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Sweety, not only did yu save 'a' life, you saved 3 or 4 lives. Thank you for your great service to humanity. pls was it for a particular purpose or cause (aciddent victims, bomb blast, relative etc) or was it purely voluntary. secondly, did they give you anything after the process (water, glucose,light meal, t-shirt etc)

Hi Guys,
I just got the admission too. you guys should be through now, congrats!!

So we have sunk this low in Nigeria wid govs now apologising to these faceless terrorist. What a shame GEJ, maybe next will be Jona apologising to BH

The house is for rent. Neat and good environment.

I need a two (2) bedroom flat around Anthony, Mende, Ilupeju or Gbagada. Very affordable please.

suya + indomie, tooo mush, una don chop am before?

Hi, PLs how did you Check the results? i want to check mine asap. thank you.

@ tunnex 190 why did yu quote me and yet no response??

Pls my itouch screen got cracked and i need to fix it. Where in lagos can i fix a new glass? (its still working normally), cos it realy looks ugly and do you think i should fix it? .

Already gone- Kelly Clarkson

Watcha say- Jason DeRulo

Thanks guys. my night was a disturbed one, only to crown it all this morning with a call from him apologising and saying he messed up big time. He says he loves me but i dont know if thats love and am scared of the future. My decision to quit is still fresh on mi mind for now tho.
Nlanders, i want to know, is my ordeal a good enough reason to break this off or should there be a greater cause?

I am writing here with great burden in my heart & tears in my eyes. my fiancee is very a obsessed and possesive man. He even followed me around once. He quesions my movements a lot.
I am presently in lag for a wedding (i stay in ph), my fiancee just called my fone to speak solely with my friend, the chic am staying with, to confirm that i'm there with her, he even went further to say that the voice aint hers and dat am scamming him.
It made me sad cos av done virtually all for him, even made love without any protections, cos i loved him. He says he loves me but i dont know if thats true.
Now i dont know what to do wen i get back to ph. I think am going to break it off!! Guys, is his behavior normal?, am so confused!!

@OP, yu obviously know very little about ladies/women, yur ex was trying to send a message across and only picked at wat she knew will scathe yu and used that as her opening line, money!!, so that she can walk off in peace, knowin yu wont give it 2her, afterall, its her mum puttin her up to this (yu know how mums cud be).
So, now yu shud see that as a cue to never come back to her house, cos she needs yu no more!, MY PEICE.

His snoring, his pot belly, his 'simple' life and the fact that he answers my questions with great difficulty,

September 22. holla on 08072225343, or shamarh@ymail.com

September 22. bithdai mates holla, Especially those in Port Harcourt or Lagos, so we can plan it big this year, oxo,

Happy New week to you all. Thanks for all them replies. Your posts were realy inspiring and uplifting, Most times 'preety' gurls tend to think so highly of themselves and above their partners, but i guess maturity resolves all that. it helps you to see all the good in the other person which surpasses all the physical attributes.
Besides i also think that, one out of the two of them (man/woman) who's better looking couldd make up for the two of them as a couple and for even their kids, no one is actualy that 'not good-looking'

But again, what do you guys think about profession/job of the man of your 'former dreams' cos like i said, i always dreamt of an engineer like mi dad and got a banker, sometimes its makes me think oooooo,

For many people, wat we've wished or prayed for seems far fetched when it comes to whom we love, serious rships, marriage. Why?
I for one, while growing up (in uni) wished/prayed for a tall, dark, handsome engineer like my dad and of the same tribe as me, but now am actualy in a rship with a guy that is not as tall as i wanted, or even as built as i want (he is chubby and has tummy), dark &cute anyway but not an engineer (a banker), i hated bankers in da past, but i find myself liking him,
In the past, I had secretly broken up wid him over his 'looks' (he may have guessed) as i happen to be a very preety and flashy chic and widely admired, I alwaiz tried to convince miself that i cud meet d person of my 'teenage fantasies', but its him i fall for everyday.
Has it happened to any one else?? Please share?? Ladies? Guys?

