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Maynman:
I don’t believe in story books, do you?, I only stated what happened in it.
Then your analogy is flawed if are using the “murder” aspect.

I believe in stories.

It's called faith. It's your choice not to believe. It's mine to believe.

And all our lives is stories. Look at Google. Google is not a real entity with body parts. But the stories we weave around it brought google to life.

Google today can speak, it can issue statements, it can be sued like a human being. Of course you believe in stories but not just the biblical stories.

Please expantiate on why my analogy is false. Don't just drop something without a reasonable backup.

Maynman:
The Christian god permitted murder inside that story book too..

I think every religion permits murder to a certain degree.


Not just the Christian God.


And I also believe you should respect other people's beliefs even if you don't believe or it sounds ridiculous to you.

For all they care, your unbelief is ridiculous to them as well.

Lolz.

Biblically incest is alright. I know some people will say God permitted it because people were few on earth then.

But ask yourself, did God permit murder because people are plenty now?


Whatever is wrong or right is wrong or right regardless of the amount of people.

Biblically and Quranically, incest is not a sin.


But i don't know how people find their sisters or brothers attractive though.

bamdly:
I think say u don retire con drop baton for uprightness Abi Westin be his name sef

lolz.

He's the same person. He will create topic with one username then login with another username to preach.

skoskosko:
While trying to sound woke, you failed to address how to deal with the emotional abuse from the woman. You mean to say a man should walk away for the rest of his life as long as he is being emotionally abused by his wife. So if his wife does not grow to maturity to handle and curtail her issues, he has to keep walking. You failed to realize also that emotional abuse is as, if not more despicable than physical abuse, as it kills you gradually from the inside. You also clearly did not read the article before jumping into run woke. If you did, you would have comprehended that the Op was not talking about being provoked easily like you asserted. Rather he was referring to how long a man will keep walking from an unabatable emotional abuse before it reaches breaking point. It is a universal law, everything has a breaking point, even the earth we live in. E.g climate change due to man made abuse. To those who feel he did not give a solution to the issue, read again. He clearly stipulated that one should seek divorce if abuse continues unabated. Same way you will advise a woman to run away from physical abuse, is thesame way a man should quit an emotionally abusive relationship because it is equally toxic. If you do not believe in divorce, then a separation is in order until she seeks emotional help to address her toxicity. How you conveniently wants the man who is being abused to seeks maturity but the abusive partner does not seek therapy is amazing. Woke indeed!

his reasoning shock you too abi?

Acme45:
Good day friends, I was checking for another thing online 3days ago. And I saw my very good friend's name boldly written by the sex video only for me to open it to discover that it was her. She got married few months back. and the date the video was uploaded online was just about two months to her wedding. And I'm very sure she's not even aware of it and if the husband accidentally see this video. Definitely the woman will be sent out. I have not been able to tell her because of how she will react to it. pls what's your opinion on this matter on ground. I just wonder how will a matured woman will allowed herself to be filmed. Stay one place them go say no, see what going from one dick to the other has landed her. Pls should I tell her or face my front?

This clearly shows that you have a direct relationship with her but not the husband.

Personally, I'd say keep your mouth shut.

Telling her won't take the video away. Rather she will only be agonizing about it day and night.

Just stay away.

Kobojunkie:
Everything I said so far I practice, why? Because it is commonsense! Emotional maturity is a good thing... even for the black man.

blah blah blah.

He's response will still be common sense, therapy, anger management

Kobojunkie:
1. Try to comprehend what is written before you respond.

2. Again, walking out is not meant to fix anything. Instead it is recommended so the one with the anger issues does not allow his emotions spiral into physically abusing the other spouse, a criminal offense. To fix things, you are advised to seek anger management therapy to help you better manage your emotions, so you are not easily provoked to anger snd even when, you know never to resort to violence during arguments. This is commonsense here.

3. Please stop! Your attempts at rejecting what is commonsense is what is disgusting here.

again you said nothing regarding what I said.

