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beneff: @ post.email where is your email?

Sent you an email with photos

Anybody here working with NESREA (National environmental standards and regulations agency)?
Anybody or company with NESREA permit?

I'd like to apply for NESREA permit. Can someone help out pls?

Anybody here working with NESREA (National environmental standards and regulations agency)?
Anybody or company with NESREA permit?

I'd like to apply for NESREA permit. Can someone help out pls?

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BeraBera: It's a welcome development. Farmers need to be informed. They should know when their fertilizers and other entitlements are ready for collection, and where they are to be collected. It also becomes useful whenever their associations want to convene meetings.
It's not a bad idea at all.

They should also provide them sim cards and small generator.... Make the whole arrangee complete.

These dudes making policies for us all are bleeping w@nkers. You mean to tell us these so called farmers can't afford to buy 2000 Naira palasa phone? How can they can afford seed and seedlings?

bukatyne: you could have the round table talk with them both after seeing them individually. The joint round table will just be for joint apologies! You know all the 'she's your daughter','she didn't mean it that way'etc while kneeling and prostrating lol! However, I don't support co - habiting. Let your baby look for a place to stay for the next 3mths till the wedding. I wish you all the best.


My 2kobo

Joint apology ko! Abi I no understand you well. You mean say babe go apologize to mama, then mama go apologize to babe? " when trouble sleep, yanga go wake am, na palava e dey find".
Guy, if you read all the yans for here, you go see say babes on NL dey support their fellow babe pass mama.
But as I like you reach, make you no support your babe infront of your mama. Remember you na guy man. If say na the babe make mama unhappy, try make mama happy....kill fowl for mama. Whenever mama no dey house, make you flog that babe toto well well so that she no go ever make mama angry again. After that come follow us sitdown for Alhaja place make we watch ManU vs Chelsea. Nothing do you... One gulder for you.

Recent statistics released by the UK General Medical Council reveals an unpleasant reputation for Nigeria-trained doctors practising in the United Kingdom. According to the figures released under the Freedom of Information Request by Daily Mail UK, three-quarters of the doctors struck off the General Medical Council (GMC) register in the past five years are foreign-trained. India-trained doctors top the list of foreign-trained doctors to be struck off the GMC register in the past five years and Nigeria-trained doctors rank second. Egypt trained doctors rank third on the list. The figures show that in UK, 194 of the 285 doctors struck off for misconduct or incompetence in the past five years were foreign-trained, while 29 of the 39 removed from the medical register in the past
year received their medical degree overseas. This data from the GMC focuses on the number of doctors struck off in Britain since 2008.

www.bellanaija.com/2013/01/02/nigeria-trained-doctors-rank-2nd-on-uk-blacklist-india-trained-doctors-rank-1st/

bukatyne: i still believe that most mothers who want to ruin their sons' marriages in the name of in - lawrism did not experince the love of their husbands and know what they are doing. Some people are quick to point out that they sacrificed for their sons and I wonder if these women didn't sacrifice for their daughters too. If they did, why don't they poke their noses into their daughters' marriages or how many women tell their son - in - laws that they are dirty, they can't provide, they are controlling their daughters, they have manipulated their daughters etc? It's only in the case of their sons they know the DIL can't cook, she's slow, she manipulated their son etc. They should repent and mind their own homes. As for the sons tied to their mother's aprons, take it a step further and marry her.

Na so now, when you reach mama level, come manage bring pikin up in this hellhole 9ja, I go see whether you no go want make that your pikin Marry the best babe wey go look after your investment.
Welfare for the elderly no dey this country o! Na your pikin be your welfare for old age. If that pikin go marry princess wey sabi only herself, her belly, her wardrobe etc....wahala done dey!

YoungSalute: About to have a round table meeting now !

Guy man, no go start fire wey you no fit quench. Them no dey carry girlfriend go family meeting o! This babe never enter the family.. She never reach. If you carry her go meet mama to ask wetin she do mama, that na wahala. Mama go feel insulted o!
Make you go meet mama privately. ... take ask mama wetin dey vex am regarding your babe. If she do anything wey make mama vex, arrange make the babe come kneel down beg mama. That fit solve the gbege.

