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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Yoighaman(m): 3:21pm On Mar 04
luminouz:

Wrong @ first paragraph. I see through people so it's easier to sift the weed from the true plants. Everything written here online reeks of pseudo-perfection and I'm not so foolish as to believe just one account of the story. So, I would see the two separately and ask. Their body language, eye contact and aura sensitivities are all I need to know the truth. I'm rarely emotional so I say stuffs the way they are.

If you had seen what I've seen,you'd know that the most wicked people are not those who shout or rant but those who can smile and cry profusely while butchering you for pepper soup.

OK, I get the angle you are looking at the issue from but since we do not have the privilege of meeting them in person; we go by what they both wrote.

Just as you use your discretion, I also use mine and I see the lady has a stronger point.

She never said she was unwilling to support him. The guy just thinks the lady can do better.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by luminouz(m): 3:23pm On Mar 04
Yoighaman:


OK, I get the angle you are looking at the issue from but since we do not have the privilege of meeting them in person; we go by what they both wrote.

Just as you use your discretion, I also use mine and I see the lady has a stronger point. She never said she was unwilling to support him.


I get your point.

Have a nice day bro
Re: I Broke Up With Her by JastSiryin(m): 3:25pm On Mar 04
CaveAdullam:
Even if you break up with her, she still won the game because she has benefited greatly from the parasitic relationship you willingly and consciously accepted to be the robust host.
I'm not in great doubt, I'm very sure she has plan B, C... on the row that she can swing to when you eventually decide to put a halt to the relationship.

It is difficult for you to break up because you've fallen victim to the sunk cost fallacy: " I have spent and done so much in this relationship, if I should exit now it will not be too beneficial. Let me wait a little longer maybe things will change for the better, after all patience is needed in any relationship". This fallacy you proved greatly by seeking a pastor/counsellor.

Another rope still anchoring you to such catastrophic relationship is the "illusion of sex". Despite your great contributions she still dangles the carrot before your eyes, satisfying you with empty romance. Here, she truly discovered your vulnerabilities and exploited it to the fullest. (Except she's a virgin and of which you've physically determined to be true). If not, your simping knows no limit. Even if she's a virgin, that doesn't guarantee your typical foolishness in the relationship. Who knows if she's not giving it out freely to one alpha player.

My friend, elevate and look pass the sunk cost fallacy and put a away the bait of sex aside. Even if the sex is later granted it still won't worth the wait or the expenses you've incurred. Sex at this time will be a useful method to keep you in her tenterhooks. So, braze up and get out of that relationship. Let her exit your house and take all your belongings to your present location.

In any relationship, the one with power is the one with little investments. Let a woman show genuine desire for you and choose you and she will greatly invest in such relationship.

Let go off that leech!

Thanks.
"In any relationship, the one with power is the one with little investments"... Dude that shxt went straight to the brain.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Nobody: 3:27pm On Mar 04
bwambasolomon:
I have a fiancée whom I started dating about two years ago. We work together and we are on the same level, and earn the same salary. Each time we hanged out to just have fun, if we got to a place where prices were too expensive, I would say to her but this things are much cheaper elsewhere.

For example, we went to a place though inside the same premises, one part of the lounge sells bottled water for 250 while the other one sells bottled water for 500, she then suggested that we go to the part where water was sold for 500. Note that it was in the same premises and there was absolutely no difference between the two, it's not like one was VIP area and the other was not. We ended up going to the 500 naira side. All that we ate which of course was double the price, I paid.

Each time we went to the mall, we buy things normally. But there's something about malls which some of you may have noticed, certain things such as pots, plastic rubbers, electronics, and so on are usually unreasonably exorbitant. So I said it would be better for us not to buy things that were too expensive that we could get outside for cheaper prices, but we could buy other things whose prices were reasonable. The next thing she started saying was that I don't have class, it's classy people that buy such things.

So one day we went to a pharmacy in that same mall, because she wanted to get some drugs, the price they called for her was about three times what it was outside, so she said it was better to go outside to buy it. So I just told her that since she has class she should buy it now, the next thing she started insulting me, she gave me the insult of my life. That wasn't the only scenario, there were many other cases like that.

She had started to stay with me after a while. Every thing in the house belongs to me, and I made sure everywhere was conducive for us. Air conditioners every and so on, good house, good compound, surveillance cameras and so on. Initially I was shouldering all responsibilities like food, the car washer who washes the both of our cars, the security man, fuel in the generator, NEPA light, repairs in the house and so on.

Please note that we work in the same place and earn same amount. Sometimes when I was short of cash, since I knew that her own money would still be there, I would borrow from her to buy food stuffs and other miscellaneous, and pay back by next salary.

She contributed just about 10% of expenditures in the house which was majorly just food stuffs. Note that I buy much more foodstuffs 5 times more than what she buys.

That was not just it, the relationship was usually filled with arguments, I can hardly have a conversation with her, she would begin to argue.

I want to ask few questions here:
(1)please is there anyone who doesn't know that Egusi causes pimples for those who are prone to having pimples?
(2) Is there any one who doesn't know that if something is very hot, it is not advisable to put in the fridge?
(3) here anyone who doesn't know that garlic is medicinal?
(4) Is there any one who does not know that it is not advisable to put on a generator when it has been drenched by rain?

But this girl will argue with me, insisting that I must put on the gen when rain has beaten it, because apparently, it is not her property. And the fridge is also not hers which is why she won't care if it gets spoilt. In short there's usually too much argument over what is clear for everyone to see, thereby it is always difficult to have a conversation with her.