@OP  Trust me, its not fun. My coz who's a nurse recently resigned to become a housewife so as take care of de kidz', and yeah, true to the meaning of 'housewife', he doesnt let her go anywhere, she simply sits and stares out the window until another 'housewife' duty calls, hmmm.

Honestly, me being a 'house-sister' has also not been funny, i cant wAit to get a job fast!!! Anywaiz, thanks to NL

The need to make such excuses keep coming back, and i think about him inspite of miself, guess i'll work at that.

Omolola1:
i think u will have to make do with luxoire's suggestion.

Talk to both of them, balance them, compare and contrast them, then choose one.

I alrdy talked to them both, but the comparing and contrasting is taking longer than it should (is 2 weeks long?), and the pressure is terrible on me. My ex pulled one crazy stunt on me when i when to visit a male friend (my new friend) , found out he was following me up till the guy's house then he turned back without even saying hello, leaving me and this guy doubly shocked!! it was crazy and scary, but i wasnt scared, i only felt guilty, even though he is the ex!! are his actions normal?? is this guilty feeling 'love'??

izeek:
FEELINGS U DEVELOP WITH SOME1 ELSE OVER A YR CAN NOT BE COMPARED WITH A COUPLE OF MONTHSWITH SOME1 ELSE.

u need time to develop feelings for this other guy and maybe u might end up loving him more than ur ex.

since u moved on, i suggest u move on for real.
ex's have away of coming back, but i can assure u the possibility of a worse breakup with u both is more now than b4.

Yeah, i know, but leaving again is harder than you imagine, i honestly dont know how, We shared a whole damn lot together, i'm giving it serious thots tho, there may be possibilities, with more good suggestions from you guys!! thanks

biola44:
why did u brk/up wit ur ex?

We argued (quarelled) a lot abt everything, the truth is, he was my first very serious rship that cud lead to marriage and i wasnt handling it very well (am 25). Secondly, i think he was controlling and manipulative, and that was wat kept us going instead of the natural trust that should exist.

luxoire:
No feelings are not the only things- especially if you at the age where you are consideringa more long term r/ship with a possibility of settling down - feelings are as impotant as compatitbility.

why did you start seeing someone else without giving yourself time to recover and get over yoru ex? like you would only have to deal with the issue of takinghim back - and not the double wahala of hurting someone else!!

how open are you with your bf? - i say talk to him - it s a young r/ship so best sort out the issue of your ex now, before it gets deepr with time.
take time away form both of them and think about it - think about who treats you better, who fits in to your life more, who is ablet to love you the way you will love them and want to be loved, who you can build a life with - and i am sure if you are honest with yourself you will haave the answer sooner than you think

but be honesty with all parties - especially YOURSELF

it was six months already, & i thought i had recovered, at least i did until he started coming back. Funny, thing is that they both treat me well, but the problem (i think) is that i am used to (familiar with) my ex's and all his wahala, & i am scared of knowing someone new (and his wahala) and also, my ex lives closer, so he uses proximity to his advantage and comes to my house after work everyday, i see the new guy only on sundays.
How can i get over this fear?? Is this love or just 'sentiments'??

I broke up with my boyfriend (of 1year) in november 2008 and in april 2009 i started seeing someone else. now my ex is back & wants me back in his life. the feelings for my ex are deeper than that for the new guy, but i dont wanna break the new guy's heart, & i feel he may be better for me.

what should i do, pls advice!! Is 'feelings' the main thing??

Countless number of girls abort unwanted babies everyday or protect themselves to avoid pregnancies, this woman kept hers, she should be respected and loved for it

Sagamite:
I wouldn't want any form of baggage at my first time in the altar.

Hi Docs and everyone, for the past 12 years i have been living with a condition known as trichotilomania, which is characterised by hair pulling in different parts of the body. at first i thot i suffered it alone and tried to hide it, then i checked online and saw that people also have the same experience and it starts at pre-puberty. i have seeked soutions online but nothing is helping. i think i need to see somebody for some therapy or something. its embarassing me as i am a female!! thanks