₦airaland Forum

Dpsychologist:
Let’s stop pretending this isn’t happening.

When a man is struggling financially, society mocks him. When a man has erectile issues, he’s ridiculed and written off. When a man falls, people don’t ask why, they mock and move on.

But when the tables turn?
Excuses appear. Sympathy flows. Accountability disappears. This isn’t bitterness. It’s pattern recognition.

Men are expected to be strong before they’re allowed to be loved. Women are often loved while they’re still figuring things out. That’s the reality many men learn the hard way.

So here’s the practical takeaway no emotions, just execution:

1. Build value: financially, mentally, physically. Nobody respects what isn’t solid.
2. Set standards: stop accepting imbalance and calling it love.
3. Demand reciprocity: effort, respect, contribution or walk.
4. Protect your dignity: your lowest moments will not be met with mercy.

As a man, no one is coming to save you. No one will cushion your fall. And no one will hesitate to judge you when you’re down. That doesn’t make life unfair it makes it clear.

So take responsibility for your growth.
Guard your peace.
Choose wisely.
And never outsource your self-worth to anyone.

Compliments of the season.

See wisdom! Blunt and honest truth. Thumbs up, bro, for a good piece.

AqualinaXYZ:
Ezebunwo Nyesom Wike



I pray you survive this political battle after 2027



If not hmmmmmmm

Him (Wike) is just battling for survival now. I am not sure if even BAT sends him now, and he is sensing it because Fubara is more in charge after decamping to APC. but for him Wike, he has no party right now, and APC avoids him like a plague.

HgAkpobomeEr:
Lagosians shouldnt panic. Security agencies are on top of the situation.

Lol. Na govt people be these ones.

Omoawoke:
Blame everyone for your failure but yourself..

Nigerians themselves are more evil than the leaders tbey blame , this is what I’ve learnt over the years…

Go vdm page and see what Nigerians do to each other… how vile you people can be…
Until you leave in another country before you know how citizens of other countries live and obey the law and try to keep their city working..
Check yourself out first and the people around you and see how lawless and indisciplined you are


And again I insist! Trump is not a better man than BAT. If you think BAT is bad, Trump is equally bad.
What separates them is that they happen to lead different countries..
Trump is president of the most powerful and most successful country in the world and that’s what made the difference but doesn’t make him a better personality

There is no such thing as "Nigerians are bad” people. No one is born good; rather, it is the law that compels individuals to behave ethically and responsibly. The Western countries often held up as examples are not inherently virtuous; their legal systems function effectively because their governments uphold the rule of law and allow institutions to operate independently.

In our context, it is corruption that prevents our leaders from enforcing the law. When corruption undermines legal processes—when courts align with the executive branch and issue judgments based on political directives rather than justice—society becomes disorderly and lawless.

Ultimately, leadership is the determining factor. The law can only ensure order and accountability when it is allowed to function impartially.

So rather than directing hatred toward Trump, consider that he is acting in accordance with his legal responsibilities. In comparison, BAT falls far short.

Omoawoke:
Sorry, trump is never better than BAT…

Take it or leave it…

Trump only lucky to be in a country that has a working system, he didn’t create it, he met everything there

Trump is a felon, a racist, a terrible liar and he has done dirty things… he’s still battling with his Epstein file…

For you to say trump is better than bat is a complete sign of inferiority complex, and white worshiping slave mentality….

Same trump that South Africans called his bluff…you Nigerians are worshiping and kissing his ass despite all the hates he’s showing at you…
You don’t need to like BAT, you can hate them both but stop making excuses for racists that don’t see any value in you… Please stop it…

Lol. Ignorance is suicidal. Listen to yourself. What good thing has ever been attributed to BAT since you started hearing his name? You don't even know where he originated from, everything about him you have no idea and you are here shouting. Characters like you put us in this dilemma we are passing tru . There is no basis comparing trump and bat. It's not your fault sha.

Omoawoke:
Keep kissing the ass of someone who sees you nothing other than an inferior black human..
And you keep kissing his ass making his assumption of you very true that he can continue to slap you while you continue to call him sir..

Your own president in Nigeria how does he see you? Like a brother right? And how has your life changed to be better on the account of that? Forget sentiments, leave trump, he is better than bat . If U like , vex. We no see anything from bat

Islie:
Dangote refinery to Nigerians: Petrol price now N739/litre at MRS… report stations selling above rate




https://www.thecable.ng/dangote-refinery-to-nigerians-petrol-price-now-n739-litre-at-mrs-report-stations-selling-above-rate/

Political talk. Report them to who? You? How? You did not drop phone number , email or any other means. We should just report?