But if you carry the babe go meeting dey argue meet mama... You know that the babe no go ever be welcomed in that house. Na she go later go dey go all this church wey them go tell her your mother inlaw na witch... Na she make you never get pregnant.

No start fire o!!!

Una notice how these babes voice dey change after marriage. Before marriage them go dey form aje... dey talk with phoney like say them no fit hurt fly. But after marriage, o boy! Them voice go just change.... The man in them go just come out. The wey them go dey shout for house girl.

dayokanu: Abi oo You don hear some women dey pray make their Mother in law die before dem marry the son.

The prayer for such people is for such ladies too to die before their son gets married

Good talk. Those kind babe just want enter enjoy wetin mama don arrange well. Them go dey form love make guy man Marry them. After marriage, them go balance for sofa dey chop dey fat. Them forget say guy man invest on that barca and Chelsea. As usual them no send the guy. The obo wey them dey give guy man wella wella before marriage, go only dey once a month after marriage. Them go use chop chop fat fat spoil the whole investment... Then e don late for guy man to collect him money back.

math-diva:
Poster please tell your woman to come here let us advice her well. She has no idea what she has gotten herself into. Please let us help her b4 it is too late

Ah, its already late. Babe no gree give mama food when she dey hungry. She don fail test. Mama no go sign marriage approval for her.

Theblessed: Women come and go - husbands come and go but you have only one mother who would give it all up for her child - you!!!!!

At the crunch of it all, the tigeress will fight until the last drop of her blood but I challenge the modern woman in your arms to do the same.

No mind all these babes wey dey here dey Yan opata. When them become mother now , them go do the same wey mothers dey do over their asset (pikin).

Aro

Okija_juju: I have a mother that is in a little way like yours. When I was still actively searching for a wife, I brought a lot of girls home and you would be amazed how my mum reacted. There was a particular girl I brought home for the first time on my birthday, she had just baked me a nice cake and brought me gifts. My mum saw her, she almost rolled on the floor to greet my mum, my mum didn't say more than 'Ehen, welcome' and walked away. I escorted her to leave and by the time I returned, my mum had given my birthday cake which the girl baked to our security guards and househelps to share and warned me that she never wants to see that girl in her house ever again. I asked why and all she said was [b]'I don't like her spirit'.. Lol!! [/b]That was the wake up call I needed. Since then, I started managing her like a jealous girlfriend. I subtly started drawing the boundaries and showing her where her authority stops. Today, we are better off. I am getting married in february.

Okija, your mama don tell you say she no like " the spirit in the girl". You no go wan hear word now.

dayokanu: So na Kwanangida you wan pursue your mother for?

Na so now. When hand fall guy man, the babe go just jump ship

totalbaby: He is a momma"s boy so he cannot understand.

Ah! I am more than happy to be mama's boy. I no wan be wifeboy at all. Some of una babes no like make mama dey in the picture, why? Make them throwaway mama for village so una go balance with una big yash sitdown for house dey enjoy with mama spend many years to arrange well. If mama no arrange the guy well, una go gree come marry am? Una too like better thing wey una no cook!

YoungSalute: If I can't avoid things now , when will I ?

Especially who is the owner of my kitchen..

Yes, she invested a lot in making sure I attended nothing but the best high school and university, but I certainly need to have my own family too.

We are not legally married

Guy, read wetin Ken yan, na your approach na him matter.
Who get kitchen? Na you get kitchen na! As you see say mama dey hungry and the babe dey fall hand, you for enter kitchen go arrange something for mama to chop.

Bro, make I ask first, why you ping ping mama " explain why". You for ask " my loving mama, wetin our small wife do?"......lol

YoungSalute: The gospel truth, we are not married like court or church thing. But intend to do so soon.

Staying together doesn't count because her place of work is close to my place. To save money for better things instead of wasting about 450K for a year.

Secondly, gas and yam caused everything.

My woman was cooking and the cooking gas got finished, because mum was hungry.

She got angry that she (my woman) didn't put the food inside fridge knowing well that gas had finished. She accused her ( my woman) of wasting food and trying to spoil the food that was half cooked.

