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Xisnin:
That is what you are saying and that is what you say in every case where a pervert is reported.
You are not alone though, there are others like you who undermines every harassment story because
they are scared of being outed themselves.

hey I've always observed your posts on topics like this.

do you realize that many ladies falsely accuse men of rape falsely? and also sexusl harassment

70% of these stories are always fake/blackmail.

I'd start taking these stories serious after government enacts a false rape, sexual harassment accusations law.


it's then that people will say the truth.

hisgrace090:
They're partners in what the man did, so you reporting one to them means reporting all.

They want to use you as a deterant to others, so that non can question their advances again.

If it is easy in Nigeria you can sue them to court.

in which Nigeria ?

4C2215131:
California, USA.

I understand.

hmm,,, khiaa are you residing in the states?

Austinoiz:
Hear this..."I'd have liked to go on with marriage but I don't think going ahead without both parents blessing is sensible.... "
Also hear this, "...the truth I love her and I can't afford to loose her now because of my mum's wish.."
My 24yr-old kid friend, I think you know the game of fictions very well or perhaps the much your age can come up with.
Who do you want to buy into this your elementary make-believe? Certainly not me. So go get yourself busy with more fictions, may be you can come up with better convincing lines next time.

the only advice I came here to seek is; is it sensible if I go on without my mom's blessing? because I've made up my mind.

thanks for your comment anyways.

highly appreciated.

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN;
Please next time don't move my post to home page without permission, because instead of the advice I seek some people are trying to mock me in a sarcastic way.

showafrica:
It's not right for a woman to marry herself. Tell her you will provide everything for the marriage and simply cut your coat but if you don't have what it takes to marry her, guy you are not yet qualified.

what do you mean by marry herself?

stop talking like a kid, if you don't have reasonable comment pls don't comment.

dominique:
Is that reason enough to want to marry her? Because she's footing the bills? Those calling you gold digger and opportunist are not too far off the mark. [b]I saw that you highlighted joining one of the gee b[/b]oys on a post on the first page, I have a feeling that's your current source of income at the moment and you want to marry the older richer lady for financial security and nothing else. Have you sat to think about what becomes of your marriage if she's not as financially buoyant as now? Rushing into a marriage for the sale of financial security is one of the worst mistakes anybody can make be it male or female

@bolded.I didn't highlight that ,someone made that suggestion.

I've my own money and I'm also from a wealthy family.

I want to marry her because I'm a graduate already and I love her.

Thank you for your advice.

I'm now a gold digger?

I think mods should be requesting for permission before pushing topics to homepage.

ariesbull:
Your a gold digger
A lazy man
A disgrace to men
For marrying a lady because of money....you should be the one providing


I don't have a problem with age....you can marry her even if she is 5yrs older but I don't think you would marry her and of you marry her you would make a terrible husband because you married for money not for affection....

Get your ass and work ! Small boy

thank you.

fancy4eve:
she's got 2 tins ova u, Wich is $ nd age, so tink twice

take your bad advice away.

4FACEADELEKE:
Bro go ahead and marry her if you think she is your kiind of woman.Stop listening to some of this enemies of progress on nairaland,who would jump at the slightest opportunity,if they were in your shoes.Bro know these today that,Nigerians are the greatest hypocrites on earth.Remember when you get married to her,hustle harder so that you can provide for her as well,not just only her providing for both of you.Close your eyes off your to be's wifes wealth and work hard like a street hustler who has nothing to his name.Remember if tomorrow your hustle your way up and become rich,her respect for you will rise to its peak,she will truly be convinced that she indeed made the best decision by marrying you.

thanks bro

khiaa:
My goodness, you are already shacking up with her, you love her, she loves you and you both are financially stable enough to get married. Follow your heart and marry your love just like your mother followed her heart and married your dad. This is so senseless, making a five year age difference the reason why two people shouldn't build a life together. You are only five years apart which makes you both in the same generation.

thanks khiaa

chihes:
Your right up justifies that. Imagine, you said she has done alot for you, you live in her house, she wants to contribute about 80% of the things required for your wedding..

and so?

I've my own money.

she choosed to do those things by herself

Prettyyemi:
see ur life..
A marriage without kids is what??
Which kind of stupid comfort is that..
U can get comfort from ur friends..
From ur siblings,from ur parents..
U don't know what u are saying ooo..
Even God himself told us to get married so as to be fruitful and multiply..
Have a rethink before getting married!!!
So u won't get married for d wrong reason

from your write up it seems you're going to give birth to dozens of children since your intention of going into marriage is to be fruitful and multiply.

smh

so if you don't have kids, so what?
can't you adopt?