PheelzAlmighty:
Oil change is important.
Rubbish president change is importanter

bhuaahahahahahaha , wetin bring president here na?

DiamondsAreFore:
I'm touched and impressed by the maturity and humility of this young man.

No wonder this saka of a guy has been so calm, humble and focused. It takes the true word of God to b like this.

wellmax:
Trump the war monger whole pretending to be a peace maker

ISIS don't deserve to live bro. They are evil. They must go. America is not Nigeria. Those of u who are ISIS sympathizers can say what you like.

Ttalk:
Your own no pass food, embarrassing

Lol , let me ask ,of all the money you make in this world, like what else is the first and most important thing that you get with the money to benefit your body that works for the money? No vex , answer me honestly

muyico:
where re dose PDP members??
No be dem full APC?? Corruptions cont.

You are the one bringing party issue here, i only spoke about governance, you are mentioning party, give us good governance; it does not matter which political party you belong. Some nigerians allow politicians to keep dividing them along political party lines just to keep using them. I am in APC, I am in PDP, I am in LLP, those things don’t count when good governance is lacking. Leave the party aside bro. I am too exposed to be talking political parties instead of good governance. Because you belong to APC or PDP do you buy a bag of rice cheaper? If you cant answer this then dont bring political party issue to me

muyico:
if shey PDP is still ruling till now! A bag of rice will ve cost 250/300k!!
U no knw how much former minister of petroleum chop?? During Jonathan regime dansuki gate, let me mention few!

You have no proof that rice would be 250/300k if any other power was still in power. Besides, we are not talking assumptions and speculations here, We talk real-life figures. Those in government now do you know how much they are chopping? is it not after they leave you now have the idea of how much they chopped? Reason it well and leave sentiments, bro.

muyico:
you re less concerns!
during PDP Era!
they gat more than 100 cabals

But a bag of rice was 7k? What do you prefer? 100 cabals, a bag of rice for 7k, 5 cabals and a bag of rice for 60k? Hope all is well, sha.

AnonPoet:
https://applesbite.com/dangote-sets-sights-on-200bn-valuation-as-refinery-ipo-looms-in-2026/

For investment experts in the house, let us know if this a good stock to buy shares in? Pls I want to really know . Thanks

ogododo:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2025/12/panic-as-multiple-explosions-rock-auchi/

Auchi is a small Muslim dominated community in edo state. I hope some guys from up north have not start infiltrating this beautiful harmless community.

SlavaUkraini:
Honestly, if I say I understand this competition
then I am deceiving myself....

E be like say this one na Gen Z competition or for people with coding skills..

Oga bring another competition, this one pass me..

Lol. You have no knowledge of it that is why it sounds like Swahili to you. Its a very nice initiative from Seun. Gone are the days when we would go crazy about building things with even obsolete languages then. He even made this competition easy, permitting the use of AI . If he had said you must code everything from scratch without AI assistance, then e for be big work.

Kemetian:
By far. It's not even close.

The whole Nigeria is being stormed by foreigners as we speak, especially Lagos, for Detty December.

All roads lead to Nigeria right now.

This is where it's happening.

Or Calabar Carnival?

nairalanda1:
Lol.

Tribalism was present then,that's what caused a lot of issues in the first republic and the then ongoing civil war at the time.

Tribalism that caused the pogroms of 1966? Oh yes.

Tribalism even helped mess up Biafra self.

Nigeria has always had a tribalism problem. EVEN under colonial rule. It still does today

So why were we forced together, and why are we still forcing ourselves together?

Great100000:
Source: https://tribuneonlineng.com/ppp-fg-approves-ondo-bakassi-ports-katsina-ala-hydropower-plant/

Abeg bakassi port, which state for Nigeria e dey? BC I de hear say e go serve north this, north that? E no clear me?

giftson102:
This is a serious caution.

If you are chatting with someone who always insists on turning on disappearing messages, don’t ignore it. It is not just a WhatsApp setting. It is a deliberate choice and often a dangerous one.

Disappearing messages erase conversations automatically and in real life, what has no record is hard to prove. In law, chats are frequently used to establish:
🥢 Agreements
🥢 Instructions
🥢 Promises
🥢 Financial arrangements
🥢 Threats or admissions
When the messages vanish, your proof vanishes with it.

Let this be clear

Turning on disappearing messages is not illegal but when someone insists on it for:

🥢 Business discussions
🥢 Money matters
🥢 Work arrangements
🥢 Sensitive commitments
That is a red flag you should not ignore.

