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My fellow Christians, I observed long ago and presently that when ever am in a serious fasting and prayers, i do forget my dreams . once I wake up I will not remember a thing.... Please how do I go about this, is it normal ? Because I am not comfortable with it. Is there anyone who do have such experience? What do I do?

ikp120:
Any girl who pretends is insecure.

insecure when its obvious she got prepared from her house..

I met this girl in a friends birthday party, we started getting along with each other.. From that night we exchanged contact, as time goes on we became very close and started dating. Even though we haven't met since after the birthday because our schools are different. I am schooling at Unizik while she schools at Igbariam campus. So I started raising the issue of visiting me and she obliged, on a Saturday evening she came and was looking more pritty, after I introducer her to my friends and had a nice seat out together, hoping she will sleep over so we could spend private time together as lovers. As it was getting late, she told me she wanna go . I was shocked and disappointed, I had to beg this girl to sleep over like am going to die all effort to make her sleep proved abortive. I even told my friends who cares to know what was going on to help me beg her to sleep over since the next day was sunday,, she said" she dosent sleep with man who is not her husband under the same roof. At last after so much pleading she accepted I was so exited so we went to my room little time she went to shower, because I forgot to get fuel for my gen I decided to go get from black market. As I came back to my greatest surprise, she finished taking her bath, change to a night wear wearing her net with her white face like she applied ladies thing on it...she saw me and smiled with fire in her eye , I said to myself guy calm down don't be in a hurry to make advances.
I asked myself, "why did she have to stress me when is obvious she is prepared to sleep over ? ... Else where did she get that night wear from, the brush, cream,net and panties as I lastly observed.... What could make her acted like sister Mary Why do you girls pretend?

Jesus!!! Imagine !!!! How hrtless n mean this devil can be. That man should be made to provide those he do distribute these riffles for all his business contapant ..... Finally sentence him to death by hanging that's if they wunt take bribe because Nigeria is corrupt

Apostle go and see them nothing with happen to you, you are serving a God of moses who makes a way in the middle of the sea.... Be still d whole world will know that God is God and not man..... Hmmmmm
An Apostle of God is an Oracle of God. No political power of forces will destroy your root (Jesus Christ)

Genevieve remains the best... I have been waiting to see if any of these upcoming can beat her acting skills but none has ever done that.... Genevieve gat talent... She z well skills in her field n act real.. Genevieve still remain pritty her stature s wonderful n dsame.... I love that gal qwench

If truely buhari is in a life supporting machine...
My phone is down I will just unplug the life supporting machine and charge my phone.....

Yes I av interest

"I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else. Relationships work out mostly because of our brain not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because time will come when you"ll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic,intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God-fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with. In those times, love will not help you; SELF CONTROL will, EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE will come to your rescue and COMMITMENT will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you are committed to will rank first in your life. You think happily married people don't see better people than ones they married You think they don't feel funny sometimes You think they don't have feelings They do! But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that destroys that impulse. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love. We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the 3-6months of the relationship. After then, you"ll realize that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work not love's responsibility. Relationships cannot be ready made. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not the love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment. Everyone falls in love ; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that. That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one.

More advice r welcome ed

Thank you all my fellow niaralanders for your comments and advice...... Trust me I no I was stupid and feeling terrible ryt now don't even know how I got myself into this mess........... I deserve all the insult and names.. But big thanks to those who reacted and showed their disappointement and finally dropped their advice.. Thank to the English corrector... Sometimes we make typographical errors ... I av right to it ryt now because of the situation at hand.....
Thanks

EdegbeLine:
You do not need an advice, what you need is to be castigated and send packing from planet earth because she is wicked and inhuman. And let me tell you this, your fiance might act as if he has forgive you if you tell him or he finds out, but trust me, in future he will surely pay you back because men hardly forgive such deed.

you have a point here. Thank you

EdegbeLine:
See girl, if I were your fiance, do you know what I would do? I will love you more after you have told me or I have found out before wedding, marry you but...hmmmm, I swear with my life, as my wife, I will frustrate you till you take your own life. Pr@stitute, that's what you re.

is that an advice?

rosalieene:
First and foremost its fiancé and not finance pls correct your topic before ppl will diss you.
This is really difficult oo
I won't even advice you to opt for an abortion
I wouldn't blame you for making the mistake but with this you would loose the trust of your fiancé. Seat him down plead and tell him what transpired, Just accept your fate, he may end it with you. Tho its a difficult decision, but its better to go with a clear conscience. If he still loves you after all, then be happy! I wish you the best of luck.
Again, have u told your ex about it.

yes I told him none of us want us back...

I am a 23-year-old girl, about to marry a man I truly love. About five years ago, I ended a quite painful relationship, and my husband-to-be helped me to get over it. We started as friends, but gradually fell in love and grew to appreciate one another. Eventually, he proposed to me and I gladly agreed to be his wife.

Our wedding's due in September. We haven't had sex so as to consummate our relationship on our first night together. Although neither I nor him are virgins, we agreed to wait until after our marriage.

All was going well, until I ran into my ex about two months ago. Long story short, we met up, had a few drinks and ended up in his apartment. Recently, I found out I'm pregnant. Neither I nor my ex want to continue our affair, and I feel terribly guilty.

The million naira question is: do I tell my fiancee of my one-night stand, or do I seduce him and make it appear the baby is his? "

What advice could you give her?