Africans though

amakadihot87:
This monkey is broke and confused

I'm a monkey, I'm broke and I'm also confused.
first question; do you even have a car of your own?? do you even have 100k funds presently?
you guys would just be saying nonsense as if you know me in person, the worst thing is people like you are usually poor in reality.

Nasri100:
The only thing I agree on this post is I wouldn’t want my sister to date a man without a source of income.

Earning money here and I don’t even have a girlfriend or do flings infact.

Women are too expensive to maintain.

Promised myself that I wouldn’t even want flings when I am eventually very rich.

dude someone asked you a question and you went silent.
your sister doesn't have a source of income but you want her to date a guy who has a source on income..

I pity the fools who still date poor ladies.

CoolUsername:
There's nothing wrong in feminism, you're just insecure. Too insecure to how your opinions challenged and too insecure to allow women compete at the same level with you.

Your lack of arguments is clear as day right here. Your bigotry and chauvinism are just a facade to hide your inferiority complex. At the end of the day, you don't really matter in the grand scheme of things because your kind has nothing to offer. You claim to do research but can't even cite sources, didn't you go through formal education?

Sooner than later, equality will win. Your kind will slowly die out. Better rethink your views or go extinct in the tidal wave of enlightenment.

what amount do you pay your bf monthly?

victorian:
From experience, please follow your heart.

Mothers are not always right.

You know this lady more than your mum know her. You are the one who will stay with her, not your mum.
You are even lucky, u have a rich young lady head over heels In love with you.
Most guys here will gladly be in your shoes as we speak.
Some guys here even envy you, while some have lost this opportunity u had and wallowing in self pity.

Many years back, I heeded my mum advise about marriage and about marrying my first husband, with her words, this man is the best suitor u can ever come across my daughter, please marry him. Am your mother, have seen life more than you and I know what am saying. My instincts were screaming there is something off about this guy, but my mum calmed my fears while My dad was sceptical about him but he later agreed. So I followed my mum advice. Bad advice ever. Sorry mum but we both know it's true. Bad advice.

Do you know that marriage was the worst thing that could ever happen to me!
I became a total wreck but had to take some stern steps to get out of the hell hole.
If not? I would have been dead before now.

I went back to my parents after divorcing him, and note with all the blessings of both parents , my marriage still failed like a pack of cards. My mum felt ashamed of her judgement and decided to support me there after, with anything I need to become someone in life. She even cursed him but the deed has been done already.
So my dear, please I beg you, follow your heart and instincts.
Most women hardly support men likewise Most men hardly support women.

Marriages these days is all man for himself, only very few marriages are happy and content upon the fact that most men marry younger ladies or same age ladies who are hustling or struggling. Divorced still full everywhere. Selfishness of both spouses is so annoying. Thank God for what you have. Am serious.

This your lady is supporting u 100percent. What else again do u want?
Don't drive away your blessing.

Opportunity like this comes once in a lifetime. Be a man and stand by your choice. Your mum will later accept her when she sees how happy and successful uv become in the marriage.

You are not a gold digger . You are simply opportuned to be loved by a rich young lady.. Cos your lady is still young whether anyone like to hear it or not.
Stand by her and make it last.
Best of luck to you and happy married life in advance.

You have my blessings o

your comment is highly appreciated, this is the best advice I've gotten so far.

now to the bolded post, if you read my post carefully you'll notice that I never said I'm poor!, I've my own money. I have enough resources to sponsor the marriage but she insisted to do that.

Beey:
You sound like you are deeply in love which is a good thing.You also said that your fiancée is rich & beautiful which is another good thing.There's nothing wrong with marriage but you need to think.fter marriage, the goodsebumps you are feeling now, you won't be feeling that way everyday.Children come into the picture, there are bills to be paid.Question is, do you have a job? She's paying 80% of the wedding bills & you as the man, what will you bring to the table?Try to reduce the financial gap.I am not saying your girl is this kind but often times, people will help you & then keep reminding you about it.It becomes a reference point always.Put aside the excitement of the wedding & have an open talk of how you as the man are going to provide & take care of bills or how long she'd be willing to support you till you become stable if you aren't .But, at the end of the day it's not your mom who'll be getting married, it's you.Also a marriage therapist may give you better advise especially about the age factor, so seeing a therapist wouldn't be a bad idea.