I was later transferred out of the state we were, so I decided that because of her, I won't take anything away from the house, I would buy everything I need in the new place I had been posted to. So I bought a bigger TV for the house we both shared and took the smaller one to my new place of posting. I bought my mattress, kitchen utensils, got an apartment, and bought every thing I needed in the new place. So now, I have most things in two pairs, just so she would be comfortable.

Please note that we aren't yet married, and I agreed to not having sex with her because that was she wanted, I respected that. The only thing I know we do was romance.

So I started insisting that it was high time for her to be responsible, that we can't both be working and she won't be buying reasonable amount of food stuff because I noticed that sometimes, she would go out and buy 3 packs of spaghetti, which doesn't make sense to me. She said her dad is the one that buys food stuffs in her house and her mum contributes for petty projects. But I am not her Dad, I have my own mind. Also note that she didn't volunteer to bring any amount for my project oo, because I won't want a woman to contribute 1 naira to the houses I am building. All I said was that she should be contributing reasonable amounts for food stuffs in the house. We hardly stay two weeks without fights, she must look for one insult or the other.

We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures. So me as the man would contribute 60 while she will contribute 40. Please note that rent was not inclusive, as I volunteered to pay for the rent in the house we were and for my apartment in my new place of posting.
Later on, when she began to see the brunt of the responsibilities that I used to bear she started saying we (Me and the Pastors) are forcing her to contribute. But I didn't know these Pastors before, that was my first time of meeting them, she was the one who knew them before me. But simply because they told her the truth, she started saying we are forcing her.

Please I need your honest opinions on this issue.
Thank you.

Re: I Broke Up With Her by friendl: 3:28pm On Mar 04
Even my devil mbaise ex girlfriend wasn't like this ,....please l beg you ,..give her your conditions ,if she is not okay with it ,end the relationship ,...there are better girls everywhere
Re: I Broke Up With Her by SmellingAnus(m): 3:39pm On Mar 04
Iamafinegirl:

This is the lady in question have commented already look through in the thread
Having read what both of you wrote... Both of you don't deserve each other... You need a better man and he too needs a better woman... But another part of me still wished you guys settle cos there is no guarantee the next person will be better... But your guy try sha... You mean say since una dey date him never taste you... Few Nigerian men are that foolish , more reason you should just remain with the guy.... Nobody is perfect... Love is about two intelligent persons willing to be foolish to each other...

CC: bwambasolomon

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Yoighaman(m): 3:40pm On Mar 04
luminouz:


I get your point.

Have a nice day bro

You too.
Re: I Broke Up With Her by Regex: 3:42pm On Mar 04
RisenPhoenix1:


Can you imagine? I gave up on op even as I was reading his tale. This seems like one of the totally hopeless cases.

@op. No comment...at all.

He didn't even bleep her. He was waiting for the night of their honey moon. Bleh!

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Nobody: 3:44pm On Mar 04
HarunaWest:

It's obvious she's self centered.
She likes to reap and won't sow.
I don't understand the fact that you were transferred and instead of moving your belongings, you started purchasing new stuff.
Why are you trying so hard to please her when she doesn't really care @ all?
Don't marry a lady that insults you. That is the first sign of future trouble. I am very temperamental. If a lady insults me, she go collect.
So I avoid such ladies totally because their mouth wouldn't stop running. Very soon she will start fighting you. Na see finish cause all these cause she na your colleague so knows everything bout yah.
Buh whatever you decide, decide well.

Re: I Broke Up With Her by SarutobiEky(m): 3:50pm On Mar 04
bwambasolomon:
I have a fiancée whom I started dating about two years ago. We work together and we are on the same level, and earn the same salary. Each time we hanged out to just have fun, if we got to a place where prices were too expensive, I would say to her but this things are much cheaper elsewhere.

For example, we went to a place though inside the same premises, one part of the lounge sells bottled water for 250 while the other one sells bottled water for 500, she then suggested that we go to the part where water was sold for 500. Note that it was in the same premises and there was absolutely no difference between the two, it's not like one was VIP area and the other was not. We ended up going to the 500 naira side. All that we ate which of course was double the price, I paid.

Each time we went to the mall, we buy things normally. But there's something about malls which some of you may have noticed, certain things such as pots, plastic rubbers, electronics, and so on are usually unreasonably exorbitant. So I said it would be better for us not to buy things that were too expensive that we could get outside for cheaper prices, but we could buy other things whose prices were reasonable. The next thing she started saying was that I don't have class, it's classy people that buy such things.

So one day we went to a pharmacy in that same mall, because she wanted to get some drugs, the price they called for her was about three times what it was outside, so she said it was better to go outside to buy it. So I just told her that since she has class she should buy it now, the next thing she started insulting me, she gave me the insult of my life. That wasn't the only scenario, there were many other cases like that.

She had started to stay with me after a while. Every thing in the house belongs to me, and I made sure everywhere was conducive for us. Air conditioners every and so on, good house, good compound, surveillance cameras and so on. Initially I was shouldering all responsibilities like food, the car washer who washes the both of our cars, the security man, fuel in the generator, NEPA light, repairs in the house and so on.

Please note that we work in the same place and earn same amount. Sometimes when I was short of cash, since I knew that her own money would still be there, I would borrow from her to buy food stuffs and other miscellaneous, and pay back by next salary.

She contributed just about 10% of expenditures in the house which was majorly just food stuffs. Note that I buy much more foodstuffs 5 times more than what she buys.

That was not just it, the relationship was usually filled with arguments, I can hardly have a conversation with her, she would begin to argue.

I want to ask few questions here:
(1)please is there anyone who doesn't know that Egusi causes pimples for those who are prone to having pimples?
(2) Is there any one who doesn't know that if something is very hot, it is not advisable to put in the fridge?
(3) here anyone who doesn't know that garlic is medicinal?
(4) Is there any one who does not know that it is not advisable to put on a generator when it has been drenched by rain?

