You have been crying all over nairaland na you be the first person them serve breakfast? Wailer 😂
Don’t find something to keep yourself busy keep fooling around for likes frustrated ewu
Again I didn't make my comments on your mother's head, I don't know why u drinking panadol on some one elses headache. That bolded should be for you not me don't you think so?
Most people in relationships believe that a relationship ends the day one party call it quit. But that’s far from the truth. An average relationship that ended didn’t end that day, it probably ended few days, months or years before. So why didn’t the person just call it quit that same day?
It’s mainly because the party involved just wants time to enjoy the benefits they’ve been enjoying. It may be the gifts, money, sex, the trips etc.
So let me share the experience of a friend of mine. He was dating this girl sometime ago and it was going on very well. So I was with him in her house on this particular day and they were arguing about something that has to do with the male and female gender. He is an unapologetic alpha male and supports the male gender with all he has but this was a problem with her. She said something that annoyed him so he told her he was going home. The next thing madam said was “who the hell do you think you are? Every time you'd just be getting angry as if you’re God” As if that wasn’t enough she pushed us both out of her apartment and told him “get out of my house and go and die“.
As a gentleman he didn’t say anything to me, but knowing my friend, deep down I knew the relationship was over. But he didn’t end it that day or week or month. A few later, he just called her out of the blue and said it was over. Some days ago while going through my own dating issues, I messaged him asking why he broke off with her and he forwarded the video below and typed "that day" under it.
So guys, when did you know that your relationship was over?
The day he started demanding I do more than my power, while he was boldly allowing a woman feed him all in the name of being supportive..not like he did anything in return while we were dating I was living on empty promises.
Unblock him, He will still come around but I pray he won't be too late. The basic point here is that try as much as possible to be helpful to people generally.
No my mind is made up, him ans his supportive lady should enjoy themselves. I have moved on.
Just don't OverExpect or be Expecting a Mr. Perfect. Every Guy (Just Like Every Girl) has one or Two flaws. 🙂🙂
I know I left because in the future it will be a constant reminder and he will continue to use it against me. So u see the little time I usually get I will spend it here while look forward for better days.
BTW, Is it the Relationship that made you Keep off Nairaland for a while?🤔🤔
It's like you were enjoying the relationship. 😊😀😀
Not at all my job wasn't giving me time and the little time I had I was always wasting on someone who was relying on a woman for financial support while constantly comparing and abusing me emotionally.
I have been wondering If it is Truly possible for a girl to get over her ex especially when she has the chance to meet him again. I know when you don't see it will seen like it's all over.
Why I am asking is ALL my exes, anytime I'm around where they are, no matter how bitter they were about the break up always don't hesitate to meet again when I ask them to.
I have not had any resistance from any of my exes to meet again even those we haven't spoken for years due to distance or somthing.
And yes, we do " have fun" anytime we meet even when they are in a new relationship.
That really makes me scared because I feel like the girls I'm dating are also unable to resist a request from their exes to meet even when they tell me how much they won't go back, but it's very difficult to believe especially when there's an opportunity to see again.
So ladies, can you truly get over your ex even when you have the opportunity to meet again?
Most definitely it's a matter of making up your mind, if I get treated too badly to the extent of me crying, it's always easy to get over that person even if I later forgive you nothing about you will attract me anymore that was how I was built.
mannash1: Am 36 yrs old from Delta State, ijaw by tribe precisely, and am the second of 3 children from my parents the only boy. I work in an oil and gas company.... i earn close to half a million a month i spend two weeks on the rig and two weeks out so basically i spend half of the year onboard and the other offshore which makes it difficult for me to mingle and find the love of my life. so am looking on to the internet...... interested ladies from 24 - 30 yrs should be from the south south or south west
femi4: You did the right thing cos you will never win this battle. You will soon meet your man that will love you the way you are and appreciate your little effort. Men like your ex are emotional blackmailer. When he sees another girl that can spend more, he ll move on to her with the same excuse.
