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GoldenJAT:
bro I'm not faulting ur opinion, u put it d best way u could.... but love ain't always enough.. DRASTIC SITUATIONS REQUIRE DRASTIC MEASURES...

Am not asking him to close his eyes to the dangers. That's why I said he shouldn't let her know he is listening to her calls. He should keep listening while trying to make things work. When he is sure things can't get better then he can split.

DevGuru:
NOTICE: Please, my story is still very long despite that I tried very hard to remove some unnecessary portions. But if you can be patient to read it to the end, then you are ready to give a mature opinion.

I am a Yoruba guy married to another Yoruba lady who happened to be the last of seven children. We met at the University and had a long courtship before we got married in 2014. I loved her so much and I believe she loved me too. We were each other's best friends. Shortly before we began to plan the wedding, on one faithful afternoon, I was watching the TV in my living room when I began to feel a slight pain in my lower abdomen. It got more intense within few hours and I had to go to a nearby hospital and by that time, the pain was inside my scrotum. The young doctor there didn't understand what was wrong and started injecting me with pain killers. I was kept there till midnight. The next morning, I noticed that one of my testicle was swelling up. I hen went to a teaching hospital where Orchitis was first diagnosed. After a week of antibiotics with no improvement, a consultant examined me and said it was torsion which should have been surgically corrected within few hours from the onset of the pain. As at that time, the testicle was dead. I had to go for surgery to have the dead one removed. My wife (then my fiancé) was with me in the hospital. She assured me that everything would be fine and that we could have as many kids as we wanted with just one left. I loved her the more.

Now we have a very beautiful daughter who obviously has my genes and delights everyone around her with her alluring beauty. We nearly lost her to a strange illness some months back but for God who used my mum to restore our daughter. That's another long story but not for this thread. My mum loves my family so much that even my wife knows that she can lay down her life for us to be fine. Since we got married, my wife hasn't worked owing partly to our daughter's health which is now very perfect. It's not been easy for me working day and night to feed the family and paying bills in a 3-bedroom apartment in Lagos but God has been helping us. My wife was so much loved in my family that people around thought she was my mum's daughter. Very hardworking and homely.

A little into her own family setup too... She has 4 female and 2 male siblings. All her siblings are married but very close to the parents. Because my wife and I were very close, I was aware of most of the happenings in their family, but I never even gave any thought to them on how they might affect my own marriage.... long story...

Last month, I repeatedly got home late due to an official event which I told my wife and I was talking to her on phone. One morning, she gave me a wild look and warned me never to come late again. I quickly noticed the strangeness in her actions and I comported myself by saying "I'm sorry, it won't happen again". We ate together and I left for work. I returned much earlier and was with her and my daughter for a couple of hours before went to bed after I told her I had a meeting the next morning.

When I woke up, I checked the time and realised I was running late. I greeted her and rushed out of the bed only for her to jump up too and say "We need to talk". Go on, I replied... Then she claimed she observed that I've been cold towards her since she tried to correct me the previous day. I denied it but she insisted, so I told her I would adjust and that I had nothing against her. She suddenly jumped at me and said I was going nowhere. I was very surprised as I asked her what was wrong with her. I begged her to let me go and if we had to discuss anything further, it could be later in the day after work. She grew wilder and began to abuse me verbally. I drew her out of my way so I could go have my bath and she grabbed my singlet and tore it down. I was shocked! I then grabbed her two hands and pushed her to sit on the bed. She just jumped up and said "this is what I've been waiting for". She rushed to her phone and called my dad. Immediately my dad answered the call, she suddenly began to cry saying "your son has been beating me since we woke up today"... It was like I was watching a nollywood movie. I looked like a poor citizen who had no money to eat but just got an allegation that EFCC had traced N1.4b to his account. My Dad called me immediately and ordered me to leave the house first before anything. Immediately, she called my mum too and said the same thing. My mum called me and began to cry that she never expected I would disgrace the family in such manner. I was sad and even had to shout at her cos she wouldn't let me say anything on phone. She didn't even give me time to explain what happened. My wife immediately called her eldest sister too and said the same thing. The sister called me and asked for what happened. I explained to her and she advised me never to raise my hand against her again, while she stylishly insulted me, but I disregarded that. I felt like Pastor Ken in the movie, 'The Price' who had to pay for what he did not do.

