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[quote author=bwambasolomon post=99649468][/quote]Who is the petty one here, someone asking me for 1k is calling someone petty.

DrFunmisticGlow:
for people to move on. It is important to have CLOSURE.

One way is to air out their grievances. If flogging a dead horse is what is needed to move on, then so be it

Stop taking sides stupidly.

Ginaz:
Stop taking sides stupidly.

stop sounding so self righteous. It's disgusting.

DrFunmisticGlow:
stop sounding so self righteous. It's disgusting.

Disgusting like your one sidedness.

Ginaz:
Disgusting like your one sidedness.

Aunty what is your own? You sound more immature than the lady you're condemning.

Bwambasolomon and Iamafinegirl
There's so much shit out here already, this is messed up. You both are immature.
Iamafinegirl you honestly have selfish traits that you need to work on and bwambasolomon you are proud and have a big ego that makes you unable to take corrections.

Generally, as a man, it's quite petty for you to be settling 500naira and 250 naira with your fiancée, it's a major source of the insult you're receiving and even if your woman earns more than you, she shouldn't be under any law to contribute a certain percentage unless you're ready to wash a certain percentage of her clothes as well cus if she's entitled to 40% running costs, you must share in 40% house chores as well. Nobody is a slave to the other.

Even if you meet another woman 10times better than Iamafinegirl and you start arguing over 400naira for apples then she will also insult you.

You both can save yourselves further insult by leaving the issues here or you can further drag yourselves .

Peace.

Esales:
Aunty what is your own? You sound more immature than the op you're condemning

Uncle, if you're not an hypocrite, you would see where she started an argument with me minding my own business.

Your immaturity won't let you see that .

Ginaz:
Uncle, if you're not an hypocrite, you would see where she started an argument with me minding my own business.

Your immaturity won't let you see that .

You've been dragging Iamafinegirl as well and I'm sure you misunderstood a certain comment thinking she was insulting you not knowing she was attacking the op.

As you can see, I'm not insulting you cus I have a very good sense of comprehension. If you quote me further to quarrel, you'll be duly ignored

I have come to realize that finding a good wife is only possible with God's grace. Some men believe a working class lady would make a better wife unfortunately she might turn out to be a self-centered idiot while on the other hand you got married to a full house wife, she might become a liability or develop an entitlement mentality. Nigeria ladies what exactly are your plans toward humanity?

Esales:
You've been dragging Iamafinegirl as well and I'm sure you misunderstood a certain comment thinking she was insulting you not knowing she was attacking the op.

As you can see, I'm not insulting you cus I have a very good sense of comprehension. If you quote me further to quarrel, you'll be duly ignored

I hate hypocrisy. Go up there and read the chats and banters to see how she suddenly turned it to a toxic banter.

You came at me like I was the one at fault , between me and you, you are clearly the one immature.

You're totally ignored too , you hypocrite ! You should have called her too na if you weren't stinking like the hypocrite you are.

Iamafinegirl:
Did you tell them that when we are talking
“You are not serious is a big INSULT for you”
Did u tell then that when u say I like trump and I say “me I hater trump because of this and that” it is already an offense and you admitted that maybe it’s true you having issues with me airing opinions because you are boss or what I don’t know? That was one day holyspirit made you admit...so you knew you had the issue all this while but you would be shouting I am the person arguing (I never knew different opinions was argument. I heard it first from you).
Did you tell them a simple conversation or difference in opinion even on a gist is an insult to you?

Did you tell them I think of quality and wen a frying pan was needed I was saying the new expensive ones sef are not good, they burn. Second new is better in this case and we got a second new one? Because it’s not necessarily about cost but most times you won’t even be able to understand the depth of what I suggest sometimes.

Did you tell them I explained something one day that I paid money to so and so person to avoid a problem and you tried to give me another solution to have taken and I was like “me I don’t want wahala oo thats why I did what I did@ and because everything is fight and arguement for you you had stood up stormed out of the house because you felt i said I don’t want your wahala etc when all I was saying is that I didn’t want wahala if d issue boomeranged and so I didn’t even look for other means I just did d surest method in question” did u settle down to listen or because you never patient and always ready to call everything an argument or fight you had kickstarted your nature?