Don't allow a nobody to make you feel less important or valuable
Did he tell you all this or you made it up? Did he tell you he wanted you to go so he would be happy? You shouldn't bring your relationship flaws here my dear, he didn't do well yes by comparing but you too should explain yourself to him. You clearly love him and I can tell he wants you too so why torture yourself? Your words shows he didn't treat you bad so it's not a major issue, try to fix it and chase that intruder away. Except you don't want because you have seen a better man then cool. All these men here talking are not better than that your man, including myself. Fix your relationship and you will enjoy your man
he musnt tell me am noy stupid mr man, i can read in between the lines and the handwriting is clearly written on the wall, i might be young but i know when someones dooesnt want me anymore, he doesnt want to say it so it wont look like it came from him. Relationship with him has been hectic and emotionally draining, am tired of the constant comparison with different women, the believe that because am trying to amend is now a pretence I can't deal with it as I have been doing so for months. I did the little I could do but if there was one thing I told him, the little I gave to him I didn't make prostitution to give to him.
amadiama: My question is are you the demanding type? If your the type that is always collecting and never supporting then I guess his tired of you...for him to be telling you wat other ladies do for him..but breaking up with him is d best for you..am a guy but according to your story seems the guy needs a sugar mummy and not a girlfriend
The times i demanded he never gave me alwaga telling me he doesnt have and when i get angry he calls me toxic, he tells me i dont respect him, he tells me that non of his ex ever talked down on him because of money, he starts telling me how all his exes where with him when he had nothing how theu supported him and all, making promsies of things he will do all that for over 9 months, the circle comtinued.
TheWinterBird: He cheated on you with two women but somehow flipped the script on you to blame you? Make that make sense. Girl, you should've done the breaking up. You need to up your standards and self-worth.
I have tried to leabe countless times because of all of this but he woudnt let me, he tells me he isnt cheating of which i dont believe. But I have made up my mind this time because honestly I am so fed up.
You haven't taken my advice before now in the comments so why take this one? Go back to your man and work things out since you love him. I can't tell him anything because I don't know him. These validation you are seeking here won't help you, you know the truth you didn't tell us and that truth will make you feel guilty as long as you ignore that truth
i am not feeling guilty of anything whatever i did what wasn't healthy for the relationship we talked about it and I appologised countlesss times and we had moved on i was trying to adjust and when he saw that I was doing so that was when he told me I was pretending or acting up just because of what I will gain. I have made up my mind this time around because have been through breaking up and coming back. But this time around I want him to be happy so its cool he's with a woman more mature and willing to support him just as he has always wanted. I can't have everything I can only amend and since he doesn't appreciate the fact that I was trying to amend he's now calling it pretence it's better I let him go. Am done!!
Kwantinu.. na for faceless forum you dey seek advice from people wey their own relationship issues pass your own. Your man was right to follow the other girl You aren't matured for relationship so go and make money
Thank you are know am arent matured for any relationship i will take this your advice seriously make money forget about relationship and take care of myself. Tell him I said he should enjoy himself, I wish him well.
Oh my goodness. You are dating an old fool that is entitled. Girl,be brave and smart. Focus on improving yourself,focus on making money. Use your time to think of how you can be rich,not to give a stupid guy but to live a soft girl life. Even at 50, many women still find loving husband,don't ever support any man financially,it's not your job
Am so sorry at OP. You sound like a good person. Don't mind that slowpoke of a man. He's a manipulator who wants to just make a mess of your relationship no matter how hard you wanted to make things work.
Thank God for yourself my dear sister. Give God thanks for making you dodge that misfit of a man. You just dodged a very deadly bullet.
Your right man will soon locate you. And by then, you won't struggle to make things work out. It'll All flow seamlessly.
Amen thank you so much. I have let it go and I just want to move on.
From your write up, your replies to stupd men on this forum,I can see you are very soft and dumb. How can you allow a lazy idiot to tell you you can't support him? Relationship is mutual benefit,how is he exactly benefiting you? He's an entitled fool, and I'm glad you left the idiot. Never allow a man to treat you like that. You are a queen, a rare gem, the only you on planet Earth, you are valuable. Never allow people or anyone to treat you like that. I will advise you build your self esteem
I don't think you did anything bad especially if you like below 24. Expecting so much from you is not ideal.
But if you are 27 above, and within a marriageable age, I will also be concerned if you can't pick up some bills. I have been with a least two of such above 27 who can never say I shd wear my clothe that they want to buy me a bottle of Heineken upon say dem be working class. iPhone say I don carry dem tour the almost all d city. I no come this life come slave for person daughter.
The reality of Nigeria of today is that lots of guys can no longer carry the entire weight of a woman. I understand every girl prays for the soft life, but that is mostly a vanishing dream.
