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coogar: whether he's done it or not is an academic point, i don't go to COZA to serve pastor biodun. if any woman has any evidence against the man, let them post it online. what are they waiting for? must the pastor dare them? must he deny allegations before these charlatans can post the evidence?

So, coogar, u dey form hulk hugan since, dey hala for pipo, we pozi for koro dey observe pikin wen dey throw stone. Serious angle 90 for u.
For u to have denied in ur previous posts that you attend coza n now the contradiction. Am sorry for thinking u were just plain crazy, u are taking self delusion to a new record high. Apart from coza been a source of income, d endless supply of women with loose constitution is really strong.
Come o, biodun, slow down for d matter. Change ur wife from postcard, oga postmaster apart from posting ur jaw rule on top disturbed ladies with daddy issues.

Am beginning to think it is for ritualistic tendencies... So one pastor that has traveled past decency n morality kept hanging a friend's wife in jos, after he lost his job n went searching 4 one in abj. Now, c d women at d end of the day... Non progressive and trapped. Going to coza? d causal been a marriage of coziness and caustic ardour of promiscuity. Excited at d end of the service right? Induced hypnotic effect, after lifting up "holy hands", marketing pedicure and manicure.
Christians should go back to their roots. Thank God for the Anglican Sunday School. Go to where u were first taught Christ as a child

texaco1: You still don't get biodun game plans and antics.if he denies many more ppl may come out ,even ese may decide to come out ,that means more wahala for him.if he accepts dat is double wahala too because he will have to deal with the church reactions and his family reactions .so tell me what do u think he should do?he should just keep quiet he knows the case will die a natural death with time .accepting or denying will blow the case out of proportion.I HAVE NEVER SAID THAT BIODUN IS INNOCENT

Now u are talking...

Robust reply indeed. Imagine Been inside d same roof with this irresponsible demon possessed serial adulterer mounting d pulpit? Close d damn LovePeddler den and put it to something more reasonable, like rehabilitating ex- harlots n gigolos. Robust reply... Arrogance, before d fall

Coogar... Never heard of coza until a few days back... Texaco1, holding brief. Has money and threats traded hands in respect to the affected ladies? Stop disgracing yourself cooza. Insulting people is a very low form of life. By d way, did u knell before madam?
Its very obvious biodun has his mind on other things... "Who will see this building and..." Hypnosis at its peak. What has d building got to do with him been irresponsible?

Pain: CULLED FROM LINDA IKEJI BLOG !! WOW!

Franca said...
This story is true. I was introduced to the church in Abuja by my childhood friend, who moved to Abuja from Calabar two years before I did. When I joined, she was also a PCU worker. I really felt welcome in the church up until my friend started having problems with other women. She told me it was because Pastor Biodun trusted her with so many official things even above workers that were there before her. I believed her until the day she had an misunderstanding with another worker who called her 'Ashewo Mary Magdalene' in the church.

After that, her enthusiasm for church started waning while mine was getting stronger till the day she told me she was leaving the church and shortly after she left. By that time, Pastor Biodun had developed an interest in counseling me and then started telling me to take my friends place as a PCU worker. I was reluctant because I didnt feel like coming to church early and leaving late but Pastor Zbiodun assured me that his personal driver will pick me and drop me off and so I agreed. I started work as arranged but after a while, I noticed that the pastor did not respect personal space when talking to me when we were alone. He would stand soooooo close and rub my upper arms or my back which made me very uncomfortable.

The final straw was when he said I should go with him to Lagos to take notes and transfer same online immediately for some Pentacostal thing he was attending and he knew I was very computer literate. I was excited till we reached Lagos and I realized that only one room was booked at the Wheatbaker Hotel, Ikoyi. Of course I complaint and the Pastor called the front desk ( or pretended to) to demand for another room. He said they would call back when the room was ready. He then told me to help massage his back becos he has back ache from sitting on the flight. I said I was tired since it was already after 8. He then insisted I lay down on the bed to rest while waiting. I said I preferred to sit at the desk and he laughed saying that I was acting like a small girl or a village uneducated girl. He then went in to take a shower. I then called the front desk to remind then about the extra room. I wasn't surprised when I was told that they had vacant rooms and that nobody had requested for an extra room.

By this time, I knew what was up and was ready for the fool. I opened his pouch and saw his wallet which had his lisence. Took a picture of the wallet and the Lisence on the pillow on the bed with my head in the shot. I opened the door and took several pictures of myself, the wallet and the Lisence with the room number. Came back in, once I heard the shower stop, I started audio recording on my BB. He came out with a towel around his waist and started telling me how attracted he was to me. He said many deregatory things about his wife, calling her a postcard...pretty on the outside but flat and empty upstairs. He said sex with her was like having sex with a cold dead fish...he tried to kiss me and I stood up, picked up my travelling bag, moved to the door, opened it and quickly took a picture of him, standing with a towel around him. He started begging. I called him all sorts of names and insisted he give me money for a separate room or I would scream 'rape'. To cut a long story short, he asked me to shut the door, I refused, he brought out 2 bundles of N1000 and asked me to delete before he gives me the money.

