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Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Idrismusty97(m): 12:32am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Boy this is child abuse, Go and marry someone you will provide for as the man you are. listen to your mom and flee from the Sugar Mommy child molester. You will only know the repercussions after you have settled down. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 12:33am On Apr 12, 2018 |
VictorRomanov: advice me not insults, when did I say I'm poor? 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by ra4fo(m): 12:34am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Bros, if u genuinely love her like u have explained and she feels same way about you too; understand and respect each other, then i dont c y u shudnt b together. my 10kobo advice wud be, just pray to God about everything, then go and try to convince mum to bulge on her stance. i biliv he go work, if u work. gudluck Man |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 12:37am On Apr 12, 2018 |
chihes: okay, but where did I say I don't have my own cash? 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Idrismusty97(m): 12:38am On Apr 12, 2018 |
colestephan86:Suck pûssy. Do u work do u own a business.. it is not enough for u to say she owns the house u live n she is rich cos that the main thing u have stated here. You have to be sure you can take care of her n not depend on her money. I guess that's y your mom is not ib support. If you are sure that you can provide for her n your family then I think you should go to your mum as man n let her know you guys will be fine together n that you wont go further if she doesn't approve of the marriageBefore he even thinks of taking care of her he should first take care of himself. 24 years that is still writing Jamb want to marry. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 12:38am On Apr 12, 2018 |
LoveThemChubby: please I'm not poor 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Idrismusty97(m): 12:40am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1:Yea right you ain't. You suck pûssy for a living. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by myself13: 12:41am On Apr 12, 2018 |
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Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by maxyomi: 12:42am On Apr 12, 2018 |
FromZeroToHero: I think you should listen to this. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Gistforme(m): 12:43am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Bro afta all d comment wat i c is dat its a tin of choice, bt i will rather let u knw dis too marriage is for life. U nd her becomes 1 and start a new life. Bt make sure u tink very well b4 u venture into it, it easy to enta bt its nt easy to opt out.. Mum and d commentas here see tins their own way bt d rest is left wth u... Age, money, u living in her ous, she sponsoring d marriage tink abt it well and i pray God will lead u to d best way |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 12:44am On Apr 12, 2018 |
castro316: thanks. your advice is highly appreciated I've been busy that's why I haven't replied you 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 12:45am On Apr 12, 2018 |
fancy4eve: I'm not lazy, I have my own money 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 12:45am On Apr 12, 2018 |
I don't know why this thread was moved to front page. instead of advice some people are just trying to insult me in a sarcastic way 2 Likes |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by sonofoluku: 12:49am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1: Are u sure u r a man?How can your mother be dictating for you what to do as a man?You love her and she loves you.Her parents av agreed.Your dad has agreed.What else do u need again?Just make sure u really love her and not just her money.My friend take charge of your life and don't be a pusssssssssy. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Nobody: 12:50am On Apr 12, 2018 |
OP, if the Woman is smart she'll run away from you and your family. First, you are not matured enough if you still require the approval of your parent in a Spouse. Second, even if your Mum agrees she'll eternally hold a grudge against your Wife. 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by brookz: 12:57am On Apr 12, 2018 |
According to Run Town "Every Woman is a Super Man " Stick to your moms Stand else, .Pikin wey say him Mama no go Sleep, him too no go Blink Eyes. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Morbeta11(m): 12:58am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Your mother is simply preventing you from coming back on this forum to write stories that touch. 5yrs older and richer than you is stairways ways to houseboy. 