OneSentence:
u don't win an argument by typing such nonsense. neither do u make a point or any sense at all by typing this. it shows intellectual laziness. u win an argument or u make commons sense by deflating the other person's point of view. now that we have started interacting u will realise that u will definitely be more intelligent with time. hope to hear from u soonest. shalom.

why should I stress myself waking an already death body by arguing with you, ? There are pointless things that don't deserve my time atal... Call me Lazy is up to you,
I win or you win, its not gonna reunite their union or cut any ice.
All I know is that your initial comment wasent nice .
He who sees evil and say its good will eventually be paid in same evil proportion. And don't know what is going on in their marriage but let's assume the socials where right. That's. Not a nice thing to say about marriage. She lived a wayward life before marriage.... Are you a saint
She married him because of money is the money yours..,
They have issues .. Will you be the one to unit them?
So what's your take An audience? Does your opinion count ..
You win the argument... Where is your award?
You are intelligent.. What are you known for? Mark?

OneSentence:
I didn't need to be there. she uploaded all those on twitter u hear. And since its all in her past she shouldn't delete his name and call it off nah. she should wait cos very soon all his cheating will be in the past too. afterall if he can marry her after sh has been taken by other men she can continue after he's done taking the other woman.

get sense Ijn

OneSentence:
but when she was smoking weed n uploading it, when she was fuccking Don Jazzy, when she was living the bad girl life she was mature abi? now after all that all of u women now want God-fearing men abi?

What is this one saying? Did he not know tonto before he got married to her? Everybody has a dark past. No one z a born saint but at w point in once life irrelevant things gat to change...
Ever since she got married have u seen such? Or has her attitude not changed. Is called love love can perform miracles..... Even if she slept with all d men in the world did she sleep with u?
Where you dere?
What's your role....
Besides now they r married and made a vow couples r suppose to live a marital life tru in love normally dere shall not even be record of infidelity after marriage

lilking12:
baby mama is the best route to take, no need of getting married

hmmmmm baby mama ko abi baby mama ni? U lack confidence in yourself

Every ladies dream in a good relationship is to have her man for the rest of her life, build the future together most especially if she is in love with him.
But in a situation whereby
You are almost living with him
Do vigorous laundry for him
Wash his dishes
Clean everywhere in the house
Cook for him assorted kind of dishes most times with your money.
And finally you serve him yourself at nyt happily and willinly.
Its not bad if u do all of that to the man you love once in a while prove to him u gonna make him happy for life... but then give him space and make him miss you and all that you do
But in a situation whereby u go to live with him and make him feel 100% comfortable. HOW DO YOU EXPECT HIM TO PROPOSE WHEN YOU ARE ALREADY MAKING HIM FEEL MARRIED AND MAKING HIM ENJOY MORE THAN MARRIED people.......sister don't loose your taste

Virgin or not I respect cool and well behave gals.....
Virgins should sharrrrrrrrrap!!! Who cares? N what makes u funk that when u finally meet ur husband he will not cheat on u. Grow up n act cool

Good

So because of nyash you lock your shop....
That old woman in your village is shaking calabash for you she has sworn u will never have sense.mtcheeew olosho

refiner:
Go girl!!!...that's what I'm talking about...

Men thinks we have no choice....they most of the time thinks much of themselves and leaves us in the dark as if we don't exist...

But we carries the burden most of the time...

Like seriously women now is the pillar in the home. Gone are the days when men are men. All we have now is men who are looking for where to deposits their rubish semen and go.. Womanizers....... Ladies really need to wise up n refuse to settle for less

You are watching to know if she is good enough to be your wife, she is watching too to know if you are good enough to be her husband . men should stop thinking woman have no choice,
"She will be the one to carry your babies as many times you wish.
"She will be the one to leave her parent to synchronize with your entire family members home and abroad. She must have to prove to be a good wife to more than half of ur family members. No matter the cost
"She will be the one leave her denomination for Christ sake.
"She will be the one to pass through the recent Nigeria process of changing name with all those stress.
" from that day her identity changes, she welcomes another faze of life.
" she goes to see her people when you approves her permission letter.
" she becomes worn out because she burns like a kindle to bring light to the family.
THEN WHY WOULD SHE NOT HAVE A CHOICE OF VIEW??. you must worth all those sacrifices...

Perfect observation and well said . FP please

DoctorAlien:
This is a pathetic comparison.

1. A picture is not a graven image

2. Pictures of our loved ones play no role whatsoever in our worship to GOD.

No, you keep graven images in your churches and houses, contrary to GOD's commandment in Exod. 20. The fact that a graven image has to be in front of you before you concentrate during worship speaks volumes about who you really worship. All the holy men of GOD in the Bible needed not look at a graven image to worship. Jesus did not look at any graven image, neither did Peter.

Repent!

Atleast even if we are guilty of what you acuse us of atleast like you said "All the holy men of God in the bible" what about you people who reference your pastors put his pictures here and dere what about you who bow to them who are not even recorded holy

DoctorAlien:
That was while he was under the darkness of catholicism. As the Scriptures opened his eyes, he rejected papal lies and disagreed with the roman church as much as he had light from the Bible.

Mary is not praying for anybody. Mary is in the grave. Read your Bible.

please have you been to the grave of Mary? Have you died before for you to open your mouth and speak what you have knowledge of? Don't mid use the mercies of God.

Well said.

But after this mistake, my question has not been answered.

I have a friend who got a proposal from a man she was dating and she took his name along side other suitors name to uptill 3 seers (men of God)all confirmed a particular guy the same man she was presently dating. After waiting for him to return from his trip to Malaysia.to pay her dowry as he promised her November last year.
To her greatest shock, the man went and paid another girls dowry last December.
My question is what went wrong?, does it means that all the men of God are lying?, or it is not necessary to make such moves of going to consult a man of God when ever one is looking for his/her perfect march since one already know what he/she needs in the partner. What step is needed in other not to make such mistakes.