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Feeling emotionally connected with loved ones is a deeply
fulfilling experience, but one that is all too often missing in our
important relationships. Emotional intimacy thrives when both
people, or all concerned, feel safe with each other.
The question then becomes — what creates safety? Here are six
ways to increase the emotional intimacy in your most significant
relationships.
1. Take responsibility for your own feelings and needs.
When each person takes responsibility for their own feelings and
needs, then no one fears getting blamed for the other person’s
struggles. We feel safe when we know that we are not going to be
attacked if we say something or do something that another person
doesn't like.
2. Be open to learning about yourself, both alone and with
your partner.
We feel safe when we know we have an open arena in which to
discuss any problems that might come up. If we’re afraid to bring
up a problem because the other person might get angry,
defensive, resistant, or withdrawn, emotional intimacy can’t
survive.
3. Believe in your own and each other's essential
goodness.
We trust that our partner, family members, or close friends would
never intentionally hurt us, so we know that if we feel hurt by
them, it's not deliberate. This makes it easy to ask about it and try
to understand it within ourselves and with each other.
4. Be caring, kind, and compassionate with each other
rather than judgmental.
One of the quickest ways of undermining intimacy is to be
judgmental. When we fear another's judgment, we feel tense
rather than safe, open, or connected with that person.
Consciously and consistently choosing kindness and compassion
with each other — as well as with ourselves — creates the
environment of safety that allows intimacy to flourish. We need to
be able to rely on each other’s caring in order to feel the safety
necessary for emotional intimacy. http://okoyetech..com/2015/12/craving-emotional-intimacy-in-your-life.html?m=1