Like a robot, you give all the pre-programmed answers regardless of what I said or ask.

Vinnie2000:
TRY COMPREHEND THINGS BETTER. What i was asking the OP is what should married Men now do. Having no answer, he quickly buried his head in the sands!

why do you even think that I owe you an answer?

Kobojunkie:
1. Not all men who are in emotionally abusive situations have anger issues, hence not all male victims of emotional abuse find themselves leaving the house provoked. Many actual victims don't even leave the house, even though it is recommended that regardless of gender, victims of emotional abuse separate themselves from the toxic relationship and not return at all to the toxic environment. .

damn! Like I said u've not said one thing from your own thoughts. Just garbage spoon fed you.

Kobojunkie:
coherent reasoning is something you are obviously incapable of this since you continue to resort to personal attacks rather than actually engaging any of what I post directly.

you see this nonsense right here is the reason why people on social media are so dangerous.

You put words in people's mouth and make it look like they said it even when they did not say anything remotely close to it.


I have not said a man should physically attack his wife but here you are saying that I said it. Please point out where I said a man should physically attack his wife.

All I have said since is that walking out doesn't fix the issue, rather it leads to bottled up emotions which can result in a one attack which will be very severe.

You guys do the same thing with rape. Each time a person is suspected of rape and we say may be he didn't rape her. Maybe she is accusing him falsely.

You guys put the words in our mouth and say we are supporting rapist.

Very disgusting and disturbing sets of human beings with access to the internet.

Kobojunkie:
I know comprehension is an issue but my hope is that maybe by paying close attention to your comments and the different recommendations in each case, you can finally get it into your head that you are all over the place with this.
A man beats his woman inside therapist office. Then the recommendation in that case is for the woman to completely separate from the man, this hopefully after reporting the case to the police to ensure he does time for the crime that took place in the therapist's office.

I'll end this here because it seems you can't think beyond therapy, anger management and leave the marriage

Kobojunkie:
1. Again, if you find yourself in a toxic relationship, separate yourself immediately from such an environment this either through temporary separation or divorce. Do not return to a toxic environment afterwards.

another useless advice that have no bearing with what we are discussing.

Seems you can't even reason coherently yet you are quick to repeat all the mantra you've been fed by the media.

Kobojunkie:
1. If you are in a toxic relationship , irrespective of your gender, the recommendation is that you separate yourself yourself that relationship so you can instead recover from the damage that is the relationship - Do not return to such an abusive environment. .

2. Again, if you find yourself in a toxic relationship, run away away the environment. Seek separation or divorce immediately and do not return to the toxic environment.

stop sidelining my talk.

You said not all men who leaves the house because their women is emotional abusing them is angry.

The above was my response wat you wrote here has no bearing to what I said. I'm not looking for solutions.

I'm discussing an issue.

Kobojunkie:
1 The idea of a perfect man is born of a delusion, nothing more.

And no, not everyone has breaking points to resort to assaulting others physically. There are many out there who would rather turn their frustration inwards and attack their own mental instead. So stop giving yourselves excuses for why commonsense of emotional maturity should continue to elude you.

2. Anger management therapy and techniques have been proven to work in taming even the wildest of human beasts - Fact.

did anyone just read this trash with me?

The perfect man is an illusion and you went right on to describe how a perfect man can be created through therapy.

You are simply naive. Even hypnosis cannot hold a man down forever, talk more of therapy that is mere discussion.

Oga people dey beat their woman inside therapist office. Be like you never even know wetin therapy be.

Kobojunkie:
You continue to leave until you become emotionally mature to the point o not to being easily provoked by your woman or anything she says.

The reason you are asked to leave is the same reason why as a kid you were told to kneel down....immaturity. When you become emotionally able to control your emotions rather than having them control you, you can then sit through situations in your relationship like an adult.

another stupid point gotten from that place up your arse.

A man is being insulted by his wife but hey his the one not matured.

Kobojunkie:
1. The OP is instead wrong as he does not even realize the reason for the advice to begin with.

