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loveoris:
Is it such a bad idea though? I mean, to actually want separate bedrooms from your husband? Maybe his room bigger, the Master bedroom to accommodate both parties but another smaller separate room for wifey....just saying.

An intending couple got into a heated argument just a few weeks before their wedding when during a conversation the wife stated that she wanted her own bedroom. The man didn't take it to heart at first assuming she was joking, but soon enough realized the pretty lady wasn't joking at all. She meant every word of it. This ensued in a huge argument that dragged on for days. Members of the family and friends even got involved at some point. I remember my dad calling to ask me how I felt about the whole situation, my answer was pretty much simple- Give the young lady what she wants.

Hear me out!!!

Firstly, the space is not an issue, its not like they need to go buy or rent another house to accommodate this arrangement. They own a house of their own that has enough rooms that nobody uses.
Secondly, her reasons are very valid, which probably would be my reasons too. We don't always want to talk, be cuddled or argue, sometimes we just need our space to think clearly and enjoy the solitude. She went ahead to say she doesn't like herself during her menstrual phase so she stays away from everyone, doesn't go to work, she is just indoor writhing in pain and consoling herself. She would like to continue with that without having to bother or lash out at her husband simply because she is in pain. She made him understand that he is only fighting it because he has been conditioned traditionally that they must have the same room. However, if he is been truthful to himself he would realize that alone times can't be bought with money, doesn't mean they don't love each other anymore, it just means there is a need for recharge.

Her other reason was she wouldn't want her siblings or very close friends to ever have a reason to step into their matrimonial bedroom, which is the husband's room.
Her last reason, very valid too, is that she is quite a clumsy person, she looks for one outfit for the day and the whole place is upside down, her husband however is very neat freak and loves everything exactly how they should be. She said she wants to have her freedom and be able to have her things in a separate room, that way her mess is out of his face.

I personally think its a great idea for a woman to have a separate room that is hers, she can decorate it to her taste, have her me times, like her own closet. Even though most of the night I will be in my husband's room cuddled up, cos what is sleep without my man. But I'd love to know the option is there for me when I need to be alone for whatever reason. Moreso, the room is not going to be out of bound to my husband, he can always come in whenever he wants, the bed will be big enough for two, just incase the HS ministers to us right there....lol

Orisirisi! She should forget about getting married so that she can have her space, alone time and scatter her room. People just want to be married without adjusting to what marriage is

What are you doing with 4 drivers

Morbeta11:
https://dailypost.ng/2024/06/04/nba-recognises-muhammadu-sanusi-as-emir-of-kano/

It is not NBA Annual Conference, it is SLP Conference

designking:
This is one reason Igbo girls no dey quick see husband.

If she takes in for you while dating, the pikin go dey answer her father's surname even if you dey cater for all your child's need.

This tradition is too archaic.

Then marry her if you want the child

Gistmedia10:
A gruesome discovery has been made in Abia State, Nigeria, as a decomposing body was found near the residence of Andrew Amaechi Ochekwo, the man who had been hosting two friends, Celine and Afiba, who have been missing since April 27, 2024.

According to Nigerian activist Harrison Gwamnishu, the body was found with its head, hands, and legs not visible, wrapped in a curtain similar to those found in Andrew's home. Andrew had been killed while trying to escape from arrest.

Gwamnishu confirmed the discovery and appealed for assistance in ascertaining whether the body belongs to either of the missing women. He assured that any information received would be kept confidential and urged the public to come forward with any useful information.

The search for Celine and Afiba continues, and the authorities are working to determine the identity of the discovered body.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z9y_QDIjmMk

Show us the dead body of Andrew

bigemirat:
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Not true, the court awarded damages to him for the Police conduct and not for Dr D.K Olukoya’s actions/inactions. Dr Olukoya has nothing to do with it

NOwazobia:
If it was the other way round, I bet you wouldn't have said this.


But now you feel attacked because of how you have Idolized him.

I haven’t idolized anyone but if you CHOOSE to believe whatever you read on social media, then sorry you are on a long thing

Riosystem:
I can't imagine reading all this about Dr olukoya, A man we give deep respect if you watch him from distance. But does close to him and all the controversy surrounding him is saying the opposite.

