusely while butchering you for pepper soup.

this is very funny, there are always three side to a story, the guys side the gals side and the truth

Iamafinegirl

Like I said to your fiance before reading your post: he's financially reckless whether it has to do with your influence or not. He's not financially disciplined, even going by his own submission.

You should create a separate thread so that people can see your own post too, many people didn't know that your side of the story was already here

Iamafinegirl:
That was just me saying I wonder why I can’t or couldn’t unravel d drama or help it . I used to think I had sense or was bright but I met issue higher than me.
Let me explain myself. So you get what I meant so you won’t say I am saying something else I am not meaning

You could be saying the truth and you could be lying but the way you both came online almost around the same time, bashing each other's stories is making me tend to the latter. If I were invested in you both, I would seek you out offline and hear both sides out. Then,I can make my own deductions but hey it's SM, so I'm not so invested.
Do have a nice day

bignero:
Wow

Sister.. Sincerely i was tired of reading.

But please learn.. If a human being man or woman boy or girl say "you arr not serious is an insult".. Please respect their wishes, you didn't grow up together and every ones back ground and growing up is different, stop forcing what you think is right on another.. Besides that, if you love some one, how hard is it to not use certain words that make them uncomfortable? Simply you don't love this guy.. Hes sensitive to the way you talk and your attitude to that is take it like that.. Which is wrong,

There tooo many did you tell them etc.. You're storing up too many things to come fight this guy.. And sincerely a lot of things you wrote are in consequential.. I didn't finish reading please.. Ill read and edit if necessary..

Long story short, you don't love the guy, you guys should go your separate ways..

Edited and read to the end..
He bought car same price for what he could have gotten from America, i want quality blender etc, bla bla bla.. The guy isn't perfect.. But you're petty and self centered sister. End of discussion

Zane2point4:
Honestly o, i hv bn in this trend since, i wan read am till finish..
So person wey no get money for quality blender shouldn't buy cheap one again??

You see all these ppl forming classy ontop person own money, i deh hate am.

If u want quality blender, use ur own money buy am na, na even her suppose buy since na kitchen utilities.

This is what happens wen women get money.

Folks like you are the reason people like her “you no dey understand English?”

The simple illustration about the blender is that she wanted to buy one that lasts longer (that’s actually the “quality” she seemed to be referring to) rather than a cheaper that would breakdown quickly (and she even gave an example of precisely that happening), which makes all kinds of good common sense - at least to rational people (which by definition would exclude a lot of “penny-wise-pound-foolish” Nigerians). Similarly, with the car, she was saying if they used the import guy connection, he could get a better car for cheaper than he paid for his current car. Not sure why anyone would think that’s not a good thing for a girlfriend to suggest - and yet if we all had a penny for every time a dude suggested where his girlfriend or wife should buy a guy, or a generator or some other equipment, we would all probably be billionaires.

Meanwhile, funny that you think her litany is “inconsequential” (and I am pretty sure that she was writing in a ‘stream of consciousness’ since it was a hurried response, unlike the dude who obviously sat down to compose his whine), but yet it was the dude who was complaining about where they bought water or drinks, which restaurants or lounges they would go to, and whether she preferred to shop at malls than the market.

Conversely, I agree with you that if someone is offended by one’s words and verbalizes it, the least the speaker should do is try hard to refrain from repeating same. However, curiously your counsel only goes ONE WAY. Instead you casually wave off her litany of complaints variously “inconsequential” and “petty”. In fact, you nary utter a single word about her complaints of being insulted and denigrated. But then again, I do not really blame most Nigerian men for this sort of mental blindness. They have been raised and immersed in a largely partrimonial, sexist and even misogynistic culture that it has become inherently ingrained and normalized in their skewered worldview. Accordingly, stripped of all intellectual pretensions, your advice basically boils down to: make yourself smaller, suppress your views and voice, and supplicate to the man.

Frankly, the sole useful counsel she should take from both your comments is that they both should move on.
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Rapfrick:
Read the lady response first

I saw it after my post, but notwithstanding he is overwhelmed already and he should take a break instead of all the complaints.
Many of us do neglect our person (bad habits) and focus on our partner's shortcoming.

Baawahala:
Nawao,women dey enjoy ooo
Somebody's child will decide to carry all your burdens just like that...
But in all these man,do you even remember your siblings and your parents,before throwing money around, which most times is like throwing money in the wind.
Some Jezebels have been released into the world.

You sound like one of those LAZY siblings who is always holding his greedy hands out instead of going to get your own...