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by victorian(f): 1:18am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1: From experience, please follow your heart. Mothers are not always right. You know this lady more than your mum know her. You are the one who will stay with her, not your mum. You are even lucky, u have a rich young lady head over heels In love with you. Most guys here will gladly be in your shoes as we speak. Some guys here even envy you, while some have lost this opportunity u had and wallowing in self pity. Many years back, I heeded my mum advise about marriage and about marrying my first husband, with her words, this man is the best suitor u can ever come across my daughter, please marry him. Am your mother, have seen life more than you and I know what am saying. My instincts were screaming there is something off about this guy, but my mum calmed my fears while My dad was sceptical about him but he later agreed. So I followed my mum advice. Bad advice ever. Sorry mum but we both know it's true. Bad advice. Do you know that marriage was the worst thing that could ever happen to me! I became a total wreck but had to take some stern steps to get out of the hell hole. If not? I would have been dead before now. I went back to my parents after divorcing him, and note with all the blessings of both parents , my marriage still failed like a pack of cards. My mum felt ashamed of her judgement and decided to support me there after, with anything I need to become someone in life. She even cursed him but the deed has been done already. So my dear, please I beg you, follow your heart and instincts. Most women hardly support men likewise Most men hardly support women. Marriages these days is all man for himself, only very few marriages are happy and content upon the fact that most men marry younger ladies or same age ladies who are hustling or struggling. Divorced still full everywhere. Selfishness of both spouses is so annoying. Thank God for what you have. Am serious. This your lady is supporting u 100percent. What else again do u want? Don't drive away your blessing. Opportunity like this comes once in a lifetime. Be a man and stand by your choice. Your mum will later accept her when she sees how happy and successful uv become in the marriage. You are not a gold digger . You are simply opportuned to be loved by a rich young lady.. Cos your lady is still young whether anyone like to hear it or not. Stand by her and make it last. Best of luck to you and happy married life in advance. You have my blessings o 6 Likes |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by CofOLandOfPeace(m): 1:20am On Apr 12, 2018 |
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Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by chccho(m): 1:23am On Apr 12, 2018 |
OP u are still very naive and immature o!!! Just by merely reading this your write up i can tell. You also sound desperate and under pressure, probably from her. O boy u better calm down they say what an old man can see sitting down, a little boy cant see even if he climbs a tree. Furthermore, it obvious u are in love with this lady but it seems u are more in love with her money,sorry to say but thats the bitter truth. U are crazy about the fact that she is rich and spoils u silly. Everyone likes money including me typing but u see there is more to life/marriage than money You need to face reality young man your thoughts are still clouded and by the way why do u have to be living in her own house and she sponsoring 80% of your wedding? Shaebi u said u get work Why she dey baby sit u like toddler? Mr man that your mother is seeing many things that your small brain and eyes cant see but u are still here asking question like "i want to go on without my mothers blessings" like which sane person does that? U better calm down and wake up from that your dream, take a chill pill!!! Finally, i dont know if u are a christian or a muslim, a believer of God or an atheist but if u do then better for u. There is only one person that knows it all ,someone who sees it all, someone who sees the end from the beginning and thats the Almighty God. If u want him to give u the best answer go into a fast (if possible a dry fast) for 3-7 days talk to God, tell him to show u the deep things, the secrets of this relationship, and the future of it. Try it and everything will be revealed to u. When the true revelation comes u will know whether to go ahead or not but for now dont rush anything o, like i said "U ARE STILL VERY YOUNG,IMMATURE/NAIVE!!!! All the best answer go |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Adebowale89(m): 1:38am On Apr 12, 2018 |
you're inconsistent in your write-up. you haven't experience what's called world before and I don't pray you should now lemme take u on a brief journey; why did you want to marry her? because she's rich and she had done a lots for you and she will takecare of 80% of marriage things? do u you think that's what it takes to handle a marriage? a Lady of 29years wanted you and her to marry, have you consider if she had some illness, spiritual hidden, medical problem that she's hiding away from you. as a lady that she was, her age will definitely make her manipulate and outsmart your thinking because the age different could possibly make her thinking faculty much proactive than yours your mom, psychologically viewing her mind, she's not against the marriage because she was older than you, she is against it because you're financially handicapped and a lady financing you in marriage is a big threat to your position in marriage a wise mother would refuse because she want his son to be a man and not a boy thereafter. lady pretend a lots, don't fall cheaply for her over caring if she really love u as you said, tell her to established you or influence you to get a job prior to any marriage plan. if she can do this then I can affirm your earlier proposition my girl is a year older than me too but never will i go into a marriage with a rich lady if she can't make me rich prior to the marriage, I refused to be caged 3 Likes |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by NovusHomo(m): 2:02am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1: What do you call "rich"? |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Nobody: 2:09am On Apr 12, 2018 |
