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why isn't he showing her face clearly? is she ugly or what? all her pics are always blur, smh

fpeter:
It's my business already because soon you'll come back here to cry about how your rich wife is taking you for granted.
You see, you're even at home meaning you're jobless, please get a job and make your own money before looking for a wife.

you're not serious.

I'm self employed, I'm boss of myself.
my wife and I are well to do.

I have alot of inheritance, I can even decide not to work again for the rest of my life.

please take your advice else where!!
why do women without jobs get married? smh


I don't know what is wrong with you guys.. please leave me alone!
go and make money and pamper your man! stop disturbing my mentions.

victorian:
Lol, I didn't say u shouldn't marry her o

I only advised don't expect her to take care of your bills all throughout your life.

Cos if that's your expectations, hmmmmm
Hmmmmmm
Hmmmmmm

Lol, you are in for a bumpy ride later on


She will marry you, she will have kids with you but when she is done and tired of you.

She will simply kick u by the curb , collect her kids and fling you out of her house.

Cause the kids, will then be all that matters and precious to her.

Truth is bitter.. Ogbeni, that's the truth.

Hml in advance. Best of luck .

I don't know if you think me for a weak broke guy.

your write up says a lot about you.

I wonder what you're gonna do to your husband if eventually you get richer than him.

she can't kick me out, seize my kids or whatever.. you must be living in nollywood fantasy.

if I need a house, that's no big deal, it won't take time to build one so kindly take your advice to another person.

Amarabae:
"she is rich, the house we are living belong to her, she has provided 80% things for the marriage,
She has spent on me a lot, I can't afford to leave her "

You sound like a gold digger who is after her money .
Tomorrow you guys will be calling ladies gold diggers.

You may go on with the marriage but if you want to enjoy it, get a job and start paying your bills.
I know why I am telling you this.

Amarabae
somethings you probably don't know about me;
I'm 24
I'm a graduate
I've a job
I've 2 cars
I'm from a wealthy family
my dad is the SA to Delta State Governor on community development.

I owe you no explanation to open up about my life, but I just did that for no reason.

just as ladies have standards, same way I've standards.

you can't force me to marry a broke lady.

she's providing 80% because she insisted to, she cares for me.

thank you

Beey:
if you read that post, there were question marks used for a reason, it was meant to be questions because I don't know you.What caught my attention was you saying your fiancée is rich & she'll be footing 80% of the wedding bills.So I wondered, what will you be taking care of.Now that you clarified you are financially stable, it's your wedding too.What will you be doing while she pays 80%.But you obviously didn't like this.Paul okoye & Lola have a 6 year age difference.She's older.At the end of the day it's between the 2 of you.Sounds like you've been living together already so you know each other to a good extent.

when men foot their marriages, what are the women doing?

please leave me alone
my life, my choice.

fpeter:
Shame on you. You need to get yourself a job, you're with her simply because of her money.
what tribe are you from that you shamelessly moved into a woman's house and you're happy
to admit that she will pay for the wedding, i guess the 20% you intend to contribute is your
presence only.

I wanted to ignore but it seems I can't because I'm not busy, didn't leave home this morning.


what is your business if my fiance decides to sponsor our marriage? have men not be single handedly sponsoring their marriages?

you're not serious

victorian:
Lol, I didn't say u shouldn't marry her o

I only advised don't expect her to take care of your bills all throughout your life.

Cos if that's your expectations, hmmmmm
Hmmmmmm
Hmmmmmm

Lol, you are in for a bumpy ride later on


She will marry you, she will have kids with you but when she is done and tired of you.

She will simply kick u by the curb , collect her kids and fling you out of her house.

Cause the kids, will then be all that matters and precious to her.

Truth is bitter.. Ogbeni, that's the truth.

Hml in advance. Best of luck .

you don't know what you're talking about

fpeter:
Shame on you. You need to get yourself a job, you're with her simply because of her money.
what tribe are you from that you shamelessly moved into a woman's house and you're happy
to admit that she will pay for the wedding, i guess the 20% you intend to contribute is your
presence only.

shame on you too to admit that you can move into your husband's house.

you better go and work hard and drop this mentality.

men deserve to be pampered

lalasticlala delete this thread.

tobianthony:
I think you should quit now . Just put your phone off and go do something else .