I had already missed my meeting but I had to go to work. That was the most horrible day for me at work because I couldn't even use my brain to do anything. I felt cheated and sincerely felt like doing what I had already suffered for. Then I felt the urge to use a bit of my power... I transferred some money to her account and then forwarded an SMS to her giving her 24hours to make up her mind on where she would love to go, either my family home or hers because I needed a break. Fee minutes later, her eldest sister called me to say my wife forwarded my SMS to her and that she was highly disappointed in me upon what she told me in the morning. I told her that I got more infuriated and betrayed seeing my wife ruin my reputation like that. She advised again and told me to go home and hug my wife. When I got home, my wife knelt down at the door and began to apologize that it was the devil. At that time, my elder sister called me and I narrated everything to her while my wife listened to me. The next morning, my wife continued to beg me. I saw the remorse and hugged her. We became happy again. The next day, I called her sister to thank her for her intervention.

My Dad came a few days later to confirm that we had settled everything. Unfortunately, I wasn't around when he arrived, so he called me on phone and I told him I would be around in about 1 hour. Before my arrival, she spoke at length with my Dad but begged him not to allow us revisit the issue on my arrival so as not to raise dusts again. On my arrival, my Dad just advised me and said he was glad we had already settled it. Since then, I've tried to get my home together again. I started leaving my office earlier than usual even when I had unfinished tasks.

This morning, I was flipping through the apps on my wife's phone and saw Call Recorder. I opened it but discovered it had a password. As a techie, I traced the file that stores all the voice calls and began to play one of my wife's recent conversations. It was with her eldest sister who intervened into our matter then. I nearly fainted!!! The sister hailed her for acting as planned and they both laughed with satisfaction. My wife said she was happy that she successfully ruined my image in my family and they both laughed again. They said they were happy that my mum who always thought she had raised good children was made to realize that I was a beast who beats his wife and so on. But the most infuriating part was when her sister said she wanted to give her tips that would help my wife succeed in marriage. She advised my wife never to be open-minded with me and that she should begin to live a separate life while pretending to be a wife in my house. She said my wife should also open a secret account for herself so that family members can occasionally drop some token into it for her upkeep because men are unreliable and my wife agreed with all what her sister said.

I opened another and it was a conversation with her immediate elder sister - not the same as above. This one picked every member of my family and abused the hell out of us... including myself. My wife enjoyed the abuses and even cheered her to talk further. They both called me 'half man' with one testicle - a secret my wife claimed she would never reveal to anyone. In this conversation, my wife told her sister that she was very glad that she finished me through what she told my dad when I was absent, they called my mother all sort of names and this one even told my wife never to act like a good daughter-in-law towards my mother, she was advised to do everything possible to prevent my mum from visiting... and so on...

Now I am extremely mad. So many options are coming to my mind but I don't know where to start from. It is now obvious that I've been living with a stranger all the while. My day at work was so horrible that I had to leave before closing. My head and heart are both heavy now but I'm trying to put myself together. Any ideas?

Don't divorce her yet because I think she truly loves you but she is just immature without a mind of her own,she may just be young and naïve and inexperienced with too much respect for her older sisters and probably did what she did to please them. As Long as you haven't heard a recording of her parents giving her such advise keep listening until you do. I know its gonna be hard to act normal but You have to because you are a man.



My advise is that you sit her down and make her know you love and make her understand that you both should all within you power to protect the marriage but do not make her understand you are listening to her calls. After the discussion keep trying to make the marriage work and keep listening to her calls until you hear enough to make up you mind that despite your efforts to make the marriage work and make her change she doesn't want to change and know that you have enough to know that the marriage is over. Because right now you don't have enough evidence. She has a 7 siblings but only two are giving her these advise.

