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Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by InvertedHammer: 3:23am On Mar 16, 2021 |
/ Congratulations! You thought Enjoy your cross. / 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by zakkxx: 3:38am On Mar 16, 2021 |
you don enter. marriage is forever you don choose your cross be that. manage her like that. if u divorce her na hell u de enter ooo Prospertochu: |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by drexel39(m): 3:44am On Mar 16, 2021 |
You give ur mum alone 10k but expect ur wife nd 3 kids to survive with 25k,give ur wife 10k nd each of the kids 10k that's 40k,kids hv needs nd they all must be met,why ur mum could survive without ur 10k 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by vhuqnl(m): 3:48am On Mar 16, 2021 |
cococandy:Shut up. This is not America. Shut your hell |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Meself: 3:55am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Do u know what it takes to feed 3 kids of that age , feeding ,pampars, medical, baby food , no woman can manage that even if there is peace. She go still cook for two of una abeg she too try self. She is this she is that what about your own character ? Do u help her when u r free. I have two kids and having a third is not a plan in this life Wait make them start school u cry more. Better carry ur wife sidon and talk and pampar her with nice words and appreciate her she put u in prayers and your home will turn Around. Good luck 5 Likes |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Meself: 4:02am On Mar 16, 2021 |
While do u call her stupid. It is the guy that is stupid for not putting his preek in check . Abeg no try dey this guy's shoes . Do u know what she is going thru? baby wan chop no money for milk pls so. quote author=jaxxy post=99920726] U are a good a responsibile man. U took responsibility for ur kids and even married the stupid gal u call wife. The problem with most gals is they are very poor managers. Ur husband gives u his money and u can’t put it to good use, even if u notice it’s not enough u know he’s doing his best u should look for away to find solutions to ur family/hubbys financial issues bt instead she nags and complains and even threatens to live u with the kids. Is this not a stupid woman? A highly irresponsible gal turn wife?? Look bad company corrupts good manners, if u move with fools u will soon become a fool. Disassociate urself from that nonentity. Give her responsibilities to do. Set up a business if possible for her and monitor it because I know she’s useless. Atleast right now Don’t give up hope yet. God will help u make right decisions regarding ur family. Cheers.[/quote] |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by GeneralPula: 4:15am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Jossyfine: Hmm.. All the girls wey comment before you are useless. All they said was shiits and trashes.. Looking at this thread, one will know how hard is it to find a sensible Nigeria girl.. Money is not the only thing a kid needs to grow. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Ingleesh: 4:17am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216:Dear baba ibeta,I understand you so much but, Y'all should stop blaming the lady... It's not easy having to take care of one child,not to talk of three at the same time You give her 25k monthly,not weekly for the upkeep of herself,one child, another and third one... Don't you think 25k go don exhaust before the month ends? When it does,the only thing that would come to her mind is frustration and anger.... Well, seeing that things aren't easy for her husband,a wise woman should think of how to bring in income too,and not to quarrel and nag You self,stop quarreling her back.... I have a lady that gave birth to twins after marriage and when the twins were six months old,she started working and leaving the kids with her mum based on some agreements... It's not easy for one person to keep paying all the bills.... Y'all should think of how someone else would help you.. I pray God sends a helper your way,amen |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by GeneralPula: 4:17am On Mar 16, 2021 |
crackhaus: That was the most sensible response bro.. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by IjeBos(m): 4:34am On Mar 16, 2021 |
crackhaus: They do need to sit down and plan properly. But the OP isn't being realistic and he needs to be. He needs to appreciate that 25k is not enough for his wife to take care of the whole family for a month. And with that appreciation, he can be more understanding/patient of her frustrations. And that may make her less frustrated. I agree with another poster, bring her into the process of how you distribute your salary. Consult her about what she thinks you should give your mom and whether or not it's the time to save. And honestly, I couldn't imagine my mom being ok taking 10k knowing I only make 55k and I have 3 kids. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by jeyselassie(m): 4:38am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216:bro the truth is the income is small. You're giving 25k per month to a woman to feed and take care of 4 kids, that's very small. He needs to wake up as a man. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by IjeBos(m): 4:40am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216: This is such a senseless post. You're talking 50% arbitrarily. If you made 10k and gave your wife 50%(5k) to support a family of 5, she should be satisfied? Obviously, no. Stop peddling this advice, it's not helpful to him or his relationship. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by GeneralPula: 4:46am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Revolva: I’m kinda surprised that a lot of people are saying 55k is nothing.. Everybody dey form audio money.. I’ve seen some families wey kids plenty wey the husband no dey even see 50k a month. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by IjeBos(m): 4:58am On Mar 16, 2021 |
GeneralPula: Could you break down what expenses would look like weekly/monthly? What do meals look like? |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by seguno2: 4:58am On Mar 16, 2021 |