Just go do something else for a couple of hours . Listen to your mentor if you have one .

Stay away from Nairaland for now .

Chill . Relax .

this guys want to give me heart attack.

I'll listen to your advice.. I'll ignore all comments

Safiaa:
When have I stated anything about gender equality? This is the problem with you men, you think every woman you encounter is a feminist. I’m clearly not nd never will be. Yes I live in the Uk and so what?

Black women this, black women that. But you forgot to mention that you’re a black man who has no atom of shame to carry your big self into another woman’s house to play houseboy. Can you really call yourself a man though? Your fiancé has to be one of the three. Desperate, unattractive or severely lonely. Sorry, because no woman with standards would settle for someone like yourself, just saying.

only black people especially broke ones reason this way.

my fiance is beautiful, neither is she desperate or lonely.

I was the one who proposed to her, not she proposing to me.

something you don't understand is; wealthy people mingle with people of their standards.

our families have been doing good for a very long time even before her dad was appointed as commissioner of transportation in 2015,while my dad is an SA to the Governor.

actually your opinions don't matter because my fiance is civilized and doesn't have this backwards mentality.

fancy4eve:
u get bad mouth oh, so na window dem go pass him corpse......I know dat guy is not from d east, na yorubas nd idoma dey behave lyk dis. Enjoy dear while it last

my marriage is going to last!

stop wishing me bad please!
I'm from isoko in Delta not Yoruba

victorian:
Then u are a gold digger and very selfish.

Be waiting for a woman to continue footing all your bills in marriage. Your eyes go clear in the marriage. Whether u marry 19years old girl or 40years old woman? If she foots the bill in the marriage, just know she will dump your assz at any time, she pleases.
And that's the truth.

You can't run away from your destiny of being a man.
It's not even about being an african

Oyibo rich men spend a fortune on cosmetic surgeries , tummy tuck for their wives, so their wives keep looking young after giving birth. their wives don't work, while the ones who work are just for fashion.
Oyibo men spend alot on vacation trips for their wife and kids.

Do u think Nigerian women or black women love money?

My dear marry Oyibo woman, then your eyes go clear.

If Oyibo woman marry u as a broke man that's different but u are from a wealthy home and u expect her to take care of your bills in marriage?

Lol

Oyo Lo wa!

lalasticlala you caused this and you know that.

dear, my fiance and I would be going for court marriage okay.

I'm not a gold digger.

only black people reason this way, I'm not surprised.

there's nothing wrong in a man footing a woman's bills, but you think there's something wrong in my fiance/wife to be footing some of my bills.


she cares for me, same way I care for her.

my birthday is coming soon and I have high expectations!

sorry dear.

khiaa:
Why are you crying?

just do to prove your integrity

Safiaa:
well maybe I’m different because living with someone is a big deal. I couldn’t live with a man I’m not married to sorry. And once we move in together, we can share the bills. As long as it’s 80-20. It’s not something everybody can understand but as long as my current partner understands, I’m Gucci.

80-20?

is this the gender equality women have been clamouring about?

smh

even UK..

black women though(not all, my fiance doesn't have this mentality)

lalasticlala you see what you caused
why did you move this topic to front page? to humiliate me right?

victorian:
@ the bolded, unfortunately that's one of the number one ways to be valued and appreciated by her more.

Our fathers of old married many wives and took care of their wives and children singlehandedly. That's why divorce rate back then was not much.

Unlike today most young men run away from responsibility or want it shared equally. And boom! The divorce rate is high

Have u asked yourself, why do guys like Davido who has two babymamas, ladies are still tripping over themselves to be with him?
Cause in simple English, he takes care of his babymamas single handedly and kids.


You are rich too, that's good but keep up with your riches and use your riches to expand yourself more. Just have more money that's all.

leave me alone. there's nothing wrong in showing your man love by footing his bills and pampering him.

I regret being an African

Look how my favorite anchor, WCW looked at her ��. Let's face the fact, the Ghanaian woman is brave and sincere. Many ladies here that would curse and criticize her are in the same situation. Many Nigerian ladies use relationships as a form of poverty alleviation program, they date for money. The difference between this lady and them is hypocrisy.

such a disgrace.

women are the main people drawing feminism backwards in Africa.

you have two hands and two legs, just like a man.

why can't you pay your rent, bills and do other stuff for yourself?