One morning, the mother of kelvin, a well fed plumpy two year old boy
noticed that the boy has no appetite and has gone off feed. Later in the
day, she observed too that the he is sluggish and very quiet. This is
unusual of a boy who is generally energetic and agile.She touched his
forehead only to discover that he was not hot but the feet and hands
were cold. Consequent upon this findings, she quickly rubbed the hands
and feet with some balm and covered him with very warm woolen
sweater. Windows and doors were also closed to prevent the boy from
catching pneumonia. Within few minutes, she noticed that he was
staring blankly into space. All effort to close his eyes failed, in some few
seconds the boy started twitching in one corner of the mouth with eyes
blinking continuously. Consequently he started showing violent
movements of all four limbs and the trunk was bending and
straightening violently.
His mother confused, let go an involuntary shrill cry which alerted all
neighbours. People trooped out and converged in the small room to
rescue the boy.
Some sympathizers brought all sorts of quack remedies (are you gonna
blame them?) , and advice to stop the convulsion. As the mother was
struggling to keep the mouth open in order to prevent it from clenching,
the sympathizers tried to make useful contributions to control the
spasm and the movements. Some table salts were forced down his
throat and this was followed by concoctions. The child started
breathing rather rapidly. Coal pot was brought into the room the feet of
the convulsing boy was held over the fire to warm them. With all these
efforts, the convulsion dint stop and the kid died of febrile convulsion.
This would have been prevented if the mother and the sympathizers
had some information and had embarked on first aid management
capable of bringing down kalvin's temperature instead of misdirected
remedies and stupid superstitious ideas which aggravated the febrile
conditions of the child.
For the benefit of parents and guardians, this write up will direct
searchlight of the causes, first aid management, treatment, the health
implications of quack remedies in the treatment of of febrile convulsion
and the preventive measures. This will go a long way in preventing this
type of calamity or at least reduce it to an insignificant level.
Causes Of Febrile Convulsion
The convulsion is commonly due to a sharp rise in the body
temperature resulting from numerous fever inducing illness. Malaria,
minor or major infections of the body are among the fever inducing
illness.
In some families febrile convulsion manifests in late infancy after the
age of six months and occurs more constantly in the first two or three
years of life. As the age increases, the frequency of occurrence also
diminishes. It is only on rare occasion that febrile convulsion may be
encountered after the age of six.
A disturbance of the well balanced functions of the brain is the main
cause of febrile convulsion. When febrile convulsion is of short duration
that is lasting a few minutes, there is no recognisable brain damage.
Convulsion may also be the resultant effect of more serious insult to the
brain cells which may give rise to fever. Therefore, drawing a line
between febrile convulsion and other types of common causes of
convulsion and fever include the infection of the covering of the brain
(meningitis) or cell of the brain (encephalitis). Also worth mentioning is
the abscess in the brain which may give rise to convulsions. Brain
tumour and hypoglycemia (low glucose in the blood) are amobg the
conditions which may cause convulsions.
Basically, convulsion is characterised by regularly repeated fits with
eyes turning upwards.
Treatment
Though convulsion is one of the ugly conditions which generate panic
in both the mother and sympathizers, a front line aspect in the
treatment of a convulsing child is for all and sundry to be calm and
allow common sense to rule them.
Crying, shouting,running round to invite sympathizers will not help. The
first line of action is to gently open the mouth and a hard slim object
which may be metal or wood should be properly wrapped in clean cloth
and placed between the teeth of the upper and lower jaws. This will
prevent the child from biting his tongue also help in preventing tongue
from rolling backwards, thus causing difficulty in breathing.
It must be stressed for general understanding of mothers, that clenched
teeth has no grim consequence in a convulsing child. In a convulsing
child, clenched teeth is simply an oral expression of the convulsion.
Sharp and dirty objects should not be used in prying open the mouth of
a convulsing child as this may introduce pathogenic organisms into the
gastrointestinal tract of the child.
First Aid Management
1.The dress of a febrile child should be promptly removed (strip the
child naked), pour cool water over the child, do this until the fever goes
down.
2.Give the child plenty of cool water to drink.
3.Give the child a medicine to bring down the fever.
Remember that aspirin works well, although some clinicians consider
paracetamol or safer than aspirin for small children.
If the hospital is within close proximity, the above first aid treatment
may be unnecessary and its better to take the child to hospital.
The second line of action is to carry out physical examination which is
aimed at identifying the presence, the severity and cause of the fever.
Febrile Convulsion is very easy condition to manage and once the
cause is promptly identified, and treated, the patient will regain his
health and vitality within few hours or days.
In order to prevent serious complications, it is essential to distinguish
febrile convulsion from other convulsions caused by infections. When
these are not identified and treated appropriately, they may bring about
severe brain damage. Both physical examination and examination of
various specimen from the patient will help the attending physician to
make accurate diagnosis.
Health Implications Of Quack Remedies In The Treatment Of Febrile
Convulsion
1. Knowing fully well that febrile convulsion is the resultant effects of
the sharp rise in the body temperature of the patient, placing coal pots
beside the convulsing child will help in increasing the body temperature
and thus prolong the convulsion.
2.Forcing down materials down the throat of a convulsing child is a
health risk because a convulsing child has difficulty in swallowing,
some of these remedies may go into the lungs where it is likely to
cause infection and damage to the lungs.
3.The practice of rubbing quack preparation into the eyes of the
convulsing child is health destructive because it may lead to permanent
damage to the eyes.
Prevention
1. Mothers and guardians should be able to monitor and recognise
when the temperature starts to rise. When this becomes noticeable, the
temperature should be brought down by exposure of body to fresh air.
2. As soon as the body temperature starts to rise, drugs such as
paracetamol or soluble aspirin should be given in mild dose. The patient
should be taken to the hospital where doctors can diagnose and treat
the underlying causes in order to prevent convulsion.
If in spite of the above measures, a child still goes into repeated
convulsion with fever, the attending physician may consider it
appropriate to prescribe drug to be taken routinely to halt the
recurrence of febrile convulsions. http://okoyetech..nl/2016/01/seizures-in-children.html?m=1