Did you tell them you wanted a car and I said this car is too expensive tell someone who we know imports to bring for you although the person could delay and may change the car you agreed on but I said do a written agreement with him so it would be cheaper for you and that way he won’t do anything funny ? And you would spend less and get a better grade or level like the one I got instead of paying for something lower at the same price as the one you paid for in town. Out of love, did you not turn it to fight and say I am wicked, and louded the issue and dramatised it as being evil.
Did you tell them you lied to me that you don’t drink or smoke?
But you drink and lied from foundation of a relationship to win a girl?
When I realised out of anger I said you lied to me you don’t drink but you are a drunkard.
Did your remember saying my father who doesn’t drink at all and you know fully is the drunkard
You have called me demonic woman
You have called me stupid woman
You have called me very stupid woman
When you were trying to win me and I was saying no no I didn’t want, leave me and you were ever persistent didn’t I tell you I am scared the depth of what you feel is more of obsessive not love?
Then I should to shout I would say cause am not a lier that you should leave me, is it by force etc etc which u refer to today and I do tell you then your pressure was too much and I didn’t like you which is normal to any woman who didn’t initially like a man that kept pressuring her...knocking her gate over and over on different occasions etc.

The list is endless but if we discussing and you don’t understand what I am saying and I am frustrated talking and I say “you no dey understand English” you just flare up that that is a big insult.
Things that aren’t insults you made them insults to defend yourself.
Did you tell them the most times we went to Shoprite then I use to be the one buying things...and you usually pick nothing. So why should Shoprite be so expensive if I buy water “nestle water” and other things from there even before we ever dated and you used to follow me there to win me and I never asked you to pay for me or use you as a toaster?

Did you tell them that you are building and I am also building because we had started the seperate building plans before we started dating?

And the months you spent all your salary not even on the building alone oo. Busy dashing people and at 3rd of the month you were broke and I was like how would we handle the house you said I am there and I held those months because that’s what a good woman would do. I know men can have extended family responsibilities but women too have and it’s still ideal to plan inclusive of extended family.

Did you tell dem that wen you arrived at the counsellor we told them we had a 60k and 40k rule as at then but we just weren’t piling it in the same account and the pastor said ok we should do it as a joint account so no one would feel he is bringing all the money” and we stop spending differently. you told them it’s the pastor who proposed it or he told us that ok you people should just put the money in a seperate account and the wife asked what else is making you angry and you said contributions for repair should be added”.

Did you tell them that when your drivers license expired and there was a delay with joint account , you said you would keep some part of the contribution for where you stay but I must submit all my own contribution to your younger sisters account while you submit just some to her because you don’t trust me with money. The younger sister would now be the one dishing out the feeding money to me who is the one working? While you comfortably keep part of your contribution as a boss. Did you tell them I said you should give her all if i would also have to submit my own all to her since she is the chosen financial manager of our own institution so she can be dishing out money to both of us as at when due since distance is not a barrier to bank transfer so I would also monitor u because you don’t trust me with money and you want to monitor what I am eating when u aren’t even there with me.

Did you tell them you don’t live according to your means and you always borrowing and financing a lifestyle heavier than you inclusive of feeding which is high (because you eat 70-80%) of all the food in the house? Did you tell them you have collected above 14 million naira loan and you haven’t completed any house you are building aside still having normal money people have used to complete their own houses.

Did you tell them you give them babes money and say send me your account number Cus I have seen it but to buy Apple extra for me out of a budget as per my love this one na for u from my pocket? Did you tell then as we came back from your location you had meeting with your babe asking if hostel has resumed and all by 6pm same day?

Did u tell them that I had been using clin-cap face cream, benzoxide peroxide face cream, and you have been using it with me and I have never said this cream is 2000 and the other is 1000 let’s contribute from budget but you bought olaybact for me 400 naira and you were balancing account for me?

Did you tell them I did a soap mix of 13000 naira to 15,000 naira and you have been lovingly using it With me since January and I have never in my life said your contribution for soap but you won’t even do it, if you did sef you would have been asking for money by now.

Did you tell them that even to buy apple while taking me to were you lived loveingly as per this is my new location has to be from the budget and that you couldn’t say babes aside this budget this for you?
Did you tell them I also contributed for the fuel as you were taking me lovingly to your new location? Location you dey go dey come yourself but as I go follow u go know d place I must pay for transport. I for kukuma just enter public transport. But I don’t even have a problem with that since that’s what he wanted. We just accounted for my part.

Did you tell them...that I am not wasteful and you went ahead to do things you wanted to do and started blaming me for it. Like buying a new tv when your mum was around for them...knowing fully well I hardly look at a television and you did it for you and yours?