Parents are a different thing (not least because Nigeria does have a social security system), but people have to understand the concept that married couples are beginning a new and DIFFERENT family. His couch is no longer your couch (or bed, for the lazy ones).
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Before I comment, I have consistently noticed some people forming mother counsellors on Nairaland and their constant duty is to bash only women. My question is, wetin women take offend you in your previous life?

Now, I have read both sides. I do not understand why I will just be in a relationship ( not marriage) and be having a JOINT account, please is this account with my spouse?
Then, some men wen dey never see your pant, they read meaning to everything the lady says even if she has good intentions. They are easily infuriated, always putting words in someone's mouth. You will then be tensed to relate with them. Marriage and relationship should be of conducive, peaceful and enjoyable one. Any relationship putting a strain on you instead of a blessing and you glowing is a red flag.
I hope true love exists between the 2 of you, not that ' I must date a working class lady' or just for fame sake, ' na me marry that manager for my office'.
You can both give yourselves one more try, but I see the man wanting more submission ( even in sex) from the lady while the lady is not an easy bone to crack be it subtly.
If he is already cheating, then it means he has lost faith in the relationship and the lady too must not allow one man to decide her marital fate.
Even inside this nairaland, potential husband and wife dey for both of una( lol) apart from looking outside the shores of Nigeria: Africans etc. It will end in praise. Sometimes it may be you were both just meant to be GOOD friends and nothing more ( be discerning).

Zane2point4:
Babe, man own pass, not only domestic but extended o.
I mean full blown responsible family man, no be OP level o.

E only pass for men who are trying to be what they are not...
One of the most adult things in life is to know when to say “NO”!
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MISSCONGENIALITY:
The girl to is financially stable and doesn't need to guys money. Did you read her side of the story?
Go back to page 2and read it.

I read it.

sharone21:
Before I comment, I have consistently noticed some people forming mother counsellors on Nairaland and their constant duty is to bash only women. My question is, wetin women take offend you in your previous life?

Now, I have read both sides. I do not understand why I will just be in a relationship ( not marriage) and be having a JOINT account, please is this account with my spouse?
Then, some men wen dey never see your pant, they read meaning to everything the lady says even if she has good intentions. They are easily infuriated, always putting words in someone's mouth. You will then be tensed to relate with them. Marriage and relationship should be of conducive, peaceful and enjoyable one. Any relationship putting a strain on you instead of a blessing and you glowing is a red flag.
I hope true love exists between the 2 of you, not that ' I must date a working class lady' or just for fame sake, ' na me marry that manager for my office'.
You can both give yourselves one more try, but I see the man wanting more submission ( even in sex) from the lady while the lady is not an easy bone to crack be it subtly.
If he is already cheating, then it means he has lost faith in the relationship and the lady too must not allow one man to decide her marital fate.
Even inside this nairaland, potential husband and wife dey for both of una( lol) apart from looking outside the shores of Nigeria: Africans etc. It will end in praise. Sometimes it may be you were both just meant to be GOOD friends and nothing more ( be discerning).

Because there are a lot of crude MISOGYNISTIC men on Nairaland, emboldened by anonymity...
Nonetheless, their misogyny is often merely a defensive mechanism to cope with being LOSERS in real-life.
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Roseey0:
Part of Op issue is konji

I can't imagine a guy I am supposedly dating pressing all this calculator for me.
60/40 nawah o

I honestly think 60/40 is fair enough.

bwambasolomon:
I have a fiancée whom I started dating about two years ago. We work together and we are on the same level, and earn the same salary. Each time we hanged out to just have fun, if we got to a place where prices were too expensive, I would say to her but this things are much cheaper elsewhere.

For example, we went to a place though inside the same premises, one part of the lounge sells bottled water for 250 while the other one sells bottled water for 500, she then suggested that we go to the part where water was sold for 500. Note that it was in the same premises and there was absolutely no difference between the two, it's not like one was VIP area and the other was not. We ended up going to the 500 naira side. All that we ate which of course was double the price, I paid.

Each time we went to the mall, we buy things normally. But there's something about malls which some of you may have noticed, certain things such as pots, plastic rubbers, electronics, and so on are usually unreasonably exorbitant. So I said it would be better for us not to buy things that were too expensive that we could get outside for cheaper prices, but we could buy other things whose prices were reasonable. The next thing she started saying was that I don't have class, it's classy people that buy such things.