What this means for you
🥢 If the issue later becomes serious and there is no evidence, the law will ask: Where is your proof?
🥢 Courts rely on records, not explanations.
🥢 Verbal claims rarely survive without documentation.

Protect yourself

Do not discuss serious matters on disappearing chats.

Insist on written confirmation for any agreement.

Save records where the law allows.

Be cautious with people who fear transparency.
Silence deletes accountability. Transparency protects everyone. This warning may save you from future trouble.

Honestly for me it has always been one of the red flags I watch out for in dealing with people. In fact the most serious one is someone sharing pictures that I can only open ones, Omo, I avoid them like a plague.

DrMB:
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Source

Handsomeness is subjective and is a function of the beholder. Before nko, you want make oyibo leave their own people come de talk say Una fine?

Newsgeek24:
https://verynigerian.com/i-am-apcs-001-in-rivers-fubara-says-pledges-total-loyalty-to-tinubu/

How won't you support bat admin when you already see what is happening to malami? You don't need to explain, we understand why.

I just want to simply say the lessons I learnt from this year are breathtaking and brought me good things. I Thank God 2025 gave me lessons and I will hold tight to my chest going forward if God spares my life.

uwa002:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8WMfSTTFfI


New footage of ISWAP yelling “Allahu Akbar” as they ambushed a Nigerian Army position in Mairari, Borno State. Where they siezed four vehicles and equipments, forcing the NA to immediately withdraw.




Source

That is what Trump is talking about, killing in the name of allah, abi?

Maliqcious:
if I ask and you give me shey na my fault

Must you always ask?

DyshApp:
A Nigerian bride has shared her emotional experience online after calling off her wedding just a day before the ceremony.

Some men shaaaaaa when he is not a he-goat. What sort of superlative lack of self-control is this na? Haba! E pain sha

Kobojunkie:
The laws in Nigeria also do same. No be general tradition for Nigeria say if a man gets tired of a woman, all he needs is to send her packing? Problem is religion and society makes it harder for me women to walk out of marriages in Nigeria.

Unbiased comment on this: commendable. I was expecting something different. lol

NaijaRoyalty:
Enugu state Governor, Mr Peter Mbah has armed the newly established forest guards with modern riffles, patrol vans, drones and motor bikes

This has become necessary to keep Enugu forests safe from criminal Islamic bandits terorists.


See photos below

These guns look toyish , i hope they dont use ordinary cartridge bullets, sha? They ought to be something that can match an AK-47 at least. The boiz in the bush are carrying machines o

budaatum:
This is like calling for a coup, and is rather shameful!

Lol. Wait o, so English really hard some people to understand like this?

Mbanda:
OBJ is IPOB
He is among the children of hate

or he is part of the opposition. Lol

Jackanda1:
I mentioned medical student because I know that medicine requires a high jamb score. I am seeking for admission into medicine. it has been my dream for some time now, but jamb had been making it very difficult. It has been more than 6 years. I had to settle for a course I do not like. I'm a graduate now and done with Nysc. However my dreams remain. I attended three times and give up. I want to try it again with the determination to get it this time. I am seeking advice from people who have pass this stage successfully.

So I am making another attempt at jamb next year. I have started studying with jamb syllables and past questions but my problems are:

1. The textbooks are just too bulky. There are too many things to study if you are following the syllabus. It is very frustrating. Too many things to study in a very short period of time.

2. Tendency to forget easily. Things I studied last month I have forgotten more than 50% of it, because of it bulkiness.So I have to go back to revise them which is time consuming especially when I have new topics to study.

3. I'm currently studying organic compounds in chemistry. And it is it is painful that I couldn't answer all the past questions on that topic. I had to go back to revise the topic. It seems jamb questions are hidden in corners of the textbooks. And you can't find them no matter how hard you cram.

4. I do not know if my brain is a little bit slow because I can spend time on one particular topic and in 3 days time I end up forgetting 70% of what I read in that topic.so Did you people go through this problems cuz I'm tired.

5. Medicine for me is a do or die. I don't intend to give up. I always see myself as a medical doctor. But jamb is jamming me too much.

I need help and encouragement from you guys. How did you do it.

Should I just focus on past questions. Tell me how you did it. if possible break it down summarize it. Even if it's a hard Way. Tell me, I need your help.

Look for a well structured and genuine jamb lesson center and take the classes while preparing. Practice past questions for 3 to4 yrs back. Work hard looking at the big picture. Never give up bc good things never come easy else everyone would have been doing them. All the best.