I saw this mention because I'm not yet asleep, I'm still watching tv.

you read my post carefully, did I say I'm poor or jobless

I wonder who pushed my post to front page because instead of advice, I'm now getting another thing.

kodylicky:
This sex thing is doing a lot of damage in today's world.

however, the 4k monthly allowance caught my attention.. How is that supposed to feed, clothe, pay fees, medical bills blah blah blah for the kids... That is like N133 daily..

Nigerian laws need to change....the woman will end up slaving her entire life and the kids will still bear the man's name.

Its totally unfair...both ways sha

is he the only one that own the children?

nonsense

hardbody:
Seriously speaking, how can a woman beat a man. At 42 that man should be able to break iron with his hands, although the lady is at the height of her strength at 28, especially if she is still childless. Wahala is, if you beat a woman in a fight, you are a woman beater and if she beats you silly, you are a wimp, you just can't win.

The man should cover his shame indoors, lock door, collect beating and beg the woman and no one hears of it. He must be super petite

you lack sense.

#SayNoToDomesticAbuse

Lomprico2:
Beat up the modafucker joo!

the person that has been giving your mom money for food, gave you and her shelter is now a modafvker right?

I guess you can only say this nonsense on social media

Eagba:
Your case is quite dicey. You've older step siblings that hv legitimate claim to your dad, so you can't do poo and you're not financially buoyant to take your mum away from the house. The highest you can do for now is plead with him.

I swear.. imagine my younger brother beating my dad

is he mad?? he get 10heads?

chelsea1116:
I dnt rili kn wot i wil do cos my late dad neva did such..
Bt in my vila one man locked his door and ws beatn his wife..
I broke down d door and touched him small wt a warnin dt if he eva touches her..i wil com down to vila and deal wt him..
Yes i kn its nt my biz..
Yes i kn i crossed my boundaries..
Some say i ws wrong ..mayb i ws bt i rili felt and stil feel good wt my decision cos he neva touched her agen.
He cld v killed her.

you tried it for a kind person....

the way the op even sounded: I can beat him up"

how are we even sure, the man is your true father? smh

somebody that has other male children, so they'll be looking at you when you want to beat him right?

you're still thinking like a kid.

can't your mom file for divorce?

CaptJeffry:
Hustle and make money, build a house and move your mum out of that home before your dad kills her. I admire your resilience, I couldn't have held on this long if in your shoes.

Whoever wants to beat up my mum should first dig a grave for himself because I'm gonna put a bullet through his head.

lol, even your dad that Cartered for your every need? what if his other children do something bad to you?

stop thinking like a kid

Ladyhippolyta88:
No I have been the one liking thegeneralqueen's post not Preshy561.

okay, thanks for a job well done.

Goodnight.

lamalang:
I swear they do cos iam dating one presently. We have never had sex and we been dating for 7yrs, though i tried many times to but she refuse even to just see boobs ahe no gree, she doesn’t watch romance movies cos of sex scene. The last time i took her clubbing was may last year, iam the only person she’s dating, any guy that try toasting her she will make sure she introduces him to me. Iam planning to even go pay her bride price cos iam dying to reat hot that cos i love her

I don't understand.
you wanna marry her because of sex?

Preshy561:
loolz,he may repent along the line.
prexhbills really like you.

how. much she get?

Preshy561:
yea,one of the standards I have set.
lool,I can't settle for less my dear.
money is really good.

you're right dear.. very very right..

imagine dating a lady who doesn't have money, smh, Godforbid.. I won't even think about that in my dream

Thegeneralqueen:
Are you still talking...... bonus

Sometimes when you look at the comments of some people that make noise, insult you directly or in a sarcastic way on social media.. ..All you do is Just ignore" because they don't worth your time.

Kwinesther:
[b][/b]We know your type

but that's the truth ,right?

Prettyyemi:
d essence of marriage is to procreate nah..
Okay,what's ur own essence of marriage??

comfort.

I don't know why this thread was moved to front page.
instead of advice some people are just trying to insult me in a sarcastic way

fancy4eve:
well am not pouring sand into his garri, just saying d fact.
He should man up nd stop lookn 4 were 2 dump his lazy Ass. Well I hate lazy guys nd I believe laziness is involve

I'm not lazy, I have my own money