1. When you see a fatal flaw.
If you see something you consider a fatal flaw, there’s no point in
staying around. That can mean drug addiction, mental illness
(with the caveat that there aren’t children already involved),
problems with alcohol, serial cheating, or compulsive lying.
2. When you feel like you have to “fix” them.
Never fix someone. This isn’t your job. They have to fix
themselves. There are a lot of people who shouldn't be dating
before they’ve spent a solid year on a therapist’s couch or
working on their anger issues. You get the picture.
3. When you or a child is being verbally or physically
abused.
Please run as fast as you can. Don’t even think about bringing
children into this mess. If you already have them, that’s all the
more reason to leave. Never put up with this behavior. It will
affect your self-esteem and put you and your children in danger.
4. When your partner is unreasonably jealous or
untrusting.
If someone has a jealousy problem, get out quick. Relationships
with very jealous partners have the potential to turn abusive
quickly. This could be caused by myriad things — lack of
confidence, addiction, you name it. Just don’t accept it.
5. When they aren’t interested in commitment (and you
are).
Men get the blame for not committing, but women are equally
guilty of this. You deserve someone who wants to be with you in
the long run. It’s can be painful, but it’s infinitely less painful to
get out early than to try to change someone’s mind about their
feelings for you.
When To Stay
1. When you have children with your mentally ill partner,
and there’s potential for them to get help.
If you have children with a mentally ill significant other, you owe
it to your family to try to deal with what you might otherwise
consider a fatal flaw. If they refuse to seek help, aren’t consistent
with medication, or otherwise endanger themselves or your
family, then you start considering your other options. That’s when
it might be time to leave.
2. When you have a big fight that doesn’t actually involve
a deal-breaking issue.
Too many people walk away when they start to feel like maybe
they grass is greener on the other side. This says more about the
person who wants to leave than the other person. Commitment
doesn’t always make you happy. Learn to communicate your
needs.
3. When someone has cheated, but you’re both committed
to healing the relationship.
If you agree that it was a onetime offense and trust that the other
person is still invested in the relationship, it is possible to heal that
rift. The cheater must break off the other relationship completely
and seek forgiveness from you sincerely. It can be hard to heal a
rift like this if you’ve aired your dirty laundry to all your friends,
so if you feel like there’s a chance you’ll want to make it work, try
to avoid that route.
4. When you think it really might just be a rough patch.
If you’re confident that, deep down, this person is a good person
who loves you and makes you feel loved, stick it out for a while.
Remind yourself that all relationships ebb and flow. Without fatal
flaws or abuse, when there is much love and respect, it’s definitely
worth it to hang in there. Be willing to put in the work.
5. When you’ve lost the spark in your connection.
If the partner you used to go crazy for feels more like a friend to
you now, look for ways to put the passion back into your
relationship. Shake up the monotony. I see too many people leave
because their relationship starts to feel like a friendship. This
doesn’t mean if you never felt an attraction to someone, you
should date them because it’ll grow with time. It might, but it
might not. I’m saying that if your relationship had passion to start
with, it’s still there. You just need to find ways to get more of it in
your life. http://okoyetech..com/2016/01/5-times-you-should-definitely-end.html?m=1