Don't divorce her unless you are sure she has no love for you.

giddykay:
sharap dia! What do you know

Ask your wh0re mother.

"La Familia es todo"

Carter29:
Zenith bank harsh shaaa

Are you kidding me? That guy is an embarrassment to the bank. He should be sacked.

He should be sacKed. He has no dignity. He doesn't deserve to own a d!ck.

Hmmm

Lol

These are the kind of innovations worth government support. Not those making toys and posting in online or remodeling existing innovations, like placing solar panels on cars and calling the solar powered cars or those making toy keke with paper or plastic materials.

If that statue falls on him,his family and friends will blame the Bini who broke with because of his stupidity.

Despite the constant jungle Justice being constantly metted out on these thieves...

lastpage:
You are right on the ball!

First, let me state it clearly that this Brexit VOTE was a PROTEST VOTE.

The protest was against IMMIGRATION, nothing more.

Frankly speaking, "White People" all over the World are getting intolerant and border-line racist when it comes to Africans and Muslims.
They will do ANYTHING, including cutting-off their own nose, just to ensure "Africans" or anything that looked like Africans are kept away.

So, all you need to do is to say: I want to take our country back (from the immigrants, mostly Africans).... and you would win any vote in white man's land.

Having said that, we must remember that it was David Cameron, who for selfish reasons, RAISE, STOKED and PROMISED the people a Referendum on their E.U membership. Cameron made them believe that being a member of the E.U was bad.
He did it to curry Votes.... and he got re-elected.

Now, when it was time to "fulfil his Vote Promise", the same David Cameron was campaigning for U.K to STAY in the E.U!.... because He knew it was a bad thing to leave.

Every time l listen to Cameron, l always shake my head... the guy is a "Snake Oil" salesman.
Now, Scotland says, "we did not vote "remain", so as to be outside the E.U"........ We need another Referendum!

The E.U is even poised to make it worse for the U.K, so as not to encourage such reckless decision in the future. They just said "there would be NO NEGOTIATION and want U.K to get-out IMMEDIATELY!

Even the U.K is NOT INVITED to their next meeting on Tuesday!

Lesson: Be careful about leaders who offer you "All or Nothing"..... they are dangerous, untrustworthy people.

The rate at which the GBP Pounds is falling, e be like say Naira go strong pass am within a few days o!

***make l quickly go change all my Pounds to Naira"****




Lastpage!

He is fucking arrogant and egocentric. It all started when he lost the E.U presidential elections.

AniemaEniye:
Hello Nairalanders,

I hope this script find you all well. I'll try as much as I can to be brief.

I met this guy around April 2015 and we attend the same Church here in PH. First we became friends and along the line, it became emotional. The guy is 8 years older than me. At first I thought he's one of those bandwagon of "eat and run" guys, but what keep me wandering till date is that this guy have not for once ask of sex from me (despite the fact that we are always together alone). He's just too nice to me as well, he always try to meet my needs (even when I don't ask). He seem to be concern most about the future and how we both can make a family together. I've asked severally why he's this nice to me, he said he can't really explain how I won his heart. I'm kind of worried and disturbed about this, don't you think he might be up to something fishy? I need your advise pls.

Mod please help me move to FP

What advice do you need now?

Good you have no kids for him yet. Best you move out cos your "husby" is immature.

Daivd Cameron is the worst person to hold the position of a Prime Minister in any country.


This Brexit bullsh1t started when he lost the E.U Presidential Election. He raved on about pulling Britain out of the E.U. Now he pretend to be devastated.

I will soon be in a position to help those in need and help even those who can afford to help themselves.







Amen

chiefmidwife:
My mother and my aunt want to claim their father's landed property but they were denied it on the ground that according to tradition women don't inherit their father's property and 2ndly they are married off and their father didn't write any will..
NB their father had no son or brother or uncle..
Is it possible based on recent court judgement for my mother and aunt to win in court?
Advice pls it's urgent

They stand a huge chance. Get a human rights lawyer.