Did you tell them this girl who doesn’t contribute lovingly gives your sis money and also give your mum at least in the best way I can afford within my means once in a while but you no send me message so that’s my business you are not even seeing it. Na me send myself?

Did you tell them when your mum came I told you on phone that I don’t think you should but extra mattress that I am not at home and you aren’t home and that the kids that joined could stay with your sister in her room and mummy use our bed? Or viceversal since they won’t stay for long? How have I made u spend or I have cautioned you instead in spendings and it has been insults or I am arguing?

When last did you buy me a gift in a year and half? It was a wig when you were still trying to toast me. That was only when you were trying to win my heart.
Did you tell them you don’t do anything for me, and I don’t ask you for money for cloth, hair etc or my own fuel as I am a responsible adult and not a burden on a man which you know yourself. Did you let them know that the food you eat 70% of and the house repair you would do definitely if I am there or not is what you would always come and stand on my head for when we weren’t yet contributing in a joint account. Did you tell them you don’t take care of me and you are just so self centered about the feeding part because you eat more of the food? Yet I was still buying food oo no be say I go out and don’t bring anything to the house. I still buy meat, tomatoes, onions etc but maybe not just up to the person who consumes the 80%.

Did u tell them d day you took me out and water was bought which was like two years ago was a special day I think maybe Valentine or my birthday or something and “I was only asking to be treated special”. As per today na correct day, spoil me na.
Did you tell them that I spoke of buying some thing like good blender or electronic because you need quality one to last. Since the former cheap one spoilt, The cheap juicer bought spoilt first day. Even for my father house like 5 spoilt blender dey and from experience we realised blenders spoil easily and more expensive one last more?

Was there not finally a decision where the expensive “binatone” blender was picked because for some things, quality is important so it lasts?

Did you tell them I met condoms in your other room and you alleged it’s your boss that came to your house to use it? Because you couldn’t tell him no?
Did you tell them that if I want to do something you would use my car and if you want to do something you would use your car and I said love should cover all this there should be no differentiating of car for activities and you can use mine when you want and viceversal?

Did u tell them I said we shouldn’t keep this house n let me go back to my empty house because I kuku get were I dey live na him welcome me come ooo. I didn’t even use to want to visit him initially just so purity is maintained. since you moved to new location. Did I contribute to the rent or not and you said you can’t or won’t receive the contribution so I won’t come and say I contributed to rent in future? Have you paid any extra rent other than the one you paid which covers the year you were present also? Is it that I don’t currently have a place I am staying or that I do and it was empty since I was with you?

The day he said I said drug was too expensive did he tell you he spent all his income that month already by 3rd or so due to poor planning and I used my income all for the month for food. Ofcourse I am sure he borrowed as usual for fuel for his car that month and maybe some extra things like suya etc you may want to eat and that’s why I couldn’t afford to buy that cream or is it even tablet I desperately needed quality type of drug to treat that ailment because it use to be stubborn when it comes but couldn’t afford it that month ?

In addition I forgot. The generator I would tell you to put on when wet had a generator house while some or most Nigerians just make a metal cover or so for their generator. So rain fell and the splash I could look wasn’t much and I would say it’s not like water entered this thing in its house like Dt just few splash on surface. I owned a generator I ran without it having issue before meeting you and while you where toasting me. I didn’t know I am unqualified to run a gen. I stopped touching your gen because it was complain upon complain or I am arguing with you by having a different opinion about ah it’s small splashes. Ofcourse if a gen was drenched would I with my full senses say lets put it on? When Nigerians keep their gen outside with normal cover. The days rain was so much and it drenched, we carried out the gen outside to air.

You would go out and meet the true definition of a Nigerian woman. Take care of her is what a man does, send her money for hair, dress, clothes etc.
And still buy food n do stuff.
You would remember I was never a burden on u
I hope you would have love enough for her to cover taking care of her abi u would start complaining and shouting on her too. I just hope you don’t faint then.

On the other hand I Wld meet the true definition of Nigerian man who knows he is to care at least and would appreciate that I am blessing and a good woman and not the typical African woman wen I also take up things at home. Simple

You have a problem, serious problems.

Graxie:
You have a problem, serious problems.

I'm telling you

Graxie:
You have a problem, serious problems.

I'm telling you
Very big one
Trying to find support and empathy here instead of looking at the problem and solving it with maturity

Esales:
Aunty what is your own? You sound more immature than the lady you're condemning.