2. First or all, a man who is under constant abuse is not necessarily a man who is angry. OP'S description is of man who leaves his house in anger because he is unable to contain his anger. What you confuse with what Op's is saying is completely different.

3. If you find yourself walking out of your home even once a month as a result of anger issues, you need help and should seek professional anger management therapy to help you develop the emotional discipline necessary for staying in a mature relationship such as marriage.

4. For those who are instead in a toxic relationship, move out of the environment and seek professional marriage counseling to help you both determine the best path forward for the marriage afterwards

can you imagine?

What man will be under emotional abuse from his wife will be happy?

And then leave the house because the emotional abuse is making him so happy?

Like how far up your arse did you go to get all these trash you are typing

Tallesty1:
No, it always doesn't.

Sometimes he gets easily provoked because he is still recovering from a previous piss off from someone who has a consistent piss him off attitude.

Sometimes he doesn't need anger management classes, it's the other person that needs stop pissing him off classes.


I understand that the OP may not have concluded his post the way some people expected it but we will be lying to ourselves if we say that we do not get what he's saying.

I am also of the opinion that telling a man to leave the house whenever his woman fires up doesn't always stop getting physical, it postpones and makes it worse because whenever he reaches his breaking point, he will not be hitting her for the last incident, the attack will be due to accumulated anger just like the OP pointed out.

For what it worth, telling a man to leave the house any time his wife fires up is another way of forcing men to live with violent women instead of telling women to be less violent and express themselves in sane way.

It is a way some people infantalize women, we make it seem like women are capable of everything except self control and ability to communicate their issues/angers like adults.

Leaving the house once in a while is okay but don't make it a habit. What if it's raining? What if it's midnight? What if he goes out and gets attacks by bandits, robbers or even gets kidnapped? Do we really care about men?

If you're following Johnny Depp's case, you must have listened to the audio where the wife was laughing at him for running away like a coward whenever she hits him. She told him to grow up.

Despite all the running away, dude is on trial for DV. See, telling men to always leave the house is same as as preaching that real men don't hit women. It gives women more guts to do shits.

Solution? I don't have it. All I know and sincerely believe in is that a man must let his woman understand that his madness is not something she will like to arouse no matter.

See finish is the major cause of all these nonsense from women.

glad to see one reasonable person on the thread.

Honestly, this thread has been hijacked by the most senseless people in the world.

And no, you've provided a lot of solutions to the problem. It's not until you write solution before it's solution

Kobojunkie:
I guess for folks like the OP, you actually to actually spell these things for them to get a clue.
1. The fact that you are so easily provoked serves to indicator that you have what are serious anger management issues there.

Your anger issues are to blame for why issues continue unresolved in what is the marriage.

2. Your breaking point is reached, not because of the woman, but because of the stress from unresolved anger management issues, coupled with stress of unresolved marital problems, compounded by the fact that you chose to lay blame for it all on the partner with least ability to do anything about your stress.

3. A woman in such a marriage is married to an emotionally insecure man and is probably best preparing herself to a worst case scenario if such a man refuses to seek help for what is a known issue.

4. Seeking divorce from such an emotionally insecure man who feels he should get his way when he throws a tantrum is probably the best decision many women who find themselves attached to such men by mistake can make.

Your points are all good but for a perfect man. Regardless of anger management, everyone has a breaking point.

It doesn't matter how well you can manage your anger, there's always a point where you can't take it anymore.

And at that point, your anger will not be because of the issue at hand but a combination of everything she has ever done or said.

It's the same thing why introverts with bottled up emotions flare up once in a while. They don't do anything for a long time but once they reach their breaking point, that single anger will be more than any other one.

So, stop all these woke mentality and start thinking.

It is a fact.

T3ndrils:
Nah mate
Your thinking is an epidemic.

you even know the meaning of epidemic?

T3ndrils:
Abeg gettat again
Offer solutions.
And after that.
Gettat.

entitlement is a disease

When a man thinks like the op, he'll definitely have problems in his marriage.