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Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by RedSquid: 5:54am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by West2019(m): 6:09am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216:I swear . 25k out of 50k still complaining.nawoa |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by West2019(m): 6:11am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216:your head dey there bro |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by justt: 6:15am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Prospertochu: OP, you are very selfish and wicked! You alone, you are spending 20k on yourself, and you want her to manage 25k for five of you? Again, 10k for your mum alone. Do you really love the lady? I'm not against taking care of parents, but not at cost of your family. Your immediate family comes first. If you listen to wrong advice and allow that lady to leave, I can bet it you will regret it. With 25k, that means, each of you (dad, mum and 3 kids) spends 5k/month, N166.67/day (if you only eat once), N83.33 if you twice and N55.56 if you eat thrice! As you can see, the money is too small. The kids will definitely need other stuffs. For now, I will advise you stop the 10k you are giving to you mum until your situation improves, also try and reduce your own 20k spending to 15k lesser. May God send you timely help |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Roseey0(f): 6:21am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Sit her down and explain your finance to her, your goals , your plan. .Let her think of how she can help the family. How she can contribution and how you can both make money as a family. 3 babies is a lot of expenses and she not knowing your full financial capabilities is why she is demanding more or saying you are stingy. Build your home together That's what marriage is I know you were not ready but now that you are in it, you have to make yourself ready to raise this kids well and give them the best. I just hope she is on family planning o, this one you are more interested in sex than any other thing. Pls don't bring more children to this world in this condition. Plan. Sit her down and plan together. Women are happier when involved in planning family and her happiness can change your finances. Most men don't know this. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Toks2008(m): 6:24am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Mindlog: Im sure you read where i wrote older siblings that were also children. What is older in a 4 and 2 year olds combined with twins. Are we not talking about 4kids here? Sometimes Some women just want to hang on to that as an excuse. There is a type of business for every situation so lets be reasonable here. Even if the guy makes 200k a month, it will still be a struggle to raise triplets with such a salary howbeit 55k. The guy should think outside the box and see how he can establish the woman to make side money on her own. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by bluefilm: 6:29am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Prospertochu: How much is Gold Circle Condom? |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Roseey0(f): 6:30am On Mar 16, 2021 |
I am more worried about your wife. Her own topic will be 'I regret marrying the father of my triplets" And then she will go on to narrate what it looks like raising 3 babies all by oneself, no help, no family with a husband that nags and won't still provide enough money for children's upkeep or even provide food for the family but prefers to send money home and keep more to himself. That girl go don dey think of sucide sef I had post partum depression haggling one baby and hubby with no help. I can imagine what life feels like for her now Pls save this woman. Help her |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Katier00(f): 6:31am On Mar 16, 2021 |
erico2k2:please go back and read what the op said, digest well. How can he save 20k from 55k while the family can barely feed |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Ojemedad: 6:33am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Money is the major problem here, the woman is a good woman |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by awumen: 6:37am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Bros leave dat regret stori,part of your anger b say,u still one knack on top triplet and madam no gree u. Now to d koko. I understand you are on 55k but my advice is to set her up in business. 25k no go work for 5 people. The woman needs to be stable to run a business,triplet no b joke o,some of us went through the journey of twins and we no as e b. My advice,if you can get 50-55k for this month end,hand it to her,she will calm down a little then as a man seat her down outside your home (maybe chicken republic,buy promo rice of 600 naira with two coke,let the atmosphere be calm and talk to her, plead with her that situation of the country is not easy but you have plans and you are working hard. then look for anywhere you can raise 10k for your mum and another 15k for yourself to take care of your going to work and other runnings. Honestly the woman is stressed and the triplet are burning her out, hence you need ALOT of wisdom, calmness, strength and focus to scale through this early stage, it's a stage in marriage that even those with plenty cash often don't scale through, You need to talk less and action more. Fighting and all the drama won't change nothing for you. Also learn to ask for help,I don't me beg for money o,I mean ask for job or any side hustle even here on nairaland,alot of people here already know your situation and am sure someone might help For a start U can private chat me, I am willing to give a little financial support for the 50-55k that I mentioned. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Blackdisciple(m): 6:46am On Mar 16, 2021 |