Buhari is always right.

Hm

DRISKLEF:
Social Media no doubt, is one of the most interesting ways to wind-down whenever one is exhausted or through with the day's job.
Social media as a networking portal has helped alot of individuals get lifelong jobs, start up a career and most entrepreneurs would especially testify to this fact, that the online world is one of the biggest platform to connect with business like-minds. For some people, It is a medium to interact with fans and publicize their art.
But with all it's numerous benefits, social networks has overtime, proven to have a great downside to one's life if not properly managed/handled. I mean, we have people whose careers and relationships has gon south simply because of their perilous display of frivolousness on social media.
To avoid scandals and image-degradations from potential sly-foxes roaming everywhere online, here are some steps you should take. Add yours if any!

1. DO NOT POKE YOUR NOSE ON PEOPLE'S AFFAIR: If you respect 'your person' and do not want your personality tainted with scandalous hearsays, then you must have to stay in your lane. Though its no harm to sometimes sneak-peak on folks or try to have fun off trending issues by engaging in them but doing it so frequently and to the detriment of some other person's reputation? ...please dont! Always try to know the limit to how you relate with folks.
2. KNOW WHAT YOU SHARE WITH FRIENDS: Like they say - Not everybody who calls you my friend, my friend, is indeed a friend
Be mindful of the kind of people you share your personal information with on social media. Always keep personal stuffs simply Personal!!!
.....Even when you feel an online-friend has given you enough reason to trust him or her, i think that's when you should actually become more mindful of them.
3. DONT BE A TROLL: If you really want your E-life to remain in its most reputable form, one that's not tainted with defamatory and unsavory allegations, then trolling online is what you should really keep on arm's length.
A troll is someone who provokes others to their own personal amusement or sometimes, to cause disruption. So why would you be thinking of becoming such a person if really you're a responsible individual who wish to be taken seriously? People whole troll online at the end of the day, ends up being shamed and victimised greatly.
4. KNOW WHAT YOU UPLOAD: Why do i feel like almost everyone of us are guilty of this - i mean uploading raunchy pictures or showing off our furtunes and assets all in a bid of trying to 'impress' our friends online. Now for you to enjoy social media to the fullest you must beware of the kind of image you put up here. Its not everything you 'must' publicize.
Be it your relationship life or your pictorial personal-documents - think twice before you put it up online because the world is indeed a small village, little things can go a long way really.
So many people has lost out on job opportunities simply because their potential employers mere did a google research of them and found out what they're online.
5. Do Not Click On Untrusted Links I think this is self-explanatory. Hackers are everywhere online. All they need do is get you to click on a link and they'd have full access to your personal documents.
Do not click on any link unless you trust its source.

Those immature Nigerian celebrities like the P.Square brothers,linda Ikeji and Wiz pikin, as well as M.Buhari, Aisha Buhari and the "Un chained mad dog" all need to learn and stop embarrassing this country.

cowgirl9090:
just kuku tell us that you need "likes"

Is it food? I am praying for you and you are being childish.

Funjosh:
Hello good evening Nairalanders please I noticed swarm of bees around a tree in our compounds and don't know how to send them packing because of the children around. People that are seeing it are saying they are dangerous, please what can we do about it

Chase them away with a short broom.

Congratulations.








if you believe your testimony is next,you know where to click.

Lol

He committed suicide.

Kenyan men be so low classed for this Owl to successfully fool them. Kenya may be the new babylon. But atleast they aren't killing their fellow Africans in their Country like South African do,despite the fact that these same African countrys especially Nigeria fought tooth and Nail to relieve them of Apartheid .





They are just hustling. Atleast he isn't looting shops of hard working foreigners.

Pictures please

Does she have it?

Nice lips tiny legs.

Lol

You wife deprives you of sex and couldn't patronise sex workers.