But contributions is not only financial tho, however, I believe you made the right decision based on your situation.
I am below 24 I haven't build anything to support a man with am just starting my life, should I go and die because of relationship where the man wants me to do more than my power? He's far far older than me if am not mistenkenly up to more than 10years difference.
bentenny: Hmmm...well a failed relationship is better than a disastrous marriage! Obviously there was no compatibility! Try to move on.... Engage yourself in a valuable and productive skill.. Reevaluate yourself in your now former relationship by pointing out your flaws and positives!(be honest in your evaluation)
Make improves where necessary!
Take responsibility of your life and strive to become the best version of yourself!
Don't rush into any relationship but take your time to know the person better
Now let's agree you are right, just look at how you paint your man in public eye, is that nice? Telling strangers because you didn't give him money, because the other woman feeds him and give him money, just look at it yourself, is that right? This people you are seeking advice from have their own relationship problems, even worse than yours but haven't come to wash their spouse here like you did. I know you are hurting and not yourself but try to understand that you will regret spoiling your man this way here in this forum because they will mock you one day for it. It happened to me too. I believe comparing you is a big flaw of his and you could help him change and be better, just like he also will try to help you with your flaws. That woman is the problem so why not try to tell your man your worries and fix things. Even your next man might be worse so try to stop spilling more. You love him and it's evident so tell him why you left and fix things if you are certain he loves you
yeah i had my flaws and i promised to change which i actually kept to my promise but he blew up everything the moment he told me i was pretending, its like my heart was pireced with something. It shows that there's nothing I will do that will impress him yeah I am deeply hurt that was why I brought it here. I need encouragement and will power to move on.
Bro I sense she's not telling the full story and she just wants people to see the man as a bad person, which is what you are doing. I can't empathize with her because I know she's not telling the truth. If she's honest, she should fix her relationship because no relationship is perfect. That place she is or will go might be worse. Everyone carjoling her otherwise won't be there with her when the next relationship becomes worse
I am not fixing anything Mr man, I am tired of it, i know the constant battle i had to fight for months, arguments, quarrrls, toments from him i am tired am not going to die or loose myself just to impress him i have done enough. Everyday comparison, everyday complains I am this I am that when I make efforts to change or do better he says am pretending because I want to gain from him. Am tired I didn't bring it here for anyone to pamper me I brought it here for encouragement that's what they are doing.
lordnkem000: You know I will not join people to pamper you with words. Tell everyone what are the issues he told you he didn't like. You are manipulative and you are already manipulating people here with your one sided story. You must have been terrible b[b]efore and then decided to change and he didn't believe that[/b], you should have assured him you were not pretending. That's what I'm saying. Calling your man here and making him look bad is not good at all, because life goes bigger than here
He didn't believe it? He refuses to believe it because a woman is feeding and giving him money, he refused to believe because he has this tendency of using words against me, he refusesd to believe because even after telling me my flaws and I decided to change and adjust he saw it as pretending because I wasn't giving him money, if I was he would have seen me as a woman of value and not compare me with other women who give me. I am just starting my life I haven't build anything yet to give a man I did give him from the little I had I aren't double dating or doing prostitution to give him the little I had, but it wasn't appreciated because I never gave him big, he gives me attitude because of that. Everyday quarrels and arguments I am tired. Am too young to go through all of that mental stress. So pls if you know him tell him to go be with his woman of value, I am valueless may God give me a man who will wouldn't see me as liability or call me valueless like u stated.
remiopash: It is good that you blocked him. You can only help him if you have. You are not married and he's already demanding for support authoritatively .What about if he leaves you after you have spent on him? You did the right thing.If he loves you ,he won't compare you with other girls.
He does that every time, constantly witu different women, i got tired the worst part is he never did anything for me.
I don't see anything wrong you've done from what you shared. Don't pressurize yourself to fit into someone's description of a perfect woman. You made the right decision to let him go. It's not healthy to be with someone (a friend, a romantic partner, etc) who compares you with others.
Forgive him, hold no grudges, have no expectations about the consequences of his decision to be wiith someone else.
Just FULLY FOCUS on improving the quality of your life in all areas. Don't do it for him, do it for yourself alone. With time, you'll meet someone who will appreciate your qualities and focus less on your flaws.
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