Bwambasolomon and Iamafinegirl
There's so much shit out here already, this is messed up. You both are immature.
Iamafinegirl you honestly have selfish traits that you need to work on and bwambasolomon you are proud and have a big ego that makes you unable to take corrections.

Generally, as a man, it's quite petty for you to be settling 500naira and 250 naira with your fiancée, it's a major source of the insult you're receiving and even if your woman earns more than you, she shouldn't be under any law to contribute a certain percentage unless you're ready to wash a certain percentage of her clothes as well cus if she's entitled to 40% running costs, you must share in 40% house chores as well. Nobody is a slave to the other.

Even if you meet another woman 10times better than Iamafinegirl and you start arguing over 400naira for apples then she will also insult you.

You both can save yourselves further insult by leaving the issues here or you can further drag yourselves .

Peace.

I have said it over and over again, in my previous posts that I never asked for 400 naira or 500 naira, and assuming I even did, it must have been because the girl wasn't willing to contribute hence the need for the calculations. Or have you not heard me saying that it was always at the point of payment for anything that, especially for what she needed in particular that she would say she forgot her cash at home, or she left her atm card at home? Then I end up paying the bills just so we won't go back empty handed? Or did you not see my post where I said the day I confronted her as to why she was always leaving cash and ATM at home, she began to insult me?
I would gladly take corrections where I am wrong.

Iamafinegirl:
If you repeat one three times na, it’s d used ones present at the end of the week wen I am washing Dt are dirty I pack now with your vests. Na me say make u no wear d 20 at once in a week.
Are u really going to lie on this too
From you don’t wash it....
have you washed it more than three times.
Na so you go d bring out the truth small small
That’s one thing I am glad about u
U dey always release d truth without knowing small small.
We were fighting here oo the day you said thank u and it shocked you that despite the fight I still went ahead to do what I use to do. Because me I am not trained with keeping malice with family members. I have never seen my dad and mum keep malice or because they are fighting not do what they are to do for their spouse in 31 years of marriage.
You were surprised I did it in a fight and you said thank you

See proof of who washes my boxers and singlets. It's my dry cleaner. Sometimes I was them myself. But like I said, you washed my boxers maybe once or twice. That's exactly why I had to say thank you, because it was rare for you to do that.

bwambasolomon:
See proof of who washes my boxers and singlets. It's my dry cleaner. Sometimes I was them myself. But like I said, you washed my boxers maybe once or twice. That's exactly why I had to say thank you, because it was rare for you to do that.

Bros, abeg e don do, just stop it, it has never made any sense from beginning, yeah you have so many flaws and remember that you can't teach her how to be a good wife when you're not even married. You don't need to answer any allegations or accusations, dust your cloth n move on. Agape

bwambasolomon:
See proof of who washes my boxers and singlets. It's my dry cleaner. Sometimes I was them myself. But like I said, you washed my boxers maybe once or twice. That's exactly why I had to say thank you, because it was rare for you to do that.

Iamafinegirl, don’t reply this. I will advice you to unfollow this thread and likewise deactivate your account.

Oga go ahead and keep displaying your pettiness. Your fellow Nairaland women basher are coming to help you cement it.

bwambasolomon:
I don't go into a relationship for sex. I am not a sex driven human being. I have that gift. Wanting to start a family with someone is not a crime. It just didn't work out, and trust me, I have no regrets, because I know where I am headed in life. The only thing that brought problem here is that she was asked to contribute 40% of expenditures, which is fair for a girl who earns the same as I do. So there was nothing wise about her move.

U were unfaithful with other babes, u secretly smokes, drinks without her knowledge from the beginning. I also spot hot tempered.

Am sure no reasonable lady will regret such a break up.

The reason I say is a very wise move by her.
U both should move on.

iamL:
U were unfaithful with other babes, u secretly smokes, drinks without her knowledge from the beginning. I also spot hot tempered.

Am sure no reasonable lady will regret such a break up.

The reason I say is a very wise move by her.
U both should move on.

Weldone, you seem like you are her defender. What you don't know, you are talking as if you were in the same room with us.

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wow! dem say make we no dey wash our dirty clothes in public/internet...i tink say na adage or proverb....omo! person upload him boxers weh him wash oo! with picture sef and receipt!

bwambasolomon:
Weldone, you seem like you are her defender. What you don't know, you are talking as if you were in the same room with us.