But this girl will argue with me, insisting that I must put on the gen when rain has beaten it, because apparently, it is not her property. And the fridge is also not hers which is why she won't care if it gets spoilt. In short there's usually too much argument over what is clear for everyone to see, thereby it is always difficult to have a conversation with her.

I was later transferred out of the state we were, so I decided that because of her, I won't take anything away from the house, I would buy everything I need in the new place I had been posted to. So I bought a bigger TV for the house we both shared and took the smaller one to my new place of posting. I bought my mattress, kitchen utensils, got an apartment, and bought every thing I needed in the new place. So now, I have most things in two pairs, just so she would be comfortable.

Please note that we aren't yet married, and I agreed to not having sex with her because that was she wanted, I respected that. The only thing I know we do was romance.

So I started insisting that it was high time for her to be responsible, that we can't both be working and she won't be buying reasonable amount of food stuff because I noticed that sometimes, she would go out and buy 3 packs of spaghetti, which doesn't make sense to me. She said her dad is the one that buys food stuffs in her house and her mum contributes for petty projects. But I am not her Dad, I have my own mind. Also note that she didn't volunteer to bring any amount for my project oo, because I won't want a woman to contribute 1 naira to the houses I am building. All I said was that she should be contributing reasonable amounts for food stuffs in the house. We hardly stay two weeks without fights, she must look for one insult or the other.

We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures. So me as the man would contribute 60 while she will contribute 40. Please note that rent was not inclusive, as I volunteered to pay for the rent in the house we were and for my apartment in my new place of posting.
Later on, when she began to see the brunt of the responsibilities that I used to bear she started saying we (Me and the Pastors) are forcing her to contribute. But I didn't know these Pastors before, that was my first time of meeting them, she was the one who knew them before me. But simply because they told her the truth, she started saying we are forcing her.

Please I need your honest opinions on this issue.
Thank you.
you are your own problem bros. What are you still doing with the lousy bitch for God sake? Don't you have a brain? You have money, you should be able to afford sense nau even if no be follow come

Guy give yourself brain...dismiss that lousy, leeching fool you call a fiancee... Na goat she be.

I rest my case.
Re: I Broke Up With Her by Roon9(m): 3:50pm On Mar 04
Iamafinegirl:

This is the lady in question have commented already look through in the thread


Lols you guys should calm down jor
my and I had this same issues. @ some point she was earning more than me and we kept having similar issues cos I felt she ought to be bringing more to the table. When she started bringing more, I regretted and doubled my hustle grin

Woman word dey pain me die ehn undecided

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by GreenDee(f): 3:51pm On Mar 04
lmao.. relationship wahala no dey finish, I don wash my hand comot from it.
Re: I Broke Up With Her by Supanovarr: 3:52pm On Mar 04
Arm chair psychologists just jump on any issue on Nairaland and talk utter trash!

It's always amazing to watch.

What is even more amazing is the fact that this whole narrative (the OP and his girlfriend's reply), is a fabrication.

Anyone with "a good eye" can see that both "accounts" (pun intended) was written by the same hand. It is practically impossible for two people, no matter how close to make the same kind of mistake in writing structure as both posts have demonstrated.

Also, someone who graduated from Imperial College London (as the lady claims) will not write or express themselves in such an incoherent and meaningless manner.

The writer is trying to sell you the story that they both work in a Bank or some financial institution of some sort yet communicates in such an uneducated manner one wonders if their bosses are morons.

Even the screenshots are meaningless.

A sham.

Next?

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Nobody: 3:52pm On Mar 04
HarunaWest:

It's obvious she's self centered.
She likes to reap and won't sow.
I don't understand the fact that you were transferred and instead of moving your belongings, you started purchasing new stuff.
Why are you trying so hard to please her when she doesn't really care @ all?
Don't marry a lady that insults you. That is the first sign of future trouble. I am very temperamental. If a lady insults me, she go collect.
So I avoid such ladies totally because their mouth wouldn't stop running. Very soon she will start fighting you. Na see finish cause all these cause she na your colleague so knows everything bout yah.
Buh whatever you decide, decide well.
since you are very temperamental learn not to provoke your woman,do you think its every woman you can beat and go scot free?you better think twice
Re: I Broke Up With Her by Nobody: 3:52pm On Mar 04
I suggest you go through the screenshots of chats between me and her.
There is no type of insult I haven't received from this girl
All that I ever did for her out of love, she has never appreciated it.
I show concern and stood by her even when she had a constantly recurring illnesses, until we got the treatment.
But this girl has never asked how I'm feeling each time I'm ill.
One one occasiona I was I'll, I had ulcer, the girl said , what's her business.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by TeeFriz: 3:58pm On Mar 04
Dude wtf are you still doing with this lousy, uncultured beech, nigga you wanna die young Run for your dear life mate... This one go turn una children against you in future.

She can't even construct a decent writeup man.

Dude, it's better to start all over than to be miserable for the rest of your life cause this lady is sure gonna make you miserable.

Haba!

Leave am make she go find her match.
Re: I Broke Up With Her by Roon9(m): 3:58pm On Mar 04
SmellingAnus:
Having read what both of you wrote... Both of you don't deserve each other... You need a better man and he too needs a better woman... But another part of me still wished you guys settle cos there is no guarantee the next person will be better... But your guy try sha... You mean say since una dey date him never taste you... Few Nigerian men are that foolish , more reason you should just remain with the guy.... Nobody is perfect... Love is about two intelligent persons willing to be foolish to each other...