I told him he was in no position to negotiate. Got the money, left the Randy goat with a deflated erection and checked into another room. First thing the next morning, I left for ABJ. By the way, remember my childhood friend that introduced me toCOZA? I narrated my experience to her and she confessed that she was sleeping with Biodun for over a year, even on his marital bed when his wife travelled. Oga Pastor, try and deny my story publicly and see American wonder....I still have the pictures and our conversation on tape. Thank God for technology!!!!!!

Franca E.

If not that she had made up her mind...
@ pcu trainings, fear to the reverend is instilled. You have to be there @ his calls. In one of these sweet talking ministries I attended, I was made to be a cell member, n one dude, "cell leader" thought he had my life, till I warned him. My friend goes livid when cell leader or pastor calls. They lie to please him. Mehn, it was all mind tricks as we knew each other properly later when they started fighting for d soul of a very pretty sister..

topeliasu: enjoyed d mirage of being...
Its a pity our society is not an organized 1, else you'll be sued n wen we win, Coza always win, u'll pay till dat your family wealth dries up,
Reminds me of the movie, "the devil's advocate"

donot touch God's annointed:
classic scam to make people shut up, even those dt called themselves to d ministry.


#proudly COZA

Well, u just registered this handle...it speaks a lot

Sometimes back, my ex told me she was to travel, dt d pastor wanted her to help with some clerical stuffs. My question was "are u d only gal in d church, dt u will have to travel a couple of hours to meet with a church program? I probed further and discovered dy had been having sex. She said she used to be shy and couldn't sing confidently, and d pastor - 1- openly rebuked her.
2- contacted her privately and encouraged her 3-told her he would remove the "spirit of shyness". When she resisted, he said as her spiritual father, he was in d position to tell her right or wrong... I had to call d monkey. He got angry and I knew d next person he would call was d gal, as I told him I was elsewhere n no longer interested in her. Simple. Encouraged her to maintain been distressed and feel intimidated while d conversation was recorded when he called. What d guy confessed when I told him I recorded his ranting is inadmissible. I told her to always pay her skool fees, as she is his responsibility now...
These things happen every time and her mom got a wind of it, but as usual, hush hush hush, so they won't say their daughter tried seducing pastor and sent by d devil to cause confusion in the house of God. Parents and guardians should not loose guards because the atmosphere is "churchy" no holy brother, just that he is not sufficiently tempted.

Just discovered mine is back. Quite a relief. So many assumptions could have been given proper perspective by simply sending an sms. MTN should respect Nigerians. Just an sms.

I have lately learned of newer variations, as the op had mention "my matrimonial bed". Personally, I think it should be respected as it is. Few wraps of ribbons will make people thrive so hard because few men sat down, and called it national honour. I could still remember "my dad's chair" not because it was made of gold, but it evoked a certain respect and boundary. Even when he is not around, we knew d chairs to do "boju-boju" with. Even @ work, oga's car is oga's car. Can u remember d u reacted when u charger was removed from position by ur younger ones. The bed or mat or even bench is sacred n shouldn't be shared. My opinion though but it shouldn't count much if it doesn't benefit d op.

Efemena_xy: Now has got to be one of the most mature posts I've come across on this thread. Someone giving their real-life experience of being in a similar situation to the one described by @OP.

Lol @ Senior bos coming home to start watching crazy home video and getting excited...

Re the bolded bit of your post is just so spot on! It smacks of serious understanding AND maturity on your part and that of your friend. Unlike many people who find themselves in similar situations, you were able to demonstrate that you appreciate you were a guest there AND knew your boundaries. That says it all.

Kudos to you and your level of maturity and understanding. Well done.

Thnx Efe and I hope d op get a few things out of it. 3 efemenas I know, all Isokos, are good natured persons.
Had to learn how to dance even in a keg of gunpowder, especially schooling days in d university. When things were rough n I had to squat, I learnt a lot including to whose jokes u should laugh, when and how even "sneeze", while respecting your host, even when he feels his gf is seriously "digging" u
@ op... Wisdom is the principal thing. There are ways you can be so nice and achieve your aim. make everyone involved to see it that it is for their good and u are been selfless. Remember say u newly wed... May God guide you and build your home. Amen

Efemena_xy: Mtcheew!!

My sister, tell me about it jare. Then they come in here shouting "bullying" and "cabal" in the same breath. Let him state his solutions, seeing as he's well versed in @op's situation anyway, and while he's at it, should get off my freaking case!