Don’t believe all you hear on social media

jahson19:
Basket of white beans is 6500 and brown beans is 7500 here in warri


So yes a cup of beans is 400

A mudu of beans is 3,500

ExAngel007:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a-kMMXxiALw



https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2024/5/well-done-to-the-person-who-did-this-beautiful-act-south-africans-rejoice-as-6-nigerians-are-killed-in-their-country-video-2.html

Why would any sane Nigerian live in South Africa where the envy and deep seated hatred is real and unhidden?

That’s how their manhood will remain flat forever, how can you rape a pregnant woman?

lailo:
Is she not the one Fmr Delta Governor, Emmanuel Oduaghan denied as wife and said she should not be using his name again. Say na only one night stand dem do. Shey na by force to do attachee ni? Abi what does this Igbo ekuke girl want from our illustrious south south delta best governor?

Be deceiving yourself, her husband followed her to the red chambers when she was sworn in. Dem no dey put mouth for husband and wife matter

georgecso:
3300 for a crate

It’s cheap O! Here, it is 3,800 per crate

A welcome development. Who knows the sacrifices that people would have carried out there.

Double0h7:
Maybe she’s blessed with innumerable potential partners and she has the luxury to shit test those who are below her standards.

That sounds like something you have no idea of so carry on being kind and understanding and we’ll see where that gets you because you seem to misunderstand your components.

These men judge you by your waste, *****, and your lips but you think judging them by their pockets is wrong! Continue pickmesha!

The men you meet that judge you by your waist, **** and lips only shows that’s what you can offer through your conversation with them. Truth be told, most ladies can’t even carry out a decent intellectual conversation when they meet a guy so what do you expect. What the lady did was not judgment by the pocket but INGRATITUDE and ENTITLEMENT. Learn to call a spade, a spade. You young ones never learn. I pray it’s not too late when you learn.
Demanding for B when you were got A is not how to test a potential partner. If she has the luxury of numerous suitors, why not wait when a particular suitor gifts her the latest iPhone without she demanding for it? It’s sad the type of young people bred these days

Double0h7:
Continue thinking you’re special until some son of man leaves you with children to cater for by yourself!

Your pick me strategy has been worn out and the results remain the same: you will lose!

You better know your worth before you’re played because women have tried it all!

They’ve paid the bills and got left holding the bag, they’ve played it soft and got holding the bag; the only difference is that the ones who play the soft game walk away with their rights.

Nothings new under the sun.

No son of man can leave me with any children to cater for in Jesus Name Amen. I will loose anything in Jesus Name Amen.
That being said, the attitude displayed by the girl is an entitlement personality. You have no money and yet asking for what you can’t afford. What happened to ‘thank you’ that accompanies a gift? This is a gift for crying out loud? From someone you barely know. She can’t even look at the intention before she opened her entitled mouth? Learn to call a spade a spade. I’m not applying any pick me strategy neither am I even looking for love on nairaland so hold your peace.

EreluRoz:
It's a woman's nature accept it like that.

Not true. I and my sisters don’t behave like that

Goodvibes007:
https://punchng.com/abia-workers-reject-online-verification/?amp

The workers don’t want to do it cos a lot of ghost workers will be fished out

officialwdhtv:
Four ladies married to the same man proudly show him off

Take a listen!!!

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-pF6_MZrLw

I just pity the man cos he go dey chop sacrifices in the name of food from 4 different women

Fafesot:
Good day Nairalanders, I have a little problem. I bought some cowskin(ponmo) few days back. They are not so soft, at least to my satisfaction. I've been soaking it in water since I bought it but no significant change has happened. Are there ways I can make them soft? I mean very soft. Are there things I can add to it. Your responses are highly appreciated.

Put concrete nail in the pot and cook it. It works like magic

Ishilove:
contd.