CC: bwambasolomon

This comment is the best so far
My wife and I had/having much greater fights and I don't think I can trade her for the whole world
Re: I Broke Up With Her by Wittyduchess: 3:59pm On Mar 04
bwambasolomon:
I suggest you go through the screenshots of chats between me and her.
There is no type of insult I haven't received from this girl
All that I ever did for her out of love, she has never appreciated it.
I show concern and stood by her even when she had a constantly recurring illnesses, until we got the treatment.
But this girl has never asked how I'm feeling each time I'm ill.
One one occasiona I was I'll, I had ulcer, the girl said , what's her business.
You seem to be making effort to nail this relationship inside a coffin.


What is your motive for littering the thread with screenshots of your personal WhatsApp chats? Who are you trying to gather sympathy from? So that people will empathize with you by calling her all sorts of unprintable names? As if we haven't heard all that before, I can see that you want to throw a feast for all the bitter testosterone oozing humans on this forum ,ride on.

These people will drop their comments and move on to the next hot thread. Keep displaying your immaturity .



Before the whole screenshot thing I would have said there was still room for reconciliation, but I have a great dislike for guys who don't hold back in running to social media. You and Iamafinegirl should call off this relationship with immediate effect.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Nobody: 4:04pm On Mar 04
Roon9:



Lols you guys should calm down jor
my and I had this same issues. @ some point she was earning more than me and we kept having similar issues cos I felt she ought to be bringing more to the table. When she started bringing more, I regretted and doubled my hustle grin

Woman word dey pain me die ehn undecided

In my own case she doesn't earn more than me. We earn same amount, yet she leaves me to bear about 90% to the well being of our Union.
The only reason why this issues came up is because she was asked to contibute a more reasonable amount. So her plans was just to be depending on my money and not doing anything, because according to her that's what her dad does.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Baawahala: 4:05pm On Mar 04
9jaRealist:


You sound like one of those LAZY siblings who is always holding his greedy hands out instead of going to get your own... grin

Parents are a different thing (not least because Nigeria does have a social security system), but people have to understand the concept that married couples are beginning a new and DIFFERENT family. His couch is no longer your couch (or bed, for the lazy ones).
>



ARE THEY MARRIED?
Don't rush it man,
I am a giver,even as the last,I give my elder ones...
I always believe in charity begins at home...So if you are the type that neglect blood,in the chase of fantasies,then you need mental evaluation... Sorry is your case,at the end blood is thicker than water...
How can I be spending millions on a girlfriend, and my sister ask 1k from me,I will be telling her stories....
Shame on your like grin
Re: I Broke Up With Her by SmellingAnus(m): 4:06pm On Mar 04
Roon9:


This comment is the best so far
My wife and I had/having much greater fights and I don't think I can trade her for the whole world
exactly my point...That you guys fight doesn't mean both of you don't know how valuable you are to each other... Hence it's very possible both of you are not willing to let go of each other no matter what ...

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Babaken(m): 4:12pm On Mar 04
Iamafinegirl:
Did you tell them that when we are talking
“You are not serious is a big INSULT for you”
Did u tell then that when u say I like trump and I say “me I hater trump because of this and that” it is already an offense and you admitted that maybe it’s true you having issues with me airing opinions because you are boss or what I don’t know? That was one day holyspirit made you admit...so you knew you had the issue all this while but you would be shouting I am the person arguing (I never knew different opinions was argument. I heard it first from you).
Did you tell them a simple conversation or difference in opinion even on a gist is an insult to you?

Did you tell them I think of quality and wen a frying pan was needed I was saying the new expensive ones sef are not good, they burn. Second new is better in this case and we got a second new one? Because it’s not necessarily about cost but most times you won’t even be able to understand the depth of what I suggest sometimes.

Did you tell them I explained something one day that I paid money to so and so person to avoid a problem and you tried to give me another solution to have taken and I was like “me I don’t want wahala oo thats why I did what I did@ and because everything is fight and arguement for you you had stood up stormed out of the house because you felt i said I don’t want your wahala etc when all I was saying is that I didn’t want wahala if d issue boomeranged and so I didn’t even look for other means I just did d surest method in question” did u settle down to listen or because you never patient and always ready to call everything an argument or fight you had kickstarted your nature?

Did you tell them you wanted a car and I said this car is too expensive tell someone who we know imports to bring for you although the person could delay and may change the car you agreed on but I said do a written agreement with him so it would be cheaper for you and that way he won’t do anything funny ? And you would spend less and get a better grade or level like the one I got instead of paying for something lower at the same price as the one you paid for in town. Out of love, did you not turn it to fight and say I am wicked, and louded the issue and dramatised it as being evil.
Did you tell them you lied to me that you don’t drink or smoke?
But you drink and lied from foundation of a relationship to win a girl?
When I realised out of anger I said you lied to me you don’t drink but you are a drunkard.
Did your remember saying my father who doesn’t drink at all and you know fully is the drunkard
You have called me demonic woman
You have called me stupid woman
You have called me very stupid woman
When you were trying to win me and I was saying no no I didn’t want, leave me and you were ever persistent didn’t I tell you I am scared the depth of what you feel is more of obsessive not love?
Then I should to shout I would say cause am not a lier that you should leave me, is it by force etc etc which u refer to today and I do tell you then your pressure was too much and I didn’t like you which is normal to any woman who didn’t initially like a man that kept pressuring her...knocking her gate over and over on different occasions etc.

The list is endless but if we discussing and you don’t understand what I am saying and I am frustrated talking and I say “you no dey understand English” you just flare up that that is a big insult.
Things that aren’t insults you made them insults to defend yourself.
Did you tell them the most times we went to Shoprite then I use to be the one buying things...and you usually pick nothing. So why should Shoprite be so expensive if I buy water “nestle water” and other things from there even before we ever dated and you used to follow me there to win me and I never asked you to pay for me or use you as a toaster?