hmmm... You have given her half of your salary bro , you try ooo. Bros even if you are in rented house she will still ask for more like Oliver Twist.And it would have been worst with you. She was never your wife just that pregnancy came between both of you. I knw even as you give her 25k monthly you are still footing other things at home. So reduce the money back to 20k monthly as it was before because even if you transfer all the salary to her account she will still complain. Remember also the future of the kids too and be saving for them monthly. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by NoToPile: 6:47am On Mar 16, 2021 |
IjeBos: @bolded, The OP and some posters dont want to understand this part. In this present economy 25k is not sufficient to feed 3 infants or toddlers and 2 adults for a month that is just the basic truth except we want to deceive ourselves. I have a toddler and the same tom brown( gunineacorn, maize, millet meal) peeps are saying is cheaper is part of her meals, I prepare it myself. Prices of grains doubled since lockdown and refuse to come down. Presently what I make with 2,000 was what could be made for 1,000. Let's say 1,500 worth of tombrown per child per month multiply that by 3 that's 4,500. One of the cheapest baby milk is my boy and it ranges between 1,500-1,700 and a child will use at least 3Tins per month ( this is if you are managing it ooo) normally a child will take at least 1 tin per week or even more abi pikin no go drink milk. Multiply that by 3 that's about 4,500- 5000 for one child. Just cereal plus milk(milk for one child oo) alone is taking almost 10k out of the 25k. The child won't take the tom brown cereal alone, there will be fruits, other meals to compliment and we don't know the cost. The children have to eat well to be healthy Remains 15k ( let's assume the 3 of them will take 1 tin of milk each per month which is impossible) Out of the 15k 1. the money gulping part - diapers that stuff gulps money ehn multiply that 3. 2.Then food for the nursing mother and father one paint of garri is 800, beans is 400 derica, rice 350-400 derica, multiply what they will need for a month. Soup things, dried fish. 3. Other unexpected baby expenses 4. Groceries for the house, at least they will buy detergent to wash cloth . 5. Others I honestly don't see the magic the wife can do it wont even be enough for basic stuffs.Things are too expensive. People should plan before impregnating people, babies are expensive and the rising costs of things is not helping matter 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by unmask: 6:47am On Mar 16, 2021 |
nifemi25:The problem is money. If he had enough money, there will be peace |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by jidify: 6:48am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Brother there is nothing wrong with your wife rather your issue is your finance. No woman can run a home of 5 people with 25k and ve happy. Those triplets will use pampers of same 25k monthly not to talk about feeding and other expenses. You need to up your game. You don't even have reason to save because in the first place you need to carter for your present need else there might be no future. Consider your wife and triplets first then other family members will understand. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by galantjoe(m): 6:58am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Your wife is a wife from helll. I hope you told her your salary is only 55k. She should understand and try to manage the Salary. 25k for feeding for 3kids and 2,adults for a month is okay. Even if it is not a, compromise should be reached on how to tackle the shortage not to deny you sex and food. If she wants to go, let her go. Nobody is indispensable. Many state civil servants are receiving salary far below 55k a month yet they maintain a family of 5 or more. Just a solution on how to buy food stuff. My advice, use your hand buy foodstuff in bulk. Like pentas of rice and beans, packet of knor, till of mivina, tomatoes, yams, red oil, veg oil, bag of semo or Gari, tea and milk, diapers, big tissue, dry fish and crayfish, etc. Then give small money for her personal upkeep. Try this to know if it will work out. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by OnlyDeCapPlease(m): 7:00am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kestolove: This cracked me up Bert you harsh o! |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by erico2k2(m): 7:02am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Katier00:it was a typo u van clearly see that lol |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by descarado: 7:05am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Toks2008:Stop please. Stop. Have triplets first, then you can join the line. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by erico2k2(m): 7:05am On Mar 16, 2021 |
cococandy:U SEE WHAT I MEAN?? |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Killermamba: 7:06am On Mar 16, 2021 |
On a serious note the money you give her is too small, it can't serve the family need for 2 weeks the way things are now in this country,baby food and pampers will finish that money within a week, on top of it you and your wife eat from the same money. My advise is this change ur formula give her 30,ur mom 10, you 15 once she knows you are giving her more than 60 percent of your salary, she will change her mind towards you. More over try to open a business for her you can't rely on that your salary for long, as the kids are growing their needs will increase. You need serious help my brother. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by superjab247: 7:07am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Righteousness2:You this hypocritical clown deceiving yourself and disgracing your ancestral lineage on a public forum WHAT HAS GOD TOLD YOH ABOUT YOUR MASTER DONALD TRUMP?had God nkt showed u a vision about him or your vision capabilities has been hampered |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by seanwilliam(m): 7:08am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Well you caused it yourself but then you still deserve peace of mind.. after na both of una commit the crime .. If she one go Abeg let her go .. things are very hard already.. Since you earn 55k I’ll pacify your to suspend the 10 k u do give your mom monthly .. and also u should forget about savings now. 5k monthly savings can’t take u anywhere as a family man . So in total , 25+10+5 that’s 40k.. Hand over 40k to her every month and manage with 15k for yourself ( no matter the responsibility, u must always have little thing in your pocket Incase of unforeseen circumstances). That’s that Now to be very honest with u, your whole salary , if given to your wife self cant be enough . I am a single guy and I spend atleast 150k monthly on foods and other things ( I’m still a boy though ).still expenses don Dey carry out all my money .food data and fuel. Try to find another side husle join your work .. atleast if you’re making 200k in total and u manage am well , u should be able to stand small with that . This is a lesson to everyone especially single guy out there , make we zip up if we can’t use condom ( I’m guilty of it too ) But let’s her see how much effort you’re making .. she can’t be shifting all the blames on u.. afterall na her pussy wey sweet make u fhuck am raw.. I feel bad for u bro.. But God go open way for u brotherly. No kill yourself with mental stress.. problem no Dey finish.. Your wife Dey try too. A primary school here starts with 3kids now dem don get reach 50.. 3 go better o.. e no easy o.. But 55k ? That’s less down 150$ nitori oloun .. bro na problem u enter I no go lie .. if she leaves , na she go suffer am. U don try . |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Toks2008(m): 7:11am On Mar 16, 2021 |
descarado: what is the difference between a triplet and a twin with two extra toddlers making 4? Dont get me wrong, im not saying it is not tasking infact giving a case where the guy can fend for her and the kids i wont advise that she lifts a finger to do any other thing but as the case is, she just has to else the die will just die of High BP then she will understand that she is on her own. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by HRMK: 7:12am On Mar 16, 2021 |
obviously ur hiding ur salary from her but is she handicapped?she shuld bring something to the table too and u must hustle more!dont rely on salary alone!! |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by descarado: 7:12am On Mar 16, 2021 |
jidify:Only diapers alone will gulp down the 25k. Baby food nkò? Or their clothes. Woman is already a washing machine cos she will wash morning afternoon and night. When one is sleeping, another is crying, the other is pooing or want to be cuddled and some imp here are opening their filthy mouth to insult that lady. She obviously is having a mental breakdown. No help. She still has to cook for him and heaven help her if she didn't cook before he is back from work. Meanwhile his mum is talking the bulk of his salary. What a very wicked and selfish man. His mum isnt even helping. But proudly collecting money meant for his wife and triplets. If any of us happen to see that lady, I'm sure she look 5 years older and like a mad woman. Having triplet or twin as first is not beans at all. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by descarado: 7:13am On Mar 16, 2021 |
HRMK:Close your filthy mouth! |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Fakbrown: 7:17am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Only pampers bro that money is gone, funny thing is you are still eating from that cash, why give your mum, while you have so much of responsibility, look for a side online hustle to compliment your offline job, this country is not easy, u gave to 3kids once, me planning to give birth in a space of ten years |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by descarado: 7:19am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Toks2008:Hey guy, I have never qouted you since I joined this forum but I just did. Why, cos most times like this you want to appear logical and smart when you make no sense. Give birth to triplets as your first, then come and let's discuss. Withdraw and let people talk sense into that guy before he ruins himself and his family and live in regret for the rest of his life cos I tell you he will regret any action he takes against his wife in the future unless those triplets are all dead. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by obyrich(m): 7:29am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Prospertochu:Brotherly, truth be told your wife is suffering. 25k monthly upkeep is too small in the present Nigeria. Your salary is not even enough to cater for only you let alone your mother and wife. May God help you get a better paying job. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by descarado: 7:30am On Mar 16, 2021 |
NoToPile:Finally, I got somebody who understands what that lady is passing through If there is money, that woman need 2 live in adult caregivers so she can have time to at least wash her hair. I so much feel for her. From.carrying twins to giving birth. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by 15ssDRIVE(m): 7:33am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Prospertochu: Na so e dey be...... be strong ... To be a gentle man,no be here oh........ Imagine 3 kids sucking her like,Boko boys .... She must eat like a machine... instead of everyday fighting.Call her and beg her first for all your mistakes about fighting and pains you have caused her. Now move to : she is the most beautiful and all those stories. Finally,make her realized that you guys have a better future if you can.. plan things better. If na me... I will give her, all the salary ! Oya take all and manage the house ..... 1 Like |
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