The man is already cursed, may the fiancée run away from him. Sex can never be enjoyed if there is no mutual consent

BeeBeeOoh:
https://www.thecable.ng/kano-emirship-tussle-police-say-law-will-be-strictly-enforced-warn-against-violence/amp/

Which law? lol! Federal High Court has no jurisdiction to hear any Chieftaincy related cases

nlfpmod:
https://punchng.com/student-beaten-to-death-ajayi-crowther-hostel-porter-suspended-aiding-probe/

A private school with students that have barbaric minds.

lendahand:
you wear the L tag then. Mistake women make is suddenly baring hidden fangs the moment knots are tied thinking a man can never walk free again after professing loyalty to her before many witnesses. Nnaa mehn that's crazy oo. That's probably the reason why Oprah Winfrey's boyfriend remains a boyfriend for ages , he no wan hear another thing after tying nuptial knots. Women should learn to keep the fire of that relationship burning even when it blossoms into a higher relationship (marriage) and not suddenly wearing a toga of entitlement and mentality of having somebody's son already trapped by them, otherwise single mothers will be on the increase unapologetically. I'm speaking to you out of experience. I don't think you have got any real time experience in this matter, have you?

Which one is L tag? This has nothing to do with being attractive after marriage cos trust me, modern women are trying in that aspect. Most men change when they start making money, they won’t remember who have been with them but when the money goes, they go back to the former. I’ve had a similar experience of dating a single father before, trust me it’s not worth it. One of my aunties(a relative wife, she was a widow)suffered that too. The man who was legally divorced for 15 years, suddenly after 5 years of marriage, the ex wife called from nowhere and boom, they started to pick up from where they stopped leaving my aunt shattered.

Victni:
Olarenwaju Ayobami Kayode is a Nigerian professional footballer who plays as a forward for Ukrainian club Shakhtar Donetsk and the Nigeria football team.

Larry kayode just got wedded to Mrs Zinny olanrewaju kayode at Intercontinental VI Lagos, with Surprise Guest Artist, D'banj as cute photos are been shared

See photos:

Source: https://www.gistvic.com/2018/12/wedding-of-nigerian-international.html

Looking at the lady, you will know she is older than the guy but hey when love is in the picture, what do I know

lendahand:
I'm one of those who call a shovel a shovel trust me. My point is this: I can point out a long list of men whose second marriage thrived so much that you have to be shocked to even learn they were married to someone before. Your fear is second fiddle right? That comes up only when Anita is legally around but here she isn't again. Make your findings well, they are divorced. Paul travels all the way to America with a long notice to see his own kids. Mind you, most women are so possessive that they won't allow those kids ever reunited with their father again in a family way. So what's the fear here? Or you prefer Paul to continue staying alone? Ah no na you are way kinder than to wish him that ok? Don't be surprised this marriage is what will make Paul feel married for once in his lifetime.

Someone who has been in relationship for many years with Anita before they got married. Dey play.

lendahand:
Paul is divorced and no longer married to Anita so how is the new wife playing second fiddle? Mind the way you quickly judge people because nobody knows what is in front for him/her.

They are not even legally divorced. It’s this ‘don’t judge people’ that has put the society the way it is. When someone says the truth it is termed judging. The bitter truth is that once a person becomes a second wife, that lady is a second fiddle. He would always put the first wife and kids first before you. That’s because they have a long history before you came on board. The guilt is always there, so the man will always be on her beck and call.That being said, this lady has been lurking around before the divorce saga. Learn to call a spade, a spade. You won’t die if you do.

CJStarz:
Run ooo.... especially from those of them from Ogboo axis and the state capital.
If you know you know

Please tell us more. Which one is Ogboo axis?

EreluRoz:
Enjoy your life, he already divorced before she came in.

Not true. She has been around before the divorce

officialwdhtv:
Singer Paul Okoye a.k.a Rude Boy visits partner, Ifeoma Ivy’s family for marriage rights.

It’s been also rumoured that the couple are expecting their first child together.

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mz_4U_yDsA0

Hmmn! Some parents sha. This is what my parents will NEVER accept no matter how rich or caring. My parents will tell you that they will never support you to become a second fiddle. If you like go carry belle for the married man, na you and the child go dey, Popsy no go ever collect bride price from the man

nlfpmod:
Nigeria Stories




https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2024/03/5-things-to-know-about-turkey-based-nigerian-footballer-olanrewaju-kayode/amp/



https://www.google.com/amp/s/pmnewsnigeria.com/2024/03/30/footballers-wife-dora-kayode-accused-of-fraud-adultery-in-scandal-involving-pastor-tobi-adegboyega/%3famp=1

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That’s why when men who have good wives treat them badly, I just SMH cos they don’t know they’ve struck gold which is difficult in this generation

brandony:
its own by a vibrant celebrity Mc Mbakara

Not true. It’s Azubuike that owns it