Choi!! These your descriptions really got me laughing!

Reshaping the foam nor be big deal now

But the bit about "stepping inside to see a contrasting somewhat, intimidating, figure you can't relate to..." I sooo get you on that one. What woman won't feel intimidated to be in her personal space with a "strange" adult male pretending to be asleep while she tries to UnCloth?

It won't even get to that stage for me jare. If the worse comes to the worse, I'll just take my change of clothes and go change in the bathroom. At least, there should be some privacy there - inconveniencing it is though...

Come to think of it, if her hubby can afford it, why not get a portable laptop with earphones to go with it? That way, if both wifey and younger brother need to get their kip (nap), wifey can do so with peace on her matrimonial bed, while hubby can watch his programs on his laptop without disturbing her sleep. Then the poor brother-in-law caught in the middle can also get his rest in the parlour, on his roll-up mattress.

@OP: I think you should try these suggestions. If hubby is unwilling to buy the laptop, then dip your hands in your pocket and do so. You too can also use it in watching your favourite African Magic / Nollywood movies when both hubby and his younger brother need to sleep. That way, everyone's happy.

Thnx efe. Laptop thingy can cause new sets of problems on d longrun... U know what I mean.
Similar issue in lagos then, my friend and I, just graduated, had to stay with his newly wedded bros in similar apartment. Senior bros will come like 8-9 and start watching crazy home videos n be excited. She comes home around same time as they are both bankers. What we did was bore him with some crazy assertions and baseless theories and happily watch him wear himself out trying to make sense on a senseless discuss. While at it, we try to make room to sleep. Alas ...in less than 2 weeks, new t.v and dvd, cos we still needed to wake him up to lead morning devotion. Madam was so so happy for d 1 month we were there and we never trespass, n we knew when to just vanish. So, if he needed to postpone our sleep, we needed to give him value for his time, as we quickly learnt madam needed him more in a bedroom.

@ op... Get tv and dvd for the bedroom, then explain to oga, u know him better. During a Manufacturers association meeting, vitafoam advertised something that could go as a chair n bed n was very cheap too... Cos continually sleeping on d couch might give it a new shape. Closing n coming late is energy sapping enough with traffic and all, then stepping inside is seeing contrasting somewhat intimidating figure u can't relate to is equally frustrating. Thoughts like" is he watching? What about if he suddenly turns around?" As u undo ur clothes can be crazy. Tell oga, as u try to provide alternative. Am not sure u have visitors dt late.
Your fears and concerns are well laid.

babyosisi: I read all the responses and Coogar shockingly ,echoed my sentiments
What did you expect
The house has one bed
Your husband is in the living room watching TV andyour houseguest wants to take a nap
I assure you he didn't just go and climb on your bed like goldilocks,your husband permitted him
Do you want to bar your guests from taking naps?
you have 2 solutions

1. buy him a small mattress so that he can park it somewhere on the floor in that bedroom and sleep there when he wants to take his siesta which he is entitled to
or
2. you buy a second TV for the bedroom so your hubby can watch his shows in the bedroom

I am sure you use the same toilet and bath with him
His clothing must be in that bedroom too,I doubt if they are in the living room ( parlour) so he is already utilizing the bedroom too
I hope you are keeping down your moans at night,let the poor boys kini kan not explode when you and hubby will be getting it on.
Hope his stay is very temporary .

Really smart talk... Thank you

No problem. The "prober" and the "probee" are on d same page. Airport facelift has been equated with grand transformation of the aviation sector. Ehem... That subsidy matter when em call her name nko? No chest-beating, just mute.

Overtake don overtake overtake.
When an elder chooses to keep children's ball on his head, should not be surprised when he receive knocks from the children.

Interesting

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Am following

Women have a way of losing composure around authority figures. Young girls to their school teachers, innocence often being lost to youth leader, drama coordinator or choirmaster and the list goes on. Same thing happened to a friend when he lost his job and pastor started coming to do prayers whilst he was outta town hustling jobs. We unmarried should be careful of those ladies that are so close to pastors. They are men before men of God. Don't loose your guards n trust anyone with ur daughters, wives, sister and even mothers. I will share a couple of experiences but we need to face the matter @ hand.
@ op... Please, apply wisdom and tactfully inform him. Tears are welling up my eyes here. How will he feel knowing his kids are probably not his. Love, care, money, time, happiness all deposited in a lie? The child he had cuddled, given a name, took photos and watched continuously on his phone and waited till he could say "daddy" was a fraud? Please, the pastor must make restitution too. This is very very bad and the picture is scary. Send her out

Hmmm. An unfaithful woman cannot be exempted from any vice. If she is capable of losing chastity, what else can she not lose?

Hmmm. Following though

Nice one bro. Am following. Thanks and God bless

Deo Gracias