Did you tell them that you are building and I am also building because we had started the seperate building plans before we started dating?

And the months you spent all your salary not even on the building alone oo. Busy dashing people and at 3rd of the month you were broke and I was like how would we handle the house you said I am there and I held those months because that’s what a good woman would do. I know men can have extended family responsibilities but women too have and it’s still ideal to plan inclusive of extended family.

Did you tell dem that wen you arrived at the counsellor we told them we had a 60k and 40k rule as at then but we just weren’t piling it in the same account and the pastor said ok we should do it as a joint account so no one would feel he is bringing all the money” and we stop spending differently. you told them it’s the pastor who proposed it or he told us that ok you people should just put the money in a seperate account and the wife asked what else is making you angry and you said contributions for repair should be added”.

Did you tell them that when your drivers license expired and there was a delay with joint account , you said you would keep some part of the contribution for where you stay but I must submit all my own contribution to your younger sisters account while you submit just some to her because you don’t trust me with money. The younger sister would now be the one dishing out the feeding money to me who is the one working? While you comfortably keep part of your contribution as a boss. Did you tell them I said you should give her all if i would also have to submit my own all to her since she is the chosen financial manager of our own institution so she can be dishing out money to both of us as at when due since distance is not a barrier to bank transfer so I would also monitor u because you don’t trust me with money and you want to monitor what I am eating when u aren’t even there with me.

Did you tell them you don’t live according to your means and you always borrowing and financing a lifestyle heavier than you inclusive of feeding which is high (because you eat 70-80%) of all the food in the house? Did you tell them you have collected above 14 million naira loan and you haven’t completed any house you are building aside still having normal money people have used to complete their own houses.

Did you tell them you give them babes money and say send me your account number Cus I have seen it but to buy Apple extra for me out of a budget as per my love this one na for u from my pocket? Did you tell then as we came back from your location you had meeting with your babe asking if hostel has resumed and all by 6pm same day?

Did u tell them that I had been using clin-cap face cream, benzoxide peroxide face cream, and you have been using it with me and I have never said this cream is 2000 and the other is 1000 let’s contribute from budget but you bought olaybact for me 400 naira and you were balancing account for me?

Did you tell them I did a soap mix of 13000 naira to 15,000 naira and you have been lovingly using it With me since January and I have never in my life said your contribution for soap but you won’t even do it, if you did sef you would have been asking for money by now.

Did you tell them that even to buy apple while taking me to were you lived loveingly as per this is my new location has to be from the budget and that you couldn’t say babes aside this budget this for you?
Did you tell them I also contributed for the fuel as you were taking me lovingly to your new location? Location you dey go dey come yourself but as I go follow u go know d place I must pay for transport. I for kukuma just enter public transport. But I don’t even have a problem with that since that’s what he wanted. We just accounted for my part.

Did you tell them...that I am not wasteful and you went ahead to do things you wanted to do and started blaming me for it. Like buying a new tv when your mum was around for them...knowing fully well I hardly look at a television and you did it for you and yours?

Did you tell them this girl who doesn’t contribute lovingly gives your sis money and also give your mum at least in the best way I can afford within my means once in a while but you no send me message so that’s my business you are not even seeing it. Na me send myself?

Did you tell them when your mum came I told you on phone that I don’t think you should but extra mattress that I am not at home and you aren’t home and that the kids that joined could stay with your sister in her room and mummy use our bed? Or viceversal since they won’t stay for long? How have I made u spend or I have cautioned you instead in spendings and it has been insults or I am arguing?

When last did you buy me a gift in a year and half? It was a wig when you were still trying to toast me. That was only when you were trying to win my heart.
Did you tell them you don’t do anything for me, and I don’t ask you for money for cloth, hair etc or my own fuel as I am a responsible adult and not a burden on a man which you know yourself. Did you let them know that the food you eat 70% of and the house repair you would do definitely if I am there or not is what you would always come and stand on my head for when we weren’t yet contributing in a joint account. Did you tell them you don’t take care of me and you are just so self centered about the feeding part because you eat more of the food? Yet I was still buying food oo no be say I go out and don’t bring anything to the house. I still buy meat, tomatoes, onions etc but maybe not just up to the person who consumes the 80%.

Did u tell them d day you took me out and water was bought which was like two years ago was a special day I think maybe Valentine or my birthday or something and “I was only asking to be treated special”. As per today na correct day, spoil me na.
Did you tell them that I spoke of buying some thing like good blender or electronic because you need quality one to last. Since the former cheap one spoilt, The cheap juicer bought spoilt first day. Even for my father house like 5 spoilt blender dey and from experience we realised blenders spoil easily and more expensive one last more?

Was there not finally a decision where the expensive “binatone” blender was picked because for some things, quality is important so it lasts?

Did you tell them I met condoms in your other room and you alleged it’s your boss that came to your house to use it? Because you couldn’t tell him no?
Did you tell them that if I want to do something you would use my car and if you want to do something you would use your car and I said love should cover all this there should be no differentiating of car for activities and you can use mine when you want and viceversal?

Did u tell them I said we shouldn’t keep this house n let me go back to my empty house because I kuku get were I dey live na him welcome me come ooo. I didn’t even use to want to visit him initially just so purity is maintained. since you moved to new location. Did I contribute to the rent or not and you said you can’t or won’t receive the contribution so I won’t come and say I contributed to rent in future? Have you paid any extra rent other than the one you paid which covers the year you were present also? Is it that I don’t currently have a place I am staying or that I do and it was empty since I was with you?