Yes I wasn't there with u neither was I there with Her.

Everyone should move on abeg e.

bwambasolomon:
Who is the petty one here, someone asking me for 1k is calling someone petty.

If asking for her 1k is being petty, asking her for 250 box for mairuwa is called what? "sharing formula"? You are a big joke Mr. OP. She dodged a bullet.

P. S Send her back her 1k

If everything I've been reading here is true, then you both should be so so ashamed of yourselves.
I mean with All the ' I studied abroad, you both building y'all houses, we have a car, and the man borrowing such a huge amount of money like 14milli and other radarada y'all been writing since.. me I expected lots of maturity from you both . Una fall my hand abeg.
No shame, aren't you both suppose to be busy working? When do you have all the time in the world to be posting receipts of your underwear laundry, screenshoting chats and writing about 500naira and other nonsense. Shameless lots .

When you guys finally see eye to eye after this I wonder how the tension will be. And if you guys should marry I can imagine how neighbors and family members will be settling issues daily, with both of you bringing unreasonable evidences all the time .

Shameless, classless, rouges displaying their dirty underwears for people to see..
YOU BOTH SHOULD FORGET EACHOTHER ALREADY.

The Onku even bring receipt of "dry cleaned" boxers ... In fact, Ginaz is the woman for you. Aunty Ginaz your match made in heaven is finally here... Come and show Onku the "real definition" of wife materialness

This thread is so funny.

Both of you are so immature Lmao.

Ginalex:
The Onku even bring receipt of "dry cleaned" boxers ... In fact, Ginaz is the woman for you. Aunty Ginaz your match made in heaven is finally here... Come and show Onku the "real definition" of wife materialness

Bla bla bla bla !

Layormiii:
If everything I've been reading here is true, then you both should be so so ashamed of yourselves.
I mean with All the ' I studied abroad, you both building y'all houses, we have a car, and the man borrowing such a huge amount of money like 14milli and other radarada y'all been writing since.. me I expected lots of maturity from you both . Una fall my hand abeg.
No shame, aren't you both suppose to be busy working? When do you have all the time in the world to be posting receipts of your underwear laundry, screenshoting chats and writing about 500naira and other nonsense. Shameless lots .

When you guys finally see eye to eye after this I wonder how the tension will be. And if you guys should marry I can imagine how neighbors and family members will be settling issues daily, with both of you bringing unreasonable evidences all the time .

Shameless, classless, rouges displaying their dirty underwears for people to see..
YOU BOTH SHOULD FORGET EACHOTHER ALREADY.

Very shameless I swear.

Ginaz:
Very shameless I swear.

Oh boy, some people went to school of insults and graduated with good grades oo. Which one be shameless, classless rogues again? Even Donald Trump for don jump fence with this kind insults. Lmao.

bwambasolomon:
Oh boy, some people went to school of insults and graduated with good grades oo. Which one be shameless, classless rogues again? Even Donald Trump for don jump fence with this kind insults. Lmao.

It's OK. You too work on yourself cos e dey your body . Don't reply anyone anymore .
Deactivate your account if possible so you don't have to reply.

Doubis:
Oga pls go and lie down. You are just a pathetic attention seeker. I mean how shameless can u be. Bringing your relationship here for people to bash your girl, someone you claim to love.,how shameless can u be? Even if she brought the issue here first, can't you be the mature one and ignore her? You are stingy, petty, and your low self esteem is on grade A. Respect is earned not demanded. How do u expect her to respect you when u are calculating maggi curry and salt for her to pay 40% at the end of the day . I mean who does that? You are indeed the president of stingy men association of Nigeria. Thank God she didn't sleep with you. Your loss by the way. You are nothing but a cheat, a drunkard, and money miss road. She deserves better than u. Woman wrapper, I know say he go type come. Oya prove me right.

Damn!!! So much emotions over another person's issue.

I said here before, it's no wonder Nigerians are ruled by fools. All it takes is a few emotional inputs and voila everyone is a reactor, forgetting logic totally.

N.B: By my calculations, the emotions and hate in your post can power your house for 2 days, I'll love to harvest them

Donpenny:
I have come to realize that finding a good wife is only possible with God's grace. Some men believe a working class lady would make a better wife unfortunately she might turn out to be a self-centered idiot while on the other hand you got married to a full house wife, she might become a liability or develop an entitlement mentality. Nigeria ladies what exactly are your plans toward humanity?

You well so?