joe17: Most times, we already know the answer to our question, we just need others opinion on it. Just like a survey to see the number of people that will go with what you already have in mind or what you shouldn't do. I think it's a human thing. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by xtervaganza(m): 2:14am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1:marry her abeg. That was to i dumped someone because of my mom and married the person my mom liked . Guess What? The marriage crashed. If you love her go ahead and marry her. Then shield her from your mom 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Nobody: 2:15am On Apr 12, 2018 |
It's quite amusing to hear people saying, 'age doesn't matter' in marriage. My guy, it does, sincerely speaking. There are certain nagging issues that would bother on age difference as soon as u get marriage, this which I know ur mom must be concerned with, as she's interested in ur marital joy. If u crave for marital bliss, pls don't defy ur mom's objection in respect of d age difference(especially, if u wouldn't want ur marital journey to end in despair). Wedding & marriage are poles apart. My brother, remove d emotion, it is running high in you. Speaking from personal experience though. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Beey(f): 2:19am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1:You sound like you are deeply in love which is a good thing.You also said that your fiancée is rich & beautiful which is another good thing.There's nothing wrong with marriage but you need to think.fter marriage, the goodsebumps you are feeling now, you won't be feeling that way everyday.Children come into the picture, there are bills to be paid.Question is, do you have a job? She's paying 80% of the wedding bills & you as the man, what will you bring to the table?Try to reduce the financial gap.I am not saying your girl is this kind but often times, people will help you & then keep reminding you about it.It becomes a reference point always.Put aside the excitement of the wedding & have an open talk of how you as the man are going to provide & take care of bills or how long she'd be willing to support you till you become stable if you aren't .But, at the end of the day it's not your mom who'll be getting married, it's you.Also a marriage therapist may give you better advise especially about the age factor, so seeing a therapist wouldn't be a bad idea. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Nobody: 2:25am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Lol, you know how many marriage wey both parents gather bless and e still no work out? I'm not against your marriage with her, you know her better than we do, you must have seen her other side in one way or the other. In decision making and every other thing. My problem here is that you're staying in her house and she want to foot 80% of the marriage thing. Anyway, just make sure you're the one paying the pride price ooo. Before you marry her, which I know you've already concluded you just need to weigh our opinions. Make sure you get your own apartment and a better job even if you're not earning more than her. Yeah, it's good for a lady to help but if she's doing it all the time, it becomes a problem. I believe in divorce ooo, you're still young sha if after 2-3 kids and she feel she's arrived and uncontrollable just get out. Most successful inventions didn't happen at the first trial 2 Likes |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Chuukwudi(m): 2:30am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1: You smoke? 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 2:37am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Beey: I saw this mention because I'm not yet asleep, I'm still watching tv. you read my post carefully, did I say I'm poor or jobless I wonder who pushed my post to front page because instead of advice, I'm now getting another thing. 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by lonelydora: 2:38am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1: You have already made up your mind...you don't need any advice from us again. Go ahead with your decision. Father's blessing is more important than mother's. Your father as a man knows the financial stress of running a family, reason he gave you his blessings. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Afritop(m): 2:42am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1:HER JAZZ ON YOU IS REALLY STROŅG, POTENT AND WORKING. SADLY, YOU HAVE NOBODY TO TEĹL YOU. I KNOW ONE BĄBA THAT WILL RELEASE YOU FROM HER GRIP. DM ME IF YOU ARE INTERESTED |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 2:42am On Apr 12, 2018 |
victorian: your comment is highly appreciated, this is the best advice I've gotten so far. now to the bolded post, if you read my post carefully you'll notice that I never said I'm poor!, I've my own money. I have enough resources to sponsor the marriage but she insisted to do that. 2 Likes |
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