Coldfeets:
Pampering is for BABIES... and ladies only.

you're not serious

victorian:
I know you are but later in life, you need to step up and u can't always make her pick up the bills in the marriage. And that's the truth.
You need to be up to her status when u guys marry. And by doing so, u need capital to either invest in a business u know won't fail or expand what u have right now.

I know u don't want to appear a gold digger and I believe u are not.

But please in marriage, the husband picks up most of the bills while the wife supports. It won't be ideal if she's the one spending more all the time when u guys are married.
Peter Okoye married Lola omotayo, 10years older than him in age.
Initially when she was single, I think she held a top position in her dad's company. As soon as she got married, she resigned afterwards and became a housewife.

She supports Peter with connections and money, so that his music biz will expand as a solo artist.
He takes cares of most bills in the home . He bought her a brand new jeep.
All these are strategies to make her feel he's capable and can take care of her.
Every woman no matter how rich she is, what to see such in her man as the years in marriage goes by. It trips us, even though we are comfortable. We love it.

So please build your finances up to her level in the marriage.

oh God

you guys shouldn't make me deactivate my account


I said I'm not broke.
we both are from wealthy families.
you said it's a husband responsibility to take up most bills; sorry, who made that rule?

I'm marrying for love not to gain control.
I've two cars bought with my own cash. The Samsung S9 I'm using now ,she was the one who bought it for me even though I never asked.

guys need to be cared for and pampered sometimes, you know.

I met her in south africa when I was doing my M. Sc.

trustyshoess:
I would dump him too. She's right

better said than done..

Coldfeets:
Umm... let's see...

Takes care of me is okay.

I don't need pampering in any form!

Shares ideas with me ALL THE TIME!!!

why don't you need pampering.
?

alpha male

khiaa:
lol Do you mean AT&T? Why don't you trust me?

I do.. just screenshot this thread

Safiaa:
No. I live in the uk, born and raised and if any man moves into my house with pride I would NEVER respect him. I wouldn’t even date a man who would think of doing that, so that’s different entirely. We could move in together, with you taking up most of the financial bills or I move in to your house. One or the other, and that’s after marriage. Thanks

you live in the UK and you have such mindset.

well I wouldn't expect less from you.
you mean if you move into a man's house, he shouldn't respect you?

all black ladies seem to have fixed mentality

I'm not an alpha male, you work to demand respect. because you're pampering your man doesn't mean you should say this nonsense,
it's better if you don't live in his house then, since he can't live in your house.

And why should he take up most of the financial bills? isn't that supposed to shared equally?

how am I even sure you're living in the Uk.. kindly screenshot this thread,

victorian:
Thanks
Oh OK if you have your own money, that's all well and good.. Even better.

But are you ready to marry her as at this period or you are been pressured by her for marriage?
Are you ready for marriage? Cause it's a different to be married and also a different thing to stay married successfully.
Marriage is not like boyfriend and girlfriend. Marriage is more deeper than that.

So ask Yourself , are you sure u want to do this ? Or you want her to wait another one year for you to be ready psychologically.
If you are ready and u know deep down u want to take this huge step? Then please go ahead with her. Thank God your father supports you, later your mum will come around.

Also when married? Let her invest some money in your business, thats if you are into any certain buisness, so you can expand more than u av at the moment.
The expansion will help you a great deal to increase your savings and earnings, thereby when she sees how much u are growing well buisnesswise, she will remain humble in the marriage, while u retain control as the head. Please don't be a dictatorship husband when u marry her, do things as a team, it will earn u more respect, love and dedication from her.

Cause marriage tend to change some men from being loving to becoming Abacha due to external bad advices from his male friends and family. So still maintain this trust and love u both have between u. Cos I know it's because of your character, she's taking this huge step to want to be with you for a lifetime.

Best of luck once again.

sorry, I'm a rational male.

like I said earlier, I'm not broke.

khiaa:
Yes, I am, that's why I can see things with a different point of view, more clearly if you will.

screenshot this thread. .

if I don't see Salt, Orange, AT&T or Verizon as your carrier..

only white ladies can do this..
y'all can see she isn't black.
black ladies have a fixed mentality

Coldfeets:
My kind of woman!

sure man..

your kind of woman should be;
one who takes care of you
pampers you
shares ideas with you.