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Hello Nairalanders, I need sincere advice about my relationship because I am getting confused and emotionally tired.

I have been in a relationship with a lady (let me call her Fumilayo) and we are planning our Introduction ceremony in about two months. However, some issues have been bothering me and I need honest opinions.

1. Her Attitude

Sometimes I feel like she is pretending about her personality. She often raises her voice at me and sometimes yells whenever I point out something she did that I don’t like. Instead of discussing issues calmly, it usually turns into an argument.

This makes me uncomfortable because I prefer peaceful communication in a relationship.

2. Money Issues

Most of our disagreements are about money. She believes I should be giving her regular financial support like monthly upkeep, but I feel pressured.

Sometimes I feel she is with me mainly because I have a stable job and that she wants to use me to achieve her business goals and maybe leave later. I may be wrong, but this fear is in my mind.

Background

When we met, I was doing my Master's degree and also attending banking school at the same time. She was in Egypt hustling then.

We were dating and she knew I was doing my Master's, but I didn’t tell her about banking school then.

After I finished banking school, I was posted to Head Office instead of a branch. I became a product manager handling a banking product after finishing my Master's.

When she returned from Egypt and visited me in Lagos, that was when she discovered that I was working at the Head Office. Before then, she had been worried about me getting a job after my Master's and I kept telling her God would provide.

Her own plan is to open a hairstyling business in Lagos.

Lifestyle Differences

Another issue is spending habits.

She likes expensive things and believes cheap things have no value because they spoil quickly. She doesn’t like trekking and prefers taking a bike even for short distances.

The truth is that both of us did not come from wealthy families. I usually advise that we should reduce spending and focus on building wealth together, but she doesn’t always agree.

The Main Problem – Introduction Planning

We are planning our Introduction ceremony in about two months.

My plan was to save:

₦170k first month for clothes
₦170k second month for logistics and introduction items for her family in Ibadan

But during the first month, unexpected bills came:
Transportation
Feeding and food stocking
My sister became seriously sick and I had to send emergency money home
Support for my parents
Electricity and waste bills
House maintenance
Investments and small savings (₦35k)

Because of all these, I could not provide the ₦170k as planned.

The amount I could afford at that time was ₦76k for her to manage.

The Introduction is supposed to be a simple living-room ceremony, not something big. I even suggested wearing a white native attire I already have so we can focus more on the wedding later.

But she became angry and said ₦76k is too small and asked what it can do.

My Concern

I am getting tired of constant arguments and pressure.

I know I am not perfect and I have my weaknesses, but I am trying my best.

Sometimes I wonder:
Am I being unfair?
Is she being unreasonable?
Are these signs I should reconsider this marriage?

Please Nairalanders, I need honest advice.

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Thanks advance DNA, anyways I chose Unilorin for medicine in which have done the post utme examination but I didn't meet up with Medicine cut off. But their is a chance of getting pharmacy. That is where am confused. Should I accept pharmacy or go for my masters in Biochemistry.
Which one weigh in terms of employment and salary structure in Nigeria between pharmacy and Biochemistry (Lecturer to be precised)

Please I would like to have your advise and please do not mind the English used, apology to my use of English.
Am in a serious dilemma, am a kind of person who had a real zeal for medicine from day 1 but was given Biochemistry to study in higher institution. And now am a graduate going for my master degree in Biochemistry in other to meet my Academic pursuit (As a Lecturer) and at the same time want to apply for another degree in Pharmacy. My question for the nairalanders based on their experience, please which one should I go for with the situation in Country right now?

sirleke:
it's like that for all I guess

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Please help a brother. Have uploaded my passport just for me to click on finish, it brought out a completed form that has been filled but my passport is not showing.
My question is this, is it going to show after clicking finish

Please help me, am done with the application only for me to click on finish, I discover that my passport didn't show instead it is blank. What can I do to make my passport reflect?

Profyoungmeta:
Same here also

The registration is going through for D.E now

Nedvedbunmi:
Please has any unilorin DE candidate been able to progress with registration??.
I've been trying severally to register but always tells me invalid registration

Same here also

Aremson14:
I'm getting the same notification although in a Direct entry candidate

Same here also, am D.E aspirant but is it only D.E aspirant that is having issue with that or with Jambite as well

drvt:
Even if it's from the VC of unilorin I'll still disregard it. I'll advice that DE guy to get invisible teacher and A one English and read it through and through he'll score high I'm sure of it. he'll see maths and general knowledge questions but very few. if he needs more advice he can hit me up.

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UNILORIN Pre-Admission Registration Period is from 10th August to 31st August 2020.

Please note that wrong entries will automatically disqualify a candidate.

UNILORIN Post UTME Eligibility.
Only candidates who applied through JAMB for the 2020/2021 UTME Admission and chose the University of Benin as First Choice and scored 180 and above are eligible for this Screening Exercise



How to Obtain for UNILORIN Post UTME Form.


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Please who has successfully done with his or her post utme registration.
I tried to use chrome on my phone but keep saying Invalid Jamb registration number, please I need help oooo. Are you receiving same notification and if no please help me with the registration

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Haustyne:
Unilorin post utme exam comprises of mostly english, few general studies and maths. Honestly 70 doesnt guarantee you admission in medicine cos DE is very competitive and they admit small. Just score 76+ to be considered and pray to God.

Okay, but do you think 76+ will be okay even if someone has 77. Is Unilorin admission really tough

[quote author=Haustyne post=90364157]Unilorin post utme exam comprises of mostly english, few general studies and maths. Honestly 70 doesnt guarantee you admission in medicine cos DE is very competitive and they admit small. Just score 76+ to be considered and pray to God
Okay, but do you think 76+ will be okay even if someone has 77. Is Unilorin admission really tough

nurex01:
hmmn! Well, as it stands be prepared to get anything above 70. Moreso, Pray to God about Unilorin Admission o. Torr

How do you think you can be a help to a brother to meet up with the postutme cutoff. I mean what their postutme question is all about, so as to prepare well because I cant wait to see myself in the department

nurex01:
what do you need to know? Be specific.

Is it their post UTME requirements or what?

Actually have known the postutme requirement in which am qualify to write their postutme but I want to know the score I need to have during their postutme exercise. So that I would be giving admission to Medicine Department

Profyoungmeta:
Is it their post UTME requirements or what? Great Doctors please I need more info on DE in Medicine and Surgery at Unilorin. please someone should help me out

Actually have obtained my Jamb form in which I apply for DE, but I want to know the score one need to have in their postutme before they give you Medicine in Unilorin

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Is it their post UTME requirements or what?[/quote]Great Doctors please I need more info on DE in Medicine and Surgery at Unilorin. please someone should help me out

Actually have obtained my Jamb form in which I apply for DE, but I want to know the score one need to have in their postutme before they give you Medicine in Unilorin