So one day we went to a pharmacy in that same mall, because she wanted to get some drugs, the price they called for her was about three times what it was outside, so she said it was better to go outside to buy it. So I just told her that since she has class she should buy it now, the next thing she started insulting me, she gave me the insult of my life. That wasn't the only scenario, there were many other cases like that.

She had started to stay with me after a while. Every thing in the house belongs to me, and I made sure everywhere was conducive for us. Air conditioners every and so on, good house, good compound, surveillance cameras and so on. Initially I was shouldering all responsibilities like food, the car washer who washes the both of our cars, the security man, fuel in the generator, NEPA light, repairs in the house and so on.

Please note that we work in the same place and earn same amount. Sometimes when I was short of cash, since I knew that her own money would still be there, I would borrow from her to buy food stuffs and other miscellaneous, and pay back by next salary.

She contributed just about 10% of expenditures in the house which was majorly just food stuffs. Note that I buy much more foodstuffs 5 times more than what she buys.

That was not just it, the relationship was usually filled with arguments, I can hardly have a conversation with her, she would begin to argue.

I want to ask few questions here:
(1)please is there anyone who doesn't know that Egusi causes pimples for those who are prone to having pimples?
(2) Is there any one who doesn't know that if something is very hot, it is not advisable to put in the fridge?
(3) here anyone who doesn't know that garlic is medicinal?
(4) Is there any one who does not know that it is not advisable to put on a generator when it has been drenched by rain?

But this girl will argue with me, insisting that I must put on the gen when rain has beaten it, because apparently, it is not her property. And the fridge is also not hers which is why she won't care if it gets spoilt. In short there's usually too much argument over what is clear for everyone to see, thereby it is always difficult to have a conversation with her.

I was later transferred out of the state we were, so I decided that because of her, I won't take anything away from the house, I would buy everything I need in the new place I had been posted to. So I bought a bigger TV for the house we both shared and took the smaller one to my new place of posting. I bought my mattress, kitchen utensils, got an apartment, and bought every thing I needed in the new place. So now, I have most things in two pairs, just so she would be comfortable.

Please note that we aren't yet married, and I agreed to not having sex with her because that was she wanted, I respected that. The only thing I know we do was romance.

So I started insisting that it was high time for her to be responsible, that we can't both be working and she won't be buying reasonable amount of food stuff because I noticed that sometimes, she would go out and buy 3 packs of spaghetti, which doesn't make sense to me. She said her dad is the one that buys food stuffs in her house and her mum contributes for petty projects. But I am not her Dad, I have my own mind. Also note that she didn't volunteer to bring any amount for my project oo, because I won't want a woman to contribute 1 naira to the houses I am building. All I said was that she should be contributing reasonable amounts for food stuffs in the house. We hardly stay two weeks without fights, she must look for one insult or the other.

We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures. So me as the man would contribute 60 while she will contribute 40. Please note that rent was not inclusive, as I volunteered to pay for the rent in the house we were and for my apartment in my new place of posting.
Later on, when she began to see the brunt of the responsibilities that I used to bear she started saying we (Me and the Pastors) are forcing her to contribute. But I didn't know these Pastors before, that was my first time of meeting them, she was the one who knew them before me. But simply because they told her the truth, she started saying we are forcing her.

Please I need your honest opinions on this issue.
Thank you.

She is unbeliever and thank God you are seeing all this miracle she will perform in the future if you marry her.
Let her go and move on with your life.

Heathrow44:
Women are selfish but this ones own is overboard, selfishness (ur own is our own, and my own is my own)precedes the female gender, I swear that's y I like feminist to an extent, they are independent, if they like u, they like u, not just for the money cos they can take care of themselves, that's one part of feminism that women should internalize, feminism isn't bad at all yes I said it, but is.the.way. misandrists.has.hidden.under.the cover of.feminism.to.stir.men.hating among teenage girls dats d.problem, I had a cousin that came back from the UK and told me she's a feminist, I really started looking at her somehow and she was like" it seems i have a problem with feminism " after the conversation I knw me and her are now on different sides with our views but to say I hate feminism is overboard!

I don’t know you from a can of beans...
But before the end of your first sentence, I was already asking the same question.
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9jaRealist:
Meanwhile, Nigerian men are known for their truthfulness and probity...
Unfortunately, these are the sorts of crude MISOGYNY most Nigerian women have to deal with. SMH
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I see you got the memo.

Men, in general, don't have any flaws. They're usually perfect. We all know that they're not capable of making any wrong decisions in relationships. If there's any problem in a relationship, surely it has got to be the fault of the woman (who is inherently evil and selfish). Men are perfect by nature. They do nothing wrong.

