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dacovajnr:
The guy right now ⬇ but let's be Honest this public Proposal poo is getting Stale already and so many guys are gonna face such embarrassment if this poo doesn't stop! Why not just ask Her anywhere....even if na inside Toilet heys you! Will you marry me ? No! Oya coman be going to your house

Richy4:
Sometime I just feel like we guys are being insulted by some of this write up....How do u feel u can secure an adult that got mind of their own.. we are not kids that could not differentiate between right or wrong...Any man that wants to be promiscuous did that with a sound mind...he has the right to say no to the so called strange woman assuming he wanted to...escort him to the gate?...As in kindergarten school levels..

Some times we hear things like she SNATCHED him away from her....Haba!!! just call men inanimate object now...that would have been cool...only some animal or inanimate objects can be snatched....Not someone that got a mind of his own..

Any man that wants to leave you....If you like cook chicken marsala daily for him, clean..wash till your hands got pilled.....Call him honey,sweetie, sugar etc...If he want's to go, no matter how secured u feel you have done on him, he will and some will roll with some one you are better than in all ramification ...I feel so sad seeing ladies fighting over a man...if he puts you in a difficult position, why not confront him instead of the other woman..........You ladies should stop treating guys as if we are fifth graders...we are Adults

DaySpringer:
I have seen your post and your problem is complex and most of it is internal... Yet you are trying to find a solution externally.

Seems you weren't shown a lot of love early in life and till now you still seek that person that will come and make you their center of attention and make you feel that love that you think you are lacking..
Even if you get a girlfriend, she has to always show you a lot of attention if not you will doubt her love. This also means that you will be very clingy. You know the irony of all this? The same need for attention and clinginess you will display will make ruin that relationship.

This neediness also shows in your behaviours sub-consciously and girls pick up on it which accounts for the reason for most of your rejection.

Did i forget to add Low Self-Esteem?



Here you're not even talking like a man who knows his worth as a man, so the rejection you receive from girls means that you won't get married? That means you will fall for the first girl that seems to really want to marry you because she is the first girl that didn't reject you or rather one of the very rare ones who didn't.

OP
There are many principles and coded knowledge that apply and are true in this our world of dating and in the world of relationships at large.


Like i mentioned early you found a girl that seemed like she was the one for you and instantly you fell for her.. and then asked her out, you weren't sure she was fully attracted to you, you let your neediness shine through and you wanted to possess her instead of being patient and waiting till she was totally hooked to you.


Again your neediness and need for attention shininig through, almost every guy has gone through this with a girl before and the mark of maturity is when the guy is able to take things coolly, acknowledging that almost every girl does this; infact the mark of a well collected player is being able to spin it and make the girl feel like she missed out on something exciting, list all the things she missed and make her want to make it up to you next time she sees you. Other guys would use this opportunity to make the girl more into them but you're here whining like a baby.
Look at your victim mentality, "Being treated by ladies"


The girl called you and apologised to you and you're still here, whining, Some girls don't even bother. She deemed you important enough to apologize to you and yet your low self esteem didn't let you see that. You still had the victim and crybaby mentality. No girl's actions is supposed to determine, your worth, the fact that the girl did not do the necessary things in order to make sure she could see you, means she is uncoordinated, the problem is with her not you.



And Right here is the greatest expression of Low self esteem. Bro, those things might attract a girl but those things won't keep a girl, Infact those things are not the most important things to have when it comes to getting girls, I am sure you have heard of Ugly guys getting and banging the hottest babes, that's your proof there.

There are guys with what you have that don't need to talk much to get a girl.




Do you know that all relationships have their own problems?

Do you know that not all relationships that look happy on the outside actually are?

Do you know that almost all relationships eventually end?

If you cannot be happy with yourself when you're single, how can you be happy with a girl in a relationship? you will burden her with all your emotional needs (leading to you becoming insecure and clingy) and no human is meant to carry the emotional burdens of another, eventually they will break or leave and guess what? You'll be right back where you started.


So Bro what is the solution for you?
1. You need to learn to Love yourself.

2. Do research on Low Self-esteem and all it's manifestations and work on getting rid of it.
Self-Esteem does not come from what is on the outside or what you have but what is on the inside and that's why it is called "SELF-esteem"

3. Find things to do that make you happy, have hobbies. Learn to be able to enjoy yourself by yourself or with your guys and that will naturally draw girls to you.

4. Learn something, boosting your skills boosts your confidence and if you already have an amazing range of skills write them down and be proud of them and work to improve them.

Now get yourself out of that Self Pity shit, Girls are too flaky and unreliable for you to base your happiness on having them!

Cheers mate.

AfonjaStinks:
Shut up
You have no right to quote me

AfonjaStinks:
Pained by what ??
Pained by waking up and looking into my bank account and see millions ??
You must be the most intelligent girl in your family

AfonjaStinks:



With the fake appearance (heavy make up)

Fake hair (weave)

Fake nails

Fake height (high heels)

Fake everything

No girl deserves a good man and no girl should have an opinion/suggestions on men

And no girl should call a guy ugly because girls are the ugliest creature on earth

Fieryice:
It's common sense. If you do not think you can tolerate a person you feel is beneath you (intellectually,physically,financially..), don't get yourself into a situation where you would need to.

shaggy007:
Bread and toothpaste

Would love to visit Canada.