Mum got angry, ping me immediately to say. Ask your girl to leave. I replied by saying explain why.

Thirdly , I can't ask my mum to leave not because I am indecisive. But I hate the fact that she is trying to impose things on me. I don't live with her, like I said. She's finding it so hard to stay alone after being attacked or robbed.

Guy, na you cause the whole gbege! How you ping mama " explain why" just because of one babe wey you never marry. Mama go think you never marry this babe you dey ping " explain why", if you come Marry am wetin you go ping?

Secondly, she suppose make sure mama chop bellyful. Why she no use kerosine stove cook that food finish when mama dey hungry? Abi boiler no dey to use boil the yam? Yam+ororo+salt na food

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KenGali: Guy, do not be daft. even if ur mother is being stupid, do not forget that she is the only person in this world who will gladly give her life for you. I mean, giving it and be smiling. There is a great difference btw women as wives, and women as mothers. Your wife, is your sword, but your mother is your backbone. both are very important, but the day you loose your backbone, you will never be able to weld your sword. Remember, Solomon, with out his mother, their was no King in him.

I am also an only son like you. At the moment, am weighed down by my mother's fears that I will marry a white woman. I have no marriage plan, but she keeps dreaming up these things. but I know her, the way she knows me in and out. I know how to calm her fears, give her assurances, and emotionally blackmail her when there is need, just as she can emotionally blackmail me.

Never use force on your mother or even your wife. Find out your mothers fears, and calm them like only you can. If you can not, then simply ask, she will do almost anything for you, if only you ask,and that includes accepting your wife. That's all you need. as long as she knows and sees that her rightful control over you is not being challenged by your wife, she will calm down and get comfortable with her. That's what am suspecting, you have not been responding to your mother, and she feels she is loosing you. At old age, for an African woman, a husband does not hold her world, it's her sons. having only one often gets them scared. And do not be deceived by those who give you the impression that your mother should not control you, you must maintain a balance between your mother and your wife, carefully steer you mother away from issues concerning everyday running of your home though.

You will be surprised that you get old and you will see your wife doing the very same things over her sons. Women are emotional and bursting with hormones, you need to understand that.
By mere age, your wife should know to take a second and imploring opinion when your mother decides to make the decision, especially when the decision concerns the larger family. but your mother should know not to interfere in the daily running of your home as that's your wife's tuft. but when ever she is around, just like women, she will butt in once in a while, your wife's ability to take that is what makes her a daughter not just a wife. It is also what gives your mother the impression that your home, is as it should be, so she will forget about your home issues.

If you give your mother a reason to believe, she is outside, or that you are making stupid decisions in your life, she will activate her self sacrifice mode, and that's when you get scenes such as you described. Just the same way she built you from childhood, she will keep trying to rebuild you if you are found wanting. You and your wife, should not give her a reason to want to rebuild you, cause like all mother she will not quit till she gets it right. If you are Igbo, remember marriage, is btw families, not individuals. If you are the son you should be, than there is no issue you can not resolve with your mother. There is absolutely no reason for confrontation btw your mother and your wife, if you are not doing something wrong to make them clash. If you want your mother living near you long term, not just visiting, then get her her own house.

Bottom line, is that you are the problem, you must balance being a son and being a husband to the satisfaction of the two. by the way, I hope you are not just talking about a girlfriend here, cause your GF, should be scare when your mother is visiting, else.

Guy, you too much!!
Abeg, barman, give ken one gulder!

Beync: wetin u dey yan self? If mama make her pickin 1st party, wetin she go make her husband?
make I tell you, for marriage after man and woman na God sef be the 3rdparty if u don't know, then followed by the both parents we raise the man and the woman.

Ah, I scatter laugh! Mama make her husband and pikin both 1st parties, equal love. Thats why she dey give pikin the best, make he for be somebody.

For you, mama na 4th party? No try am o! If you want make peace reign for your married life. By the way,So you this apostolic babe dey belittle baba God by making baba 3rd party? You no read for bible " love God first"

ferhyntorlah: I wish you all the best in your endeavours.