The day he said I said drug was too expensive did he tell you he spent all his income that month already by 3rd or so due to poor planning and I used my income all for the month for food. Ofcourse I am sure he borrowed as usual for fuel for his car that month and maybe some extra things like suya etc you may want to eat and that’s why I couldn’t afford to buy that cream or is it even tablet I desperately needed quality type of drug to treat that ailment because it use to be stubborn when it comes but couldn’t afford it that month ?

In addition I forgot. The generator I would tell you to put on when wet had a generator house while some or most Nigerians just make a metal cover or so for their generator. So rain fell and the splash I could look wasn’t much and I would say it’s not like water entered this thing in its house like Dt just few splash on surface. I owned a generator I ran without it having issue before meeting you and while you where toasting me. I didn’t know I am unqualified to run a gen. I stopped touching your gen because it was complain upon complain or I am arguing with you by having a different opinion about ah it’s small splashes. Ofcourse if a gen was drenched would I with my full senses say lets put it on? When Nigerians keep their gen outside with normal cover. The days rain was so much and it drenched, we carried out the gen outside to air.

You would go out and meet the true definition of a Nigerian woman. Take care of her is what a man does, send her money for hair, dress, clothes etc.
And still buy food n do stuff.
You would remember I was never a burden on u
I hope you would have love enough for her to cover taking care of her abi u would start complaining and shouting on her too. I just hope you don’t faint then.

On the other hand I Wld meet the true definition of Nigerian man who knows he is to care at least and would appreciate that I am blessing and a good woman and not the typical African woman wen I also take up things at home. Simple
This one na part two.
Re: I Broke Up With Her by Roseey0(f): 4:18pm On Mar 04
Layormiii:
I honestly think 60/40 is fair enough.
For real shocked
Come down from that horse .
You can't start like this.

A man should be able to take care of himself plus extra 2 people before he can start planning on settling down. Don't go and drag somebody's daughter into a sharing formulae. Batch me till tomorrow; this is what is obtainable and not the fantasy lands most of you live in your heads.

When he has enough and you add yours as a working woman, life becomes good.

But you see these once that have not even married you and is pressing calculator for You, one chance.
Wait till you are married, you will understand that being a wife and a mother is a job role entirely and you deserve every pampering you need to keep your head high and continue to function.
Re: I Broke Up With Her by Roseey0(f): 4:25pm On Mar 04
bwambasolomon:


In my own case she doesn't earn more than me. We earn same amount, yet she leaves me to bear about 90% to the well being of our Union.
The only reason why this issues came up is because she was asked to contibute a more reasonable amount. So her plans was just to be depending on my money and not doing anything, because according to her that's what her dad does.

Go to married folks and ask them how marriage work. Real marriages. Not the one you read off romance section. You are far from ready

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by evil1: 4:28pm On Mar 04
Here's your thread dated February 22nd https://www.nairaland.com/6428882/make-wrong-marital-choice
meaning this thread is a couter response to yours.

Truth is both of you are not compatible and not ready.
I think if you both really want things to work out, both of you should use 6 months to work it out. Why I said 6 months is to see whose patient and more.

Thank me later.

Iamafinegirl:
Did you tell them that when we are talking
“You are not serious is a big INSULT for you”
Did u tell then that when u say I like trump and I say “me I hater trump because of this and that” it is already an offense and you admitted that maybe it’s true you having issues with me airing opinions because you are boss or what I don’t know? That was one day holyspirit made you admit...so you knew you had the issue all this while but you would be shouting I am the person arguing (I never knew different opinions was argument. I heard it first from you).
Did you tell them a simple conversation or difference in opinion even on a gist is an insult to you?

Did you tell them I think of quality and wen a frying pan was needed I was saying the new expensive ones sef are not good, they burn. Second new is better in this case and we got a second new one? Because it’s not necessarily about cost but most times you won’t even be able to understand the depth of what I suggest sometimes.

Did you tell them I explained something one day that I paid money to so and so person to avoid a problem and you tried to give me another solution to have taken and I was like “me I don’t want wahala oo thats why I did what I did@ and because everything is fight and arguement for you you had stood up stormed out of the house because you felt i said I don’t want your wahala etc when all I was saying is that I didn’t want wahala if d issue boomeranged and so I didn’t even look for other means I just did d surest method in question” did u settle down to listen or because you never patient and always ready to call everything an argument or fight you had kickstarted your nature?

Did you tell them you wanted a car and I said this car is too expensive tell someone who we know imports to bring for you although the person could delay and may change the car you agreed on but I said do a written agreement with him so it would be cheaper for you and that way he won’t do anything funny ? And you would spend less and get a better grade or level like the one I got instead of paying for something lower at the same price as the one you paid for in town. Out of love, did you not turn it to fight and say I am wicked, and louded the issue and dramatised it as being evil.
Did you tell them you lied to me that you don’t drink or smoke?
But you drink and lied from foundation of a relationship to win a girl?
When I realised out of anger I said you lied to me you don’t drink but you are a drunkard.
Did your remember saying my father who doesn’t drink at all and you know fully is the drunkard
You have called me demonic woman
You have called me stupid woman
You have called me very stupid woman
When you were trying to win me and I was saying no no I didn’t want, leave me and you were ever persistent didn’t I tell you I am scared the depth of what you feel is more of obsessive not love?
Then I should to shout I would say cause am not a lier that you should leave me, is it by force etc etc which u refer to today and I do tell you then your pressure was too much and I didn’t like you which is normal to any woman who didn’t initially like a man that kept pressuring her...knocking her gate over and over on different occasions etc.

The list is endless but if we discussing and you don’t understand what I am saying and I am frustrated talking and I say “you no dey understand English” you just flare up that that is a big insult.
Things that aren’t insults you made them insults to defend yourself.
Did you tell them the most times we went to Shoprite then I use to be the one buying things...and you usually pick nothing. So why should Shoprite be so expensive if I buy water “nestle water” and other things from there even before we ever dated and you used to follow me there to win me and I never asked you to pay for me or use you as a toaster?