In some part of the world, the principal aim of marriage is to have children while some just wanna be single parent. Fertility is important in all communities. According to a yoruba saying."children are the cloth of the body, without children one is naked"(that is their opinion anyway) Without gain saying,the more important children are to the fabric of the given society, the more essential it is for couples to be fertile .While families of four to eight living children are common in africa,throughout the recorded history of man,there have been couples who want to but are unable to produce children. Some couples only succeed with difficulty and unable to have as many children as they would have liked. Traditionally, infertility has been a source of pain ,anxiety and shame to some people. Since most couples who are infertile do not know the cause of their infertility it will be adequate to give some fertility counselling for the benefit of all. It must be stated for general understanding that ways of living, occupation,diet and even clothing are sometimes relevant to fertility .Couples should learn which of their habit reduces or increases their fertility. Some examples are 1. Fertility Awareness- couples should be aware of the female fertility cycle and that sex with intent to produce a pregnancy at the time of ovulation. In order to know the time of ovulation women must chart her basal body temperature or check her cervical mucus. 2. Sexual intercourse - couples should have intercourse at all time around ovulation when fertilization is possible. Sexual intercourse outside ovulation might be the cause of infertility. Ideally a couple should be encouraged to have relations frequently during the mid-cycle period, that is about a week after the onset of menses to a week before the next anticipated menses. During this period daily sexual intercourse or every other day should be encouraged .However in men with low sperm count (oligospermic)2 to 3 days is required to build up sperm building mid-cycle sexual relations It will be unnecessary to embark on rigid schedules for the performance of intercourse. Psychologically this will be too stressful and maybe counter productive for efficient sexual functioning. However maximum fertility has to be shown to occur when there have been six coital exposures in a week. 3. LUBRICANTS- Before sexual intercourse some couples are in the habit of using lubricant for their lubricating organs, the use of lubricant is not recommended for couples actively trying to conceive because some of these lubricant are also spermicides, couples using them may be practising contraception unknowingly. When maximal fertility is sought couples can use saliva as lubricant 4. DOUCHIHG-though douching is an unreliable methods of birth controlling hyper-fertile and moderately fertile couples in extreme cases of marginal fertility douching may kill the very sperm that would have fertilized the ovum. A couple that is actively trying to conceive should be discouraged from douching. 5. MEDICATIONS- IT has been recently observed that a number of medication affect male fertility. For instance , some may cause impotence,retrograde ejaculation or may impair spermatogenic temporarily. Some of the drug's that can cause impotence are narcotics, tranquilizers such as phenothaizidies, moncmie oxidase inhibitors . Guanethidine and mehtyldopa are well known culprits of impotence in some men. Sperm production is adversely affected by anti-malaria drugs,ambecides, nitrogurantion and methotrexate. It must be stressed that conceptive potentia of female may or may not be diminish by utero exposure to DES(dicthylstibestrol). Expert claims that male exposure to DES causes higher rate of testicular cancer, sperm abnormality and undescended testicles. These have profound adverse effect on fertility. 6. Exposure to irradiation -when a male is exposed to irradiation it may affect reproduction at several levels. For instance, the testicular germinal epithelium which encloses the seminiferous tubules may be partially or permanently incapacitated for sperm production, equally chromosomal aberatious may occur. Males should therefore limit their exposure to irradiation to enhance maximum fertility. 7.Athletic Activities - In women,strenous activities such as long distance running may lead to amenorrhoea (absence of menstruation).Sperm production may be stopped or greatly reduced through the taking of frequent hot showers which subject the scrotum to too high temperature which inhibit sperm production. couples who are actively trying to conceive should be conscious of this. 8.Tight Clothing - Sperm production may also be suppressed when a male puts on certain tight clothing such as tight undergarments and pants which permit high temperature in the scrotal region. Male with fertility problems should be encouraged to wear loose undergarments which permit free circulation of blood and fresh air in the scrotal region. 9 . Occupation- Certain occupations may cause low sperm counts. Among such is long distance truck driving. Still on this line, certain chemical substances in cotton seed and PCB's(poly chlorinated biphenyl) may contribute to low sperm count.couples who are infertile should not take up a job whose hazards impair fertility. 10.Nutrition- Experts claims that gross interference with conception does not occur until near starvation is experienced. It is universally agreed that poor nutritional status may cause a general debilitating effect which may hinder a couple's chance to concieve. Overeating may cause obesity which may lead to less frequent ovulation or less frequent intercourse and thereby be a contributing factor to less fertility. Married couples should eat balanced diet but overeating should be avoided. 11.Alcohol- Drinking of alcohol has been identified as a major cause of poor sperm quality in some men. Couples who have problem with conception should not engage in excessive drinking of alcohol. 12 Smoking- smoking appears to lower fertility. A large study showed that while only 5% of the non smoking women failed to conceive 5 years after stopping contraception, 11% of the heavy smokers were still not pregnant. Female smokers have a risk twice as high as non smokers of extra-uterine pregnancy, have a higher risk of dysmenorrhoea and of uterine cervix cancer and earlier menopause by about two years. According to recent investigation smoking and alcohol consumption have a negative effect on the developing fetus. 13. Pollution- At present, experts are still investigating the hazards of exposure to toxin fumes , pesticides, because it has been suspected that they cause or contribute to infertility. 14. Multiple Sexual Partners - Women who have multiple sexual partners may contract a sexually transmitted disease likewise men. Apart from this, some women may develop an immune response to sperm over time. 15. Infections- Some infections which are liable to cause infertility in male include numps, torsion of the testes not promptly diagnosed and managed as infection, tuberculosis of the genital tract. These diseases and surgical repair in the groin should be carried out by a skillful physician. http://okoyetech..nl/2015/12/fertility-boosters.html?m=1

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franklingud:
Some parents can frustrate their children atimes. 28 year old man is not old enough to rent an apartment of his own?? I wonder.
I can never live with my parents at my age, BTW I don pass dat age na so why I go come live with ma mama again.