Wish you the best, too.
My advice: no quarrel with your husband mama o! Make you dey listen to mama wella.

Happy new year

Ace Ventura: @Youngsalute

You have to choose whom you wish to spend the rest of your life with. Is it your mother or your wife?

I believe your mum has had her time (@ least 30yrs) with you. It's now your wife's turn. As far as I'm concerned, your mum is a 3rd party to your marriage so she has no right whatsoever to ask your wife out of her matrimonial home. She ought to be ashamed of herself for over-stepping her boundaries.

What is it with her investment in ur education? Didn't someone else raise her up b4 she married your father? It was her responsibility @ that time to give u food, clothing, shelter & a sound education so let her look for something else to use as a ransom.

My friend, man up & take charge over your life & marriage or she'll run & ruin it for you. Any person that isn't you or your wife is a 3rd party.

So mana wey bring the guy up don become 3rd party in his life just because of woman. Mama make her pikin 1st party, give am everything to be somebody. Now him don be oga...grow prick, come sabi one babe. So mama go be 3rd party because of this BABE!!

ferhyntorlah: Post.email, it's easier said than done. I pray you don't find yourself in a situation where any member of your family just pick on your wife for no reason persistently threatening to send her packing.

It's the wearer that knows where the shoe pinches.

Why them no go pick on her when she take the whole chicken cook stew. Abi she no hear when mama dey tell half for soup, half for stew? That kinda thing dey vex mama...
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Beync: op tell you say his wife dey play runs for em house? abi na you won find allegations put ontop her head? Ayo tell me which one wey God join the man together with, the wife or the mother? See u no love ur mother pass de way I love my mum, but I nogo allow her leave with me and my husband. Only visits or short stay when the need be. and she nogo try come inbetween me and my husband becos she marry her own during her time.
no body have the right to interfere in couples matter unless they are called upon. In dis case the man and his wife are not having any issue why the hostilities? Anyway, the way you want you family to be so shall it be

You see thing wey I dey talk so; You don decide before marriage say the guy mama no go stay with una after marriage. Na this kind thinking dey cause wahala after marriage. If the guy carry mmsm put for house, Ina go begin quarrel because you no want him mama at all before he marry you. Abeg make I ask, why babes no dey like make the guy mama live with them?

Guy, why you dey talk like small pikin? Wetin make mama dey vex? She take the whole chicken cook only stew when mama ask her to use half cook soup and half for stew? If that na de wahala, simply comot some chicken from the stew pot, wash am, then make she use am cook soup. Issue resolved! Everybody happy!

babyface333: My dear young ladies of now run away when things are hard for their husbands. What do you think is the cause of the high rate of divorce now. No thanks to social network, it damages home, i have even seen married women fall in love here on nairaland and they have husband at home. They go on social network meet men more intelligent and well to-do than their husband, they begin to flirt and get involved in all sort of extra-marital affairs. I would have posted here some post of floirting marrid women on nairaland but i wont do that. they all have their life to live. What they do now is they flirt on nairaland and modify their post. So the op woman can disappoint himat anytime, by the way what women of now say to justify their actions is that this is the 21st century or they ask their husband why are you feeling insecured?

Abeg op dont chase your mum away now that this are rosy for you cos of your woman, she can leave at anytime but your mum will always be by your side.

You correct!! Tell them. These babes em no know say na mama get show. When them(babes) wan try run the guy show na that time casala dey burst.

Beync: So all these married women working so hard everyday are doing so becos they don't want to help their husbands when cheeks fall. SMH

My sista, I no talk say some babes no dey try. Correct babes dem dey wella. But my wahala na the babes wey tell guy man make he send him mama go village becos she feel say mama dey spoil her runs. Na that kind yan dey vex me.

ak4God: Mother first before any woman,ok?What an elderly person see while sitting down,a youngy cant see while climbing tree..There is always iota of truth in your mother"s behaviour.My Brother open ur eye well.If things dry for you,na dat time u go knw say dat ur cool wife na really hot temper..Mother ll always be mother,but ur wife can later be another man"s wife..Be warned!!!

Tell them my guy.