Did you tell them that you are building and I am also building because we had started the seperate building plans before we started dating?

And the months you spent all your salary not even on the building alone oo. Busy dashing people and at 3rd of the month you were broke and I was like how would we handle the house you said I am there and I held those months because that’s what a good woman would do. I know men can have extended family responsibilities but women too have and it’s still ideal to plan inclusive of extended family.

Did you tell dem that wen you arrived at the counsellor we told them we had a 60k and 40k rule as at then but we just weren’t piling it in the same account and the pastor said ok we should do it as a joint account so no one would feel he is bringing all the money” and we stop spending differently. you told them it’s the pastor who proposed it or he told us that ok you people should just put the money in a seperate account and the wife asked what else is making you angry and you said contributions for repair should be added”.

Did you tell them that when your drivers license expired and there was a delay with joint account , you said you would keep some part of the contribution for where you stay but I must submit all my own contribution to your younger sisters account while you submit just some to her because you don’t trust me with money. The younger sister would now be the one dishing out the feeding money to me who is the one working? While you comfortably keep part of your contribution as a boss. Did you tell them I said you should give her all if i would also have to submit my own all to her since she is the chosen financial manager of our own institution so she can be dishing out money to both of us as at when due since distance is not a barrier to bank transfer so I would also monitor u because you don’t trust me with money and you want to monitor what I am eating when u aren’t even there with me.

Did you tell them you don’t live according to your means and you always borrowing and financing a lifestyle heavier than you inclusive of feeding which is high (because you eat 70-80%) of all the food in the house? Did you tell them you have collected above 14 million naira loan and you haven’t completed any house you are building aside still having normal money people have used to complete their own houses.

Did you tell them you give them babes money and say send me your account number Cus I have seen it but to buy Apple extra for me out of a budget as per my love this one na for u from my pocket? Did you tell then as we came back from your location you had meeting with your babe asking if hostel has resumed and all by 6pm same day?

Did u tell them that I had been using clin-cap face cream, benzoxide peroxide face cream, and you have been using it with me and I have never said this cream is 2000 and the other is 1000 let’s contribute from budget but you bought olaybact for me 400 naira and you were balancing account for me?

Did you tell them I did a soap mix of 13000 naira to 15,000 naira and you have been lovingly using it With me since January and I have never in my life said your contribution for soap but you won’t even do it, if you did sef you would have been asking for money by now.

Did you tell them that even to buy apple while taking me to were you lived loveingly as per this is my new location has to be from the budget and that you couldn’t say babes aside this budget this for you?
Did you tell them I also contributed for the fuel as you were taking me lovingly to your new location? Location you dey go dey come yourself but as I go follow u go know d place I must pay for transport. I for kukuma just enter public transport. But I don’t even have a problem with that since that’s what he wanted. We just accounted for my part.

Did you tell them...that I am not wasteful and you went ahead to do things you wanted to do and started blaming me for it. Like buying a new tv when your mum was around for them...knowing fully well I hardly look at a television and you did it for you and yours?

Did you tell them this girl who doesn’t contribute lovingly gives your sis money and also give your mum at least in the best way I can afford within my means once in a while but you no send me message so that’s my business you are not even seeing it. Na me send myself?

Did you tell them when your mum came I told you on phone that I don’t think you should but extra mattress that I am not at home and you aren’t home and that the kids that joined could stay with your sister in her room and mummy use our bed? Or viceversal since they won’t stay for long? How have I made u spend or I have cautioned you instead in spendings and it has been insults or I am arguing?

When last did you buy me a gift in a year and half? It was a wig when you were still trying to toast me. That was only when you were trying to win my heart.
Did you tell them you don’t do anything for me, and I don’t ask you for money for cloth, hair etc or my own fuel as I am a responsible adult and not a burden on a man which you know yourself. Did you let them know that the food you eat 70% of and the house repair you would do definitely if I am there or not is what you would always come and stand on my head for when we weren’t yet contributing in a joint account. Did you tell them you don’t take care of me and you are just so self centered about the feeding part because you eat more of the food? Yet I was still buying food oo no be say I go out and don’t bring anything to the house. I still buy meat, tomatoes, onions etc but maybe not just up to the person who consumes the 80%.

Did u tell them d day you took me out and water was bought which was like two years ago was a special day I think maybe Valentine or my birthday or something and “I was only asking to be treated special”. As per today na correct day, spoil me na.
Did you tell them that I spoke of buying some thing like good blender or electronic because you need quality one to last. Since the former cheap one spoilt, The cheap juicer bought spoilt first day. Even for my father house like 5 spoilt blender dey and from experience we realised blenders spoil easily and more expensive one last more?

Was there not finally a decision where the expensive “binatone” blender was picked because for some things, quality is important so it lasts?

Did you tell them I met condoms in your other room and you alleged it’s your boss that came to your house to use it? Because you couldn’t tell him no?
Did you tell them that if I want to do something you would use my car and if you want to do something you would use your car and I said love should cover all this there should be no differentiating of car for activities and you can use mine when you want and viceversal?

Did u tell them I said we shouldn’t keep this house n let me go back to my empty house because I kuku get were I dey live na him welcome me come ooo. I didn’t even use to want to visit him initially just so purity is maintained. since you moved to new location. Did I contribute to the rent or not and you said you can’t or won’t receive the contribution so I won’t come and say I contributed to rent in future? Have you paid any extra rent other than the one you paid which covers the year you were present also? Is it that I don’t currently have a place I am staying or that I do and it was empty since I was with you?