If more women just stopped blaming these flawless, innocent creatures for every single thing that goes wrong in relationships, we'll begin to see more healthy, long-lasting relationships.

[quote author=Iamafinegirl post=99591653]Did you tell them that when we are talking
“You are not serious is a big INSULT for you”
Did u tell then that when u say I like trump and I say “me I hater trump because of this and that” it is already an offense and you admitted that maybe it’s true you having issues with me airing opinions because you are boss or what I don’t know? That was one day holyspirit made you admit...so you knew you had the issue all this while but you would be shouting I am the person arguing (I never knew different opinions was argument. I heard it first from you).

I like to work with evidence, this is the proof in the screenshots of our chats below

Downey:
She is unbeliever and thank God you are seeing all this miracle she will perform in the future if you marry her.
Let her go and move on with your life.

So she’s an “unbeliever” but he’s not?
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Guy dump the girl you can do better than that.
Stop dating liability useless girls..
It's 2021 things have changed guys must stop dating liability leeches that add no value to their lives.

When I and my boo go out to restaurant..we struggle to pay..as in when the waiter brings bill before I get it she gas gotten it and insist she will pay..that I would pay the next one..when she goes out and see something i like or may need..she buys it sometimes and i am like i dont want, don't buy me anything..but she still does that.. before you say ehn hn. So girls dey like that..she is not a broke ass useless self entitled stingy leeche 9ja girl..she is white!

The difference in mentality is like the distance between Nigeria and Canada..just so you know.

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bezimo:
Guy dump the girl you can do better than that.
Stop dating liability useless girls..
It's 2021 things have changed guys must stop dating liability leeches that add no value to their lives.

When I and my boo go out to restaurant..we struggle to pay..as in when the waiter brings bill before I get it she gas gotten it and insist she will pay..that I would pay the next one..when she goes out and see something i like or may need..she buys it sometimes and i am like i dont want, don't buy me anything..but she still does that.. before you say ehn hn. So girls dey like that..she is not a broke ass useless self entitled stingy leeche 9ja girl..she is white!

The difference in mentality is like the distance between Nigeria and Canada..just so you know.

What a sad self-commentary....smh
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VampireeM:
Lol. The poster and his imaginary babe responding are same person. Spinning tales by moonlight because no pastor will give such counsel to unmarried couples. Assuming its true, they are not glued to each other so there is an option of walking away and not disturbing the cyberspace

You are so funny. Na real imaginary babe..........

9jaRealist:


What a sad self-commentary....smh
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E pain you..get out

bwambasolomon:
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Dude, take down these PRIVATE COMMUNICATIONS...
It’s totally uncalled for, and frankly makes you look untrustworthy.
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Iamafinegirl:
You would go out and meet the true definition of a Nigerian woman. Take care of her is what a man does, send her money for hair, dress, clothes etc.
And still buy food n do stuff.
You would remember I was never a burden on u
I hope you would have love enough for her to cover taking care of her abi u would start complaining and shouting on her too. I just hope you don’t faint then.

On the other hand I Wld meet the true definition of Nigerian man who knows he is to care at least and would appreciate that I am blessing and a good woman and not the typical African woman wen I also take up things at home. Simple

When I read the OP's initial submission, I'll admit my initial thoughts were: ah, that his partner in question doesn't seem so cool. But I figured stories are half told. Then I read your reply and I concluded that, you (the babe) is not so bad after all. Honestly, I think both of you are good people. Maybe not good together, but good people as individuals.

Then, in your rebuttal, after reading the quoted sections above, and even after you highlighted your class of degree and your prestigious Alma mater, I can see that you give yourself too much credit. To the extent that whatever sacrifices that guy has made for the both of you, you see it as your entitlements and not a show of care on his part.

I mean, really, are you accusing that guy of lack of care or love for you? Someone that you said chased you for more than a year? Respected (rightfully) your decision to keep your virginity for years now? He chased you like he's obsessed but he's not behaving like someone who's after your body, does he?

He may not buy you random gifts every now and then, but I didn't read where you bought him Polo or treat him on his birthday and he refused to reciprocate.

And you went about how you're not a typical African Woman and bla bla. Let me ask, apart from your financial status, how's your outlook different from the typical African Woman you're so eager to define?

There's always something better outside if you look enough. Be we don't always deserve better.

bezimo:
E pain you..get out

Dude, I don’t have your obvious low self-esteem issues...
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