tabithababy: You are the one who needs to get sense. Is he not paying the inconsiderate mother 25k, which is almost 50% out of his salary? His sister or someone else will take care of them if their useless mom abandons them. No one is indispensable. If the mom dies, won’t the children live and be taken care of |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by macrodata(m): 5:12am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Righteousness2:abeg, shift. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Resurgent2016: 5:17am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Klass99: One thing most commenters here fail to properly appreciate is op and his wife/gf had triplets. It was not a decision of theirs neither was that within their power. Many Nigerians survive (barely) on wages such as op. Op fortunate circumstance is that he had 3 at once. I will just advise him to reduce the money he gives his mother because it probably takes a miracle of biblical proportions to feed 5 mouths and carter for 3 babies on 25k particularly during Buhari's regime. @Prospertochu , reduce the money you give your mum and give your wife. Your mum needs to understand and take a cut. Your wife is not being unreasonable, what you are asking of her is almost impossible. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Mindlog: 5:19am On Mar 16, 2021 |
GeneralPula: The OP's wife gets N25k monthly, which covers food for 5, baby clothings, medication, washing and bathing soaps, kerosene etc......that breaks down to N830 daily.......in today's Nigeria, how do you spread this N830 to cater for these 3 babies at once, not to talk of the parents? |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Tupaq: 5:20am On Mar 16, 2021 |
You have trailer and you still want to recharge your card? Haha! What if you pregnant her again with triplet? |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by SeniorGee(m): 5:24am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Do DNA first and be sure they are your children first. Then double th hussle to make ends meet |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by chelseamann(m): 5:25am On Mar 16, 2021 |
madridguy:exactly...money is the only issue here and he should work on making more money...even 1 single child is very tough talk more of 3 kids... |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by aijazNija: 5:26am On Mar 16, 2021 |
In as much as 55k is small for a family of five. It very unfortunate that it difficult to find a loyal partner especially wife these days. Like my old uncle would say, it is not about how much earn, it is all about how it is spent. Having said that, spending much of your income with family could tell that if earn more you would bring it home. Your problem is not peculiar with low income earners, many young men with better income are facing simiIar issues in their marriage. I strongly believe that a loving wife would a least give you peace of mind and encouragement, which alone, can help you overcome financial difficulties. My brother do your best to pacify her, if she insist of leaving the marriage. Let her go. If your mom can step up to take care of the kids, then you are lucky. More importantly, focus on improving your income, with God on your side it will end in praise. I have intentionally left the partnity of the kids untouched. Raise them the best way you know how, being their provider and the task therein can propel you to greatness. All the best!!! |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by chelseamann(m): 5:29am On Mar 16, 2021 |
aroundtheearth:what kinda Job can she do when she is taking care of 3kids? I don’t think the man is buoyant enough to even get a maid... |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by thymm50(m): 5:35am On Mar 16, 2021 |
blesskewe: His cup of tea indeed. Your comment is inconsiderate, hope you are not like his wife |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by BREYZ: 5:36am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Prospertochu: Everyday I wake up na so I dey see my guys dey Bleep up. What's really happening to we guys? Baba God abeg save the male folks |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Fxwarrior: 5:37am On Mar 16, 2021 |
NoToPile: There was no mention that she was even doing anything that brings money before op carried her wholesale. Some girls are wired to look unto men for their sustenance. If it's not her father or uncles. It's her boyfriend or husband. Some men don't ponder deeply about finances before relationship or marriage. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Jsucre(m): 5:42am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Cut 5k from the 10k giving to mama, Add it to your wife, it is not easy for 4 people to manage 25k in a month pls. Thank God you've another siblings to take care of your mother. If you explain to your mother she will understand. Whenever your wife is bringing attitude, kindly keep calm. May the Lord provide for you to take care of your load. I feel your pain. 1 Like |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Osanoghodua1: 5:42am On Mar 16, 2021 |
You have to seek the face of God I mean you need to seek his face @Oghodua is my telegram name. Come and be doing airdrop to get into Cryptocurrency if you can invest 20k let's see if it can get you anything good in the long run. God used Crypto to save my life. Glory to God. Don't divorce her God hates divorce. Ensure you find sth doing to support the family my wife is a graduate of Uniben but learning tailoring. Before now she teaches to support my earnings but I stop her after she gave birth to avoid stress. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Nobody: 5:44am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Prospertochu: na money una no get na why una dey fight. even a child going to school sef, in present day nigeria 50k is not even enougj for a month for feeding sef talkless of 2 grown adults and 3 children. its the children that would finish the money on food and diapers. but hey, you knew well, you were furcking without condom and did not take steps to prevent a pregnancy you could not take care of, you have to live with the consequences... |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by Evii: 5:49am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Getting a girl pregnant doesn't mean you mst marry her. Inasmuch as you can handle your responsibilitiees wherever she is is fine. |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by frozen70(f): 5:49am On Mar 16, 2021 |
osazsky: That's not true, a mother's love is different from a wife love The mother will even be there for his son and grandchildren |
Re: I Regret Getting Married To The Mother Of My Triplets by layzie: 5:53am On Mar 16, 2021 |
Kriss216: Bros this your statement is very insensitive. Taking care of 3 kids is actually more work than whatever the op is doing as work. That said, 25k monthly to feed 5 mouths cos op is complaining of being denied food now?? How u see am? Monthly o, as in 30 days? How much is your feeding cost per day? Multiply by 30, and by 5. Add babies to it, milk, diapers etc. A tin of baby milk alone is 2200 for 400g, a single baby consumes this in 4 days max not to talk of 3. Do u know the price of food stuff in the market these days? That wife must be making miracles feeding those kids plus herself and op. Op should expand his income base and while at it, distribute more equitably wat he earns. 1 Like 1 Share |
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