The day he said I said drug was too expensive did he tell you he spent all his income that month already by 3rd or so due to poor planning and I used my income all for the month for food. Ofcourse I am sure he borrowed as usual for fuel for his car that month and maybe some extra things like suya etc you may want to eat and that’s why I couldn’t afford to buy that cream or is it even tablet I desperately needed quality type of drug to treat that ailment because it use to be stubborn when it comes but couldn’t afford it that month ?

In addition I forgot. The generator I would tell you to put on when wet had a generator house while some or most Nigerians just make a metal cover or so for their generator. So rain fell and the splash I could look wasn’t much and I would say it’s not like water entered this thing in its house like Dt just few splash on surface. I owned a generator I ran without it having issue before meeting you and while you where toasting me. I didn’t know I am unqualified to run a gen. I stopped touching your gen because it was complain upon complain or I am arguing with you by having a different opinion about ah it’s small splashes. Ofcourse if a gen was drenched would I with my full senses say lets put it on? When Nigerians keep their gen outside with normal cover. The days rain was so much and it drenched, we carried out the gen outside to air.

You would go out and meet the true definition of a Nigerian woman. Take care of her is what a man does, send her money for hair, dress, clothes etc.
And still buy food n do stuff.
You would remember I was never a burden on u
I hope you would have love enough for her to cover taking care of her abi u would start complaining and shouting on her too. I just hope you don’t faint then.

On the other hand I Wld meet the true definition of Nigerian man who knows he is to care at least and would appreciate that I am blessing and a good woman and not the typical African woman wen I also take up things at home. Simple

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by dollytino4real(f): 4:29pm On Mar 04
SmellingAnus:
exactly my point...That you guys fight doesn't mean both of you don't know how valuable you are to each other... Hence it's very possible both of you are not willing to let go of each other no matter what ...
is this relationship do or die affair? or wat is involved dat he is not telling us
Re: I Broke Up With Her by ogbonnachrys: 4:33pm On Mar 04
OP, you have been chopped. In Igbo '' e riela gi''.

All these years no sex, so na only breast you dey suck, chaii this reminds me of my relationship when i was in school, you go suck breast tire. Mine was a virgin sha but i doubt if yours is.

From your write up, you na big boy cos you earn good salary, so what was she doing with her own money. Another guyman might be spending the money. This gender sef.

Count your loss and move bro but make sure you collect all your properties in her posession.
Re: I Broke Up With Her by SmellingAnus(m): 4:37pm On Mar 04
dollytino4real:
is this relationship do or die affair? or wat is involved dat he is not telling us
my first comment on this page was for the person that started this thread... This other comment you saw and quoted is for a married guy and his wife...

It looks like the two persons involved in this matter/thread has already broken up judging from the comments of the girlfriend...
Re: I Broke Up With Her by DenreleDave(m): 4:41pm On Mar 04
Iamafinegirl:


Looooool grin
It is my dear
Bring chair.
He can say it’s wrong to say my dear on foreign thread oo n say this was part of what is complaining of abeg that I use d word “friends” in general to people and I should be saying “my acquaintance” is doing ...... instead of using d word friend.

Stranger sir, sit

Did he truly move from where he is staying to move to another place and left the stuffs in the room for u..


Why are u having problem contributing 60 40

Did u truly told him dt he doesn't have class bcoz of 500 table water..

Did u leave to go live with a man u r not married with??
Re: I Broke Up With Her by dollytino4real(f): 4:43pm On Mar 04
SmellingAnus:
my first comment on this page was for the person that started this thread... This other comment you saw and quoted is for a married guy and his wife...

It looks like the two persons involved in this matter/thread has already broken up judging from the comments of the girlfriend...
beta they break up abi break down sef!
Re: I Broke Up With Her by ObaIgwe1: 4:44pm On Mar 04
Iamafinegirl:

Nope. I was a virgin waiting to Bleep only him as we were planing a wedding this year.
I was scared he would use and dump me like most men do

Scared he would "use" and dump you.... So that is the reason for your no sex before marriage?

There are many reasons not to have sex before marriage, but if fear of unknown is your main one, then it's the wrong reason. Also where do you girls got this impression of "sex" = "being used" from? Sex is to be enjoyed by both parties and not a favour for one.

bwambasolomon:
I suggest you go through the screenshots of chats between me and her.
There is no type of insult I haven't received from this girl
All that I ever did for her out of love, she has never appreciated it.
I show concern and stood by her even when she had a constantly recurring illnesses, until we got the treatment.
But this girl has never asked how I'm feeling each time I'm ill.
One one occasiona I was I'll, I had ulcer, the girl said , what's her business.

Having gone through your posts, you both are much more blessed than the little silly fights you are having.

Look, if you both are tired already, just call it quit and stop this open charade of shameless fight online. You both wanna make me ask for your ages...

But if you two really love each other and wanna keep this relationship, I will advise you stop living together till you are married and ready to have sex and share responsibilities like real couples do. At this stage, you both don't owe each other anything, whatever done for each other should be seen as gifts and not obligation or an entitlement.

Seriously, you both need to drop your egos, entitlement mentalities and grow up.
Re: I Broke Up With Her by loveymom(f): 4:44pm On Mar 04
bwambasolomon:


In my own case she doesn't earn more than me. We earn same amount, yet she leaves me to bear about 90% to the well being of our Union.
The only reason why this issues came up is because she was asked to contibute a more reasonable amount. So her plans was just to be depending on my money and not doing anything, because according to her that's what her dad does.

Why not counter her response on this post about the things you did not tell us rather than showing us quarreling chats about you asking her to pay you #500, #200 and #700?

The both of you get your flaws so don’t come here to demonize her undecided

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