Free dat guy joor!
At US u can no longer live with ur parents @ 18.

taaaa...US KWA..stop sharing ur own opinion on public forums...so a harvard undergraduate is living on his own..why then did steve jobs drop out if it was easy for him and started his business at his parents garage..name any us billionaire who started on his own without support from anyone..except u mean moving out and still collecting loans from ur relatives which in my world is the same as living with them..cos moving out should be entirely..u no longer require their financial support..not living out in a house which they re indirectly paying for..

nenergy:
Not entirely true. Linda Ikeji has the most ugliest website/blog in Nigeria...yet!

Abeg, evaluate my part-time blog: www.thejobseekerscreed.com

dont mind the op..na to come here the spew trash...that ikeji made her millions on ..even twitter still have their blog on ...do things because others re doing and not because u have the passion for it..ur name na sorry..u can have the most beautifully designed blog with all the money spent..u will still make nada..my favorite nigerian blog is this kid..writinggenies.com or something..cant remember the exact name..but that guy is talentented

Most of u shouting like its a crime re all fake..in a country like a nigeria u see so many 30s still living with their parents not because they want to but circumstances..thats not an excuse anyway but in the guys case he already has a job so he is very stupid to allow his parents decide..i married at 25 my wife stayed with my parents till i see small money built a house for them..and my friend an architect stayed with his parents till he was 32 and built his own house..and another one moved out at 24 and still moving around the country without base...my advice get a base have something working before moving out or u can move out prematurely and return to ur village before 50 and live in ur grandfathers house forever

MadCow1:
Law? Difficult?








Utter rubbish.. I can graduate in Law without even attending class for 4 years.


Law School is what's tough.



Mechanical Engineering is the toughest engineering course in Engineering.

Electrical Engineering is the easiest.

Geological Engineering is not just tough but also annoying.

Architecture is a tricky course, not necessarily tough.


Medicine is a tidous course, also not necessarily tough.

what about industrial chemistry

Very good bro..don't mind the haters..without ur information..they will still be blind..u re very right to put the professional fee..

What exactly re u trying to say @OP...I m against the part where after cohabiting..the guy will leave the girl for someone else...but to say that most couples who cohabited and eventually marries don't end up well is a BIG LIE..in fact most newly weds who dint cohabit..after they re done bleeping for 2 or 3 years..reality sets in..u even start noticing ur wife snores..

Na lie...no be Awka I dey

INEC official never still come for here oooo....

korel9:
Where exactly sah?

Awka

INEC officials never come for here ooo

EggovinMma:
God forbid!
50k salary inside marriage. Na before ooo.But now, I REJECT EVERY SPIRIT OF POVERTY IN MY LIFE.My bible tells me to seek and I shall find, and whatever I bind here on earth shall be bind in heaven. I stand upon the rock of St Peter and I am binding every spirit of poverty in the life of my future husband, every spirit of meagre salary. I lose your hold on that poor future husband of mine.IT SHALL NOT BE MY POTION.50K SALARY KE? Which kind rough play be that?

this is why I Bleep idiots like u with no mercy....and the funny thing is..they cry stupid saying men are wicked..he broke my heart...

cfcchick:
Nerve wrecking 3 minutes!!!! My water nearly broke

na boy u for deliver

Why torres wan fight now

gooooaaaaallllll..messi assist..3 : 2

Goooooaaaaaalllllllll...2:2

The OP is biased...looking for an excuse to fail..tell this story to the young shall grow motors or coscharis or li ka shing the richest man in hongkong or..so many of them..even the man that revolutionized cardiac surgery dint attend college

How many miss nigeria or miss world dey marry any of those people on the list except successful politicians...na athletes jor

rattlesnake: But somebody else who went to university on their behalf was behind their success......

Don jazzy cant make music without some software developer
Coscharis cant sell cars without the engineers who made the cars
Famfa oil cant do business without the oil engineers
Mercy Johnson cant have Big braests without Dr 90210

etc etc etc

I will rather go to school

bill gates dint graduate...Henry ford dint go to school..the first cardiosurgeon dint go to college...not to discourage u anyway..just know what u want and be the change u want..no excuse

Thé v70 xc is around 1m.......i have 800k cash for this one

A man shows less favour to his image reflected
May be u re too much like ur father